edit:@below - I don't mean counterculture in some sort of relative sense as "whatever is against the main culture of the time." I mean it in the sense of a progressive anti-modernist movement.
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sam!zdat
United States5559 Posts
edit:@below - I don't mean counterculture in some sort of relative sense as "whatever is against the main culture of the time." I mean it in the sense of a progressive anti-modernist movement. | ||
sths
Australia192 Posts
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JieXian
Malaysia4677 Posts
On February 19 2013 16:28 sths wrote: this IS the counterculture. Chinese women weren't always materialistic money grubbing machines. They sorta just got exposed to capitalism too quickly. Kind of like kids these days that get exposed to hardcore porn when they're under 10. Will mess with your mind. I'm sure he wanted the type where people have one night stands every other day :D | ||
sam!zdat
United States5559 Posts
On February 20 2013 00:05 JieXian wrote: I'm sure he wanted the type where people have one night stands every other day :D Me? absolutely not. I want to the type where they despise consumerism, read books, take psychedelics, and listen to rock n roll | ||
Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On February 20 2013 03:11 sam!zdat wrote: Me? absolutely not. I want to the type where they despise consumerism, read books, take psychedelics, and listen to rock n roll I just want that one girl who'll rub my back when I'm tired and cheer me up when I'm sad, without making me feel like I'm paying her to do it. Is it that much to ask? | ||
sam!zdat
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babylon
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I mean, come on, is it really that hard? I'd want a girl who is funny, honest, curious, yadda yadda, but at the end of the day, I need one who is independent. I don't need a girl who's sole purpose in life is to settle down with a 250k/yr husband and raise 2.2 kids in a white picket fence. Fuck man, it's not even because I'm stingy--I'd be happy paying for her--I'd just much rather pay for her dreams than pay for her shopping expeditions. She wants to become a film director? Great, sign me up to underwrite her first shoot. She wants to be an artist? I'll rent her a studio. She wants to become a doctor? I'll even pitch in on her med school tuition. I don't want a girl who just wants me for the money and offers nothing but sex and food in return--it makes me feel like I'm engaged to a prostitute. I need independence because I need love, and love (to me) is made not when two people fuck but when two people put their dreams together to make something grand. But if she has no dreams, where do I even start? Go date a grad student who's majoring in something useless outside of academia. That's by far the easiest way to find someone who has dreams and is independent. Anyone who goes into grad school for a PhD in something like medieval studies is going to be pretty non-materialistic (either in the sense that she'll already have lots of money and so doesn't care about it, or doesn't have lots of money and thinks sacrificing earning potential for 6+ years for a degree like medieval studies is worth it, which is pretty non-materialistic -- I know amazing girls in both categories). Whether or not she'll be funny or pretty is another matter altogether, and you'd probably have to move around with her depending on where she ends up getting hired, but hey, it depends on what you're willing to "sacrifice." Anyways, just gonna say, women who make it in academia (you know, getting cited everywhere and properly respected, not 'cause of the fact she's a woman but because her work is amazing), in male-dominated fields, are fierce and brilliant and forceful. | ||
sam!zdat
United States5559 Posts
On February 20 2013 04:06 babylon wrote: Anyways, just gonna say, women who make it in academia (you know, getting cited everywhere and properly respected, not 'cause of the fact she's a woman but because her work is amazing), in male-dominated fields, are fierce and brilliant and forceful. stop it babylon you're getting me all hot and bothered | ||
Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On February 20 2013 04:10 sam!zdat wrote: stop it babylon you're getting me all hot and bothered Maybe this is why my dream girl all through college (other than the girls I was dating) was an art history major whose passion was Chinese antiques and calligraphy But then again, that was her family business | ||
SamsungStar
United States912 Posts
On February 20 2013 03:41 Shady Sands wrote: I just want that one girl who'll rub my back when I'm tired and cheer me up when I'm sad, without making me feel like I'm paying her to do it. Is it that much to ask? For that, I'd date 20 to 26 year old American girls who majored in History, English, or Education. But you better be good looking and have the abs of a god. After all, they have to have SOME reason to love you. If it's not your wallet, it should be your six-pack and your to-die-for smile. Or if not that, then you should play the guitar really well and have dreams of becoming a rock star. Or a DJ. Something super ambitious and artistic but not yet realized in its potential. By the time they're 30 though, most wake up, smell the doggy doo, and start sniffing around for wallets. | ||
SamsungStar
United States912 Posts
On February 20 2013 04:12 Shady Sands wrote: Maybe this is why my dream girl all through college (other than the girls I was dating) was an art history major whose passion was Chinese antiques and calligraphy But then again, that was her family business I graduated with a degree in creative writing. I've dated a lot of art/English majors. They're sweet, and their love is pure and innocent, and they're passionate and romantic and amazing. But after a year or so they disappear because they decided the most important thing in their life was to go take photographs of trains in the Midwest or that Kathmandu was where they would find the truth of their past lives. Another one decided she would become a pilot, then a forest ranger, then a sex buddy/muse for some Italian tailor living in London. You really have no idea what is going to jump out of the box from day to day, which is fun for a while, but then it just gives you grey hairs. I'd stick to the gold-diggers. At least you can understand them to a degree. | ||
Burrfoot
United States1176 Posts
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babylon
8765 Posts
On February 20 2013 03:41 Shady Sands wrote: I just want that one girl who'll rub my back when I'm tired and cheer me up when I'm sad, without making me feel like I'm paying her to do it. Is it that much to ask? My roommate gave me a massage earlier this week when I asked. :D She actually fits all your personality requirements. Asian, female, very intellectually stimulating, thoughtful, speaks her mind, very independent; she worked 3-4 jobs once on top of all her classes without needing to, simply because she wanted to be able to buy her own shit and not waste her parents' money and likes being financially independent. Poli sci major interested in US-China relations, willing to do policy for a bit before moving back to academia. But alas, she's probably not your type from what I can tell, lol. | ||
Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On February 20 2013 04:21 SamsungStar wrote: I graduated with a degree in creative writing. I've dated a lot of art/English majors. They're sweet, and their love is pure and innocent, and they're passionate and romantic and amazing. But after a year or so they disappear because they decided the most important thing in their life was to go take photographs of trains in the Midwest or that Kathmandu was where they would find the truth of their past lives. Another one decided she would become a pilot, then a forest ranger, then a sex buddy/muse for some Italian tailor living in London. You really have no idea what is going to jump out of the box from day to day, which is fun for a while, but then it just gives you grey hairs. I'd stick to the gold-diggers. At least you can understand them to a degree. Idk, I think I'd understand the Kathmandu girl more than a gold-digger. Maybe this makes me stupid | ||
Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On February 20 2013 04:25 babylon wrote: My roommate gave me a massage earlier this week when I asked. :D She actually fits all your personality requirements. Asian, female, very intellectually stimulating, thoughtful, speaks her mind, very independent; she worked 3-4 jobs once on top of all her classes without needing to, simply because she wanted to be able to buy her own shit and not waste her parents' money and likes being financially independent. Poli sci major interested in US-China relations, willing to do policy for a bit before moving back to academia. But alas, she's probably not your type from what I can tell, lol. lol are you serious? | ||
Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On February 20 2013 04:06 babylon wrote: Go date a grad student who's majoring in something useless outside of academia. That's by far the easiest way to find someone who has dreams and is independent. Anyone who goes into grad school for a PhD in something like medieval studies is going to be pretty non-materialistic (either in the sense that she'll already have lots of money and so doesn't care about it, or doesn't have lots of money and thinks sacrificing earning potential for 6+ years for a degree like medieval studies is worth it, which is pretty non-materialistic -- I know amazing girls in both categories). Whether or not she'll be funny or pretty is another matter altogether, and you'd probably have to move around with her depending on where she ends up getting hired, but hey, it depends on what you're willing to "sacrifice." Anyways, just gonna say, women who make it in academia (you know, getting cited everywhere and properly respected, not 'cause of the fact she's a woman but because her work is amazing), in male-dominated fields, are fierce and brilliant and forceful. Strangely enough, my mom got a PhD in Organic Chemistry before gender equality was fashionable in China. She never struck me as hardcore, although that might have been because chemistry came easily to her | ||
sam!zdat
United States5559 Posts
On February 20 2013 04:26 Shady Sands wrote: Idk, I think I'd understand the Kathmandu girl more than a gold-digger. Maybe this makes me stupid nah, this means you have a soul. whether or not that is equivalent to stupidity we will leave for another day | ||
Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On February 20 2013 04:22 Burrfoot wrote: You guys are doing it all wrong. Go after the fat chicks from money and then when the time comes to talk prenup they are the ones bringing it up. Just make sure she has a pretty face because everything else is going to go after a few kids. Not all rich girls are ugly EDIT: That's banker girl from Beijing Blues | ||
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Burrfoot
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