[Girl Blog]-First Yes And What It Took(Long) - Page 2

On February 22 2013 06:58 SamsungStar wrote:
lol /facepalm. "I'm going to be physical as shit tonight and go in for a kiss." I don't mean to be harsh but jesus christ. I guess some people mature on a totally different timeline. You've been masturbating for how many years now?? Honestly, you've been ready for sex since the first few times you busted a nut. There's nothing to rush! Cat's been out the bag homie! Fuck her if she wants to fuck. If she doesn't, do whatever else you are interested in doing. Remember, women like to be desired. Unless she's really prude, a chaste kiss is the least of her fantasies.

Don't try to tell yourself you're being a gentleman or some shit. Women don't like gentlemen unless they're holding doors, paying for dinners, and buying her Louboutins. When it comes to sex, women like rabid animals who tear their clothes off and muss up their hair. I can't even begin to say how many times a girl has out of nowhere just said early on in a date "I'm not going to have sex with you" and then by the end of the night sure enough I'm creeping out the bedroom closing the door softly behind me.

To be fair, there are different schools of seduction I guess, but I'm not a big fan of the whole sweet and kind thing. Funny, charming, tender, yes, but once she's having a good time, I say just go gorilla and maul her. Let your instincts take over. Do NOT think about how inexperienced you are. The mating ritual is something even fire ants can do. It is not complex.

On February 21 2013 18:10 ThePhan2m wrote:
Dont rush with sex, never gets you anywere but a failed relationship. If you believe the "Nofap" had effect on you, sex will definitly not make a much other difference than faping I think. Focus on building the attraction on other factors than sex to early.

On February 22 2013 10:15 Scarecrow wrote:

The fewer the relationships, the better. LOL. It's not about being controlled by my dick, it's called not being a prude and realizing sex isn't actually that big a deal and is enjoyable for both parties. By 'more successful' I meant 'longer lasting' and my current 3 year one started with sleeping together on the 2nd date. So yeah, what you said about how early sex 'never gets you anywere but a failed relationship' is just naive bullshit. Abstinence isn't a virtue, it's just a choice. Self control is good in some areas (don't eat too much cake, don't gamble/drink too much) but consensual sex early in a relationship is not necessarily a problem.

On February 23 2013 04:02 ThePhan2m wrote:


Really, where has the morals gone in this world if you don't think it is better to have few relationships, or stick to one person for the rest of your life is better than jump from one to the next? It can be enjoyable, yes, but doesnt mean is morally right or better for your own personal inner life or in relation to other people and how many scars you actually end up dealing to other women and yourself. Drugs and alcholol can be enjoyable as well, until you end up doing something really stupid that leads to either damage on you or others or ruining your life in some way. I would say sex is pretty much the same, just in a less visible sense. Just look up the shady sides of both sex sale and the porn industry.

Tell me with good arguments why it isn't a problem? And "it feels right or feel good" isnt good enough. There are plenty of good arguments why starting of a relationship with to much sex isnt good, and how your former sexual relations or realationships will affect the current relationship in more bad ways than good ways.

On February 23 2013 04:33 isleyofthenorth wrote:


this is just about people having consensual sex right away early on in there relationship / only having sex. unless you are infecting a lot of people with STDs(in which case i would agree with you. but you didnt mean that i think) i dont see that ever "scarring people" or being "immoral" in the slightest. and where did the "sex sale" and "porn industry" suddenly come from that has nothing to do with this whatsoever

E: someone was faster

On February 23 2013 04:20 QuanticHawk wrote:
this dude just compared having sex too early to the porn industry and sex sale industry LOL

the only way your past negatively effects your current relationship is if you're still involved with your past in some fashion, or the other half of your current relationship is emotionally retarded

On February 23 2013 06:18 QuanticHawk wrote:
you compare people who have sex early to sex workers and porn stars, and then drop a bunch of 1950s style misogynism about how women are more sensitive, emotional and men need to take extra care of them, and you want to have a conversation without 'spitting on people'....?? good grief

and yes, as for my original comment, anyone who is sane, mature and experienced in life (so probably over the age of 25 or so) will tell you that normal people who don't give a shit about your past sexual history so long as it does not have any current impact on your life; ie., stds, or you boning or trying to bone a former flame.

that isnt a thing that people in normal, healthy relationships care about. the only people who have those problems are those with major issues with jealousy and trust

On February 25 2013 11:32 DauBo wrote:
OP here. She ended up cancelling on me for the 2-3rd time. She called me and worked things out with me but her friends are her priority right now as her excuse was that her best friend "took her keys and wouldn't let her go". We've been seeing each other in a group setting for the last 2 days with her friends/my friends and she still insists on the being single for 2 months rule.

While texting she told me that she's going on a double date, just replied with a playful have fun and tried not to fall for that shit test ._.