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unkkz
Norway2196 Posts
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Linwelin
Ireland7554 Posts
On April 09 2012 19:21 darkness wrote: "And she is Asian". What does this mean? White girls are still hot. Some people prefer asians | ||
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Kalingingsong
Canada633 Posts
I still obviously love her, and I would forgive her - but this seems just too much. Can I be with a person who lied to me like that? She is by no means perfect, she gained quite a bit of weight recently, hates starcraft, poker or dota and is no brainiac or extremely hot, but is very kind, people like her and we click so well and I know she would be awesome with a family. And she is Asian. What would you do? contradiction anyone? | ||
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10346 Posts
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
On April 11 2012 06:58 MountainDewJunkie wrote: See, I've made a GB (girl blog) or two in my life on a few forums. The funny thing is that you'll notice most aren't made for the purpose of generating meaningful advice; they're usually looking to vent and/or seeking sympathy. As we all know, people in love tend to not look at things rationally. The OP, who's obviously sick to his stomach over this, knows he can't trust her. You can tell from the tone, the pain, the small list of marginally redeeming qualities of his lady. He wants so much for it all to just sort of go away, go back to the good times (however long ago those apparently were). He knows, but it's hard to act on it. If this lady had anything remaining of his soul, if she's gonna break his heart, she should accelerate his healing by dumping him herself, because he's having so much trouble really standing up for himself. She's not going to dump him, he provides security and a shoulder to cry on while she can walk all over him easily. I doubt she'd want to give it up. If she truly was a kind person, she wouldn't be doing this sort of shit. | ||
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WhiteDog
France8650 Posts
On April 11 2012 06:58 MountainDewJunkie wrote: See, I've made a GB (girl blog) or two in my life on a few forums. The funny thing is that you'll notice most aren't made for the purpose of generating meaningful advice; they're usually looking to vent and/or seeking sympathy. As we all know, people in love tend to not look at things rationally. The OP, who's obviously sick to his stomach over this, knows he can't trust her. You can tell from the tone, the pain, the small list of marginally redeeming qualities of his lady. He wants so much for it all to just sort of go away, go back to the good times (however long ago those apparently were). He knows, but it's hard to act on it. If this lady had anything remaining of his soul, if she's gonna break his heart, she should accelerate his healing by dumping him herself, because he's having so much trouble really standing up for himself. Not at all. That's just plain stupid. If she indeed betrayed him, he has to dump her for his ego. If she dump her, it means she prefer someone else, and that is really HARD to accept and will certainly not heal him. | ||
Liquid`Zephyr
United States996 Posts
unless you genuinely dont mind being cheated on or being lied to, dont mind her not liking things you are passionate about, and dont mind the possibility that she'll just randomly leave you. but if you dont mind those things im sure you could at least find a hotter girl with those traits and small aside, that you didnt clear up where she went MIA to when she said she was off in poland or china or wherever when she wanted to get back together is pretty not so good. that she didnt voluntarily tell you any of that is pretty bad too. she seems like the sort of person that will only react to something if cornered. that in mind, her saying that she would marry you asaply should carry no value because its her reaction to knowing that you should never trust her again | ||
Jibba
United States22883 Posts
she was jealous and crying when I didn't call her often when I was on a training in London, got paranoid when I didn't answer the phone at work should've raised your suspicions about her mental "fitness." The rest of this is just obvious reason after obvious reason to dump her. | ||
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JollYRoGeR
Sweden342 Posts
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
I didn't post this on LP simply because she knows about the blog there. You guys are right that I realized what I have to do when I read it back once, but you made it much easier. When she came back on Sunday, I told her I wanted her to leave and we did. And told her I don't need to think things over the second time around. I will try to realise what I did wrong in the relationship and try to be a better person, but it also taught me that you shouldn't compromise on some traits of your partner, i.e. ability to respect your hobbies and interests no matter how stupid they seem, or honesty | ||
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
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ExceeD_DreaM
Canada500 Posts
I think you made a better decision for yourself ultimately. I cannot imagine marrying or being in a relationship with someone you have hard time trusting. That is too much mental stress. Also.. I don't think being Asian has any merit over not being Asian other than the looks that you might favor.. lol | ||
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Narcind
Sweden2489 Posts
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NoodleFish
South Africa198 Posts
Just be careful Man. My thoughts are get out while u can... Especially if she hates SC2 and DotA  EDIT: just saw your reply. Good on u man. Don't be too hard on yourself either. Put your next lady high on your priority list, and a few sacrifices of a dota game or some poker here or there may be necessary, but don't throw them away. They're part of what u love doing. All the best mate | ||
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WhiteDog
France8650 Posts
On April 12 2012 02:46 LemOn wrote: Guys thanks for your input. I didn't post this on LP simply because she knows about the blog there. You guys are right that I realized what I have to do when I read it back once, but you made it much easier. When she came back on Sunday, I told her I wanted her to leave and we did. And told her I don't need to think things over the second time around. I will try to realise what I did wrong in the relationship and try to be a better person, but it also taught me that you shouldn't compromise on some traits of your partner, i.e. ability to respect your hobbies and interests no matter how stupid they seem, or honesty Good for you buddy, but don't stress yourself about a failed relationship. Make it clear for you that she is at fault for betraying you, even if you did made mystakes as her boyfriend. Don't take it all on your shoulders, and starts by making her guilty of the failure, it will be way more easier for you to rise above all of that and continue on living. Just wanted to tell you that because when I broke up some time ago with a cheating gf (2 years), she made it so that I made myself guilty of the failure, while it was obvious she was the bitch. | ||
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Monsen
Germany2548 Posts
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