Girlblog Followup: Mixed results lead to confusion - Page 2

On April 05 2012 22:41 OpticalShot wrote:
Rek has spoken.

Let me try to give you a longer version.

Sorry to hear that, here's my analysis step-by-step:

1. You asked her like a man but in front of her friends.
- Bad move, bro. "In front of her friends" is not a good setting for her to make a sound decision. She's constrained by both social image (if she says no she gains 500 exp in the bitch skill tree) and time (if she hesitates then the awkward air grows by tenfold). If she's not even willing to speak with you privately, how can she be comfortable spending an entire night with you with you as her primary partner for social interactions? When I asked my prom date it was like "hey the weather's nice lets go for a walk in the park" -> goes to park together -> "Would you be my prom partner?" that kind of thing. Simple and private, so that you give the girl a fair chance to make the decision. Guess I wasn't detailed enough in my previous replies to your blogs >_<;;

2. She said yes.
- Okay, so yes is better than no... at least I think so. If you were absolutely hideous and disgusting she would have said no on the spot even though her friends (and your friends?) were watching. So that means you are not absolutely hideous and disgusting, congratulations. You now have a prom partner. Game on.

3. She's bringing two of her friends from outside of school.
- As many other mentioned, this is an obvious sign of self-shielding. It's like she scouted your proxy 2gate so she's building not one, but TWO shield batteries (and an early forge+cannon) to keep her base safe from any possible cheesy strategies. Despicable move on her part, really. I would go as far as to assume that she's hired two chicks to shield her pussy because she thinks you want to fuck her in the afterparty. Apologies for the rather blunt language.

4. Game's not over yet.
- What do you do when you fail your cheese because opponent went super defensive? You macro it up and overpower her defences with unrelenting waves of attack. So here's what my next step would be, in your shoes. I ask another girl to prom. Yes, I would ask another girl to prom. You already gained some experience from asking this girl, so the second time should be easier. Assuming you've picked a good target (she probably shouldn't know that you're going with the first girl), you get a yes and now you have a backup. Now, you confront the first chick and go all offensive. All-in but not really an all-in since you have a backup! Confront her about how you don't appreciate how the process has been going, and let her know how things should be or else you're calling it off. Either way, you have a prom partner at the end.

5. However, you risk a lot of things...
- Should you follow the plan in #4 and fail, your reputation will be shattered for obvious reasons. Even if you succeed, you lose a bit. Shit man, I don't know exactly how you're feeling, but I would feel terrible about going to a prom with a girl who clearly doesn't give a fuck about me. Prom isn't a casual night out. It's a symbolic event (no matter what people tell you) that you should both enjoy and take advantage of.

6. The fun is in the afterparty.
- No matter what happens with your prom date, you should plan a separate afterparty with your close friends. Prom ends about midnight but the real fun begins after midnight! If you fully remember what happened in the afterparty, you're doing it wrong. Get some booze (older brother / older friends?), get a place (there's always a guy or two that have really chill parents that will empty the place for their son), and get some chicks over (whether you personally like them or not). PARTY!!

On April 05 2012 16:13 Froadac wrote:
Girl Blog Followup: Mixed results

So yeah, I was man enough to ask a girl to ball. But not man enough to post the confusing and awkward result.

So yeah, I decide to be boring as hell. Just manly ask her. So class is over, blah, it’s an ok day. So I just ask her in front of a friend of hers. No ummms, etc. Just something along the lines, you’re a wonderful person would you go to senior ball with me. And she was like.. pause…. Yeah. Which was sort of weird, she was trying to figure out what to do then. And then she said, sure. And then I was sorta happy, but I was like, OK great! And then things just proceeded to get really really strange. So we were still talking and stuff.

But then I didn’t post a followup cause weird stuff started happening. She was like omg need to bring people I know at local private school (2 girls), and since one person is allowed to bring one person from another school and she wanted me to bring one of them I started going uhh, this is odd.

Am I simply being used as a vehicle? Anyways, she just keeps on acting weirder and weirder, obsesses about other friends, makes jokes about marrying her friend which she wasn’t before rofl. Maybe I’m just reading uh too far into it.

Anyways, I tried to talk to her about logistics (color coordination and whatnot) and despite the fact that she is generally really obsessed with planning and clothing and etc. I’m somewhat confused, and think she just said yes to appease me. And I don’t really want to go to ball with somebody who is doing it to not upset me or something. I think she wasn’t planning on going with anyone, so she just was like yeah sure whatever. Not sure what to do T.T

I am still happy with myself: I asked even though there was quite a possibility she said no. But now the whole situation is awkward, and if I want to ask anybody else not sure any etiquette issues or time issues or? This has confused me greatly.


What the heck should I do.

Also visiting UCSD this weekend, quite excited. Screwed for calc test, have a buffer, and studied a ton today, so should be able to pull a B. Which would be fine.

On April 05 2012 23:43 Blasterion wrote:

My friend, yes I know doing a capture is difficult sometimes frustrating but that's why you shouldn't let up. There is a reason she reacted, but did not say no. If she didn't like you she would've said no out right. I mean what does she have to lose? I wager that you are 30% into the capture already. One may say persistence does it. All you have to do is keep increasing the frequency of events with her. Talk with her, have lunch etc. What your target is currently going thru is a stage of shyness that they must overcome, with your help.

You said she started act differently around you after you asked her out to the ball but she didn't say no and that was key. You can use it to your leverage. Words are the strongest weapon against girls. Choosing your words properly will it easy to reel them in.
As long as you increase the amount of encounters between you two, eventually it will convert into some form of affection, Human by nature hold affection to the things around them. And if you are often around them they will start to be affectionate to you too.
As by text book Encounter, Impression, Affection, and Confession are the four corner stones of a capture. Once the cornerstones are set in she's as good as yours.

Hope you have success in your capture
Sincerely
Blasty

On April 05 2012 23:52 Zorkmid wrote:


Dating in China seems like fun!

On April 05 2012 23:43 Blasterion wrote:

Hello

My friend, yes I know doing a capture is difficult sometimes frustrating but that's why you shouldn't let up. There is a reason she reacted, but did not say no. If she didn't like you she would've said no out right. I mean what does she have to lose? I wager that you are 30% into the capture already. One may say persistence does it. All you have to do is keep increasing the frequency of events with her. Talk with her, have lunch etc. What your target is currently going thru is a stage of shyness that they must overcome, with your help.
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You said she started act differently around you after you asked her out to the ball but she didn't say no and that was key. You can use it to your leverage. Words are the strongest weapon against girls. Choosing your words properly will it easy to reel them in.
As long as you increase the amount of encounters between you two, eventually it will convert into some form of affection, Human by nature hold affection to the things around them. And if you are often around them they will start to be affectionate to you too.
As by text book Encounter, Impression, Affection, and Confession are the four corner stones of a capture. Once the cornerstones are set in she's as good as yours.

Hope you have success in your capture
Sincerely
Blasty

On April 06 2012 00:08 Recognizable wrote:


Offtopic: Which Anime is that?

On April 06 2012 07:35 Froadac wrote:
Asked her. She was like. uh. yeah. Shoulda told you. Uh. ok. uh. parents. uh. shit.

@Optic: Parents are acting as giant shield wall + templar in pvz corsair reaver in terms of afterparty.