EPTIf the conversation is boring as fuck you can attempt to change the subject, or nod and smile or whatever, or leave.
Why are quiet people so irritating to some people? - Page 5
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EmeraldSparks
United States1451 Posts
If the conversation is boring as fuck you can attempt to change the subject, or nod and smile or whatever, or leave. | ||
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Jlab
United States217 Posts
Which causes the problem of having people you don't like want to be friends with you because you talked to them first. Basically, its better to be quiet than talkative. I honestly prefer quiet people, they are more fun and a lot funnier when they do want to talk. | ||
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Hypnosis
United States2061 Posts
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Kenpachi
United States9908 Posts
On March 20 2010 10:34 Hypnosis wrote: People that are very quiet always interest me more because you want to get to know them at a deeper level. Until you meet them and find out they are mostly low self esteemed pussies. some of them are annoying faggots who read too much manga and try to become that quiet person. | ||
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Archaic
United States4024 Posts
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
On March 20 2010 09:50 EmeraldSparks wrote: If you're smiling, listening, and/or looking interested that's one thing, but I don't think that's what's happening. I'm echoing half a dozen people in this thread, but if you're in a group of talking people and you're standing there in stony silence saying nothing people are going to assume (bar an indication to the contrary) that you aren't having a good time and that's going to make them uncomfortable. If the conversation is boring as fuck you can attempt to change the subject, or nod and smile or whatever, or leave. This. I used to be pretty quiet but it's something you work on and gain with self confidence. That doesn't mean all quiet is bad though. With my best friend, we can spend time together and just relax without saying a word. Some people can't deal with silence and they're equally annoying. You need to be able to work with both. | ||
Klogon
MURICA15980 Posts
On March 20 2010 06:52 Chef wrote: I've never met anyone who can relate to their parent's old people friends talking about old people things and generally just being so... fucking... old. It's not like we don't acknowledge their presence and exchange friendly greetings, it's just that when all they have to talk about is how amazing/dangerous the internet is, or about this one 'REALLY SMART DOCTOR' that got scammed by your typical Nigerian ploy, there's nothing to say to someone that far gone. It's okay one on one when you can change the subject to something more pleasant, but when old people gather they have no semblance of what is and isn't horrifically mundane. I'm sure when they're alone they talk about interesting things, but it's just this pitiful attempt at keeping an illusion of respect that makes every conversation impossible. Because they set a precedent that you also can't talk about anything interesting. I tend to be a very thoughtful person, so I don't like meaningless conversation either... Which is why when dinner with one side of my family degrades to quoting South Park for 5 hours, I keep pretty quiet. Still waters run deep. People who talk about nothing are annoying. It can't be called socializing when no information is transferred to anyone participating. I can sit around with my parents friends and talk it up just fine. You just have to find common areas of interest. If you have nothing in common, there are probably interesting parts of both your lives that you both do not have much experience in that could be interesting to explore if they/you are willing to share. Quite frankly, it's just a social skill that largely involves bringing a positive attitude to every new relationship instead of being so negative. And I know it might seem frustrating if the topic seems so mundane and stupid to you, but spice it up! Adding value and relating in topics that is not your cup of tea is a great skill to have and will probably help you later in life. It also shows a sense of maturity to be able to relate to all types of people without being so set in your own ways. | ||
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Snet
United States3573 Posts
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buickskylark
Canada664 Posts
On March 20 2010 14:44 Snet wrote: What truly is annoying is someone who constantly talks even about nothing. from what i've read, the advice given, talking about nothing is precisely the point. Talking for the sake of talking. That's why I'm not that into it. It physically and mentally makes me tired to talk about things I'm not interested in. | ||
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
On March 20 2010 14:55 buickskylark wrote: from what i've read, the advice given, talking about nothing is precisely the point. Talking for the sake of talking. That's why I'm not that into it. It physically and mentally makes me tired to talk about things I'm not interested in. You're talking to get to know other people. That's a good thing. I don't think that's what he's talking about. | ||
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Speake
United States494 Posts
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OneOther
United States10774 Posts
On March 20 2010 14:55 buickskylark wrote: from what i've read, the advice given, talking about nothing is precisely the point. Talking for the sake of talking. That's why I'm not that into it. It physically and mentally makes me tired to talk about things I'm not interested in. lol you have a completely wrong mindset and perspective. have fun being socially inept | ||
Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
On March 21 2010 04:05 OneOther wrote: lol you have a completely wrong mindset and perspective. have fun being socially inept oneother do you run the streets of seoul? | ||
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OneOther
United States10774 Posts
that'd qualify as a goal for the future | ||
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Hurricane
United States3939 Posts
On March 20 2010 14:55 buickskylark wrote: from what i've read, the advice given, talking about nothing is precisely the point. Talking for the sake of talking. That's why I'm not that into it. It physically and mentally makes me tired to talk about things I'm not interested in. There is a difference between talking just to talk, and talking about random things that may seem like nothing until you find a common interest. It is surprisingly easy to get into a true conversation with someone as long as each of you are talking about random things hoping to find a common interest you are both happy discussing. I'm sure it's been said before, but there is more to no talking than it may seem. If you are sitting at a dinner table with company and you are just staring at your plate and eating you are going to come off like you don't want to be there and are isolating yourself from anyone. If you are not speaking but keeping your head up and making eye contact with people who are speaking and giving the occasional smile or some sort of physical response to their speech you will be perceived in a much better light. | ||
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Never.Die
Japan189 Posts
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Archaic
United States4024 Posts
On March 21 2010 05:24 Hurricane wrote: There is a difference between talking just to talk, and talking about random things that may seem like nothing until you find a common interest. It is surprisingly easy to get into a true conversation with someone as long as each of you are talking about random things hoping to find a common interest you are both happy discussing. I'm sure it's been said before, but there is more to no talking than it may seem. If you are sitting at a dinner table with company and you are just staring at your plate and eating you are going to come off like you don't want to be there and are isolating yourself from anyone. If you are not speaking but keeping your head up and making eye contact with people who are speaking and giving the occasional smile or some sort of physical response to their speech you will be perceived in a much better light. Talking when you know what people think about you is easy. Talking when you're trying to make an impression is where the issues come up. The awkwardness from being quiet (In this one situation, at least, and in my opinion) comes from you feeling you aren't successfully making that impression. The act of not saying anything makes your opinion of their opinion of you insecure. If you know what they think of you, then the silence really isn't that big of a deal. However, you can also consider that some people just don't like not talking. I found myself trying to talk to people. I can't figure out why. I don't know if it is making me uncomfortable, or if I feel it makes them uncomfortable, or if it says something about me, or what. | ||
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Hurricane
United States3939 Posts
but yah, obviously it's less stressful to not say anything when you're in familiar company. | ||
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MamiyaOtaru
United States1687 Posts
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NotJumperer
United States1371 Posts
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