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So I have this problem and I want to take it out of my chest cus I think i've fallen in to my emotions (zzz) its the worst thing, so why not make a inane blog in good old TL?
The problem is... wait for it...
Girls, yeah thats right.
First let me go to introduce myself for judgement sakes, I guess:
I'm a senior at my high school in New Zealand, whos in his 2nd to last year. I'm midweight, have plenty of good friends instead of those fake ones and I'm currently enjoying my life so far. I'm what you call an 'Korean New Zealander' or 'Korean Kiwi' which i'm saying that I was born in New Zealand, stayed in this country for about 12 years(?) (My family moved back to Korea when I was young and we came back)
So like a lot of people in Teamliquid; I love games, I love anime and especially playing Starcraft2. I'm a freak on the computer. I use it for about 3 or more hours a day depending on how much spare time I have. In my opinion I don't have that much of a super nerd personality(An example is you know theres always someone who loves war and just says plain idiotic things such as "I want the war back, we need it" I mean really, why would anyone want war back?) instead I have a pretty average personality for my age and gender; I talk about cars, anime, games and I never go too far with these jokes.
Okay well thats me in a nutshell, now for the real purpose of the blog.
Recently in High School I met this amazing girl, she is actually seriously beautiful. And her personality is amazing, we have some stuff in common together for example; she's a huge anime freak  So usually I take advantage of this and talk about anime with her or crack some jokes, which she laughs to. Anyway i've known her for about 3 weeks, we talk a lot on Facebook and in school, mostly about anime or asking if shes going with anyone to the school ball.
For the past week I've wanted to ask her out to the movies or something to the mall however I always bail out and just yesterday (Friday) I was searching for her to ask out in real life cus of random confidence gain, and I couldn't find her which bit the dust again. T_T
Now another problem is that she seems way outta my league, she's quite popular and is one of the best looking girls i've ever seen in my life. For me im not popular at all (I dont want to join that area of social groups so I dont try) im midweight and im asian. So that kills my confidence a bit because I dont want my own feelings to get hurt when I get rejected
I dont know whats with my head, but I keep feeling positive about it and I feel like shes gonna say yes when I ask her out which gives me butterflies. ~.~ Damnit
So like I said I wanted to ask her out in real life on Friday because obviously, that is a much bettter method, and I failed because I couldn't find her (The schools huge) And I'm starting to resort to asking her out through the internet.... In my opinion doing that feels really weak, shows barely any confidence which girls like and I think its a lot easier to get rejected through this method. However my mind doesnt like my mind, because I keep having this big impatient feeling and I feel like I have to ask her out anyway possible and its not easy to get rid of, I'm 90% certain that im gonna go ask her out this weekend.
Another problem is that I dont know what to do in dates especially the idea of taking someone out to the movies for a first date? Is this a good idea?
So you good people of TeamLiquid, what do yo think? Am I way out of her league? Should I wait until Monday where I can ask her in school? Or should I try ask her through Facebook tonight to watch a movie with me?
Anyway sorry for this rent and it's English errors, i'm rushing this because I really want this out of my chest and writing about it to the public helps.
Anyway its time to eat some breakfast and fruit salad
Fruit salad, Yummy yummy.
Poll -
+ Show Spoiler +Poll: Should I ask her out through the internet or in real lifeReal Life (135) 91% Facebook (13) 9% 148 total votes Your vote: Should I ask her out through the internet or in real life (Vote): Facebook
(Vote): Real Life
  
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Blazinghand
United States25562 Posts
On June 25 2011 07:10 SEA_GenesiS wrote:
Another problem is that I dont know what to do in dates especially the idea of taking someone out to the movies for a first date? Is this a good idea?
So you good people of TeamLiquid, what do yo think? Am I way out of her league? Should I wait until Monday where I can ask her in school? Or should I try ask her through Facebook tonight to watch a movie with me?
Anyway sorry for this rent and it's English errors, i'm rushing this because I really want this out of my chest and writing about it to the public helps.
Movies are good, but make sure it's one both of you want to see-- you don't want a boring first date. Make sure, also, that it's not JUST a movie since you want a chance to talk.
She's not out of your league, you should go for it. Don't ask people out via facebook, as a general rule; ask in person or via phone (CALL, not text) whenever possible.
Go do it. She'll probably say yes and it will be super super awesome.
GL HF
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If she says no then what do you lose but if she says yes (sexytime).
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Blazinghand
United States25562 Posts
On June 25 2011 07:14 Nfi wrote:
If she says no then what do you lose but if she says yes (sexytime).
This is also true, but isn't the reason you should be asking her out. You're asking her out because you want to date her. Remember, it's entirely possible she wants you to ask her out, or would be willing to go out, but since she's a woman and you're a man, it's your societal role to be the initiator and ask her out (at least, in my culture) and deal with the chance of rejection.
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Real life is always the best option man, asking someone out by facebook is like dumping them by text.
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First off, don't ask Teamliquid. Is the girl Korean/NZer? It actually makes a difference as race will work against you with kiwi girls and for you with Korean girls.
Also based on the information you gave it's pretty much impossible to know what's going on, as most guys will interpret things one way when it's really another. But to get a very quick answer on whether she's interested or not just ask her out, and you'll know one way or another
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Fuck FaceBook, good to see you realise it's for dire occasions only. Get the courage you need and go talk to her RIGHT NOW. Better to be rejected than to never know what could have happened. I know you said you don't like rejection, but that's something you'll have to live with. Humans have different views on what's aesthetically pleasant or not. You just have to deal with that.
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Go talk to her right now. In real life
I swear, if I could go back to yell at my high school self, I would hit him so hard and tell him to ask out that one girl...
sigh
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Call her and ask her out to go with you somewhere.
Movie is too cliche and you don't actually get to talk/interact with the person. So lame.
If there's a nice park or something with a trail ask her to go there and you guys can walk around and talk.
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I never knew why people start relationships in HS :X
It's a time when you have no money and when school ends, if you play to go to any University, there is a good chance you will break apart.
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I know its like the macerna or Raise the roof, but I'm doing it anyways.....
CHILL GET OUT
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Whats so hard about talking to a girl and saying "hey, you busy later tonight? I got nothing planned...wanna hang out? I'm sure we can find something to do."
Boom, done, you've gained her attention for the moment and possibly for the rest of the day/night/whatever.
Just be....ya know, normal good ole you.
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Surprisingly, there are a lot of beautiful girls, who sit home alone on the weekends simply because you guys think they're out of your league.
Of course, if you muster up the courage to ask her out, it must be real life - good grief, kid - never over the internet. And an agreed upon movie is a fantastic date, because when you take her for a soda or ice cream sundae afterwards, you'll have something to talk about - no awkward moments.
You do, however, have to ask her in a way that she knows it's a date and not just out of friendship, otherwise you're doomed from the get go.
GLHF!
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Dude, if she's willing to have a conversation with you, she's probably willing to try at least one date. That's just kind of how it works. If you end up having fun (meaning her), you'll get another date. The worst she can say is no, anyways.
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Man up face to face real life....never ask someone out over facebook..that's just dumb ]= just saying...worst that's gunna happen is she'll say no
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intrigue
Washington, D.C9935 Posts
i kinda want to close this thread. i hope you understand that facebook shouldn't even be an option.
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Lack confidence you say? Well look no further, for Teamliquid is here. And here at TL, we believe in you. Believe in us who believe in you. Find where she is and slam open the door. If you can get some really bright shining lights behind you so it looks like a god just walked in, do it.Dazzle the stage. Walk up to her, grab her hand, get down on one knee and say "Raise your voice, and let's sing out our youth together!" Get the attention of everyone in the room, but stare only into her eyes. At this point, she'll definitely be dazzled enough to accept your proposal.
If not, phase 2 begins. Withdraw from her, appearing hurt. Whisper "It's a pinch" softly, before quickly staring at her again and saying "WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK I AM???" Kick something, it's very important to kick something. Storm out, but not before yelling "I will succeed, believe it!" She'll be overwhelmed.
+ Show Spoiler +In all seriousness, this is less important in the grand scheme of things then you can imagine. Next time you see her, with confidence, just ask her out. Otherwise, you'll never go on any awesome dates. If she rejects you, such is life. But atleast she'll know how confident and interested you are in her, and if she ever builds strong enough feelings for you she'll remember that.
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