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So, I've read a lot of "relationship issue" blogs, and used to woner why people would even bother throwing their problems out there to the wolfpack known as TL... until now.
I just received a message via "Gmail chat" from my ex, and my heart is through the floor.
"I understand if you hate me, and never want to talk to me or think about me again in your whole life, but i have to put it out there that even though i know the relationship was poop, I'm going to miss your friendship and the good times more than anything in the world."
Now, to Tarantino this...
Our anniversary was October 3rd, we had been dating for a year. We went to the beach, her favorite spot in the world. I reserved us a hotel room for the weekend, just the two of us. We had an amazing weekend... but something just wasn't right - more so than normal.
See, a few months ago, my girlfriend moved in with her mother and her grandmother. Her mother is a jobless alcoholic, with no motivation and severe depression, her grandmother, a passive-aggressive nutbag that cares more about her garden than all of her family combined. While my girlfriend found this necessary for her mother, to help her, it also killed her inside slowly. Doing so put us an hour drive away. She works and goes to school, which makes free time sparse. Beforehand, we were used to, and happy with seeing each other a couple of times a week. After the move, however, this was not the case. She slowly became more and more jaded. The stress of her living situation was eating her up inside, and eating us up as well.
Before the anniversary, we actually took a small break apart, because we wanted to eliminate the chance of stress ruining our anniversary - absence makes the heart grow fonder. While we did have a really great time (she loved the necklace I got her), with passionate sex, a lot of laughing, and happiness in each other's arms, I knew it was still there, eating her up. A couple of times, she got upset for what seemed to be no reason at all. She even asked me at one point if I was sure we were going to be ok. I wasn't, but I said I was. A couple of weeks passed, and we saw each other a couple times a week, as per usual. Have you ever been doing something, feeling like at any moment, the world would just explode around you? That's what it felt like.
We reached a week before Blizzcon, and she said that she was already thinking about how much she was going to miss me while I was there. She couldn't go, as work and school would hardly let her have 2 days free, let alone 4 (I drove down from Oregon). The following day she called me and asked permission to study with a boy from her french class on Sunday (4 days before I left). I'm not a jealous boyfriend at all, so I thought nothing of it.
The night she got home from studying with him, she called me. She told me he was insane, and pulled some shamanistic crap on her. She also said he was psychic, and was replying to her thoughts like it was conversation. She was really creeped out and scared, and I tried to calm her down, but to no avail. After turning into fighting my attempts and helping, I suggested she take some time to just think.
The following day, she called and told me that it was so real, and saying the world wasn't real, and that it's all just our imagination. Again and tried to work with her, but I couldn't, and we ended up hanging up again. I was supposed to see her on tuesday, the day before I left, but for the first time in forever, she didn't even text me good morning. I took this as her trying to tell me she didn't want to see me. I asked what was up, and she acted dumb, like I was supposed to confirm that she was going to come see me, and that it was "too late now". I was left confused, but just tried not to overthink it.
On my way down to California, I sent a couple of texts telling her how much I loved her, and that I couldn't wait to come back home and hold her. I got no response. When I finally arrived after 16 hours of driving, I asked why she was ignoring me, she replied "I'm done with this relationship." My heart dropped. I asked why, and she replied "I just want to be done, I'm tired of it". I couldn't believe it... she just broke up with me, through text, the day before something I had been looking forward to for months, and she knew it. My friends tried to console me, and I acted like I was moving on, but I really wasn't.
Two hours after this text, her Facebook status, which goes to my SMS said ":D :D :D". I was very confused. Two hours following that, her relationship status went from single... to in a relationship... with the French Class guy. My heart sank again... even deeper. I went and checked her wall, and one of her friends had immediately asked who the new boyfriend was. She replied "He's this really cute guy from my french class, he took me dancing!" (what she was really doing when we were supposed to see eachother). My heart exploded.
All of Blizzcon I tried to just enjoy where I was, and all the people I was with. The first night I spent drunkenly with Tasteless and Artosis in their hotel room. The second I spent with all the highups of Nvidia (I was the only non-Nvidia employee) getting drunk off over $1000 dollars in liquor. But none of that really mattered. My mind was clouded, and my heart shredded. I couldn't believe that she had done this to me. If she had just broken up with me before I left, or even had the decency to wait until after I got back, I wouldn't have been even close to as destroyed. But she didn't. Blizzcon was Brokenheartcon.
Now, it's been over a week, and I finally have moved on. I finally realized that she did me a favor, and that I'm much better off now. I'm ready to move on with my life. And after a day of Starcraft 2 and enjoying myself, I check my email to find a message.
"I understand if you hate me, and never want to talk to me or think about me again in your whole life, but i have to put it out there that even though i know the relationship was poop, I'm going to miss your friendship and the good times more than anything in the world."
And here I am, again, heartbroken. The pieces are scattered again. I can't do this hell week again. It's not fair.
 
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Dude, I feel for you. Even though after reading that I am mad angry at her and how much I'd like to go WTF at your ex and make her explain everything, I wish the best for you in the future and hope you find a better girl in the future.
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There isn't really a cure for your broken heart, but if it makes any difference I feel for you. Go take a hot shower in the dark and mull it over, don't push it away and let it fester. Confront it, and you'll be that much closer to being able to bear it.
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Fuck that bitch. (sorry, man, just call'n it like I see it)
She lied to you, she strung you along, and she dropped a bomb in your lap the day you left to go on vacation. That's shady in 101 different ways.
edit:
Maybe I'm kinda jaded... But still. If everything went down like you said, she's too shady for you to be getting all bent out of shape over.
Try to put it out of your head. Maybe give yourself a couple more days to be sad. But you need to set a date, and then draw the line in the sand. "After Monday, I'm not going to think about you anymore".
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Wow...my condolences man. That sucks majorly. If you can get through the next few weeks you'll be stronger for it, try not to allow her to jerk you around with that email message.
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Whatever you do don't let her pull you back in (Also, avoid pulling her back in @_@.) If you're any thing like me, that's going to be the real hard part.
p.s that sucks I am sorry.
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That's tough. Hope you recover quickly man. It's probably best to cut her out of your life completely at this point.
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Brunei Darussalam622 Posts
Your girl sounds like a nut.
You need to decide asap whether or not she is someone you want in your life regardless of what has happened previously. If its a yes and you can forgive her, then start the reunion process but take it slow.
If its a no, then just cut all ties. I personally have a hard time forgetting something so personally damaging like this, so I'm afraid in your shoes I would most likely take this route and never respond to her ever again.
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Sucks for you, but she seems like she's completely unstable (psychic shit and the bizarre asshole-text breakup). I totally wouldn't be surprised if she tries to get back together with you, but If you have any self control it should be obvious that thats an absolutely terrible idea.
give her an "ok." reply and move on.
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you sound young from your post and im assuming she is young also (i could be wrong)
at a young age MOST girls think the world revolves around them in the worst way and generally dont think twice about anyone else. I would avoid being too invested in relationships now.
when your dating girls around 20-22 years old you can start expecting them to be more realistic in forming a relationship on trust and respect.. untill then they are usually attention seekers and generally dont give a fuck about anyone that they hurt in the process.
breaking up with you over a text message on vacation. perfect example.
I would toss her under the bus and not think twice.
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On November 02 2010 16:07 Coagulation wrote:
you sound young from your post and im assuming she is young also (i could be wrong)
at a young age girls think the world revolves around them in the worst way and generally dont think twice about anyone else. I would avoid being too invested in relationships now.
when your dating girls around 20-22 years old you can start expecting them to be more realistic in forming a relationship on trust and respect.. untill then they are usually attention seekers and generally dont give a fuck about anyone that they hurt.
I'm almost 23... :/
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how old is she? thats what makes the difference.
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Don't feel down about this at all. Be glad that at least you won't have to deal with this bitch and all the mental disorders that will probably arise in her sooner or later. You're lucky this cunt two timed you because now you wouldn't have invested as much time as you would have into a relationship that would basically be a burden to you in the future.
People like her are just disgusting. It's nothing to feel down about. They basically use people until they can hitch a better ride without the decency of letting their partner know about their true intentions. More people are like this than you think, but a lot of people also have compassion and aren't so heartless about how they go about into a transition. This girl never even cared that you'd see her status or her updates. She didn't give one shit because she was having a good time at that moment. If she had an ounce of compassion, she'd hold off on the facebook updates for the sake of your sanity, but no, apparently it didn't phase her.
Fuck her. Don't even waste your time thinking about it. It's experience now that will make you stronger. While you're at, fuck her best friend. But don't even give her the satisfaction of knowing that what she did will still entail her keeping on good terms with you. Assholes need to know that they're assholes.
+ Show Spoiler +I have Mondayitis, sue me
And this shouldn't be another hell week. Yeah, easier said than done, but it seems like this is just the person this girl happens to be. If it didn't happen now, it would happen down the road. You're lucky it was only a year and not 10 years down the road with a family and a mortgage. Go out there and have fun, but don't feel down. She relinquished you from her selfishness.
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Ignoring someone you still have feelings for isn't the way to go. If you still feel anything for her let her know in what way she has hurt you. Write a edited version of this to her explaining how it made you feel step by step and what you think she actually did (aka going out with french dude).
If you ignore the feeling you might regret it later
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On November 02 2010 16:11 Coagulation wrote:
how old is she? thats what makes the difference.
Yeah, she's 20. I know that it makes complete sense, but at the same time, sense means almost nothing to me right now.
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dude, i dont know how old are you, but you must know women are attention seekers, and some are obsessed with that, when you were away she dumped you with someone who could pay her attention much closer. having said that, now you can understand why she wrote you an email, because thinks arent working so good with the other guy, and now she needs attention and is looking for you to do that.
Think about it. someone like that is no good for you to stay around you. Just decline any "frienship" she is offering.stay strong. best wishes to you.
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You should really get off facebook for a while... future status updates/wall posts/status texts can drive you nuts.
Really hope you feel better 
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On November 02 2010 16:13 Marradron wrote:
Ignoring someone you still have feelings for isn't the way to go. If you still feel anything for her let her know in what way she has hurt you. Write a edited version of this to her explaining how it made you feel step by step and what you think she actually did (aka going out with french dude).
If you ignore the feeling you might regret it later
>.<
I disagree.
Man up. If I've learned anything in my 25 short years of dealing with women, its that running to her every time she opens the door is the bitchiest thing you can do.
Maybe she lets you in for a second, but in the end, you're just being strung along at her beck and call.
I stand by my first post: Fuck that bitch.
But if you do decide you want to try and get her back, writing her a letter about how she hurt your feelings, in my opinion, isn't the way to go about it.
On November 02 2010 16:18 insanet wrote:
dude, i dont know how old are you, but you must know women are attention seekers, and some are obsessed with that, when you were away she dumped you with someone who could pay her attention much closer. having said that, now you can understand why she wrote you an email, because thinks arent working so good with the other guy, and now she needs attention and is looking for you to do that.
Think about it. someone like that is no good for you to stay around you. Just decline any "frienship" she is offering.stay strong. best wishes to you.
Yes! This guy gets it!
On November 02 2010 16:11 Masamune wrote:Don't feel down about this at all. Be glad that at least you won't have to deal with this bitch and all the mental disorders that will probably arise in her sooner or later. You're lucky this cunt two timed you because now you wouldn't have invested as much time as you would have into a relationship that would basically be a burden to you in the future. People like her are just disgusting. It's nothing to feel down about. They basically use people until they can hitch a better ride without the decency of letting their partner know about their true intentions. More people are like this than you think, but a lot of people also have compassion and aren't so heartless about how they go about into a transition. This girl never even cared that you'd see her status or her updates. She didn't give one shit because she was having a good time at that moment. If she had an ounce of compassion, she'd hold off on the facebook updates for the sake of your sanity, but no, apparently it didn't phase her. Fuck her. Don't even waste your time thinking about it. It's experience now that will make you stronger. While you're at, fuck her best friend. But don't even give her the satisfaction of knowing that what she did will still entail her keeping on good terms with you. Assholes need to know that they're assholes. + Show Spoiler +I have Mondayitis, sue me And this shouldn't be another hell week. Yeah, easier said than done, but it seems like this is just the person this girl happens to be. If it didn't happen now, it would happen down the road. You're lucky it was only a year and not 10 years down the road with a family and a mortgage. Go out there and have fun, but don't feel down. She relinquished you from her selfishness.
^^ This too.
Especially the part about fucking her friend.
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Ah dude that sucks :/. I'd say you should spend a day being utterly pissed and miserable and then move on. Acknowledge you were hurt but don't give her more power over you by dwelling on it.
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If I were in your situation, the worst part would be not knowing why it happened. Gathering from your story, I would imagine that your girlfriend was just captivated by the thrills of a new romance. The most exciting part in a relationship for a lot of people is learning about someone that you are curious about. Your girlfriend was probably in this boat while you were ready to commit to all the stress that comes in a relationship afterwards.
Being away from each other may be a good way to miss each other, but at the same time, it may also cause one to step back and realize how unfulfilling the relationship is. Your girlfriend most likely did not realize this until she met the French guy, at which time she was mesmerized by the excitement that a new love brings. When she called you to ask permission to study with him, she already had thoughts about the French guy or else she wouldn't even have thought of asking you. You should have just been a jealous boyfriend and told her no. She's not gonna listen to you, but this way if she actually just studies with him, nothing will happen, and if there's more than just studying, she'll feel very insecure about it.
When she posted her status on Facebook, she was excited about her new relationship and wasn't even thinking about you. If she had the slightest bit of guilt, she would not have been able to do such a thing. She dumped you by ignoring you for a long time and then just telling you that the relationship is over. This means that it wasn't something she planned out, it was something she decided to do after meeting the French guy. She finally got back to you after a week, probably because it's the first time she actually remembered that you exist. Feeling guilt for the first time, she decided to email you to acknowledge your feelings. Seeing her message, I still don't think she really understands, but at least it's a start.
All this goes to show that your girlfriend was just very young and immature. There's nothing wrong with having a girlfriend that is young and immature, but it doesn't work too well when you are a bit more grown up and ready to commit to something more then just an exciting fling. The best thing you can do right now is to realize that it wasn't something you did wrong, it was a compatibility issue. Although it may feel that girlfriend deserves to be punished for being so childish and ignorant, it won't do any good because she didn't choose to hurt your feelings, she just doesn't understand anything. Eventually, she will grow up and realize everything that has happened. Women usually mature a lot later than men do. Sometimes it's easy for men to label such women as 'bitches' or 'cunts', but in actuality they're just kids. The best thing you can do for your girlfriend is to give her some closure and allow her to enjoy her new relationship, because one day when she finally understands, you'll be happy that you did it.
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Accept, then fuck her, then dump her with a short sms while she contacts you next time.
Or put a 10$ bill on her table after sex (and obviously say something along the lines of "that's for the service").
Bitch deserves it.
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FREEAGLELAND26781 Posts
I'm very sorry for you. Just get her out of your life and move on. You're better off without her if she's like this.
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I bet the french guy is short and eats stinky cheese and says baguette a lot!
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USA29055 Posts
what a scummy fucking thing for her to do.
How you don't kick a door down and trash a room with a ski mask on is beside me.
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
that sucks, nothing u can do but let time heal.
if opportunity arises, break french fags leg
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Wow you have no idea how close your story relates to my last 2 breakups. They were both slightly different but went something like: insanely happy together > next day I get a text saying it's over (both excuses were fake of course) > find out off friends that they were cheating on me > facebook tells me that they're in another relationship days after the breakup > receive a 'I miss what we had/can we still be friends' email shorty after.
Anyway your not alone man and I'm sure many of us have gone through what you are feeling now. From my experiences don't contact her at all and you'll get over it all faster. I haven't contacted my latest ex for like 8 months now and shoved her 'can we be friends request' up her ass. I have no intention of ever being friends with her, and I know she hates that but frankly I don't give a flying fuck about her.
Make sure you remove her as a friend off facebook so no more of those updates will make your heart sink again. Go have fun, sleep with as many girls as possible (her close friends if possible) and do things that make YOU feel better. Young girls are fucking hopeless with serious relationships. Trust me they're all the same, which is why I'm not seriously dating anyone under ~24 ever again. Fuck that.
On November 02 2010 17:56 Rekrul wrote:
that sucks, nothing u can do but let time heal.
if opportunity arises, break french fags leg
+1
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Dude, she breaks up with you over text? So carelessly and the day before Blizzcon? And basically been lying to you for the past however long that she still loves you?
Dude, you deserve better than that. Screw her. You're too good for her.
On November 02 2010 17:56 Rekrul wrote:
that sucks, nothing u can do but let time heal.
if opportunity arises, break french fags leg
Agreed.
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You should fuck her best GIRLfriend !
dont be heartbroken go shopping and spend money on things you ever wanted or buy something to your close friends that always worked for me.
And if she just text you its wierd i hate this type of saying goodbye.
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Tell her she'll always have herpes to remember you by
and just leave it at that
goddamn thats shitty
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First off I just want to say I feel for you OP. And you're account was beautifully and heartrendingly written.
After reading all the replies, so many, if not all of which had such good advice and kind compassion, I think I agree most with Chairman Ray. He's less condemning than the others but I think he's closer to the truth than any of the rest of us. I was ready to tell you that you shouldn't have anything to do with her myself, my own indignation at your treatment bubbling to the surface. But after rereading your original post, and reflecting on what he said, I think he's right.
She is young and immature. Her behaviour is reprehensible, but human. She didn't set out to hurt you, she just doesn't understand what she's doing. If you can find it in your heart to forgive, that's always a healthy option. Marradron's advice to let her know how she made you feel is useful too. It's always so helpful to have someone understand you, and would probably help her gain some insight into her behaviour as well.
Having said all that, I think time apart is best for you right now. You need to heal and grieve. Time won't heal your pain, but at some stage new love will. In the mean-time spending time with friends and doing things to take your mind off it is good. I know you're aiming to become a pro in sc2, so I hope this doesn't derail it.
All of this assumes she's not trying to make a play back for you because her new romance with the french guy isn't working out, as insanet suggests. If that's the case - run for the hills!
But I don't think it is. I think what Chairman Ray wrote adds up better. And makes more sense.
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I know this is a lame phrase but god dammit, it works. The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else!
On November 02 2010 23:40 Subversive wrote:
Having said all that, I think time apart is best for you right now. You need to heal and grieve. Time won't heal your pain, but at some stage new love will. In the mean-time spending time with friends and doing things to take your mind off it is good. I know you're aiming to become a pro in sc2, so I hope this doesn't derail it.
I'm sorry, but from my experiences and from other friends who have dealt with hard breakups, this couldn't be further from the truth. I believe time is the MAJOR healer with breakups. Sure he could get a rebound but that will only mask his feelings deep down. I'm sure he needs plenty of time to really start feeling better, like most of us.
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Would you get back with her if she asked?
Consider that she lied to you. Probably not to fuck with you, but because she was scared of being honest with you, and how you might react. This would make her less of a bitch, but the important bit is still there: she doesn't trust you, and now you can't trust her. It wouldn't work well, if at all. Do what she did; remember the good parts, learn from the bad, and move on.
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On November 02 2010 23:41 MaReK wrote:I know this is a lame phrase but god dammit, it works. The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else! Show nested quote +On November 02 2010 23:40 Subversive wrote:
Having said all that, I think time apart is best for you right now. You need to heal and grieve. Time won't heal your pain, but at some stage new love will. In the mean-time spending time with friends and doing things to take your mind off it is good. I know you're aiming to become a pro in sc2, so I hope this doesn't derail it. I'm sorry, but from my experiences and from other friends who have dealt with hard breakups, this couldn't be further from the truth. I believe time is the MAJOR healer with breakups. Sure he could get a rebound but that will only mask his feelings deep down. I'm sure he needs plenty of time to really start feeling better, like most of us.
I totally agree. I originally had a line in my reply saying something along the lines of 'it's only been a week, you must be feeling like utter crap '. I just wanted to avoid the cliche of 'time heals all wounds'. I've found it's true of course, but that it's usually when you find someone new and amazing that you really get over someone. Time eases the pain but doesn't erase it. I wasn't suggesting a rebound or a one-night stand though. I should have perhaps said "Time won't heal your pain by itself".
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Whatever you do, don't reply to her. Cut her out of your life. She sounds insane.
Also her message about how she misses your friendship is just a way to test whether you still have feelings for her. If you reply, you'll just stroke her ego.
Get on with your life. Find a hotter, nicer girl, and soon you'll laugh at how you could have felt so sad over somebody so worthless.
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I appreciate the sentiments and advice guys; thanks. I forgot that you met her Geoff :p maybe I shall have to get a ski mask and do that in your honor.
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Trust me, you are much better off, and don't go saying life isn't fair. In the past few months this has happened to me
I lost 2 girlfriends
People have been trying to get me classified as clinically insane (don't wanna talk to much about that though)
I have moved across the nation (west coast, which is actually quite nice)
Btw, advice on your ex
Just try to be friends, I can understand that you are very dissapointed. Try to put a ton of effort into something you have always wanted to do. I am doing NaNoWrimo this month because of not having a girlfriend. GL dude, and if you really want to know about the insane thing I would be more then happy to give you some details
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this isnt exactly one of those relationships wehre u can just be friends afterwards i dont think -_-;
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Dumb bitch-cunt here, popping in for a friendly reminder that every story has 2 sides.
I want you to heal, but I also want to you learn from your mistakes, A. I'm not a monster, and if you refuse to listen to anything I have to say, so be it. I just have to stick up for myself.
You say we took a small break before the anniversary. Failed to mention that I had tried to end things with you (then, and multiple other occasions) because I was incredibly unhappy with our relationship and had been so for 3 months. I'm sorry blizzcon was the chance I had where you wouldn't refute me and make me feel guilty for wanting out, I really am. But when trying in person (more than once) didn't work, when over the phone didn't work, I didn't really see what else I could do. It wasn't that I was trying to be as insensitive as possible, but what other choice did I have?
You say you took me to the beach, reserved a room in my favorite spot in the world. Ah yes. The room I found, reserved, and paid for? That room? The same anniversary trip where you said your camera made me look fat, refused to stop at the antique store I wanted to go to, left me to walk alone on the beach and cried over how alone i felt in the relationship despite my desperate want for closeness?
As for the french boy... I truly apologize for jumping into a relationship. I guess having 3+ months of slowly feeling uncared for just helped me get over you while we were still together. But you can't say I didn't try. Like driving the 30 minutes it takes to get to your house after school at 9:30 at night, sneaking up to your room in nothing but panties to surprise you, and getting nothing but a "hey sweetie, hold on while I finish this game". I don't know if there are any other ladies on the internets, but really? I sat there for 8 minutes (yes i counted), naked (and i've got a cute body, too, so there's no excuse) while you finished a game. Growing increasingly frustrated and realizing that feeling at that moment summed up how I had felt with you for a while. Second place, unimportant, disposable. You couldn't figure out why I was upset? I was so tired of feeling subhuman, of you blaming your "high intelligence" for being unable to be considerate of my feelings. I hope the 40 points you won that game were worth it, because on top of everything else, that was my breaking point. Consider the goodmorning-unreciprocated-blowjob a parting gift to you.
And despite all of the nasty things you will say about me, I can ignore them, because I know you're not a bad person and I know that your intentions are never hurtful. For now, paint me like a monster if that's what you need to do to feel better. But the last thing I really have to address is your attacking my family. It's uncalled for and untrue. I'm not depressed, my mom is a functioning human and has been healing herself after an abusive relationship, and my grandma is just an old lady who loves being outside. You make it seem like a horror story, but things have been going really well here, thank you.
The one thing I hope you learn here, is not that I'm some immature selfish child that wants attention. It's that I (and most females) are living, breathing, emotional creatures and we need to feel connected with. No one wants to feel used, feeling like a tool for masturbation while having sex, or otherwise. For your next relationship, take time to listen to the female you're with and actually HEAR her. Make her feel important, learn from the mistakes you've made and be a big enough person to realize that you are not perfect, no one is.
I wish you the best, and I always will.
xo, g
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I'm actually a bit surprised that your ex posted, and find it a bit ridiculous..
Although I know there are 2 sides to every story, and it's nice to read the other, it's a bit weird to find the post, and post your reply. It's causing more trouble and looks a bit creepy..
If I had broken up with my boyfriend, and he had posted somewhere(like TeamLiquid, for example), and I found the post, I'd let it go. I wouldn't bother posting. Honestly, I wouldn't even bother looking for anything. Something that's done is done. You shouldn't be following it more. If you really had a problem, you would have sent him an email, or a message instead.
In any case, I feel bad for what happened to you, forgotten0ne. But you just have to move on and realize there are more important people around who you'll be willing to work to keep, which if what your ex posted is true, you'll need to do.
And although what ignored0ne said is true about girls, it was a bit immature and weird to post on TL. If you know this is somewhere your guy goes, let him have it. I had an ex who made an account on EVERY SINGLE forum and website I was active on, because he watched everything I did. If he actually posted and participated it would have been different, but it was just to see what I was doing and if I was talking to other guys. It's a bit weird, and possessive. He still was checking up after we broke up.
Anyway, hope things work out. Just remember, if you have someone and you love them, do everything you can to keep them. And even when it's over, don't bad mouth them. It makes you look worse in the end.
:3
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And she did this to you during Blizzcon?! Daaamn man i'm so sorry, there's nothing i can say to make you feel better, i guess time will make it better.
Also her last message was pretty mean imo....
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Wait did she seriously just post all of that here instead of responding to him privately? Because she "just needs to stick up" for herself? To the masses of TL.net that don't know her? Maybe more like trying to humiliate our hero OP. Have you not gotten the last word thoroughly enough with the ending of the relationship, o "ignored0ne" ?
WE SHALL CONQUER THIS EVIL WITCH TOGETHER
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On November 06 2010 07:15 Romance_us wrote:
Wait did she seriously just post all of that here instead of responding to him privately? Because she "just needs to stick up" for herself? To the masses of TL.net that don't know her? Maybe more like trying to humiliate our hero OP. Have you not gotten the last word thoroughly enough with the ending of the relationship, o "ignored0ne" ?
WE SHALL CONQUER THIS EVIL WITCH TOGETHER
This might be one of the best posts ever.
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I can't believe that she actually found this on, I'm betting the OP sent her a link to spite her or something, or that it's just someone trolling. Either way, it's pretty ridiculous.
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On November 06 2010 07:24 Endymion wrote:
I can't believe that she actually found this on, I'm betting the OP sent her a link to spite her or something, or that it's just someone trolling. Either way, it's pretty ridiculous.
Definitely a troll, and a terrible one at that. A mod should run an IP check on that account.
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well, at least you lost your gf to a mind controlling psychic Frenchman rather than her actually falling for another guy.
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Whoa.. its like Chease all over again. Grudgematch?
So.. the "Girl" version: Boy is clueless
and the "Boy" version: Girl is brainwashed by French guy
Did I get that right?
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On November 06 2010 09:02 polgas wrote:
Whoa.. its like Chease all over again. Grudgematch?
So.. the "Girl" version: Boy is clueless
and the "Boy" version: Girl is brainwashed by French guy
Did I get that right?
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Yes.
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nevermind my cutesyness reply..
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On November 06 2010 06:56 Raeleigh wrote:
And although what ignored0ne said is true about girls, it was a bit immature and weird to post on TL. If you know this is somewhere your guy goes, let him have it. I had an ex who made an account on EVERY SINGLE forum and website I was active on, because he watched everything I did. If he actually posted and participated it would have been different, but it was just to see what I was doing and if I was talking to other guys. It's a bit weird, and possessive. He still was checking up after we broke up.
Wait what? Its not okay to stalk Exs?
Oops
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On November 06 2010 11:11 LSB wrote:Show nested quote +On November 06 2010 06:56 Raeleigh wrote:
And although what ignored0ne said is true about girls, it was a bit immature and weird to post on TL. If you know this is somewhere your guy goes, let him have it. I had an ex who made an account on EVERY SINGLE forum and website I was active on, because he watched everything I did. If he actually posted and participated it would have been different, but it was just to see what I was doing and if I was talking to other guys. It's a bit weird, and possessive. He still was checking up after we broke up. Wait what? Its not okay to stalk Exs? Oops
xD It's definitely okay. I still talk to Ex's..
But doing it in such a weird way.. Idk. It was creepy. -shrug-
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Idk.. if that's actually her, her version seems pretty plausible too
also
If my ex posted on TL, i'd be on that post history all day
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Actually guys, I was skeptical upon reading the "page 3" comments from skipping straight there, and then seeing "she posted", but yes, that is her.
For those that are going to get all excited for an "ex-arguement thread", it's not going to be that.
I will say two things however:
A) Posting was a cruel thing to do, as the point of this whole blog was that A SIMPLE MESSAGE was hurting me enough, and I was trying to move on. I guess the "closure truth" was nice, but still.
B) Allwomen have a different need level on attention. I was still seeing her twice a week, and talking at least once a day (on the phone, we texted 24/7), because that's what our schedule allowed. The "naked game thing", any Starcraft playing male in an intense game, with their naked girlfriend walking in that *wasn't a surprise* (you knew she was coming), would do the same thing. And, as I told her, I thought she was trying to mess with my game, and cause me to lose. T
Anyway, I clearly couldn't give her the attention she needed. This is fine, I understood that, and a normal breakup would have been fine. However, the point of this post was the she left me for another guy, told me through text at Blizzcon, and while I'm trying to heal, is not letting me by texting me, messaging me, and *posting in my healing thread*. The other side of the story doesn't matter here. I reached out to a community for some empathy.
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On November 06 2010 14:41 Xenocide_Knight wrote:
also
If my ex posted on TL, i'd be on that post history all day
That's a really weird thing to do.
When you're trying to move on, and you said you've moved on.. does stalking their post history do anything for you but make you look bad?
If you have to stalk them when you're not together, they were never really yours to begin. :< You know what i'm saying?
Once you're over you should just let them go, and be finished.
On November 07 2010 01:39 forgotten0ne wrote:
Actually guys, I was skeptical upon reading the "page 3" comments from skipping straight there, and then seeing "she posted", but yes, that is her.
For those that are going to get all excited for an "ex-arguement thread", it's not going to be that.
I will say two things however:
A) Posting was a cruel thing to do, as the point of this whole blog was that A SIMPLE MESSAGE was hurting me enough, and I was trying to move on. I guess the "closure truth" was nice, but still.
B) Allwomen have a different need level on attention. I was still seeing her twice a week, and talking at least once a day (on the phone, we texted 24/7), because that's what our schedule allowed. The "naked game thing", any Starcraft playing male in an intense game, with their naked girlfriend walking in that *wasn't a surprise* (you knew she was coming), would do the same thing. And, as I told her, I thought she was trying to mess with my game, and cause me to lose. T
Anyway, I clearly couldn't give her the attention she needed. This is fine, I understood that, and a normal breakup would have been fine. However, the point of this post was the she left me for another guy, told me through text at Blizzcon, and while I'm trying to heal, is not letting me by texting me, messaging me, and *posting in my healing thread*. The other side of the story doesn't matter here. I reached out to a community for some empathy.
I agree that this was *your* thread, and it was really unfair for her to come and post.
Hope you feel better soon.
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She has every right to come here and post whatever she wants...
BUT.
It makes her look worse...
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First he was delusional about becoming a pro gamer, and now complains that his girlfriend dumps him after he ignores her because he's playing a ladder game...?
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On November 07 2010 03:59 AyeH wrote:
She has every right to come here and post whatever she wants...
BUT.
It makes her look worse...
She has every right to do it, doesn't mean it's not weird and unfair. |:
I don't think anyone said she didn't have the right to.
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I think I feel sorry for the French guy now
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You're the same guy that made the "gonna be a progamer blogs." You should have spent all of this time practicing if you wanted to achieve your goal. Just saying...
As for the girl...I feel for ya, but you're better off without her obviously. There's plenty out there, and she seemed very shallow and if she couldn't simply manage without you for that long without cheating on you...that is fucked up.
I'm sure you can get over this forgottenone, find someone better, and gain your focus back on everything. She may even "want you back" but who gives a shit at this point. Obviously she's not worth the trouble, even though you probably are still hurting.
Move on, let's start winning at life even though there's fucked up people like her. And yes, definitely watch some epic SC2 vids, and such, it'll cheer ya up  g0g0g0
edit 1: oh fuck LOL, just saw that ur ex posted...hmm...dude...if ur naked girlfriend is fucking crawling into your room in only panties...and you can't just alt F4 the ladder game for a measly 40 points...I can't see you ever being a progamer...there's more to it than just laddering...seriously...what the fuck.
SERIOUSLY? WTF. Naked GF in panties crawling into your room trumps a ladder game vs a no-lifer scrub. You coulda had it all man! But noooooo...*facepalms*
edit 2: Don't let me discourage you though. And either way, your now ex is even more retarded than we all originally thought. She comes onto TL and posts "in her defense?" LoFL, she has some deep problems man, be glad you got away regardless of edit 1 lol.
I think this accurately represents what may have happened.
![[image loading]](http://i95.photobucket.com/albums/l145/Fritobag/whatudidwrong.jpg)
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On November 07 2010 08:38 avilo wrote:
edit 1: oh fuck LOL, just saw that ur ex posted...hmm...dude...if ur naked girlfriend is fucking crawling into your room in only panties...and you can't just alt F4 the ladder game for a measly 40 points...I can't see you ever being a progamer...there's more to it than just laddering...seriously...what the fuck.
A naked girl in your bed and you're playing SC2 instead of paying attention to her has nothing to do with being a programmer, by the way.
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On November 07 2010 10:07 Raeleigh wrote:Show nested quote +On November 07 2010 08:38 avilo wrote:
edit 1: oh fuck LOL, just saw that ur ex posted...hmm...dude...if ur naked girlfriend is fucking crawling into your room in only panties...and you can't just alt F4 the ladder game for a measly 40 points...I can't see you ever being a progamer...there's more to it than just laddering...seriously...what the fuck. A naked girl in your bed and you're playing SC2 instead of paying attention to her has nothing to do with being a programmer, by the way.
Just like in a simple SC2 game you have to prioritize what's important, you have to do that in your daily life too...it has a lot to do with being a progamer.
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It's beyond my comprehension why OP's ex felt a need to post her "side of the story" here, but since she did...
If ForgottenOne is indeed working toward pro gamer, I can understand him wanting to finish the game. After all, you'll still be there when game is over. *reference the BJ the next morning.*
I would have waited patiently (and have *glares*) then, when the game was over, I would have stood up and flaunted my sexiness teasingly and whispered in his ear "You got real fast hands Mister. Have fun using em on yourself." Then I would have waved good-bye, laughing. Of course I would have sent him a big smile afterwards, or would that be a wicked grin?
Anyway, ForgottenOne, you need someone who will support your ambitions. So, this might be a blessing in disguise (had to be cliché hehe)
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On November 07 2010 10:07 Raeleigh wrote:Show nested quote +On November 07 2010 08:38 avilo wrote:
edit 1: oh fuck LOL, just saw that ur ex posted...hmm...dude...if ur naked girlfriend is fucking crawling into your room in only panties...and you can't just alt F4 the ladder game for a measly 40 points...I can't see you ever being a progamer...there's more to it than just laddering...seriously...what the fuck. A naked girl in your bed and you're playing SC2 instead of paying attention to her has nothing to do with being a programmer, by the way.
Think of it this way. I'm in the middle of a game, and she was arriving at a misc. time so I left the front door open, telling her if I'm in a game, just come in. When she arrived, she came in in her panties and bra. I smiled, and continued to finish. She threw her bra on me, and massaged my neck. Now, we had a playful relationship, so I took this as her trying to distract me playfully. When I finished after ~5 mins from her arriving, acting like I was unphased the whole time, I pounced on her, but was denied, as while I was assuming she was being playful, it was apparently a very serious thing to her. We had the rest of the night to have all the sex we wanted, but me making her sit topless in panties while I finished my game hurt her feelings to an extreme degree.
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On November 07 2010 10:43 forgotten0ne wrote:Show nested quote +On November 07 2010 10:07 Raeleigh wrote:On November 07 2010 08:38 avilo wrote:
edit 1: oh fuck LOL, just saw that ur ex posted...hmm...dude...if ur naked girlfriend is fucking crawling into your room in only panties...and you can't just alt F4 the ladder game for a measly 40 points...I can't see you ever being a progamer...there's more to it than just laddering...seriously...what the fuck. A naked girl in your bed and you're playing SC2 instead of paying attention to her has nothing to do with being a programmer, by the way. Think of it this way. I'm in the middle of a game, and she was arriving at a misc. time so I left the front door open, telling her if I'm in a game, just come in. When she arrived, she came in in her panties and bra. I smiled, and continued to finish. She threw her bra on me, and massaged my neck. Now, we had a playful relationship, so I took this as her trying to distract me playfully. When I finished after ~5 mins from her arriving, acting like I was unphased the whole time, I pounced on her, but was denied, as while I was assuming she was being playful, it was apparently a very serious thing to her. We had the rest of the night to have all the sex we wanted, but me making her sit topless in panties while I finished my panties hurt her feelings to an extreme degree.
You seem to have panties on your mind, as if it's right within your grasp...the aroma...
Unless you wear panties also...let the panties go...just let it go...
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On November 07 2010 10:43 forgotten0ne wrote:Show nested quote +On November 07 2010 10:07 Raeleigh wrote:On November 07 2010 08:38 avilo wrote:
edit 1: oh fuck LOL, just saw that ur ex posted...hmm...dude...if ur naked girlfriend is fucking crawling into your room in only panties...and you can't just alt F4 the ladder game for a measly 40 points...I can't see you ever being a progamer...there's more to it than just laddering...seriously...what the fuck. A naked girl in your bed and you're playing SC2 instead of paying attention to her has nothing to do with being a programmer, by the way. Think of it this way. I'm in the middle of a game, and she was arriving at a misc. time so I left the front door open, telling her if I'm in a game, just come in. When she arrived, she came in in her panties and bra. I smiled, and continued to finish. She threw her bra on me, and massaged my neck. Now, we had a playful relationship, so I took this as her trying to distract me playfully. When I finished after ~5 mins from her arriving, acting like I was unphased the whole time, I pounced on her, but was denied, as while I was assuming she was being playful, it was apparently a very serious thing to her. We had the rest of the night to have all the sex we wanted, but me making her sit topless in panties while I finished my game hurt her feelings to an extreme degree.
Like I said,
A naked girl in your bed and you're playing SC2 instead of paying attention to her has nothing to do with being a programmer.
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On November 07 2010 11:28 Raeleigh wrote:Show nested quote +On November 07 2010 10:43 forgotten0ne wrote:On November 07 2010 10:07 Raeleigh wrote:On November 07 2010 08:38 avilo wrote:
edit 1: oh fuck LOL, just saw that ur ex posted...hmm...dude...if ur naked girlfriend is fucking crawling into your room in only panties...and you can't just alt F4 the ladder game for a measly 40 points...I can't see you ever being a progamer...there's more to it than just laddering...seriously...what the fuck. A naked girl in your bed and you're playing SC2 instead of paying attention to her has nothing to do with being a programmer, by the way. Think of it this way. I'm in the middle of a game, and she was arriving at a misc. time so I left the front door open, telling her if I'm in a game, just come in. When she arrived, she came in in her panties and bra. I smiled, and continued to finish. She threw her bra on me, and massaged my neck. Now, we had a playful relationship, so I took this as her trying to distract me playfully. When I finished after ~5 mins from her arriving, acting like I was unphased the whole time, I pounced on her, but was denied, as while I was assuming she was being playful, it was apparently a very serious thing to her. We had the rest of the night to have all the sex we wanted, but me making her sit topless in panties while I finished my game hurt her feelings to an extreme degree. Like I said, A naked girl in your bed and you're playing SC2 instead of paying attention to her has nothing to do with being a programmer.
Not to be a grammar nazi or anything, but it's proGAMER not proGRAMMER. There's a difference. Sorry, that just really bothers me.
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“You say you’re not crazy but all signs point to the contrary.”
E from Entourage
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hahahaha, look with the situation about her being nekkid while you were playing is the same situation that you're playing then she calls you on the phone wanting all the attention instead of you playing.. but still at least you don't need to deal with girl problems anymore
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On November 07 2010 11:33 Sigh wrote:Show nested quote +On November 07 2010 11:28 Raeleigh wrote:On November 07 2010 10:43 forgotten0ne wrote:On November 07 2010 10:07 Raeleigh wrote:On November 07 2010 08:38 avilo wrote:
edit 1: oh fuck LOL, just saw that ur ex posted...hmm...dude...if ur naked girlfriend is fucking crawling into your room in only panties...and you can't just alt F4 the ladder game for a measly 40 points...I can't see you ever being a progamer...there's more to it than just laddering...seriously...what the fuck. A naked girl in your bed and you're playing SC2 instead of paying attention to her has nothing to do with being a programmer, by the way. Think of it this way. I'm in the middle of a game, and she was arriving at a misc. time so I left the front door open, telling her if I'm in a game, just come in. When she arrived, she came in in her panties and bra. I smiled, and continued to finish. She threw her bra on me, and massaged my neck. Now, we had a playful relationship, so I took this as her trying to distract me playfully. When I finished after ~5 mins from her arriving, acting like I was unphased the whole time, I pounced on her, but was denied, as while I was assuming she was being playful, it was apparently a very serious thing to her. We had the rest of the night to have all the sex we wanted, but me making her sit topless in panties while I finished my game hurt her feelings to an extreme degree. Like I said, A naked girl in your bed and you're playing SC2 instead of paying attention to her has nothing to do with being a programmer. Not to be a grammar nazi or anything, but it's proGAMER not proGRAMMER. There's a difference. Sorry, that just really bothers me.
Thank you. lol. ><
Although it has nothing to do with being a Progamer OR a Programmer.
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99% sure this is a troll. How does his girlfriend randomly find a "blog" that doesn't have his name and also cares enough to post on it.
if not, here's some pics from his previous blogs that supposedly contain his gf/him.
+ Show Spoiler +
Edit: Actually that blog post with his girlfriend is over a year ago so I assume it's not the one talked about in this post, but I'm still pretty sure it's a troll.
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On November 07 2010 15:22 hullothar wrote:99% sure this is a troll. if not, here's some pics from his previous blogs that supposedly contain his gf/him. + Show Spoiler +
Is he aware that his gf has some sort of zerg infested growth around her mouth?
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On November 07 2010 15:22 hullothar wrote:99% sure this is a troll. How does his girlfriend randomly find a "blog" that doesn't have his name and also cares enough to post on it. if not, here's some pics from his previous blogs that supposedly contain his gf/him. + Show Spoiler +Edit: Actually that blog post with his girlfriend is over a year ago so I assume it's not the one talked about in this post, but I'm still pretty sure it's a troll.
Look at the date, then look at the current one. I started dating the one this post is about in October 2009.
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Hang in there bro, people might say shes crazy or a bitch or what ever, but I know that when your in love with someone even if you know it you dont give a shit. So I hope you get over it and even though you cared about her, like you said its all for the best. Look at it like this, when you find your one, you will appreciate her that much more because of this failed relationship.
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On November 07 2010 08:38 avilo wrote:...
LOL, I dont see why this isn't getting any comments. I laughed so hard xD
Anyways, I feel for ya OP.
I agree with the general feeling of 'fuck this dumb bitch.' Forget about her.
After reading her post, initially, most of my bad feelings towards her went away. After reading some more replies and thinking about it, I've changed my mind.
She had absolutely no reason to post here. There was no need for her to 'defend' herself. She's just a nameless, faceless person to all of us. Her next boyfriend might be one of us; we'd never know. All it did was make her look worse, and possibly add to your sadness.
She could have just as esaily sent this in an e-mail. That way the message might actually have been a good thing of her to do.
Hang in there, buddy. ;P
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Mod edit - no.
User was temp banned for this post.
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On November 07 2010 11:33 Sigh wrote:
Not to be a grammar nazi or anything, but it's proGAMER not proGRAMMER. There's a difference. Sorry, that just really bothers me.
Whoops, I read wrong! I kept thinking it said programmer somewhere, not just progamer.
Also, that's not being a grammar nazi, that's just correcting a mistake. I thought it was something else. I wasn't spelling it wrong. DERP DERP http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Programmer
By the way It's pro-gamer, not progamer.
 
On topic: Did anyone see what the French Guy posted?
Just curious.
I'm thinking this is all more of a troll than anything now though. Too bad!
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I feel for you man : /
I am in a long distance relationship myself and three weeks ago my girlfriend said she started to feel depressed (she has had dark periods before we met) and I haven't heard from her in over two weeks...
I don't really know what to think or do...
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