EPTGaming rage and anger management - please help - Page 13
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Silvanel
Poland4742 Posts
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Didgaraya
United Kingdom2 Posts
Best of luck! P.S. There's a reason why you put some much pressure upon yourself (and, in effect, are a highly competitive person). Finding it and figuring out how to solve it will take time. Whatever you do, you may be good at that, but you are clearly not good at knowing yourself. This brings anger, I think. Not only the fact that you cannot stop anger but that you don't know yourself enough to understand what puts you into alcohol-like rather than consciousness-altered state. | ||
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Ahelvin
France1866 Posts
On May 09 2013 19:56 Didgaraya wrote: Take an LSD. It will dissolve some of your ego (which is clearly overgrown) and build up some imagination (which you clearly lack). Otherwise I would advise a therapy. But don't go to a shrink, find an alternative. You wouldn't like yourself after a shrink is through with you (which would most likely be expensive and took 10+ yrs). Best of luck! P.S. There's a reason why you put some much pressure upon yourself (and, in effect, are a highly competitive person). Finding it and figuring out how to solve it will take time. Whatever you do, you may be good at that, but you are clearly not good at knowing yourself. This brings anger, I think. Not only the fact that you cannot stop anger but that you don't know yourself enough to understand what puts you into alcohol-like rather than consciousness-altered state. Or even better : don't get advice from the Internet. This post exemplifies why you should not. Anybody saying "don't go to a shrink, take a strong hallucinogenic drug that can have severe side effects in the case of a latent, undiagnosed mental illness" should not be taken seriously. Note that I'm not denying in any way the positive effects LSD may have : I'm just saying that someone who is not able to control its emotion to the point of hurting himself WHILE SOBER should not drink alcohol or take drugs, period. | ||
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bluQ
Germany1724 Posts
On May 09 2013 20:08 Ahelvin wrote: Or even better : don't get advice from the Internet. This post exemplifies why you should not. Anybody saying "don't go to a shrink, take a strong hallucinogenic drug that can have severe side effects in the case of a latent, undiagnosed mental illness" should not be taken seriously. Note that I'm not denying in any way the positive effects LSD may have : I'm just saying that someone who is not able to control its emotion to the point of hurting himself WHILE SOBER should not drink alcohol or take drugs, period. Don't want to get this offtopci but ... you do know what pretty promisiing end of a visit to a doc is? Right, strong drugs which can, now it comes; hurt and influence your body. Best of Luck with your problems. PS: Woriking wrong while being Sober doesn't conlcude to drugs not helping him cO | ||
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tomatriedes
New Zealand5356 Posts
On May 09 2013 19:35 Eviscerador wrote: In Sc2 you rage about losing our your own mistakes, so its more about Ego. In dota or similar team games, you rage about the retards in your team, so it has nothing to do with yourself. Yeah it's interesting how some of us rage more at one than the other though- it probably correlates with different personality types. | ||
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RaZorwire
Sweden718 Posts
On May 09 2013 20:22 bluQ wrote: Don't want to get this offtopci but ... you do know what pretty promisiing end of a visit to a doc is? Right, strong drugs which can, now it comes; hurt and influence your body. Best of Luck with your problems. PS: Woriking wrong while being Sober doesn't conlcude to drugs not helping him cO That's a really bad comparison. "You can't say LSD is bad because you can get other drugs prescribed from a doctor" would be a valid train of thought if all types of medication had the same effects as LSD. They don't, so it isn't. | ||
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pms
Poland611 Posts
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CamoPillbox
Czech Republic229 Posts
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HwangjaeTerran
Finland5967 Posts
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MrSourGit
England135 Posts
God , you woulda burnt your place down if you lost like I did after being so far ahead vs a Terran yesterday .... Mines ..... I really hope you ain't Zerg lol. Anyway yeah , the more you cry , the shitter you'll be , the more you'll lose .... I've played games my entire life , any I play I've played I've always tried to be the best , the games I've been best at , I play very calmly .... If your worked up you'll play shit. Just deal with it .... Sorry but come on , your 27 , stop being a bitch .... Sorry but come on .... | ||
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Assirra
Belgium4169 Posts
On May 09 2013 20:22 bluQ wrote: Don't want to get this offtopci but ... you do know what pretty promisiing end of a visit to a doc is? Right, strong drugs which can, now it comes; hurt and influence your body. Best of Luck with your problems. PS: Woriking wrong while being Sober doesn't conlcude to drugs not helping him cO You just compared a doctor that got years of study to a random internet poster. Yea... | ||
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Toxi78
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JacobShock
Denmark2485 Posts
I noticed that the rage was at it's worst when my view point of my life was at it's worst. Where sc2 was what mattered the most as sad as that sounds. So I started adding other hobbies in my life and plans for the future, to devalue the importance of the game. I tried to have a healthier look on losing. Seeing what I can learn from each loss and I haven't had an instance of rage for a long time now. Other than a few no gg's. Actually a lot, but thats another thing I've been working on. Even though saying good game can be a stupid sentiment if the game was 5 mins long and bad. Also I've been trying to find the triggers to what angers me the most and figuring out why. like: 1) Losing because I played way below my own level. So this anger is directed inwards. 2) Losing to something stupid and luck based. Like zvz where someone six pools on the biggest map in the game. 3) Losing a game where I had it in the bag at one point, but threw it away. These are all things you can work on, learn from, or reframe. I've tried my hardest to do so and it's slowly been paying off. On another topic about dealing with other peoples BM and Rage. I've been trying to ignore em. Unless they are extremely rude then I can get drawn in an arguement or simply attack them back, ridicule them ect. Which is a negative spiral I in the future would like to avoid. So lately I've been trying to talk a few people down, with success. An example: One dude I after having successfully one based proxy spired for kicks, responded angry at me calling me a "retarded faggot" etc etc. Asking for a rematch, I gave him one and simply just talked to him in a calm manner. He won the rematch and now he's on my friend list. Hope any of this ranting helps. because I know how much uncontrolled raging sucks and it sounds like you have it even worse than I did/do. | ||
Jibba
United States22883 Posts
On May 09 2013 09:13 Lauriel wrote: To everyone saying "quit and get professional help," thank you for your input, but I'm not going to respond, simply because it's a last resort, and I'm looking for solutions that will prevent me from going to that end. I also don't have the money for professional help, and have no interest in talking to a psychiatrist about gaming rage that they probably don't understand to begin with. Again, thank you for the input though. It is noted. 3. Screaming in fits of rage that lasts for anywhere from 30-45 minutes at their worst. This does not sound like gaming rage. This isn't like punching a locker after losing a sports game. That's not even punching your keyboard. I mean, you can try slamming your thigh instead of a breakable object, but your behavior sounds kind of disturbing and it doesn't sound like it's just about competition. :/ Maybe not a psychiatrist, but there are psychologists or counselors who could help. | ||
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AnomalySC2
United States2073 Posts
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GizmoPT
Portugal3040 Posts
thats what i do | ||
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Bojas
Netherlands2397 Posts
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HeeeZay
Australia14 Posts
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ThePianoDentist
United Kingdom698 Posts
also do some exercise after each loss, just like 20 pressups and 30 sit-ups. doesn't really matter how many, just enough to let you kind of de-stress a little and release the tension before going into the next game so frustration doesnt build up so much. | ||
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SC2Jan
Germany93 Posts
On May 09 2013 21:19 Jibba wrote: This does not sound like gaming rage. This isn't like punching a locker after losing a sports game. That's not even punching your keyboard. I mean, you can try slamming your thigh instead of a breakable object, but your behavior sounds kind of disturbing and it doesn't sound like it's just about competition. :/ I fully agree. @Lauriel quote: Just a few points: You might find a solution to avoid your reactions, be it via letting energy out or not playing or whatever. But I'm afraid that it won't clear the roots of your problem there. Also, I fully understand the idea of getting professional help as a last resort, but you might be already in the situation of needing to use this last opportunity. Sure, you haven't tried some things yet and maybe something will work - my advice would be to look carefully if you can get your behaviour under a level that endangers you and/or others. Everything below that could be acceptable and if you don't want to go to some sessions then, that's fine. But I would draw the line there and at the current state say: Go and use your last resort. Do you have any sort of insurance that might pay for the costs? Here in Germany they would pay for sessions in this case (pretty sure about this) as this is some serious, health threatening issue. One last thing: Don't worry about psychologists not being able to work with "gaming rage". It's not the game that causes you to snap, the important part is the meta information about theses situations. Every therapist worth it's money won't have any problems there, they work a little bit different than you might think. P.S.: Psychiatrists usually work with medicine, I'm pretty sure you won't need to see those. What you might be looking for is a Psychologist/Therapist.  *edit* Grammar is not my friend. | ||
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