EPTWhy are quiet people so irritating to some people? - Page 3
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MiniRoman
Canada3953 Posts
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Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
then continue to stare watch and see what happens When I went to visit some relatives, they had friends over and we were gathered around eating. There was conversation going on but I didn't talk that much except to answer some questions or make some brief comments. One of the guests mentioned how funny it is that some people don't talk. He was of course, implicating me. Not once did he did this, but twice! 'couldn't get a chance to say anything because you've been too busy running your mouth the whole time' +insta respect | ||
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Grobyc
Canada18410 Posts
Personally, I hate that feeling, not that I have anything against quiet people. I'm not mad at them or anything, especially when you're in an elevator or something, because even talkative people usually shut their mouth there lol. It's just uncomfortable... | ||
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buickskylark
Canada664 Posts
Personally, when I meet random people, and by this I mean either a stranger on the street, a waiter at a restaurant, a busker, or a colleague I've seen a couple of times, I just see them as another person occupying the same space. Occasionally, when I see that I have something in common with another person, only then do I start to talk. I don't really like to feel around too much. I assume that because the worst that I do to people I don't know is not have a conversation, that there isn't any hard feelings involved. If I haven't gossiped about you, called you a rude name, or physically attacked you, then you shouldn't feel bad. However, it seems like the lack of interaction has a negative result. My point is, it's strange that even though NOTHING is exchanged between two people, the result is still negative. It's like every situation starting with two strangers starts out as a negative. | ||
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sc4k
United Kingdom5454 Posts
On March 20 2010 04:02 ulszz wrote: as a person who doesn't talk much i'm gathering some insight from this thread. i never realized in a social environment ppl actually expect everyone to contribute. half the time in social situations with more than 4 or 5 ppl there always tends to be someone who is constantly talking and reaching for attention i'd rather not battle them. talking is honestly kind of annoying i always thought i was a good listener... lols no it doesn't work like that. Talkers don't want other talkers. In groups, the dominant personalities tend to monopolize the airwaves. Most of the crowd should be listeners/ borderline talkers; or have another group. You have a place as a listener, nothing wrong with that. Being quiet when people engage you in direct conversation is much worse than just being quiet in a group. | ||
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new_construct
Canada1041 Posts
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micronesia
United States24752 Posts
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KwarK
United States43469 Posts
On March 20 2010 03:42 Romantic wrote: Not surprised a Starcraft forum is largely socially inept lol. Quiet people are strange because speech is the cornerstone of human interaction. Quiet people are like chimps that don't pick the fleas off of other chimps. Humans are social, hierarchal creatures. Is being uncomfortable with silent people really that much of a perplexing idea? This stereotype has no basis in truth. | ||
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Chuiu
3470 Posts
I feel what you're saying though. I've been in those situations plenty of times where someone I'm working with or a relative or something comments on me being quiet. Its just the way I am. | ||
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Dark.Carnival
United States5095 Posts
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ShaperofDreams
Canada2492 Posts
...i just dont pretend to like or be interested in people i dont like | ||
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SoLaR[i.C]
United States2969 Posts
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Marradron
Netherlands1586 Posts
Even at my university i consider 50% of the students stupid beacuse of the speed at wich they understand things or needing te be holded hands wile trying to solve a problem. Most of the people in the world are not even capeble of forming well thought opinions but simple repeat what they heard someone else say. It's quite pathetic.  maybe you could say i have a bit of a supriority issue. but i mostly envy the people that just go through life without thinking themselfs. It makes life and it's uselessness way ezier to cope with.The ability to think well might seem nice but it is a great burden in life. | ||
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SoLaR[i.C]
United States2969 Posts
On March 20 2010 05:06 Marradron wrote: Not only are you wrong, you've also managed to make the most pessimistic post I've ever read.Quite often im quiet because i consider their remarks not worthy. arround 95 procent of the world is of a verry low intelectual level. Even at my university i consider 50% of the students stupid beacuse of the speed at wich they understand things or needing te be holded hands wile trying to solve a problem. Most of the people in the world are not even capeble of forming well thought opinions but simple repeat what they heard someone else say. It's quite pathetic. maybe you could say i have a bit of a supriority issue. but i mostly envy the people that just go through life without thinking themselfs. It makes life and it's uselessness way ezier to cope with.The ability to think well might seem nice but it is a great burden in life. | ||
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Marradron
Netherlands1586 Posts
Not only are you wrong, you've also managed to make the most pessimistic post I've ever read. And in what way would you consider me wrong ? | ||
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Lovin
Denmark812 Posts
Tighten up/become quiet when confronted with the person, responding in as short and precise as possible sentenses to any attempt of contact (This is of course a bit of a short summary done by memory, but it was pretty much like that) I believe it is because that the human brain recognises that quietness is a sort of passive aggressiveness from many males, and thus some people find it irritating or even offensive. | ||
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Knickknack
United States1187 Posts
I am inclined to make some use of introversion/extroversion personality traits here. Someone that has a higher level of sociability is likely to be disappointed with little feedback, while someone with lower levels might become annoyed by prattle. Thing is, people tend more toward the extroversion end. So that's a potential simple explanation. More complicated explanations would get more into social norms, psychology, ... Here is a well known article about introverts, and how they are often misunderstood: http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/03/caring-for-your-introvert/2696/ | ||
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KwarK
United States43469 Posts
On March 20 2010 05:03 SoLaR[i.C] wrote: Type the word 'virgin' into the search bar and look at some of the posts and poll results you find. You might think otherwise. You'll see most of them are kids thinking it's cool to call others virgin on the internet while bragging about everyone elses social and sexual incompetence while banging supermodels and driving their M3. That stereotype does have truth, there is a strange breed of creature that exists only online and devotes its time only to bragging. However most people online are completely normal people who just happen to be online. No more or less virginal than others. | ||
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SoLaR[i.C]
United States2969 Posts
On March 20 2010 05:47 KwarK wrote: You'll see most of them are kids thinking it's cool to call others virgin on the internet while bragging about everyone elses social and sexual incompetence while banging supermodels and driving their M3. That stereotype does have truth, there is a strange breed of creature that exists only online and devotes its time only to bragging. However most people online are completely normal people who just happen to be online. No more or less virginal than others. I'll kindly disagree with the idea that TL.net has the same proportion of people who are considered social inept as a randomly selected group of people between the ages of 16-20. | ||
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Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
On March 20 2010 05:06 Marradron wrote: Most of the people in the world are not even capeble of forming well thought opinions but simple repeat what they heard someone else say. It's quite pathetic. it's not pathetic, it's just the way it is to hold yourself 'above' everyone because you think you're smarter than them is the only 'pathetic' thing | ||
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