On October 24 2009 03:11 Sadist wrote:
pretty much have to state your intentions immediately or you fall into this shitstorm you are in. Unless they have some secret crush on you first or something which isnt something thats good to bank on.

STORY OF MY LIFE....gah..

onihunter

United States515 Posts

October 24 2009 01:22 GMT

#82

Girls always look at best guy friends as more than a friend at least once. Always. They're always a possibility to them. Every girl is like this.

So don't be depressed :D

OpticalShot

Canada6330 Posts

October 24 2009 01:58 GMT

#83

That youtube 3-video series was definitely awesome.
Nice guys finish last? Yeah right, nice guys that know when to push and pull will finish somewhere better...

It's simple. You tell her how you felt and she'll might still slip away. You don't tell her how you felt, and she'll slip away for sure. If you like that girl, there's every right and even obligation to tell her that. Girl's are smarter than us men think they are - I'm pretty sure the girl picked up signs from you somewhere along the way, and she's acting in such ways now while being fully aware of how you feel towards her. Be a man (and do the right thing, lol) about it, tell her how you feel in a nice private place (sunset is the right time to do it) and don't even think about the "what happens after". Whatever happens after - you did the right thing for both yourself and the girl.

druj

137 Posts

October 24 2009 02:25 GMT

#84

I think you simply put too much of an investment in this girl. Its unfortunate, but its an experience worthwhile that will eventually get you closer to a relationship. I think its that simple, I think it will good to deal with rejections in the future, there will be plenty of it in various forms.

I failed really hard at relationships in the past, I never cheated, but I always fucked up cause I could never decide on what I wanted out of it.

Headlines

United States482 Posts

October 24 2009 03:35 GMT

#85

Dude, quit being selfish. She's obviously trusting you enough to ask a personal question. Why not give a little bit towards others, yeah? Don't be thinking, "Oh man, I feel so depressed...others should feel as bad as I do." That's some really bad karma, yo.

Look, I know you like her, but if she likes someone else and that feeling you got is really, really, real! Wouldn't you care more about how she feels? If she likes this guy, you go and do your best to make her feel happy. Contributing towards someone else happiness is a very useful talent toi have.

Be positive in your life. What has looking at life like a long-ass boring trail done for you?

Man, first thing you got to do is figure out who you are. If you think your life on this planet is to be some downtrodden poor fool, then no one in the whole world is going to be able to appease you. But just from your post, I don't think you are that type of person. If one person can make you feel enthusiastic, why is it that you can't just be enthusiastic by yourself? I think it's because you're not willing to let yourself be happy. All wounds heal, even the worse ones, bro. You just work towards that one day. Just know that soon, very soon, you won't feel like dirt.

Again, be positive!

Dude. She's not the last person you'll have feelings for. You help her out now, and karma will kick ass later on. One thing about cool girls? They hang out with other cool girls. Most of them do.

meegrean

Thailand7699 Posts

October 24 2009 03:54 GMT

#86

Tell her you like her. That will definitely solve everything

Warrior Madness

Canada3791 Posts

October 24 2009 03:57 GMT

#87

It's your fault for not leading her.....You're WAITING for HER to do something.... Man, SHE even waited for YOU, after class.... The Hell?

Sfydjklm

United States9218 Posts

October 24 2009 04:03 GMT

#88

beat the other guy up. I dont think there is any other way out of friend zone except for violence. And if she's not the type to dig it, well at least you'll feel better. Much better.

Ghost151

United States290 Posts

October 24 2009 05:07 GMT

#89

she's already written you off...nothing you can do at this point will make her return your feelings without it being awkward so it's not gonna happen.

the long answer is a bunch of rationalizing bullshit ending up with it was never your fault because she was never gonna choose you.

the short answer is: you took too long to do anything about it.

sorry bro, you've just entered "the friend zone"
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il0seonpurpose

Korea (South)5638 Posts

October 24 2009 05:26 GMT

#90

Oh that sounds terrible, I don't think you could've prevented that. Maybe she really likes you but she's like hiding it

theobsessed1

United States576 Posts

October 24 2009 05:58 GMT

#91

Fuck bitches. Get money.

At least she's not GOING OUT with him yet dude. You still got a chance. Be around her more often and let her know you think of her more than a friend.

keV.

United States3214 Posts

October 24 2009 06:55 GMT

#92

This is how you get out of the friend zone.

Its not as hard as it looks.

Ota Solgryn

Denmark2011 Posts

October 24 2009 07:57 GMT

#93

As for the topic: "girls" - the standing advice is as always - be successful at something, whatever it is, even if it's a video game - if you're not an unhygienic mess: girls will be drawn to the confidence that stems from your success.

Yes yes yes!

Cu(oCo)

Italy358 Posts

October 24 2009 08:56 GMT

#94

watch video girl ai

bN`

Slovenia504 Posts

October 24 2009 09:01 GMT

#95

Sadly getting the attention of girls usually involves destroying most of what you considered made you better than the other guys who just wanted to fuck her. That is that you listen to her, have conversations that make sense and what not. You really shouldn't put girls on piedestals because it gets you nowhere. If you need proof just look at how many of those lyric poets actually f-ed their muzes.
You'll probably hate yourself for a while after you start acting like a dick but it'll pass. Whether there's peace of mind down the road, where you might actually find a person around which you'll be able to do/say/think/express you desire, is not a given. Oh but if you do find her, ask her out before you get to know her since she'll think you like her body. ^^

Quint

467 Posts

October 24 2009 09:15 GMT

#96

Thanks for your answers so far. I am still torn how to act around her. At the moment, I would prefer not seeing her at all, which is almost impossible since we share so many classes. We are going to do an assignment together, too, and I really dread that soon-to-be day.

Concerning some of the questions in here:
I am not the guy she was talking about, Spanish is one of the few classes we don't share. I had high hopes because she also wrote me a text when I was ill, saying that she missed me. The simple-hearted person that I am took it as sign of interest in me.

God, this sucks.

Rekrul

Korea (South)17174 Posts

October 24 2009 11:36 GMT

#97

the giggly gay friend role isn't going to get you laid

gg

Blyf

Denmark408 Posts

October 24 2009 12:01 GMT

#98

Fuck that, you still have shot at her. You're not in the friend zone yet until you accept being her emotional dumpster.

Tell her: "Hey, fuck that guy from spanish. Go out with me friday night, we'll do something fun".

Don't do it in a way like you're begging her, just make it casual. As in "why not". She likes you, but she probably didn't think you were interested in her. She didn't necessarily write you off as boyfriend potential yet. Now is your time to show her that you can be an interesting lad.

Best of luck - I am hoping you the best

Rekrul

Korea (South)17174 Posts

October 24 2009 12:35 GMT

#99

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7mk

Germany10156 Posts

October 24 2009 14:32 GMT

#100

On October 24 2009 18:15 Quint wrote:
Thanks for your answers so far. I am still torn how to act around her. At the moment, I would prefer not seeing her at all, which is almost impossible since we share so many classes. We are going to do an assignment together, too, and I really dread that soon-to-be day.

Concerning some of the questions in here:
I am not the guy she was talking about, Spanish is one of the few classes we don't share. I had high hopes because she also wrote me a text when I was ill, saying that she missed me. The simple-hearted person that I am took it as sign of interest in me.

God, this sucks.

#1 reason for why you should tell her how you feel imo: Not because there's any realistic chance anythings gonna happen but because in my experience getting told by her that shes not interested is a big ass catalyst for getting over her. If you dont do it the pain will just drag on and on..