EPTAsking Girls Out In HighSchool - Page 3
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Lemonayd
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ILOVEKITTENS
Korea (South)112 Posts
![[image loading]](http://www.chicagonow.com/blogs/chicago-eats-allergy-free/bruceleemyherojpg.png) "As you think, so shall you become." -- Bruce Lee Words from the mouth of one of the grandest, most badass pussymagnets on the planet. But, this is not a redundant essay on why Lee is the shit. This is your blog. TL;DR: you need some more Lee in your life. Actually, you are Korean, so maybe not. But, regardless. Your problem is that you lack faith. You lack strength. You are starting this otherwise simple task of asking a human being a question as a boy riddled with self-doubt and depreciation. I will give you some credit though, you have identified the issue at hand: women seek confident men, because they don't want to be the ones handing you tissues during a sappy movie or telling you that you don't look fat (your 'medium-sized' description betrays a lack of confidence already). So, if I tell you that you don't have confidence, that kind of makes the solution clear, no? Refer to the quote above. This is just a high school girl. In a big school. That you will no longer be attending, much sooner than you think, and most of the negative things that happened to you will be more distant than Alpha Centauri (am I right, my fellow 20-something-year-olds?). Once again, Bruce Lee lends us some knowledge: "Forget about winning and losing, forget about pride and pain." All four of those concepts apply directly to this situation, and are holding you back from potentially achieving amateur baller status. If you ask her and she says yes, you got what you wanted. If she says no, then you got experience, which you needed. If she says no, there will only be pain if you let words hurt you. There will only be damage to your pride if you let her put herself above you in YOUR mind. Whether or not she is such in her mind is wholly irrelevant to what should be your perception of yourself. Look in the mirror. This is who you are. You can ask yourself, "Do you want to go to dinner with me?" Why can't you ask her? Why are you afraid? "Forget about pride and pain." There is no fear when there is no pride or pain. ![[image loading]](http://i.imgur.com/N1RKe.jpg) Now, onto your questions. Movies are over-rated and you do not know her taste yet, it is not a good place to hold a conversation and it is woefully cliche. Think about it empirically - you are not facing each other, both of your attention is being grabbed by a massive screen and surround sound, and conversing is frowned upon. I would rather sit next to a girl in an electric chair, at least I could make a joke about it. Be a man, take her out to an early dinner (6 or 7pm). Then do something interactive with her afterward. You should ask her what she likes to do before you ask her out to dinner, then suggest the most plausible option. What do I think? I think you think too much. When you go down the trail of "what-ifs" that led you to your absolute lack of permanent conviction, I'm sure there are many absurd and exaggerated fears at play. There is no such thing as a league. There are attractive people and unattractive, and in general there is nothing that can be done about that. But who you are as a personality is completely under your control, and personality is more important than looks after the first 10 seconds of meeting a person. You don't believe this, that's why you are even considering the Facebook option of asking this girl - because you won't be showing your face. Man up. Be happy being YOU. At least for the 2 minutes that it takes to smoothly build up to a dinner invite. Should you ask her through Facebook? Can you imagine Bruce Lee asking a girl over Facebook to go to the movies, because he is scared to face her in person? Fuck no. Now, what mental factors separate you from being like the late Bruce Lee? None. Once again, man up. If she says no, then she isn't worthy of you, not the other way around. Because, honestly who says no to a fucking dinner? Only a bitch who views herself as too self-important. It's not like dinner will bind you two for life. This is a point you should consider as well, but maybe that is for next time. Remember... ![[image loading]](http://siliconcowboy.files.wordpress.com/2010/11/bruce-lee.jpg) FIGHTING! | ||
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RogerX
New Zealand3180 Posts
On June 25 2011 12:11 ILOVEKITTENS wrote: "As you think, so shall you become." -- Bruce Lee Words from the mouth of one of the grandest, most badass pussymagnets on the planet. But, this is not a redundant essay on why Lee is the shit. This is your blog. TL;DR: you need some more Lee in your life. Actually, you are Korean, so maybe not. But, regardless. Your problem is that you lack faith. You lack strength. You are starting this otherwise simple task of asking a human being a question as a boy riddled with self-doubt and depreciation. I will give you some credit though, you have identified the issue at hand: women seek confident men, because they don't want to be the ones handing you tissues during a sappy movie or telling you that you don't look fat (your 'medium-sized' description betrays a lack of confidence already). So, if I tell you that you don't have confidence, that kind of makes the solution clear, no? Refer to the quote above. This is just a high school girl. In a big school. That you will no longer be attending, much sooner than you think, and most of the negative things that happened to you will be more distant than Alpha Centauri (am I right, my fellow 20-something-year-olds?). Once again, Bruce Lee lends us some knowledge: "Forget about winning and losing, forget about pride and pain." All four of those concepts apply directly to this situation, and are holding you back from potentially achieving amateur baller status. If you ask her and she says yes, you got what you wanted. If she says no, then you got experience, which you needed. If she says no, there will only be pain if you let words hurt you. There will only be damage to your pride if you let her put herself above you in YOUR mind. Whether or not she is such in her mind is wholly irrelevant to what should be your perception of yourself. Look in the mirror. This is who you are. You can ask yourself, "Do you want to go to dinner with me?" Why can't you ask her? Why are you afraid? "Forget about pride and pain." There is no fear when there is no pride or pain. Now, onto your questions. Movies are over-rated and you do not know her taste yet, it is not a good place to hold a conversation and it is woefully cliche. Think about it empirically - you are not facing each other, both of your attention is being grabbed by a massive screen and surround sound, and conversing is frowned upon. I would rather sit next to a girl in an electric chair, at least I could make a joke about it. Be a man, take her out to an early dinner (6 or 7pm). Then do something interactive with her afterward. You should ask her what she likes to do before you ask her out to dinner, then suggest the most plausible option. What do I think? I think you think too much. When you go down the trail of "what-ifs" that led you to your absolute lack of permanent conviction, I'm sure there are many absurd and exaggerated fears at play. There is no such thing as a league. There are attractive people and unattractive, and in general there is nothing that can be done about that. But who you are as a personality is completely under your control, and personality is more important than looks after the first 10 seconds of meeting a person. You don't believe this, that's why you are even considering the Facebook option of asking this girl - because you won't be showing your face. Man up. Be happy being YOU. At least for the 2 minutes that it takes to smoothly build up to a dinner invite. Should you ask her through Facebook? Can you imagine Bruce Lee asking a girl over Facebook to go to the movies, because he is scared to face her in person? Fuck no. Now, what mental factors separate you from being like the late Bruce Lee? None. Once again, man up. If she says no, then she isn't worthy of you, not the other way around. Because, honestly who says no to a fucking dinner? Only a bitch who views herself as too self-important. It's not like dinner will bind you two for life. This is a point you should consider as well, but maybe that is for next time. Remember... FIGHTING! Bahahahahahaha if this was a blog itself i would rate it 5/5 but thank you :D that brings me up a lot. | ||
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Flyingsnow
Japan208 Posts
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
On June 25 2011 13:32 Flyingsnow wrote: Can we compile all of ILOVEKITTENS' responses into some glorious thread? Every post i've seen is sheer gold hahaahhahaha I've already said this but i'll say it again. GIVE THAT MAN A STAR!!! | ||
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Kamais_Ookin
Canada4218 Posts
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
Then I started going out with THE most beatiful girl of the school. It took some time, but it gave us 3 years of happiness so far. If you asked me back then, I would tell you that I don't have a chance. But it happened. Having enough confidence in yourself will does wonders in your life. Better start now! If you think about it, some of the guys who are successful with girls are just confident people, not that good looking nor smart. I just had a pretty nice body, and a nice brain, but that was it, I was no sportsteam captain I also think that a movie isn't bad. Pick a big expected-but-not-stupid hit. Follow up/precede with a snack at a park or something similar. The movie is actually just there to hint that you're interested in her, and to spend some time with her when you take a snack without immediately commiting to a whole evening of eye-contact (in the case of you taking her to dinner). It depends of whether you're already flirting or not. If you're just buddies, a dinner can be a surprising proposition. If you're already flirting, then dinner is indeed much better. Going to the movies is a cliché, but there are reasons things become clichés. And I feel like many people tend to like them, in the end, and at some point regret not going through some of them. A girl might regret that no one has ever sent her flowers. A boy might regret never having an high-school love story! You don't need to be exceptional all the time. There are 6 billion people out there... you're bind to be normal, to some extent. Try your best to go from commonplace situations to more personal setting. Don't be boring, but don't try too hard neither. Exceptional moments are those that truly require exceptional behaviours. The rest is just glitter. But, anyway, just do something. If you don't, you will regret it and be bitter about it. If you fail, then you will at least have no illusions. Trying is a big step forward in itself. | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
You're probably too afraid of getting rejected. Most TL blogs end up in girl failure since there's no followup. I could tell you to just go up to her and ask, but you'll probably just overthink it and be like "well she's with her friends now" "I don't want my teachers to know" "Blah blah other issues". | ||
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FetusFondler
United States246 Posts
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AngryFarmer
United States560 Posts
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Endymion
United States3701 Posts
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