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What do you do?
You say screw that and move on because there are more fish in the sea.
Honestly, she sounds like she has some emotional problems. She can't handle being alone and needs a rebound-man if she is. Think about it, whenever you were in czech republic she was seeing someone else and when that someone else didn't treat her right she came back to you. She lied about him, slept with him, defended him when you asked for his information, deleted his information from her phone hiding it from you and ONLY came back to YOU whenever HE didn't treat her right. Also, you mentioned a whole bunch of traits that she "didn't" have so when you combine all of it there's no reason for you to stay with her. You already see that she can't be faithful or trustworthy. Let it go, find somebody worth your time because obviously she clearly isn't.
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Run away as fast as possible!
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Bro your just her backup bitch. Her plan B. It didn't work out with the guy she obviously thought was better than you and that's the only reason why came back.
If that other guy wasn't "bad" to her then they'd be married right now.
If she's consciously capable of flat-out lying to you like the way she did, than there's pretty much no way she's ever going to completely stop.
Hell, she won't even show you the deleted messages in her phone!
She fucked you over for some other dude, it didn't work out, so she ran back to you. She didn't even tell you about him after you broke up. She waited until you two got back together!! WTF is up that?...
The best thing to do if you want to avoid more of this BS is kick her out of your life and get on with yours.
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She doesn't like what you do and she, as another poster before me so eloquently put it, "kissed you with another man's cum still on her lips". Worse, she refuses to come clean and tell the truth and is STILL lying to you. Why are you in a relationship with her? It's not going to last, considering how shitty her behavior is and the lack of compatibility.
Honestly, you should throw her out and find someone who has less issues.
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detach emotionally and get out asap... all flags say shes gonna cheat again and shes using you. it's only good times now so all is well temporarily, but when bad times hit you'll want to have exited by then. or made it not a serious relationship at all. but you dont want to live with those people...
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If she really valued her relationship with you she would have came clean about everything.
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Anyone who tries to cheat should be left imo. One time is too many times. Your feelings are clouding your thoughts, it's normal. But get over her, find someone else, move on. Later, you won't regret it.
I would definitely not be with anyone who has lied to be that much.
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try internet dating, find a new girl, chat with at least 100 girls before losing hope. gl
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In the spirit of harm reduction, Particularly your mental health. Run. Very fast. Do not look back.
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On April 09 2012 01:07 ~ava wrote:
this was a learning experience. If your girlfriend isn't spending time with you when she could be, she doesn't like you enough to stay - find one that does, life is short.
This. Do not waste your time on this one. There are plenty others out there who will treat you with th respect you deserve for whatever you do.
My wife married me when I had no job. Totally 100% unemployed. Because she loved and loves me. We have been living together for over 12 years now, and married for 8 of that. We both have full time jobs, own a house, no kids, and see eye to eye on just about everything. I've never cheated, and I would bet my life that she hasn't either.
Don't. Waste. Your. Time. I saw my brother waste about 2 years going back and forth, with the same girl, the whole time I knew it wasn't going to work out. And you know what? It didn't. Once this shit starts happening, it is never the same. I'm sorry and I hear how you feel about her, but this is the most practical way to look at it.
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On April 09 2012 02:21 CursOr wrote:Show nested quote +On April 09 2012 01:07 ~ava wrote:
this was a learning experience. If your girlfriend isn't spending time with you when she could be, she doesn't like you enough to stay - find one that does, life is short. This. Do not waste your time on this one. There are plenty others out there who will treat you with th respect you deserve for whatever you do. My wife married me when I had no job. Totally 100% unemployed. Because she loved and loves me. We have been living together for over 12 years now, and married for 8 of that. We both have full time jobs, own a house, no kids, and see eye to eye on just about everything. I've never cheated, and I would bet my life that she hasn't either. Don't. Waste. Your. Time. I saw my brother waste about 2 years going back and forth, with the same girl, the whole time I knew it wasn't going to work out. And you know what? It didn't. Once this shit starts happening, it is never the same. I'm sorry and I hear how you feel about her, but this is the most practical way to look at it.
I agree, once she cheated it's hard to not second guess her. That kind of relationship is particularly unhealthy for both parties. Beyond trust issues there's also the problem of her craziness.
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I wish i could give a 0 out of 5 to some threads.
As a side note, re-read the conclusion to your post, it seems pretty obvious that you already achieved a decision and you are just procastrinating. You don't stay with a girl because she's "kind".
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Wow are you actually actively blocking out what an awful fucking person she is? Because I dont see how else you arent running like crazy from her.
She clearly doesnt actually give two shits about you, and will be nowhere in sight when the going gets tough and you actually need someone there for you, emotionally or otherwise.
I've dealt with a cheating bitch before, gave her a second chance when I found out, she still left me later, and kept giving her 'second chances' whenever her boyfriend was mean to her and she wanted to come back, because i was a desperate sad-sack, only to have her leave me again whenever the other guy was being nice to her.
Looking back now I want to gouge out my eyes at how embarrassingly stupid I was to not just completely cut off contact with her.
If you do not end it now, you will do the same one day, and hate yourself for the time and effort you wasted on this subhuman.
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dunno kind and cheated on you? 
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So she had a relationship where the boyfriend asked her to marry him, behind your back, without you knowing. RUN FOR THE HILLS
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I would throw her ass under the buss. there are plenty of girls who are honest that you can find. fuck her 1 more time for good measure before you dump her out with the rest of the trash.
anyway if your dumb and stay with her shes clearly just gonna keep fucking dudes behind your back...... dont be that guy.
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She was lying to you and she was comfortable doing that for an extended period of time. It's over, even if you were to stay together for a while longer, you would most likely split up again and the source would be this untruthfulness.
Edit: Also, what Coagulation said. If you stay with her she just knows she can get away with way more shit than is healthy for you.
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On April 09 2012 01:48 BlazeFury01 wrote:
What do you do?
You say screw that and move on because there are more fish in the sea.
Honestly, she sounds like she has some emotional problems. She can't handle being alone and needs a rebound-man if she is. Think about it, whenever you were in czech republic she was seeing someone else and when that someone else didn't treat her right she came back to you. She lied about him, slept with him, defended him when you asked for his information, deleted his information from her phone hiding it from you and ONLY came back to YOU whenever HE didn't treat her right. Also, you mentioned a whole bunch of traits that she "didn't" have so when you combine all of it there's no reason for you to stay with her. You already see that she can't be faithful or trustworthy. Let it go, find somebody worth your time because obviously she clearly isn't.
^Ye. She doesn't love you. You're the backup plan for when the rest of her life goes wrong; you're that dumb chump that will take her in anyway. Left you for other dudes as soon as you weren't making money. Fakes a whole vacation just so that she can be away with you, yet still spend your cash.
Run for the hills, man. Run run run run run run run away.
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In the event you do break up with her (which I agree with most of the posters), before you get into another relationship, make sure your life is completely in order (which it seems like you've done already). Having a girlfriend is nice and all, but if you can't even take care of yourself, how can you expect to take care of your relationship? Not saying that it's the reason for her infidelity, but it can contribute to it.
Oh, and "cause she's Asian" isn't exactly valid when listing reasons why you love her.
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Oh wait i missed the part where you said she got fat. Why is this even in doubt then? I mean I'd understand being reluctant to let her cheating ass go if it was also a fine ass...
but what the hell man
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