Why is it that most parents go insane?

I always do whatever ask of me.
I am always calm even if they are screaming.
I never talk back.

I sit there speechless as they tell me how much I fail at everything, how being on a computer is ruining my life

On November 02 2009 06:47 Frits wrote:
i hang out with friends too on a weekly basis

you know what I dont do? make angry blogs about my parents like a 10 year old

On November 02 2009 06:53 ZpuX wrote:
I have always asked the exact same question. But somehow my parents changed. When I was younger they would scream and bitch about every little thing possible just like your parents seems to do. But nowadays I can leave my room in a mess and they wont say a word.

I guess parents are just really stressed up when they get home from work and those small details makes them lose it. I think it just takes some time for them to accept those things and to realize how lucky they are having children who do well in school and spends more time in front of the computer rather than running the streets at night.

On November 02 2009 07:02 quirinus wrote:


^^Do more of this. It will make them think you're thinking about helping, thus not only are you helping, but you're also becoming more mature.

And it will be beneficial to you, since you'd have to do that anyway (after they ask you), but now they don't yell at you, and will be more prone to cutting you some slack on something else.

On November 02 2009 06:53 eMbrace wrote:


It's a legitimate topic IMO.

I've always found it very interesting, and I hope I don't sound whiny -- it was just an example of a typical situation.

If I was ever truly angered by this I'd actually talk back to my parents, but I really never gave a shit because little chores do not affect me in any way.

I just wanted to know why it affects them in a huge way.

On November 02 2009 07:08 Frits wrote:


Because they are possibly impatient + have to deal with 8 children, which is not really normal. This is also why large families are seen as a potential psychological risk factor.

Either way making a thread about your parents yelling at you seems wrong to me, your parents gave you everything.

On November 02 2009 07:08 Frits wrote:


Because they are possibly impatient + have to deal with 8 children, which is not really normal. This is also why large families are seen as a potential psychological risk factor.

Either way making a thread about your parents yelling at you seems wrong to me, your parents gave you everything.

On November 02 2009 06:51 Ingenol wrote:
One thing I learned is that doing one thing without being asked is worth doing ten things only upon being asked to do so.

So why is it, that when I say "hold on a minute," I get the "OMG YOU ARE soOO LAZY YOU NEVER DO ANYTHING IN THIS HOUSE! CANT YOU GET UP FOR ONE SECOND!!!?"

On November 02 2009 07:35 niteReloaded wrote:
Because parents are only human and don't have the perfect awareness of how things REALLY are.

They probably work their asses of to provide for the family and are probably often very tired and have little energy left.
In those situations, little things like leaving cereal box on the counter can make you feel like your children don't appreciate what you're doing, and if you believe that thought, you go apeshit like described in the OP.

The Work by Byron Katie is perfect for situations like this... you may try it if your family is the type that talks about problems.

On November 02 2009 07:16 micronesia wrote:

From the sound of it he does everything right (of course he's probably exaggerating at least a little or omitting details without meaning to) and has every right to feel frustration. And rather than resort to screaming at his parents or threatening to stop doing what he already does such as take out the garbage, he's venting (in his own blog) in the hopes that he'll get some support and advice that will help him to find a solution that works for him without hurting his apparently over-stressed family.

And what does he get? You making a complete asshole of yourself and acting like he's done something wrong. If you don't want to help him then that's fine. You owe him an apology for insulting him for no reason and you should just get the hell out if you have nothing to contribute... the OP has warranted neither insults nor trolling.

edit: even after your immature accusations that he himself is being immature I see he is dealing with it appropriately and being polite.

Props OP and gl with that very frustrating problem that I can relate to.

On November 02 2009 06:47 Frits wrote:
i hang out with friends too on a weekly basis

you know what I dont do? make angry blogs about my parents like a 10 year old

On November 02 2009 07:53 Frits wrote:
im a 2nd year college student who just posted some random little fact

god you guys think everything is some kind of conspiracy, i just took offense to this particular OP, relax

On November 02 2009 08:10 Manifesto7 wrote:
Because you're parents gave up their lives freedom and money in order to raise you, and when you finally get to an age where you can help contribute to a house with EIGHT FUCKING KIDS you look them in the eye and say "I'll get to it". As if what you are doing now is more important. It isn't, not until you move out and have kids of your own.

On November 02 2009 06:51 Ingenol wrote:
One thing I learned is that doing one thing without being asked is worth doing ten things only upon being asked to do so.

On November 02 2009 10:20 Mastermind wrote:
I would be pretty pissed off too if I had 8 kids to take care of.

On November 02 2009 06:41 eMbrace wrote:
I do my own laundry and others when asked to. I do the dishes when asked to (all the time, no big deal). I take the trash out and bring it back in every week. I clean what is asked to blah blah blah.

On November 02 2009 11:06 HuskyTheHusky wrote:
1/5 for making a blog like one I would have made freshmen year of highschool

On November 02 2009 11:52 eMbrace wrote:



If my parents never bugged me about any household chores -- I'd eventually get them done anyways.

It's starting to get annoying that people think I'm being whiny and immature, and that I don't respect my parents.

This is about petty situations resulting in absolutely terrible fits of rage. It's not justifiable. It's tolerable, and I've never raised a finger to them my entire life about it -- so don't try to say I'm bitching. This blog was about trying to understand it, not to cry about it.

When I was younger they left me home alone several times, for weeks at a time. It was paradise. I still had all the chores to do, but I decided when they would get done.

No stress what so ever. Chores are easy, after all. Dishes take what? 5 minutes out of your day? It's nothing to bitch about. Feed the dogs, take them for walks, clean the house, make dinner for yourself, make sure dishes are clean blah blah blah.

The moment they walk in the door however, stress levels shoot through the roof. All those petty tasks that you can do comfortably throughout the day on your own time suddenly have time bombs attached to them and you can't sit the fuck down without someone screaming at you through 4 walls.

and I know, people will say, "QQ more little boy, they shelter and feed you, get off your stupid iCCup game and do what they ask."

i don't agree with that outlook at all. most other families I've witnessed have kids who never do shit, ever. they are either spoiled, or just say "No, you do the dishes, I'm busy!" and yet my parents say I fail at life because I feel like a cereal box can be put away at 4:30 as opposed to 4:29?

it really doesn't feel good at all to be told how terrible a son you are every time a dirty dish is spotted -- but I guess people here think that's what good parenting is.

On November 02 2009 12:29 Cloud wrote:
Well, you did write a lot of shit which i didn't mention, while shrugging away my post with one line.

If you're not willing to try the one thing that might change your parents mood (you did ask for suggestions right?), which is initiative, then we really don't give a crap about the rest of your bitching, make a youtube video if you need to vent on the internet.

And if you're gonna start comparing yourself to other people (bad idea), consider yourself lucky you're still living with your parents (which you obviously want) in your college years.

On November 02 2009 09:15 SirGlinG wrote:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Displacement_(psychology)
?

On November 02 2009 11:52 eMbrace wrote:



If my parents never bugged me about any household chores -- I'd eventually get them done anyways.

It's starting to get annoying that people think I'm being whiny and immature, and that I don't respect my parents.

This is about petty situations resulting in absolutely terrible fits of rage. It's not justifiable. It's tolerable, and I've never raised a finger to them my entire life about it -- so don't try to say I'm bitching. This blog was about trying to understand it, not to cry about it.

When I was younger they left me home alone several times, for weeks at a time. It was paradise. I still had all the chores to do, but I decided when they would get done.

No stress what so ever. Chores are easy, after all. Dishes take what? 5 minutes out of your day? It's nothing to bitch about. Feed the dogs, take them for walks, clean the house, make dinner for yourself, make sure dishes are clean blah blah blah.

The moment they walk in the door however, stress levels shoot through the roof. All those petty tasks that you can do comfortably throughout the day on your own time suddenly have time bombs attached to them and you can't sit the fuck down without someone screaming at you through 4 walls.

and I know, people will say, "QQ more little boy, they shelter and feed you, get off your stupid iCCup game and do what they ask."

i don't agree with that outlook at all. most other families I've witnessed have kids who never do shit, ever. they are either spoiled, or just say "No, you do the dishes, I'm busy!" and yet my parents say I fail at life because I feel like a cereal box can be put away at 4:30 as opposed to 4:29?

it really doesn't feel good at all to be told how terrible a son you are every time a dirty dish is spotted -- but I guess people here think that's what good parenting is.

On November 02 2009 13:10 MooCow wrote:

My story is almost word for word just like your story. It seems i'm 2 years older than you, I don't recall the age which I changed but I completely see my parents in a whole new light and i learned to love them and cherish them. ( I live alone with my brother )
Maybe in time you'll see and realize.
I'm not saying you're a bad or whiny son/person obviously not but you believe that your parents aren't behaving properly and such, i'd say try your very best to put yourself in their shoes.

On November 02 2009 13:17 eMbrace wrote:


gaahhhhhhhhh why do you think i don't appreciate my parents?? i never even implied that. im 19 and i dont give a shit about how ridiculous they are -- they are the reason I have a computer to talk about this stuff.

i just want to understand an aspect a parenting that I disagree with.

On November 02 2009 13:33 MooCow wrote:

I never said I don't think you appreciate your parents, I know you do everyone does. When I was 19 I too appreciated my parents but I was also very annoyed by them, as I said before my story is almost exactly like yours. I loved it when they went away and me and my bro would do all our chores and clean the house and do everything on our own time without having anyone telling us exactly when to do it.

Maybe it's because I don't live with them anymore but I really learnt to more than to just appreciate them. Everything your parents do is to help you because they love you, hopefully.

You sound like a reasonable person and I really do think when you grow a little more you'll see this completely different than how you do right now.

Also as people said before you come from a big family that's a lot of stress and people aren't perfect.

On November 02 2009 13:39 eMbrace wrote:


That last thing I want to happen is grow up and look back at this blog post as meaningless.

This is a legitimate problem, not something you grow out of. If I look back and see their behavior as "justifiable," I'll be more likely to have the problem when I become a parent.

My parents have stress control issues, I do not want these issues in the future. No matter how much I appreciate my parents, I'm not about to neglect a good learning experience I can make from their flaws.