What sound and logical advice. But it doesn't work. Whenever I express my feelings to a parent, my siblings, or my friends, I either get ruthlessly shot down, or I get a blank stare of incomprehension, or I get ignored or belittled or trivialized.
Maybe some say 'well they're not very good friends, are they?' But what does that matter? The same people who say that are the people who are the so called 'bad friends.' Bad is such a relative term, if everyone does this how can they be bad?
So maybe you say I'm just particularly whiny. Or I complain too much. Maybe that's true. But I learned early with most people not to share feelings more than once. I only ever talk about myself to one person these days, when I'm so far down in my luck that I'm constantly hurting and it affects my ability to cope and get thru my days. I temporarily lose judgment and confess, knowing I'll be belittled, ignored, and trivialized. For some reason I feel like I have to say it.
Not for "some reason." It's because I grew up being told this stupid bullshit about not burying feelings and hiding problems. The truth is that's exactly what you're supposed to do, because no one else gives a shit. Even if you care about their feelings and try to help them, the feeling is never mutual. Be an emotionless cyborg robot wall thing. Internalize nothing and become as complex as a dog. Food. Work. Run. Hump. Sleep. Die.
What a cruel joke, the idea that anyone wants to think about your feelings.