Okay sorry for the girl blogishness but i'm kinda lost, this cute girl i know keeps saying she needs to lose weight and that she's fat, but she's not she's really quite hot, she's not the sporty type but she's naturally slim. No she isn't the type who says that just to get ppl to tell her she's hot, she isn't like those hot girls who know they're hot and behave like it. Anyway, most of the time, when she says stuff like that all i can say is either "you're not fat" or "why would you need to do that" I wanna know what's the most subtle way of phrasing "i think you're hot" without being explicit about it? Something that implies i notice that she's got a good figure. What can i do with the situation, i don't want to be so direct cause she's attached, but i just want to flirt cause she's so funny. Sorry again if this is stupid, i don't have a way with words.
Well just say your an idiot for thinking you have to lose weight when you look so good girl If your good friends she shouldn't take offense. I have a friend who does that all the time. I always say stuff like that and if you lost anymore weight you might fall through a crack in the floor hahahahaha.
I don't wanna be so direct guys, i like the innuendos and subtlety involved lol, and it will be weird cause most of the time we hang out w other girls that aren't so hot
How about "You're as fat as Keira Knightley"? That works pretty well since then she has a comparison rather than just your word.
As for telling her she's hot, say your friends think she's hot rather than you yourself. Again, having another source comes off as more trustworthy than you yourself, and having multiple people is great. This works for me all the time, although only if you have mutual acquaintances. It doesn't even have to be true since she will never confront them about it. Just make sure you get the point across not that they like her, but that they think she is attractive.
Hm. This seems like the sort of love advice question that's right up ILK's alley. I recommend you ask it in this thread: http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?topic_id=247260 so that you can get some advice from the king of kings, that god among men, that man among babies, ILOVEKITTENS.
How do i put this it would be weird if i said it to her directly, i want to plant a seed of curiousity in her mind as to whether i like her. And also i think we both like being playful with each other, i don't want to mess her up with her boyfriend by saying too much
next time she tells ya, tell her to stop bitching and get on the treadmill. you can tell her she's pretty but she's gonna think you're just saying that, just support her weight loss initiative there's really nothing you can say or do.
On July 27 2011 01:17 flowSthead wrote: How about "You're as fat as Keira Knightley"? That works pretty well since then she has a comparison rather than just your word.
As for telling her she's hot, say your friends think she's hot rather than you yourself. Again, having another source comes off as more trustworthy than you yourself, and having multiple people is great. This works for me all the time, although only if you have mutual acquaintances. It doesn't even have to be true since she will never confront them about it. Just make sure you get the point across not that they like her, but that they think she is attractive.
Haha first one's pretty good, but for your second point i want her to know that i'm the one who notices her spice not my friends
On July 27 2011 01:20 taldarimAltar wrote: How do i put this it would be weird if i said it to her directly, i want to plant a seed of curiousity in her mind as to whether i like her. And also i think we both like being playful with each other, i don't want to mess her up with her boyfriend by saying too much
She probably has a self-image issue, if she isn't obviously doing it because she knows she's hot and just wants the attention.
Many girls look great, but get this idea from somewhere that they don't, and it becomes really hard for them to believe it when you say they look good. (I am speaking from experience-- I am a fairly slim woman with a good figure but for years I really believed I was almost obese because of remarks my father constantly made to me since I was little about how I needed to exercise more and stop eating food because my ass looked big in my jeans. (Yeah, he's an ass.) I developed an eating disorder and just stopped eating hardly anything for a few years.) If you are concerned that maybe she isn't eating right, or over-exercising to an unhealthy point, speak to a school councilor about it, or confront her about it.
When she says she needs to lose weight, etc. it's better to get annoyed that sympathetic. Tell her to stop talking like that, it's bullshit. This is a different approach than many people take and will probably get more attention from her than saying no, no, you look fine (this will go in one ear and out the other).
The best way to do this is to say something when she has NOT just said she thinks she needs to lose weight or something along that line. If you say it after she says something, she is likely to think that you are speaking reflexively to what she said, and not necessarily sincere. Instead, when you see her, find something to compliment her about-- tell her you really like her hair, or she looks really great in her summer dress, or whatever you happen to find attractive. This is a really nice surprise for many girls and makes them happy to hear that someone is noticing something they find attractive about them.
some (most) girls think that they're fatter than they are. my roommate is exactly this way. she's a size 0 and still wants to lose weight. there's really nothing you can do to changer her mind because these girls have it already engrained in their mind that they are fat, imperfect.
just tell her she's hot, pretty, beautiful, or whatever you want. it'll flatter them, but wont change their perspective about themselves. everyone has insecurities about their body. girls tend to use the fat excuse more often
On July 27 2011 01:08 taldarimAltar wrote: Okay sorry for the girl blogishness but i'm kinda lost, this cute girl i know keeps saying she needs to lose weight and that she's fat, but she's not she's really quite hot, she's not the sporty type but she's naturally slim. No she isn't the type who says that just to get ppl to tell her she's hot, she isn't like those hot girls who know they're hot and behave like it. Anyway, most of the time, when she says stuff like that all i can say is either "you're not fat" or "why would you need to do that" I wanna know what's the most subtle way of phrasing "i think you're hot" without being explicit about it? Something that implies i notice that she's got a good figure. What can i do with the situation, i don't want to be so direct cause she's attached, but i just want to flirt cause she's so funny. Sorry again if this is stupid, i don't have a way with words.