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I was thinking why you didn't create this blog on LP, but now I know lol, they would roast you alive after your previous blog.
On topic - everyone who didn't go through something like this will tell you she's an untrusty whore and that you should dump her immediately, I'd have probably told you the same haven't I been in somewhat similar situation right now. So I kinda understand. I think it comes down to finding a cause of what she did and believing if she's able to erase it from her behaviour so it never occures again. Because if you aren't able to trust her 100% then the relationship is doomed.
I envy most of the people at TL who were obiously able to find a girl who's perfect fit to them and perfect human being.
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Sounds to me like you are trying to hold onto something that is no longer there. The relationship you once had is definitely not the one you currently have, and probably never will be. IMO I would break up for good, and just go your seperate ways. If someone cheated on you, and then proceeded to lie to you over and over and dodge questions and act shady, then its not worth it to be with this person. If she fucked up 1 time, and cheated, but then came clean right after it happened and felt really bad / guilty then maybe you could of worked through it, but her sheer attitude towards what happened only leads me to believe that she doesnt really give a fuck.
I would just move on, and find someone else, instead of dealing with all this bullshit, and never being able to fully trust her in the future. Next time she tells you she is spending the night at a friends, are you really gonna sit there and blindly trust her?
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On April 09 2012 03:00 ondik wrote:
I was thinking why you didn't create this blog on LP, but now I know lol, they would roast you alive after your previous blog.
On topic - everyone who didn't go through something like this will tell you she's an untrusty whore and that you should dump her immediately, I'd have probably told you the same haven't I been in somewhat similar situation right now. So I kinda understand. I think it comes down to finding a cause of what she did and believing if she's able to erase it from her behaviour so it never occures again. Because if you aren't able to trust her 100% then the relationship is doomed.
I envy most of the people at TL who were obiously able to find a girl who's perfect fit to them and perfect human being.
So wait, to make sure I'm not getting anything wrong here...
You actually think something good could come of this relationship where one side constantly lies to, and keeps many secrets from the other side?
What the fuck man, thats so far from 'perfect human being'. Yes, everyone has flaws, but not this severe, not this many.
I would (and still might) die alone before I decide that its a good idea to live the rest of my life with someone that lies to me, doesnt respect me, and dislikes me doing things I'm passionate about.
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leave her on da street.
not worth your time and agony
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On April 09 2012 03:12 TheAntZ wrote:Show nested quote +On April 09 2012 03:00 ondik wrote:
I was thinking why you didn't create this blog on LP, but now I know lol, they would roast you alive after your previous blog.
On topic - everyone who didn't go through something like this will tell you she's an untrusty whore and that you should dump her immediately, I'd have probably told you the same haven't I been in somewhat similar situation right now. So I kinda understand. I think it comes down to finding a cause of what she did and believing if she's able to erase it from her behaviour so it never occures again. Because if you aren't able to trust her 100% then the relationship is doomed.
I envy most of the people at TL who were obiously able to find a girl who's perfect fit to them and perfect human being. So wait, to make sure I'm not getting anything wrong here... You actually think something good could come of this relationship where one side constantly lies to, and keeps many secrets from the other side? What the fuck man, thats so far from 'perfect human being'. Yes, everyone has flaws, but not this severe, not this many. I would (and still might) die alone before I decide that its a good idea to live the rest of my life with someone that lies to me, doesnt respect me, and dislikes me doing things I'm passionate about.
I love how you need to find a "perfect human being" if you want to find a girl that doesn't constantly cheat on you, lie, lives with another guy while you are trying to patch things up then only comes back to you after she's tired of the other guy.
Seriously dude, the fact that the OP even is considering going back with her... wow; she would need to run the fuck away from me if she pulled that shit on me.
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I'd be totally willing to bet she cheated a lot more times than what she stated. Seriously, unless you're desperate and have zero esteem, fucking get rid of her and move on.
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There is a slip of the judgement that results in one night of cheating, and there is a habitual choice to lie and engage in a lifestyle of cheating.
The bigger problem is not the cheating itself so much as the fact that she clearly has no problem lying to you about all sorts of things. You cannot have a relationship with someone who won't tell you the truth.
Sorry man, sounds like you really love her, but if you don't move on, it will happen again. Lying is like any other habit-- hard to break.
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stop being pussy whipped and remove her from your life. she is way too volatile and inconsistent. she does not know what she wants, can't say no, and instead wants everything because that's the easy decision for her.
if you were able to change the path of your life and commit yourself from poker to something more "normal," then continue on changing your life and cut off relations with your girlfriend. It will hurt and feel empty for a while but you will get over it. time heals everything.
It seems that you are pretty into improving yourself and skills as a salesperson, so you will be able to focus a lot more energy into your sales craft.
just please realize you are being manipulated so badly by the girl
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She doesn't seem sorry. Don't do it.
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You deserve something better.
A friend of a friend had a girlfriend that cheated on him with my friend for a while, when my friend didnt want to keep doing that due to guilt she went after me within hours. Shell keep on cheating and I dont really count not telling your boyfriend that you are living with another man as being kind.
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RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN. She has no respect for you and never will.
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She obviously hasn't fully come clean. Take a timeout on the relation. Reconsider in a few month if you want to be with her.
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I read your playing for cheeseburgers blog a while back and wished you luck. Holy shit you run bad in life man. :S
It seems you put a lot of effort into your poker and I could never see a serious relationship with anyone who can't support you in that. Obviously TL girl blogs aren't really the epitome of wisdom though.
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Been in this situation but you are doing way better than me. Cheating on me was like the hardest blow my gf ever did to me and I fucking hated her for at least a year or so.
Just good luck, maybe just go find yourself a chick to hangout with (as friend of course) just to take the distance and makes your gf understand that you can live without her and that she must make a choice.
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so much pain comes from going on in a relationship if the other has cheated (wether you know it or highsly suspect it doesnt even matter that much at that point)... I made that mistake myself once, and if you do not have a real life built up with her (like marriage/kids) I think it's smarter to just bail all together... gl man I know the pain
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I would never be able to trust someone like that. Not being able to say what is wrong and avoiding the whole issue, it seems obvious that she would never tell you any of this if you didn't put a great effort into finding it out yourself. What else wouldn't she say. Has to suck. Also seems she went back to you because the other guy pretty much didn't put up with her... sounds pretty bad..
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Oh young "love". The hardest trick in any relationship is to be able to zoom out and look at it in third person. Any sane person has read your story and thought "holy crap, this is not worth it at all" and would agree you need to find someone much more stable. To give it to you in a sales analogy, you are pitching a sale where the customer is demanding 20x more worth in product than what they're willing to pay.
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EPT
