New Girlfriend Smokes Pot. Is That an Issue? - Page 3
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Solidarity
United States78 Posts
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johnnywup
United States3858 Posts
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Talent.L
119 Posts
it's understandable that her habits are against your values, but i think drinking in particular is so common these days that not alot of ppl consider it a big deal, unless of course she is a crazy drunk who goes rampage when shes not sober.. | ||
apm66
Canada943 Posts
Personally, I think you should need to be more open-minded about things like these. There's nothing wrong with smoking pot, nor drinking socially. | ||
johnnywup
United States3858 Posts
the pot still isnt that bad imo the drinking certainly can be | ||
Darpa
Canada4413 Posts
There are alot of people (i mean alot) who smoke it occasionally and recreationally just for fun. It doesnt dominate their lives and they just do it as it comes to enjoy themselves. If its not a habit for her, and it doesnt define who she is or is the only way she can have fun then dont worry about it. If she is capable of having fun and functioning without it, I personally wouldnt worry about it. Drinking is no different, it cant be a crutch. Plus you get way more fucked up from drinking than smoking, its certainly not like you would see in the movies where you are a fucking moron the second it touches your lips. My guess would be that she wont change her habits, particularily this early in the relationship without feeling seriously annoyed or cramped. Evaluate her habit, and whether not you can stand it, if you cant, odds are she wont change until she is ready and it may be time to move on | ||
unichan
United States4223 Posts
On November 15 2011 10:28 apm66 wrote: Dude, I'd marry her. Personally, I think you should need to be more open-minded about things like these. There's nothing wrong with smoking pot, nor drinking socially. Evidently he thinks there is, so you shouldn't push your values onto him just as he shouldn't do so to his gf. My personal experience: + Show Spoiler + I dated a guy who did this kind of stuff, which I knew about beforehand. I thought I'd be okay with it but in the end it was part of the reason why we broke up, lol. Don't try to force yourself to be comfortable with it, no matter how much you like her. Just be honest with her and yourself =/ | ||
Bagration
United States18282 Posts
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Autofire2
Pakistan290 Posts
This kind of holier-than-thou attitude is probably one of the most unattractive and immature things people can have. The hell does "anti drug" mean? Weed is not the same thing as Ecstacy, which in turn is not the same thing as cocaine, which is not heroin etc. If you have a specific reason...like you absolutely can't stand the smell...then tell her about it and she'll hopefully cut it out in front of you. If its just she has habits you personally don't approve off and you feel like you should be dictating terms or "saving" her or some BS...I dunno, how would you feel if she came up to you and said "I like everything about you, but this gaming thing is freaky, I hear it turns people into sociopaths, stop doing it" and NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAID she talked over you and at you? Yeah, not fun. | ||
RaLakedaimon
United States1564 Posts
On November 15 2011 09:45 Probe1 wrote: Talk to her about how you feel. lol No idea why but this made me laugh so hard. lol On topic though I personally would never have dated someone as a teenager who smoked pot, I did have a girlfriend for a bit that drank and that even bothered my since my mother was an alcoholic, also because the majority of teens only drink to somehow look cool. If I were in your shoes I would leave her, no need to get mixed up in things that you find uncomfortable while your young, plenty of girls out there that can better fit your needs/wants. | ||
chiwawa
330 Posts
If you feel it's a problem in the relationship just say it to her, then it's up to her to stop or you to eventually leave her. Comparing using marijuana to drinking perhaps works in US but the biggest difference is that consuming alcohol is perfectly legal while smoking pot is not. | ||
Jibba
United States22883 Posts
Avoiding them seems like an artificial barrier to making friends, and let's be honest, highschool relationships usually don't talk stuff out. If the rest of her is great, then you'll have to overcome it. And that's true for her, or any other relationship in the future. No two people are 100% compatible. | ||
Azzur
Australia6203 Posts
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Probe1
United States17920 Posts
On November 15 2011 10:27 Talent.L wrote: you guys are a bunch of fucking trolls... it's understandable that her habits are against your values, but i think drinking in particular is so common these days that not alot of ppl consider it a big deal, unless of course she is a crazy drunk who goes rampage when shes not sober.. >You guys are a bunch of trolls >Comment on drinking in a blog about pot Do you see where things went south in your post? Yes, marijuana and alcohol are similar but considering the OP gave us no basis for his objection, only that it was against his values, we must assume it is because smoking pot is illegal and drinking is not. Then again they are both most likely underage! However my point still stands- you called the other posters trolls then responded indirectly with a example of a similar intoxicant. V_V | ||
BreakfastBurrito
United States893 Posts
Like any habit, activity, personality quirk, etc your partner may have, you have to ask how it would affect your relationship/your well being. If she smokes now and then, doesn't pressure you or belittle you for not partaking, and doesn't act questionably around you, then (in my opinion) there is no reason for it to make you dislike her. "Non-serious" drugs like alcohol and weed are sort of like money- some people can handle it, some just can't... you have to find out what kind of person she is, and that won't happen with some pre-conceived notion that smoking is automatically bad. If I had a girlfriend who smoked (and I do, lol) and I didn't want to smoke (Athlete at a school with random testing, before any other objections could even surface) I'd just tell her upfront- I am not going to control your life, but just do it when I am not there. And it becomes a non-issue TLDR Just try it out- if you really can't stomach it then there is nothing you can do, other fish in the sea anyhow | ||
Darclite
United States1021 Posts
On November 15 2011 09:28 TheLOLas wrote: I just got an awesome girlfriend. She's nice, funny, sweet. Basically she's great. This is the most important part of your post. | ||
TheAntZ
Israel6248 Posts
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MetalMarine
United States1559 Posts
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tonight
United States11130 Posts
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Torenhire
United States11681 Posts
I don't drink (maybe once in a blue moon) or smoke, I would consider it "against my values" I guess...so I understand where you're coming from OP. Maybe not against my values - as in I don't immediately look down upon someone who drinks or smoke, I personally choose not to for my own reasons - but sometimes it's a big deal to a person for a random reason. My grandfather died of lung cancer most likely attributed to the 9000 cigarettes he smoked a day (he was a chimney I swear) and despite the two being totally different, it's just hooked me so that it's hard for me to date anyone who smokes. Best course of action is to let her know you're uncomfortable about it, and try and let it go. She might cut back a little for you, and you have to let her enjoy / do her thing as well. Relationships are all about little compromises. :3 | ||
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