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[Girl blog] How to win back my ex? - Page 2

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Clazziquai10
Profile Blog Joined August 2011
Singapore1949 Posts
May 27 2013 04:43 GMT
#21
On May 27 2013 06:50 ninazerg wrote:
Whip out your penis and be like "You know you still want this, bitch."


I second this ^^
shirtman
Profile Joined April 2010
178 Posts
May 27 2013 10:48 GMT
#22
No-so-strangely, all these things you use to get a girl to date you don't seem to work to win her back. Things that say "I'm here for you" and "I enjoy listening to the boring stuff in your life".

Do it the mature way.
You can't make somebody love you. She couldn't even make herself that way. A few months aren't much when you consider all these crappy married couples who should but still might not break up.

How many (good) relationsships do you know that worked out and are still working after falling out of love and breaking up?

Winning internet arguments since it was cool.
ThePhan2m
Profile Blog Joined September 2004
Norway2751 Posts
May 27 2013 11:21 GMT
#23
On May 26 2013 21:56 Salv wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 26 2013 21:23 Manifesto7 wrote:
The worst thing you can do is be vague. If you want to win her back, and have decided to take a three month break, you need to show her that you understand what went wrong, and that you want to fix it.

If you are going to write her a letter, be specific about the things you are going to accomplish over the next three months. About the tire patching kit, tell her that you know even a small thing can lead to frustration, and that fixing your bike is just one small thing to start. Tell her that you are going to improve things for yourself, and invite her to tell you about her trip when she gets back. Then give her some space and go make yourself happy.

Give her the letter in person. Be sincere in your wish for her to have a good time.

Then do what you promise. By the end you may find you have changed enough that you are also willing to go in a new direction.


I agree with Mani. If you want, let her know you're going to try to improve yourself during this break which you should definitely give her, I don't see anything going well by continuing to be a presence in her life when she's asked for time apart. By letting her know you're going to work on things, hopefully she doesn't forget about you completely and then at least she knows you're still hoping to work it out, otherwise she might just think you've moved on. Think about the shit that led to this, what things you could fix / work on and then do it - then in a few months contact her again and see if she wants to go for coffee or something - hopefully that will lead somewhere.

I don't agree with B.I.G, I don't think the attitude of, "I'm the man, she should change for me, I shouldn't have to do shit for her" is a good one - even though that's not exactly what he said I think that's how it comes across. I don't think you're a pussy for wanting to change yourself in order to be more appealing - that shit can be taken too far if you become a doormat for some bitch, but that doesn't sound the situation here.


Appriciate your answers and help
Mani, you are right. I have been quite vague with her, but its hard to balance. Sometimes I state things out of impulse and pure selfishness, and then later realize I shouldn't have done that and apologize my behaviour. That is both good in a way, though mostly I think it makes me look indecive and makes her lose interest. It was actually me who suggested this break out of impulse, and she then embraced it and has stuck with it. I regretted it, because I still felt like there was other ways to figure things out. All I'm trying to do is the right thing.

Giving her the letter in person is quite difficult because she lives 8 hours drive from me. Though a friend of mine suggested I should visit her after the break and talk over what the situation is. So that is my currently my plan. Write the letter now, then give it to her then. Also, you are right, I should uphold the break in respect for her wishes. Though my worst fear is that she has given me up so much that all the good memories of me has just been forgotten, and all she remembers is the bad times that lead to the break up.


On May 26 2013 21:54 Emnjay808 wrote:
You need to be considerate of her feelings too. If you truly care about her and she wants to be independent, then you need to respect her wishes.

Believe me, I know exactly what you're going through. Reading through the first paragraph I felt like I was narrating myself 5 years ago. And the best advice I can give you (you wont like it), is to move on. But let me reiterate that for you. "Moving on" doesnt mean you have to forget about her. You can still keep her in your memories. What you should move on to, is to do the things you love. Whatever it may be. What ever you could not do before when you were together, do them now. Take this opportunity to be selfish. Develop yourself and become a better person, not for her, but for yourself.

In the end, if it really was meant to be, then you guys will end up with each other.

And for the record, 5 years later, Im still in love with my ex. We dont speak or keep in contact. But Im happy with where my life is atm, only thing I regret is that I did not realize what or how to deal with myself sooner.

Its hard, Im not saying it will be easy. And at this moment you wont accept advice unless its the one you want to hear. But I can only share my experience and hope that you can take something from it. Hang in there, and start being an adult.


Yes, I'm afraid you are right. And I feel like I'm going to end up like you, loving her the next 5 years. I don't feel it's right to just betray my feelings for her, in exchange for some poor girl who has to live with my feelings for my ex. I'd rather be single.

And you are right, if there is anything called "meant to be", then I figure she will come back into my life at some point.
thanks for your imput

On May 26 2013 23:15 Scarecrow wrote:
Stop talking about how you're willing to do anything and start getting stuff done.

You are right. It's easier said than done. I'm working on it. Thanks for your input
Japhybaby
Profile Blog Joined February 2013
Canada301 Posts
May 27 2013 15:01 GMT
#24
Hey I don't think you're little facebook plan and creativity blog will work. I think those are things that you ought to do for yourself. I think you really love yourself more than you love this girl and you might want to tone down on the self-love and start appreciating everyone in your life.

So in conclusion, there probably is no hope of you getting this girl back but that's not a bad thing. It will allow you to find strength in other parts of your life. Just stick to it. Work hard! ThePhan2m fighting!!~
hold on! i'm callin' you back to the pool, and we'll dazzle them all!
Ella2
Profile Joined September 2024
1 Post
September 02 2024 03:59 GMT
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