For those of you who somehow remember my last blog from about a month ago, here's a recap worded as quickly as possible: + Show Spoiler +
>Friends with girl since we were 15 >we're now 19 >in this time she's never had a crush let alone a boyfriend >she has home issues, I'm like a brother >not interested in dating her at all >she's not interested in dating me either. >about a month or 2 ago >she gets crush on a guy >they hit it off >I get jealous, ask for advice "should I say nothing, or ask her out on a date" -end previous blog- and the result of that: I did nothing, the guy she was into still has feelings for his ex, she remains single, we remain friends, she has no idea I developed feelings for her. p.s. my feelings gradually faded as I realized I was jealous another guy might steal my friend, not that I was crushing on said friend. I also realized that I'm the worst kind of person, and am doing my best to fix that.
Begin Current Blog!:
I'm like, a 6/10 on a good day, I'm skinny as a rake, only barely 6 foot tall (wearing shoes), so white I'm almost translucent, and my hair is.. well, it looks fine but it's the hair of a beta virgin, not the hair of Chad Thundercock, alpha pimp extraordinary. I'm a uni student, I work in a grocery store part time, I play games for more hours a day than Flash and Mvp combined.
so.. where to begin.. I work an 8 hour shift every Saturday, and every second Sunday, and at least once a week I get subway for lunch, I'm almost always served by a really cute girl, the kind whose pretty without makeup, I'm polite to her every day, like I am to everyone, ask her how she's doing, tell her thanks for the sub have a nice day etc. eventually we're on a first name basis, and I start getting 14 dollar meals for 7 dollars, eventually I find out she's a student at my university, a year older than I am.
About 6 months ago I'm in her store with my workmate, and she asks about "A guy who works in your grocery store, in the produce department (I work in the perishables department)" tells us she thinks he's super cute, we ask her to describe him, she gives pretty much my exact description. but me, being the socially retarded moron I am, assume she means someone who is not-me. My friend and I buy our subs, and discuss on our lunch break who the guy she's into might be "all the guys in produce have short blond hair, who the hell could it be?" forget about it after that day and never bring it up again.
As the university semester goes into full swing, she quits working Saturdays, and only works a morning shift on Sundays, so I don't see her on my lunch breaks anymore, and I have to pay 14 god-damned dollars for a foot-long sub, cookies, and iced tea. basically I slowly forget she exists, only reminded by the pain I feel every time I check my wallet after lunch.
Flash forward to this Sunday just gone, I go into subway, one of the girls asks me what I want, and the girl who gives me half price subs comes out of the back, says that she'll serve me, and we make smalltalk about uni while she makes my sub. It's been a good 5-6 months since I've seen her, but she remembers exactly what I have on my sub.
She says she hasn't seen me around uni, and I notice a single strand of spaghetti leaking out of her sleeve, but choose not to point it out, because I'm a gentleman and don't want to embarrass her. I reply "Yeah it's odd we don't run into each other, I bump into people I know all the time, what days are you there?". She tells me, and asks when I'm there, I reply in kind. by now, there's about half a meals worth of spaghetti dripping out of her sleeve and into my sub, I do my best to ignore it.
I'm a guy who doesn't get scared. I can watch any horror movie you like, I've been skydiving, bungee jumping, on multiple roller coasters, and in a million and one haunted houses. I've watched a horror movie in a country town surrounded by woodland, with a group of ~10 friends, to have the power cut itself 10 minutes after the movie ended, at 3am, and been the only person brave enough to go downstairs and find a torch, without my heart-rate going over that of a fit guy going for a morning jog
Then she asks me the scariest question I've ever heard in my life, "Do you want to go with me to <our universities tavern> for dinner?" my heart skipped 9 beats, then went into overdrive. A customer behind me gasped in shock, her co-workers stared at her in horror, enough spaghetti slipped out of her sleeves to feed a hungry Italian family for weeks, the room went silent, the only sound was the gentle pitter-patter of meatballs falling from her sleeve, to the counter, to the floor.*
Then autopilot took over "Yeah sure, give me your number and I'll send you a buzz." The widest grin I've ever seen appeared on her face, and she did a tiny fist pump and exclaimed "yes!"** she sold me my sub, and wrote her number on the cookie-bag, and I went back to work and bragged to my co-workers that subway-girl gave me a half price meal and gave me her number. I assume she spent the rest of her afternoon cleaning up spaghetti and meatballs.
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this girl has balls, man. In my 19 years of existence I've had the courage to ask out one girl+ Show Spoiler +
over windows live messenger, kill me.
after literal months of flirting to make sure she was into me. Mad props to subway girl for having the balls to do it in a room full of her co-workers, and strangers she'd have to serve after I left, and in a society where (in my opinion, wrongly) men are expected to ask out women 100% of the time.
So, Team Liquid, I haven't been on a real date since high school, and I'll be damned if I know how to behave on a first date, with a person I know so little about, especially when she asked me on the date.
So how does this work? Should I offer to drive her, Do I meet her there at a set time? Do I pay the bill, or do we split it? Do I wear the dress-code appropriate to the university tavern, or do I wear the dress-code appropriate for the first date?
Basically, any advice on how to behave on a date will be appreciated.
*The spaghetti is a lie, everything else was added for embellishment. Some of the things I described may have happened but I was too damned shocked to notice. **I swear I thought I saw her do a tiny fistbump and say yes, but theres a more-than-likely chance that I imagined it.
TL;DR: girl asked me on date. give me advice please
Oh, and in the 1/100'000'000 chance, Subway Girl, you find and read this blog. text me, so I can explain I'm not some weirdo creeper!
Here's my one piece of advice; if you get away from terms like "beta" and "alpha", you'll be a lot better off.
As for your worries, go casual but neat, it's a tavern for crying out loud. Considering that it was her who asked you to go, you silently paying the bill would look very odd, so why not offer to split via conversation? Getting payment etiquette out into the open with a convo as to how unusual it is for a woman to ask you out would break the ice and clear up any confusion.
The girl asked you out man, it's in the bag! She's clearly into you so essentially all you need to do now is not fuck up. The answer to your question depends on your circumstances.
How far is the tavern? Is there a chance that she lives close? And since your going to the university tavern, I'd simply dress trendy but casual. Just look good.
There's really no pros or cons to meeting her there or picking her up the way I see it. Just do whatever makes sense and that is convenient for the both of you.
Also, since she asked you out, she should pay. (Ok, maybe not.) I usually offer to pay in a situation like this, if she wants to share the bill, object at first but if she keeps pressing it, go ahead and share it.
During the date, just follow the basics. Keep the conversation going, give proper replies instead of simply answering ''uh-uh'' if she asks a question. The more you speak, the more you share, the more there is to discuss.
On August 27 2013 03:10 Spicy_Curry wrote: Just be the guy that she liked. Dont try to change it up. This doesnt mean that you shouldnt show a new side of you.
honest and to the point, thanks!
On August 27 2013 03:11 ahswtini wrote: Glad the spaghetti stuff wasn't true lol Good job op, update us on how it goes
The spaghetti stuff is a "meme" of sorts I included in an attempt to make the story slightly less boring :3
On August 27 2013 03:10 farvacola wrote: Here's my one piece of advice; if you get away from terms like "beta" and "alpha", you'll be a lot better off.
As for your worries, go casual but neat, it's a tavern for crying out loud. Considering that it was her who asked you to go, you silently paying the bill would look very odd, so why not offer to split via conversation? Getting payment etiquette out into the open with a convo as to how unusual it is for a woman to ask you out would break the ice and clear up any confusion.
Thanks for the advice on the dress and the bill. I don't truly believe the "Beta and Alpha" stuff, I only included it to make the Chad Thundercock joke ^_^
On August 27 2013 03:08 hp.Shell wrote: Only barely 6 foot tall. Give me a break. Do anything.
to be honest, anyone below 6 foot 5 inches is a manlet and should give up all hope of romance, girls only go for guys minimum 6'6"
Tavern clothes and date clothes aren't that different - just dress how you would normally dress if you went out for dinner. If I were you I would offer to pay, women like that, but she might say that she wants to split the bill because she's independent - if she offers that then go with it.
General advice: she's already asked you out, so you know she likes you and that should give you confidence. Just be yourself, ask about her, try to find things you might have in common - you both go to university so that's a good starting point, talk about some courses you have taken, etc.
On August 27 2013 03:13 NonFactor wrote: The girl asked you out man, it's in the bag! She's clearly into you so essentially all you need to do now is not fuck up. The answer to your question depends on your circumstances.
How far is the tavern? Is there a chance that she lives close? And since your going to the university tavern, I'd simply dress trendy but casual. Just look good.
There's really no pros or cons to meeting her there or picking her up the way I see it. Just do whatever makes sense and that is convenient for the both of you.
Also, since she asked you out, she should pay. (Ok, maybe not.) I usually offer to pay in a situation like this, if she wants to share the bill, object at first but if she keeps pressing it, go ahead and share it.
During the date, just follow the basics. Keep the conversation going, give proper replies instead of simply answering ''uh-uh'' if she asks a question. The more you speak, the more you share, the more there is to discuss.
Godspeed.
"all you need to do now is not fuck up." the title of my next blog is likely going to be "I HAD ONE JOB" seriously though, thanks for the advice
On August 27 2013 03:18 Salv wrote: Tavern clothes and date clothes aren't that different - just dress how you would normally dress if you went out for dinner. If I were you I would offer to pay, women like that, but she might say that she wants to split the bill because she's independent - if she offers that then go with it.
General advice: she's already asked you out, so you know she likes you and that should give you confidence. Just be yourself, ask about her, try to find things you might have in common - you both go to university so that's a good starting point, talk about some courses you have taken, etc.
People say try to find stuff in common, I say repeat in your head 10 times that you go there to have fun and that you will have fun and that you will give her a great time. You can mix this with some standard boring stuff but remember you want to have and give her a good time.
On August 27 2013 03:29 QuanticHawk wrote: it's at a bar and you're in college dude. nice jeans, nice polo or something, nothing crazy, pick up the tab and enjoy.
fyi, there are plenty of women who will approach you in bars, or ask you out. still better to take the initiative yourself
On August 27 2013 03:25 Bigtony wrote: Girl asks you out on a date? Keeper. Confident = sexy. Just be you. Only advice you need.
yup this 100%
It doesn't feel like a real girl blog unless you bash the writer somehow hawk
On August 27 2013 03:24 aTnClouD wrote: People say try to find stuff in common, I say repeat in your head 10 times that you go there to have fun and that you will have fun and that you will give her a great time. You can mix this with some standard boring stuff but remember you want to have and give her a good time.
cool thanks
On August 27 2013 03:25 Bigtony wrote: Girl asks you out on a date? Keeper. Confident = sexy. Just be you. Only advice you need.
Considering that she was forward enough to ask you out, let me direct you to a brilliant video that will provide a proper introduction to dating. It's called, "Elementary Dating."
In all seriousness though, don't discuss money, politics, etc. on the first date. The point of a date is to get to know the other person. Obviously both of you like each other, but this is your chance to see if there's something that goes beyond just mutual physical attraction. Be yourself, be confident about yourself and don't focus on yourself - self-entitled jerks who look good going into the first date and then spend the rest of the date talking about themselves in a friendly, casual sort of way rarely move past that first date. A first date's like playing hot potato - both sides want the other side to talk. ^_^
I'm assuming you haven't been on many dates in your life, judging by how you flirted with her for months and had to wait for her to ask you out.
Just be yourself. Don't create a version of yourself that doesn't exist. If you do, she will probably be disappointed in the future.
As far as conversations go, it really just depends on your personality as to what you'll end up talking about. Try to listen to her as much as you can, and give thoughtful responses. Be polite and for Flash's sake don't let it go to topics that are a "no-no" (think ex's, other girls that she can be jealous of, etc). Go at your own pace and don't jump to any conclusions about her.
Above advice in the thread is solid. Best of luck my friend.
I used to have a crush on a subway girl too! she worked at the subway inside the big box store i worked at. Never got free subs.. how beta does that make me?
This is probably really bad advice but i'm a sappy nostalgic fuck... so, for the clothing, err on the side of too formal rather than too casual. The reason is that one time i had a date/ hangout (unclear) and she looked really cute but i thought i was the cool guy and tried to play it off like i was too cool to care much. I regret that.. I think people dig it if you're not afraid to show some pride in your grooming, even if you don't end up looking like ryan gosling, it's charming.
You don't have to pay. I don't think girls are assuming that the guy pays anymore. It could be a nice gesture but it could also make things kind of awkward because it makes the statement "hey this is totally traditional guy girl" So it depends how things go. Most likely separate tabs in my opinion, but if you're feeling nice then of course
Step 1: Think about what James Bond (that one by Sean Connery ofc) would do. Step 2: Substract 'going to bed with a girl on a first date' from that mental image. Step 3: Apply the result and you can never go wrong.
But in all seriousness, if she gave you discounts while barely knowing you and asked you out first, she's sooo into you. So unless you have one-digit IQ, I can't think of any way to screw this up on your part. Just be the guy she met and liked. And enjoy yourself!
I got to know a girl before she even contemplated working at Subway. But once she moved across the country (CA to NY), and we spent a weekend together, I truly knew her. Then she wound up, a couple months later, with an aunt in Ohio and began to work at a Subway. By the end of that year, she was back in CA with her latest bf but I had been satiated I think.
Although now, sadly, I rarely actually eat at Subways in my city anymore.
What I realized in my last year is that you could talk and say almost anything and girls will pick it up through your state of mind. It's scientifically proven that girls are a lot better than guys at reading emotional states and body language and if you work on that and you are comfortable she will feel comfortable. Whatever you want her to feel you have to feel it yourself. For example a guy above said don't talk about ex girl/boyfriends. That could work if you still have some negative emotions left behind, but I found that talking about ex and break ups can be a very stimulating conversation for both (as long as it's a short one) and says a lot about the person you are speaking to and what she is into. Communication is less verbal than most people think, that's why you have to force and convince yourself in a state of mind where you understand this interaction could go wrong at every second so it's not worth worrying about it too much. This will automatically convey to her the message that you are not desperate for her approval. But at the same time value your own time so try to make the best out of it and have the best possible experience you can get.
On August 27 2013 05:18 aTnClouD wrote: What I realized in my last year is that you could talk and say almost anything and girls will pick it up through your state of mind. It's scientifically proven that girls are a lot better than guys at reading emotional states and body language and if you work on that and you are comfortable she will feel comfortable. Whatever you want her to feel you have to feel it yourself. For example a guy above said don't talk about ex girl/boyfriends. That could work if you still have some negative emotions left behind, but I found that talking about ex and break ups can be a very stimulating conversation for both (as long as it's a short one) and says a lot about the person you are speaking to and what she is into. Communication is less verbal than most people think, that's why you have to force and convince yourself in a state of mind where you understand this interaction could go wrong at every second so it's not worth worrying about it too much. This will automatically convey to her the message that you are not desperate for her approval. But at the same time value your own time so try to make the best out of it and have the best possible experience you can get.
The reason I said that is because OP doesn't want the girl to think that they aren't over their ex (or at least I wouldn't). Honestly, it depends on the seriousness of the conversation at hand and the length of the past relationship and other factors.
I don't think it needs to come up on the first date.
I dated my ex for a really long time (over 5 years), so eventually, I had to explain the situation with my current girlfriend. It would have been really awkward to talk about it on the first date.
Oh, and in the 1/100'000'000 chance, Subway Girl, you find and read this blog. text me, so I can explain I'm not some weirdo creeper!
If you found the girl who asks you out herself AND reads random girl blogs on Team Liquid... There would be no explanation necessary. You would have reached a new plane of existence and ascended to enlightenment.
On August 27 2013 03:01 Ikidomari wrote: I'm like, a 6/10 on a good day, I'm skinny as a rake, only barely 6 foot tall (wearing shoes), so white I'm almost translucent, and my hair is.. well, it looks fine but it's the hair of a beta virgin, not the hair of Chad Thundercock, alpha pimp extraordinary. I'm a uni student, I work in a grocery store part time, I play games for more hours a day than Flash and Mvp combined.
This thread is the perfect example of why people should take a serious pinch of salt when consider 'alpha' and 'beta' and pickup concepts in general. Fact is that HOWEVER you are, there are people out there who will be far more into you than to who you think and expect. Some girls are literally attracted to unattractive guys because they got bored of pretty men after their friends constantly talked about them. You denigrate yourself with your description but that could very well be the exact look she digs.
A lot of guys could do with just meeting more girls because I feel a lot of people meet a few, get turned down or rejected, and then immediately assume all other girls are going to do the same. Just chill and keep getting around because there are always girls who would have more of a natural affinity to your features than others.
You're finnnnnnnne. Don't worry too much, enjoy your time and be honest.
Honesty in this case doesn't mean telling her how madly and deeply in love you are but being honest with the way you act around her. Feel free to keep up some physical contact and shizzle - you don't want to be her buddy after all. =)
Thanks to everyone offering advice on what to talk about! it's too much effort to quote you all, but I do appreciate it. fortunately I'm not so socially inept that I don't know how to talk to girls.
On August 27 2013 07:54 a_flayer wrote: I totally went "HAH!" when I finshed the part where she finally asked you out.
I want to read the next chapter in this story. And of course the ending where you bury her in your backyard.
I don't know how she would end up dead in my back yard, but if that's the ending you want to read about, i'll write the middle of the story right now!
extremely nsfw are you sure you want to click this?+ Show Spoiler +
don't say I didn't warn you, if you're offended by rape stop reading now+ Show Spoiler +
Ultimate Guide on how to get a girl to like you, AND make her stay faithful to you forever. Step 1: Find out that a girl has a crush on you. she can be a friend, a classmate, a workmate, or someone you see at least once a week Step 2: Buy a ski mask, and if you're a sissy buy an object to threaten her with Step 3: Find out if there's a time when she'll be alone at night in the city or something Step 4: Put on Ski mask, assault her, drag her somewhere out of public view and forcibly do the dirty. Step 5: leave without saying it was you, make sure you leave no evidence that could be used against you at the scene. --you probably won't see her again for at least a week, this is important because you need to be able to "notice she's been gone"-- Step 6: On her return, act genuinely concerned about where she's been, be as friendly as possible --If all goes well, she will become your friend, and eventually after a while tell you about what happened to her-- Step 7: Be as understanding as possible about her situation, it's not her fault etc Step 8: "how could anyone ever want to date me? I'm impure, damaged goods etcetcetc" say that you love her no matter what, it's not her fault, ask her on a date (note that this step is several weeks-months down the track) Step 9: Congratulations, you now have a girl who is entirely Dependant on you for emotional support!
basically this is what I'll do to subway girl if the 1st date goes anything short of excellent, and obviously if she finds out it was me, that's how she ends up in my backyard + Show Spoiler +
I DID NOT THINK OF THIS MYSELF, IT'S COPYPASTA, I DON'T HAVE THAT SICK OF A MIND
p.s. to the canadian who asked if we've met, I don't know, and I definitely don't know why you bolded the bit about "Chad Thundercock" \:
p.p.s. to the Australian asking where I live.. about 30 minutes from perth in WA
On August 27 2013 03:53 crayhasissues wrote: I'm assuming you haven't been on many dates in your life, judging by how you flirted with her for months and had to wait for her to ask you out.
Just be yourself. Don't create a version of yourself that doesn't exist. If you do, she will probably be disappointed in the future.
As far as conversations go, it really just depends on your personality as to what you'll end up talking about. Try to listen to her as much as you can, and give thoughtful responses. Be polite and for Flash's sake don't let it go to topics that are a "no-no" (think ex's, other girls that she can be jealous of, etc). Go at your own pace and don't jump to any conclusions about her.
Above advice in the thread is solid. Best of luck my friend.
"judging by how you flirted with her for months and had to wait for her to ask you out" Naw, man. I didn't flirt for months, I was polite for months, like I am to everyone, and I also failed to notice HER flirting, which is different. I didn't even see her as someone I would consider dating until she asked me out. it's possible to just be friendly with a girl without other motives ^_^
He bolded the bit about Chad Thundercock because his username is chadissilent (and it is likely his actual name is Chad). So just a joke about being alpha pimp extraordinaire.
On August 27 2013 13:07 babylon wrote: He bolded the bit about Chad Thundercock because his username is chadissilent (and it is likely his actual name is Chad). So just a joke about being alpha pimp extraordinaire.
aaaaaaahh thanks, i literally woke up and responded, was too dopey to get it
If a girl is this confident she is probably just trying you out on a fickle impulse that you might be interesting to her. That being said put yourself out there when you are with her. Playing it safe verses someone this confident and cute (meaning she likely has a lot of options) is not a smart move. Back when I was really shy I met a few women like this who were very comfortable in flirting and showing really direct interest in me. Of course each time this happened... just like you I assumed that they were mistaking me for someone much cooler than I thought myself to be at the time. I read way too far into it and self-sabotaged the process by playing it safe like they were my only option. Playing it safe is really unattractive just fyi.
Prepare a few topics to talk about. And when I say "to talk about", I really mean "to ask her about". Everybody loves to talk about themselves. Especially girls who ask guys out.
On August 27 2013 15:55 Capped wrote: but not Anal.
Sorry, are you saying they're not anal talking about sex or they're not okay with being anal or they're not okay with anal sex. Just want to clarify, in case of the situation where OP's tentative girl is adventurous. Lol, OP should totally go in adventure time costume.
Disregard spoiler, me trying to be funny but failing. OP, since you've broadcasted your sitcom to TL, you better give us the episode minutes asap. And GL (be a man, not a pimp.)
Like others have said. Be yourself. she's into you because you're calm and relaxed at subway and being yourself. Don't over think it. Wear tavern appropriate attire. Most importantly don't talk about yourself the whole time try to make the conversation as much about you learning about her as the other way around.
On August 27 2013 15:55 Capped wrote: but not Anal.
Sorry, are you saying they're not anal talking about sex or they're not okay with being anal or they're not okay with anal sex. Just want to clarify, in case of the situation where OP's tentative girl is adventurous. Lol, OP should totally go in adventure time costume.
Disregard spoiler, me trying to be funny but failing. OP, since you've broadcasted your sitcom to TL, you better give us the episode minutes asap. And GL (be a man, not a pimp.)
It's okay Serpest I get your jokes :3 and If I owned an adventure time costume, I would probably + Show Spoiler +
wonder what the turning point was, in me losing control of my life
Decent jeans and a casual shirt if you have it, sneakers - just no jogging shoes. And yeah just be yourself and don't fuck up, don't be afraid of awkward silences and don't try too hard to be funny - just be you. You seem witty enough based on the flow of this blog so, you'll do fine.
On August 27 2013 11:20 Ikidomari wrote: Thanks to everyone offering advice on what to talk about! it's too much effort to quote you all, but I do appreciate it. fortunately I'm not so socially inept that I don't know how to talk to girls.
extremely nsfw are you sure you want to click this?+ Show Spoiler +
don't say I didn't warn you, if you're offended by rape stop reading now+ Show Spoiler +
Ultimate Guide on how to get a girl to like you, AND make her stay faithful to you forever. Step 1: Find out that a girl has a crush on you. she can be a friend, a classmate, a workmate, or someone you see at least once a week Step 2: Buy a ski mask, and if you're a sissy buy an object to threaten her with Step 3: Find out if there's a time when she'll be alone at night in the city or something Step 4: Put on Ski mask, assault her, drag her somewhere out of public view and forcibly do the dirty. Step 5: leave without saying it was you, make sure you leave no evidence that could be used against you at the scene. --you probably won't see her again for at least a week, this is important because you need to be able to "notice she's been gone"-- Step 6: On her return, act genuinely concerned about where she's been, be as friendly as possible --If all goes well, she will become your friend, and eventually after a while tell you about what happened to her-- Step 7: Be as understanding as possible about her situation, it's not her fault etc Step 8: "how could anyone ever want to date me? I'm impure, damaged goods etcetcetc" say that you love her no matter what, it's not her fault, ask her on a date (note that this step is several weeks-months down the track) Step 9: Congratulations, you now have a girl who is entirely Dependant on you for emotional support!
basically this is what I'll do to subway girl if the 1st date goes anything short of excellent, and obviously if she finds out it was me, that's how she ends up in my backyard + Show Spoiler +
I DID NOT THINK OF THIS MYSELF, IT'S COPYPASTA, I DON'T HAVE THAT SICK OF A MIND
p.s. to the canadian who asked if we've met, I don't know, and I definitely don't know why you bolded the bit about "Chad Thundercock" \:
p.p.s. to the Australian asking where I live.. about 30 minutes from perth in WA
Don't all relationships end this way...? Did I do something wrong?
woahh ... thats awesome dude .. i am no expert but as far as i can tell she is into you .. this situation is already a win-win as long as you dont screw it up
she likes who you are so treat her like how you treat her in normal basis .. wear good,casual but non-flashy clothes .. and just make sure that the topic of your conversation is something she has knowledge or relate to somehow .. dont try to be too funny or to impress her .. ask her stuff about herself .. women love talking about themselves
GLHF ! lastly post another blog of whatever happens if you dont mind .. would love to know what happened
On August 27 2013 03:01 Ikidomari wrote: I'm like, a 6/10 on a good day, I'm skinny as a rake, only barely 6 foot tall (wearing shoes), so white I'm almost translucent, and my hair is.. well, it looks fine but it's the hair of a beta virgin, not the hair of Chad Thundercock, alpha pimp extraordinary. I'm a uni student, I work in a grocery store part time, I play games for more hours a day than Flash and Mvp combined.
Have we met?
Hah, I don't work in a grocery store. Your comparison is invalid.
On August 27 2013 03:01 Ikidomari wrote: I'm like, a 6/10 on a good day, I'm skinny as a rake, only barely 6 foot tall (wearing shoes), so white I'm almost translucent, and my hair is.. well, it looks fine but it's the hair of a beta virgin, not the hair of Chad Thundercock, alpha pimp extraordinary. I'm a uni student, I work in a grocery store part time, I play games for more hours a day than Flash and Mvp combined.
Have we met?
Hah, I don't work in a grocery store. Your comparison is invalid.
Brah, the only girls you hang out with are the female characters in World of Warcraft.
So, Team Liquid, I haven't been on a real date since high school, and I'll be damned if I know how to behave on a first date, with a person I know so little about, especially when she asked me on the date.
So how does this work? Should I offer to drive her, Do I meet her there at a set time? Do I pay the bill, or do we split it? Do I wear the dress-code appropriate to the university tavern, or do I wear the dress-code appropriate for the first date?
The person asking the questions is in control of the conversation, but don't really worry about that. Don't talk about menial standard shit. Ask her about stuff she might be interested in, or talk about stuff that you think might be interesting to her. IE; What are you doing here, why did you choose here, what is your goal, what's fun to do around here when you're not working/schooling. The line of questioning should flow together and eventually get into stuff that you both can input on and back and forth about (a class that sucks, a person that sucks, something silly that everyone thinks should change).
Generally the rule of thumb in these times is whoever asks the other person out is expected to pay and decide shit. If she didn't say anything call her (don't text her!) and playfully joke about "When are you going to pick me up?, should I wear my tux?, are you buying me a 3 course meal?" type of shit, it'll help you figure out if you should pay for your half or what. Definitely expect her to pay at least for half since she asked you out. And make sure she understands you are joking and you can get their on your own and pay your way if she is a little offput by the joking.
Just wear what is comfortable for the environment and for you. Considering the phone call tips I gave, after the tux talk you can tell her what you are gonna wear, because I guarantee she is having a harder time deciding- this will ease her into dressing according to you.
EPT
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