Good manners can help us in many ways, but we are not talkin' about table manners here.
If you look at it better - problem is within ourselfs. We don't think in long run how can one smile make so many persons that are around you happier and it dosen't cost you nothing to do so. You see the line between Starcraft and real life? Your goal should always be to be in profit, and that means gain without loseing something. Don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about business world or market shares, I'm talking about simple selfdiscipline that will give you only good and profit for almost nothing.
Everything in world and everything in grand game of Starcraft can be compared. You see, you tought I will only write about good manner and how it affects people... but well, here is another connection: How come good manner can be implemented in our game? We did tell that our goal is to profit and not to lose anything? Not enough hint? Well let's put it this way: our goal is to do a strategy that is most viable in exact moment to do most for us and that we lose minimal to it's execution.
Behind the monitor or in real life, good manner pays well in most cases
Question that I always ask myself is: "Why people reject this great offer of gaining everything for almost nothing (except good mannerism and not swering and acting like angry kid)". It's more dissapointing when you get your anger down after 5-10 minutes and you see there is no point of getting bad manner towards other player and you could prevented it so easy.
But main problem is that it will happen again if you don't control it. And yes, yet again another connection with Starcraft. You see, in same fasion as you don't correct your mistake with bad manner thing - you will fail if you don't stop doing mistakes and same errors in Starcraft.
What urges us to be bad manner? Our constant belief that we should overcome everything or the fact we did less good then someone else? It's caveman effect and you should eliminate it if you don't want to stay at caveman level. It also fascinates me how many people are not bad manner in real life and what is worse - it just speaks about them more as persons who are in fact not quite honest to themself what are they exactly. They just sense that Internet is some sort of gateway where you are protected and noone can't do you any harm. People abov all, even above fact you will get yourself all benefits by being good manner understand that you are dealing with people of flesh and blood, even via chat screen and killing his Zerglingz.
How come some people are only bad manner in "virtual world"?
Some say that without bad manner there would not be drama like Idra vs Incontrol in latest "Highlander" tournament, but that's in fact not true because you can have all drama that you want but in other ways. Of course, we need to make difference between "real" bad manner that is meant, and some trash talk that is in it's basic form just friendly "spicy" way to heat things up, no hard feelings. Problem with first that it's serious and it just stops our evolution as a gamer and as a person, and second... it's again benefit for both triple sides - two players are in good relationships (as it's "friendly bad manner for a moment") an will continue to improve and replenish their spiritual being and mental status and for audiance you get some trash talk.
Advice that I can give you from my experience is "Facta, facta, non verba" and by that I mean - try to make it worth it. Try to make it a fact and not talk, try to justify your means of playing this game on field of friendliness and by doing so provide yourself with true resources good for your game and being. Why to do yourself harm if you can do good? Why to be stubborn when key to the free item that serves us all is in your grasp? How to overcome caveman inside yourself? Questions that dosen't need answer, just "Facta" and not "Verba", especially not bad manner verba.
Even from those experineces like being bad manner we can learn to change and that means we can learn to adept to what our opponent does in Starcraft match better. As you can see, we can integrate everything from opposite sides into our Starcraft gameplay, but ask yourself - is it better to implement good manner or bad manner? To be honest, experiences from good manner as you can see are much beter generator of good results, so is there any questions and doubts what should be used?
The "Dreamer" Nal_Ra presented himself many times in good manner and he did well. Don't you agree?
What if someone is bad manner toward you? Well, in that case you can't do much - he is the forgerer of his destiny, and in gaming sense he can forge only enemies and improvement that is equal speed of a snail. To do yourself a favor, try to clean your yard first and only by then you will become gamer that will be able to make good connections and be real toward his mistakes and by doing so making his evolution faster and more enjoyable with company of good friend.
So guys, next time when you try to be good manner, consider it a favor to yourself, your improvement and benefit to your spiritual and mental health. You get plenty and give only something - that dosen't cost you anything but can make another persons day nice and more enjoyable.
Win-win situation if you ask me.
- ReiKo.cry