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farvacola
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
United States18820 Posts
May 02 2013 17:55 GMT
#421
On May 03 2013 02:53 FrankWalls wrote:
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On May 03 2013 02:52 farvacola wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:50 Zaqwert wrote:
I'm pretty sure all the chronic complaining and constantly playing the victim is helping these gals overcome sexist stereotypes about women....

I'm pretty sure all the chronic complaining and constantly playing the victim is helping these men excuse their objectification of women.......


why does it need excused if its the way they really feel about it?

Because women are people, not objects, and to treat another human as a thing requires some degree of mental gymnastics.
"when the Dead Kennedys found out they had skinhead fans, they literally wrote a song titled 'Nazi Punks Fuck Off'"
r.Evo
Profile Joined August 2006
Germany14080 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-05-02 17:59:29
May 02 2013 17:56 GMT
#422
On May 03 2013 02:41 Thieving Magpie wrote:
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On May 03 2013 02:35 Mothra wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:24 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:16 Simberto wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:09 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:03 Simberto wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:49 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:45 discomatt wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:39 Thieving Magpie wrote:
By controlling female sexuality we maintain the masculine sexual dominance of female ownership. There's a reason we say "rape and pillage" when we talk about war because we equate rape with the act of domination--specifically with masculine domination.


"Rape and pillage" is a literal term. It's not uncommon for the civilian population to be tortured/slain/raped after being defeated.


Yes... as I said... we equate rape with domination... we kill off the men and have our way with the civilians... ie, domination...

There's a reason we call it rape and not really unfortunate sex accident.


That is because that is the definition of rape. Rape is forcing sex onto someone. Not an accident. And domination is obviously a large part of that, because you need to be in a dominant position to do that. And the way our bodies work makes it a lot easier for a man to rape someone than for a woman.

I am not quite sure what your point is.


Because you didn't read what I wrote I will quote myself.

we equate rape with the act of domination


Discomatt then implied "rape and pillage" is a throwaway phrase only relevant in war. Which is why I said "equate" as in to compare to things and see them as similar.

He was responding to my post wherein I was talking about the misogynistic tendencies of american culture to use the term fuck to mean domination--ie rape. As in an event either fucks us over or we fuck over something we dominate. Because we use that rape/fuck mindset in everyday affairs we also project that onto other people--ie rape culture. Where we dominate the feminine with the masculine.


I read what you wrote. You are just not making a lot of obvious sense to me. I still don't quite get your point. We equate rape with domination. Yes. That is because domination is a large part of rape. What are you getting at with this? You are stating this like it is some kind of grand discovery. Is your point that fucking/raping something is used as an allegory for domination, which means...something?


I'm saying misogyny is about domination--not about how much/little clothes a woman wears or how sexual she is.

I'm saying things aren't sexist *because* people who stream are showing their boobs I'm saying it's sexist when women are told how to look and act and defined by how much they fit that standard. I'm saying that misogyny is the domination of the female identity. I'm saying rape, is the domination of the female. I'm saying that terms like "tits or gtfo" is about the domination of the female and phrases like "good job on not being slutty" is the domination of the female.

When we set the parameters for how a person should or shouldn't act--we are being misogynists.


So it is misogynist to tell people they shouldn't act misogynist.


When you are telling a woman how she should behave/dress/act/be instead of letting her just be herself be it slutty or prudish--you're being misogynistic. Because you are dominating her ability to be her own person.

If she wants to get on twitch, take off her top and ask guys to tell her how sexy she is--then it's her right to do it.

If she wants to just stream herself playing mario games--then its her right to do it.

People who try to shame a woman who loves having sex by calling her a slut is misogynistic because they are dictating how that person should act.

People who try to shame a woman who likes playing videogames as being a prude for not showing her tits are being misogynistic because they are dictating how that person should act.

Telling someone not be misogynistic has nothing to do with telling them how to be a person. It is telling them that they are intruding on someone's rights. When I tell them to stop being misogynistic they don't need to change their style of clothes, the way they present themselves, their sexual activity, their anything. It literally is telling them to stop attacking another human being.

First of all I'm pretty sure you're, like most people, applying the word "misogynistic" wrong. If I say "xyz is a slut" it doesn't show a hate or dislike of women. If I call a person retarded, I am not hating on mankind. If I call a Jewish woman a slut I'm neither mysogynistic nor am I antisemetic. It needs the connection of "because she is a woman or Jewish she is xyz" to make a statement about those things.

Saying "I think it's disgusting that a woman draws attention to her videogame stream by shoving her boobs into the camera on a regular basis" isn't a misogynistic statement. It surely shows certain values, it surely tries to influence an opinion and behaviours but inherently it's not worse than "I think it's disgusting when a lawyer wears orange ties just because his boss loves the color".

What you refer to as "dominating her ability to be her own person" is completely natural in any kind of society. We as humans in general want others to fit in with our own personal world view. If the topic of God comes up and a Christian or Muslim have completely different viewpoints, when we discuss whether we think it's good or bad that beige is suddenly "in" is no different from saying that certain behaviours or the way someone dresses is a good or bad thing.

If you really want to do something against discrimination and misogyny then you should focus your energy on statements like "All women are sluts", "women belong into the kitchen" or a "women shouldn't be allowed to work/vote". Those are misogynistic statements. None of your examples are.


tl;dr: Just because someone has the right to do something doesn't make it a horrible thing for others to talk about it, especially when someone does it on public display.
"We don't make mistakes here, we call it happy little accidents." ~Bob Ross
yamato77
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
11589 Posts
May 02 2013 17:56 GMT
#423
On May 03 2013 01:19 Kimaker wrote:
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On May 03 2013 01:02 yamato77 wrote:
On May 03 2013 00:59 Kimaker wrote:
On May 03 2013 00:51 yamato77 wrote:
The fact that this thread has devolved to the point that people are placing blame on the woman who "puts herself out there" is quite discouraging for my opinion on the intelligence of the average TL forum goer. It's not a question of her conforming to the norms that internet society has created, it is a question of those norms at their base. There is no denying that females are regularly objectified on the internet. This practice is wrong, and it should be stopped.

Why?

Let me explain it as a series of questions.

Do you think women enjoy video games? If not, you're out of touch with reality. This is obvious.

Why do you think women enjoy video games? Do you think it's for the same reasons as men? Again, obviously. Not only are video games entertainment, but they have developed into being community facilitators. People develop games not only technologically now, but socially. Denying this is to ignore the immense popularity of games that create interaction. Any multiplayer game is inherently social.

So why should video game culture be exclusive to men? If women enjoy video games, why are they excluded from being a part of the social communities we create, whether that be YouTube contributors, Twitch streamers, TL writers, or even professional players? If you don't think they are excluded, read her article. It's not an isolated incident. If she can be driven to the point of nearly giving up on attempting to be a part of this gaming community by the comments and messages she is sent, it's painfully obvious that many other women feel the same way, and either haven't said anything or are being ignored.

Do you know what keeps the professional players, the casters, and the content creators going in their pursuit of achieving in a career in gaming? It's the fans. It's all of us, who are a de facto support system for those pioneers of gaming culture who provide the content we enjoy. People like Sean Plott keep making content for StarCraft not because there's money in it, whether there is or not, they keep making it because of their passion for the game, and for us, the fans. Our positive feedback keeps them motivated.

If all you're ever receiving is negative or degrading feedback, such as the comments of those articles, you will quit. If you don't, you'll be driven insane. Understand the lengths to which this woman went to NOT get objectified by this community. And it didn't work. Do you feel like this is acceptable? We at TL pride ourselves for being better than the average gaming community, and for the large part, we are. But reading this thread has made me realize that there are some biases that we still hold, and sexism is obviously one of them.

You all rationalize the wrongs she experiences on a day-to-day basis with "That's just the internet, of course people are going to say those things! She should ignore them, or accept them, because that's how the internet is." Why? Why should the internet be sexist? These comments reveal an ugly truth, that sexism is still pervasive in our society, but it's taken a new form. Just as it was legislated against and not tolerated in the physical world, we must not tolerate it in this digital one.

So next time, instead of accepting this as the norm of internet society, reject that idea. You are just as much a part of the internet as that guy who said he'd cum on her forehead. And if you don't reject that behavior and accept females int gaming culture, and the internet as a whole, you might as well be that guy. Is that who you want to be?

You are addressing the culture as a "thing" which can have intentions and be "good or bad". Only individuals can have those. The gaming culture of which you speak is simply an aggregate. As a player in this debate, it doesn't exist.


This entire argument is the macro vs. mirco debate in economics. It's Keynesian's vs. Austrians.

People are the culture. Without people, culture does not exist.

Wrong. People are people. The culture is the sum of those people's actions. Target their actions, not an intangible cognitive simplification which is nothing more than a symptom of their shitty actions.


I agree with your second statement.

For clarification on where I stand on all this, crying sexism is laughable. Saying, "People are being dicks, I'd appreciate it if they'd stop." is legitimate. People who blast this as sexism are equally at fault by extrapolation of the fact that they're targeting the gender of the troll's target, as opposed to simply telling off a snot-nosed little shit, or (even more beneficial) simply complimenting the lady and actively discussing her opinions while starving the trolls.

Crying sexism makes it an issue. Crying douchebag makes it solved.

What, to you, makes someone a troll over just being a "douchebag"? They are literally the same offense. If someone is insulting or badgering a woman with the equivalent of the old 4chan "tits or gtfo", I define that as sexism, AND a troll. Just because he's doing it to be an asshole does not mean it isn't sexist, because it is.

Also, defining them all as trolls ignores the blatant reality presented in the article that some of the comments show actual ignorance of what sexism is, just as you have displayed here. Any judgement made on a person that is precluded upon them being female, rather than being a person, is sexist, whether it is positive or negative.
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MrTortoise
Profile Joined January 2011
1388 Posts
May 02 2013 17:56 GMT
#424
If you dont want anonyminity on the web ... you can have it.

Its not hard.

So those arguments are really really retarded.

Being anonymous is something that you really shuold look after. Not wish it away because peopel dont seem to realise that haters are haters and they will hate on whatever characteristic makes you unique

be it being female, french, a midget ... the white guy in a black country.

Welcome to the real world. All you can do is talka bout it ... trying to effect change is just dumb. Change happens when enough people change their minds about things. Just talk about it.
AnomalySC2
Profile Joined August 2012
United States2073 Posts
May 02 2013 17:57 GMT
#425
On May 03 2013 01:50 Grumbels wrote:
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On May 03 2013 01:36 Jojo131 wrote:
If you're a girl with a YouTube channel, you'll get shat on.
If you're a fat person with a YouTube channel, you'll get shat on.
If you're a black/asian/Pakistani/etc guy with a YouTube channel, you'll get shat on.
If you're a gay guy with a YouTube channel, you'll get shat on.
If you're just a regular guy with a YouTube channel, you'll STILL get shat on.

What I hate about this article is that it's suggesting that the world/internet needs to make some special exception for women because "sexism on the internet" is somehow worse or requires more action compared to all the other reasons someone could be shitting on you over the internet like racism, fat intolerance, homophobia etc.

Nobody gives a shit when people rip on Boogie2988 for being overweight, or for ZJemptv's sexual identity, so why do people care when it comes to people ripping on girl123 for being a girl?

The internet is literally the one place where "comments" made against you probably shouldn't be taken seriously. Most of the time people already know this, then other times... articles like this.

"when the gender of an online username looks female, they are 25 times more likely to experience harassment"


I'll take a guess at it. The internet is a nice escape for sexually frustrated men. Also, the easily and readily available porn that becomes increasingly more, hrmm how to put this, 'extreme?', both probably attribute to the hostility women receive online.
KwarK
Profile Blog Joined July 2006
United States42270 Posts
May 02 2013 17:57 GMT
#426
On May 03 2013 02:55 xM(Z wrote:
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On May 03 2013 02:49 KwarK wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:38 xM(Z wrote:
about the rape following a win (in battle, match, or w/e) it's was not done as an act of dominance. the winers already dominated the losers, dominating the weaker sex too would not be at all fulfilling.
raping was just a way to spread the genes, the genes of the winers. it's what lions are still doing now.
it's a basic evolutionary mechanic shared by some species: come, conquer, kill infants, spread own genes, defend them as much as you can or until you are ousted.

Humans aren't lions.

humans aren't aliens either. the same evolutionary mechanics are share by different species just because.

You're suggesting that an act that happens as part of warfare has some relation to evolution. Warfare is so recent it has no evolutionary impact. Furthermore the failure to provide for the women at all after rape, for example burning the town and taking the food, implies no reproductive motive.

Again, humans aren't lions. Lions have evolved to be good at doing lion behaviour. Humans choose to do human behaviour independently of evolution.
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KwarK
Profile Blog Joined July 2006
United States42270 Posts
May 02 2013 18:01 GMT
#427
On May 03 2013 02:56 r.Evo wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 03 2013 02:41 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:35 Mothra wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:24 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:16 Simberto wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:09 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:03 Simberto wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:49 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:45 discomatt wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:39 Thieving Magpie wrote:
By controlling female sexuality we maintain the masculine sexual dominance of female ownership. There's a reason we say "rape and pillage" when we talk about war because we equate rape with the act of domination--specifically with masculine domination.


"Rape and pillage" is a literal term. It's not uncommon for the civilian population to be tortured/slain/raped after being defeated.


Yes... as I said... we equate rape with domination... we kill off the men and have our way with the civilians... ie, domination...

There's a reason we call it rape and not really unfortunate sex accident.


That is because that is the definition of rape. Rape is forcing sex onto someone. Not an accident. And domination is obviously a large part of that, because you need to be in a dominant position to do that. And the way our bodies work makes it a lot easier for a man to rape someone than for a woman.

I am not quite sure what your point is.


Because you didn't read what I wrote I will quote myself.

we equate rape with the act of domination


Discomatt then implied "rape and pillage" is a throwaway phrase only relevant in war. Which is why I said "equate" as in to compare to things and see them as similar.

He was responding to my post wherein I was talking about the misogynistic tendencies of american culture to use the term fuck to mean domination--ie rape. As in an event either fucks us over or we fuck over something we dominate. Because we use that rape/fuck mindset in everyday affairs we also project that onto other people--ie rape culture. Where we dominate the feminine with the masculine.


I read what you wrote. You are just not making a lot of obvious sense to me. I still don't quite get your point. We equate rape with domination. Yes. That is because domination is a large part of rape. What are you getting at with this? You are stating this like it is some kind of grand discovery. Is your point that fucking/raping something is used as an allegory for domination, which means...something?


I'm saying misogyny is about domination--not about how much/little clothes a woman wears or how sexual she is.

I'm saying things aren't sexist *because* people who stream are showing their boobs I'm saying it's sexist when women are told how to look and act and defined by how much they fit that standard. I'm saying that misogyny is the domination of the female identity. I'm saying rape, is the domination of the female. I'm saying that terms like "tits or gtfo" is about the domination of the female and phrases like "good job on not being slutty" is the domination of the female.

When we set the parameters for how a person should or shouldn't act--we are being misogynists.


So it is misogynist to tell people they shouldn't act misogynist.


When you are telling a woman how she should behave/dress/act/be instead of letting her just be herself be it slutty or prudish--you're being misogynistic. Because you are dominating her ability to be her own person.

If she wants to get on twitch, take off her top and ask guys to tell her how sexy she is--then it's her right to do it.

If she wants to just stream herself playing mario games--then its her right to do it.

People who try to shame a woman who loves having sex by calling her a slut is misogynistic because they are dictating how that person should act.

People who try to shame a woman who likes playing videogames as being a prude for not showing her tits are being misogynistic because they are dictating how that person should act.

Telling someone not be misogynistic has nothing to do with telling them how to be a person. It is telling them that they are intruding on someone's rights. When I tell them to stop being misogynistic they don't need to change their style of clothes, the way they present themselves, their sexual activity, their anything. It literally is telling them to stop attacking another human being.

First of all I'm pretty sure you're, like most people, applying the word "misogynistic" wrong. If I say "xyz is a slut" it doesn't show a hate or dislike of women. If I call a person retarded, I am not hating on mankind. If I call a Jewish woman a slut I'm neither mysogynistic nor am I antisemetic.

Saying "I think it's disgusting that a woman draws attention to her videogame stream by shoving her boobs into the camera on a regular basis" isn't a misogynistic statement. It surely shows certain values, it surely tries to influence an opinion and behaviours but inherently it's not worse than "I think it's disgusting when a lawyer wears orange ties just because his boss loves the color".

What you refer to as "dominating her ability to be her own person" is completely natural in any kind of society. We as humans in general want others to fit in with our own personal world view. If the topic of God comes up and a Christian or Muslim have completely different viewpoints, when we discuss whether we think it's good or bad that beige is suddenly "in" is no different from saying that certain behaviours or the way someone dresses is a good or bad thing.

If you really want to do something against discrimination and misogyny then you should focus your energy on statements like "All women are sluts", "women belong into the kitchen" or a "women shouldn't be allowed to work/vote". Those are misogynistic statements. None of your examples are.


tl;dr: Just because someone has the right to do something doesn't make it a horrible thing for others to talk about it, especially when someone does it on public display.

Slut generally has a negative meaning and vilifying female sexuality is misogynistic. Shaming someone for not meeting your ideas of what a woman should be when those ideas are based on female sexual repression is misogynistic. Maybe it wouldn't be if female sexuality didn't have a long history of gender based repression involved on it but equally maybe nigger would be a perfectly reasonable way of identifying a black person if it hadn't been for racism. Either way, slut shaming is misogynistic.
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dUTtrOACh
Profile Joined December 2010
Canada2339 Posts
May 02 2013 18:01 GMT
#428
So this is what I'm getting from the pages and pages of discussion:

Person has viewers.

Percentage of viewers are immature and like to make sexist jokes.

Person can't take a joke.

Person takes the jokes personally.

Person doesn't realize the internet is full of this type of behaviour.

I don't get it. She has the power to moderate her chat, and give other people the power to moderate her chat. All this sexism shit that hurts her feelings so much can be simply banned / ignored. What I'm getting from this is someone extremely sheltered with an immense sense of entitlement is unhappy about having enough viewers that she can pick and choose which ones to keep and which ones to let go. Utter bullshit.

The internet is full of pencil-dicked jokers and other insensitive people. Just learn to live with it. Look at each trollish viewer as a potential source of ad revenue, and otherwise treat them like the shit they are: ban them - good riddance.
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farvacola
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
United States18820 Posts
May 02 2013 18:03 GMT
#429
On May 03 2013 02:56 r.Evo wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 03 2013 02:41 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:35 Mothra wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:24 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:16 Simberto wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:09 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:03 Simberto wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:49 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:45 discomatt wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:39 Thieving Magpie wrote:
By controlling female sexuality we maintain the masculine sexual dominance of female ownership. There's a reason we say "rape and pillage" when we talk about war because we equate rape with the act of domination--specifically with masculine domination.


"Rape and pillage" is a literal term. It's not uncommon for the civilian population to be tortured/slain/raped after being defeated.


Yes... as I said... we equate rape with domination... we kill off the men and have our way with the civilians... ie, domination...

There's a reason we call it rape and not really unfortunate sex accident.


That is because that is the definition of rape. Rape is forcing sex onto someone. Not an accident. And domination is obviously a large part of that, because you need to be in a dominant position to do that. And the way our bodies work makes it a lot easier for a man to rape someone than for a woman.

I am not quite sure what your point is.


Because you didn't read what I wrote I will quote myself.

we equate rape with the act of domination


Discomatt then implied "rape and pillage" is a throwaway phrase only relevant in war. Which is why I said "equate" as in to compare to things and see them as similar.

He was responding to my post wherein I was talking about the misogynistic tendencies of american culture to use the term fuck to mean domination--ie rape. As in an event either fucks us over or we fuck over something we dominate. Because we use that rape/fuck mindset in everyday affairs we also project that onto other people--ie rape culture. Where we dominate the feminine with the masculine.


I read what you wrote. You are just not making a lot of obvious sense to me. I still don't quite get your point. We equate rape with domination. Yes. That is because domination is a large part of rape. What are you getting at with this? You are stating this like it is some kind of grand discovery. Is your point that fucking/raping something is used as an allegory for domination, which means...something?


I'm saying misogyny is about domination--not about how much/little clothes a woman wears or how sexual she is.

I'm saying things aren't sexist *because* people who stream are showing their boobs I'm saying it's sexist when women are told how to look and act and defined by how much they fit that standard. I'm saying that misogyny is the domination of the female identity. I'm saying rape, is the domination of the female. I'm saying that terms like "tits or gtfo" is about the domination of the female and phrases like "good job on not being slutty" is the domination of the female.

When we set the parameters for how a person should or shouldn't act--we are being misogynists.


So it is misogynist to tell people they shouldn't act misogynist.


When you are telling a woman how she should behave/dress/act/be instead of letting her just be herself be it slutty or prudish--you're being misogynistic. Because you are dominating her ability to be her own person.

If she wants to get on twitch, take off her top and ask guys to tell her how sexy she is--then it's her right to do it.

If she wants to just stream herself playing mario games--then its her right to do it.

People who try to shame a woman who loves having sex by calling her a slut is misogynistic because they are dictating how that person should act.

People who try to shame a woman who likes playing videogames as being a prude for not showing her tits are being misogynistic because they are dictating how that person should act.

Telling someone not be misogynistic has nothing to do with telling them how to be a person. It is telling them that they are intruding on someone's rights. When I tell them to stop being misogynistic they don't need to change their style of clothes, the way they present themselves, their sexual activity, their anything. It literally is telling them to stop attacking another human being.

First of all I'm pretty sure you're, like most people, applying the word "misogynistic" wrong. If I say "xyz is a slut" it doesn't show a hate or dislike of women. If I call a person retarded, I am not hating on mankind. If I call a Jewish woman a slut I'm neither mysogynistic nor am I antisemetic.

Under what pretense are you the gatekeeper of connotation? Words are not defined solely in the mind of the speaker, they operate in the public space, and in the public space, slut tends to mean sexually promiscuous woman. Now you can make the argument for the need to absolve these words and phrases through education and changes in social attitude, but to use the word as is is to further perpetrate stereotypes.
"when the Dead Kennedys found out they had skinhead fans, they literally wrote a song titled 'Nazi Punks Fuck Off'"
yamato77
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
11589 Posts
May 02 2013 18:04 GMT
#430
On May 03 2013 03:01 dUTtrOACh wrote:
So this is what I'm getting from the pages and pages of discussion:

Person has viewers.

Percentage of viewers are immature and like to make sexist jokes.

Person can't take a joke.

Person takes the jokes personally.

Person doesn't realize the internet is full of this type of behaviour.

I don't get it. She has the power to moderate her chat, and give other people the power to moderate her chat. All this sexism shit that hurts her feelings so much can be simply banned / ignored. What I'm getting from this is someone extremely sheltered with an immense sense of entitlement is unhappy about having enough viewers that she can pick and choose which ones to keep and which ones to let go. Utter bullshit.

The internet is full of pencil-dicked jokers and other insensitive people. Just learn to live with it. Look at each trollish viewer as a potential source of ad revenue, and otherwise treat them like the shit they are: ban them - good riddance.

This "learn to live with it" notion is idiotic.

No one wants to, or should have to live with daily harassment of themselves for anything, most of all something so basic as their gender, which is completely out of their control.
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porkRaven
Profile Joined December 2010
United States953 Posts
May 02 2013 18:05 GMT
#431
I personally enjoyed the article and her the small bit of her story that she shared, although I do think that there wasn't enough emphasis on the ending of her piece; a firm and explicit call to action would have been more persuasive and perhaps even bring about change.
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Thieving Magpie
Profile Blog Joined December 2012
United States6752 Posts
May 02 2013 18:05 GMT
#432
On May 03 2013 02:56 r.Evo wrote:
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On May 03 2013 02:41 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:35 Mothra wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:24 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:16 Simberto wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:09 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:03 Simberto wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:49 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:45 discomatt wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:39 Thieving Magpie wrote:
By controlling female sexuality we maintain the masculine sexual dominance of female ownership. There's a reason we say "rape and pillage" when we talk about war because we equate rape with the act of domination--specifically with masculine domination.


"Rape and pillage" is a literal term. It's not uncommon for the civilian population to be tortured/slain/raped after being defeated.


Yes... as I said... we equate rape with domination... we kill off the men and have our way with the civilians... ie, domination...

There's a reason we call it rape and not really unfortunate sex accident.


That is because that is the definition of rape. Rape is forcing sex onto someone. Not an accident. And domination is obviously a large part of that, because you need to be in a dominant position to do that. And the way our bodies work makes it a lot easier for a man to rape someone than for a woman.

I am not quite sure what your point is.


Because you didn't read what I wrote I will quote myself.

we equate rape with the act of domination


Discomatt then implied "rape and pillage" is a throwaway phrase only relevant in war. Which is why I said "equate" as in to compare to things and see them as similar.

He was responding to my post wherein I was talking about the misogynistic tendencies of american culture to use the term fuck to mean domination--ie rape. As in an event either fucks us over or we fuck over something we dominate. Because we use that rape/fuck mindset in everyday affairs we also project that onto other people--ie rape culture. Where we dominate the feminine with the masculine.


I read what you wrote. You are just not making a lot of obvious sense to me. I still don't quite get your point. We equate rape with domination. Yes. That is because domination is a large part of rape. What are you getting at with this? You are stating this like it is some kind of grand discovery. Is your point that fucking/raping something is used as an allegory for domination, which means...something?


I'm saying misogyny is about domination--not about how much/little clothes a woman wears or how sexual she is.

I'm saying things aren't sexist *because* people who stream are showing their boobs I'm saying it's sexist when women are told how to look and act and defined by how much they fit that standard. I'm saying that misogyny is the domination of the female identity. I'm saying rape, is the domination of the female. I'm saying that terms like "tits or gtfo" is about the domination of the female and phrases like "good job on not being slutty" is the domination of the female.

When we set the parameters for how a person should or shouldn't act--we are being misogynists.


So it is misogynist to tell people they shouldn't act misogynist.


When you are telling a woman how she should behave/dress/act/be instead of letting her just be herself be it slutty or prudish--you're being misogynistic. Because you are dominating her ability to be her own person.

If she wants to get on twitch, take off her top and ask guys to tell her how sexy she is--then it's her right to do it.

If she wants to just stream herself playing mario games--then its her right to do it.

People who try to shame a woman who loves having sex by calling her a slut is misogynistic because they are dictating how that person should act.

People who try to shame a woman who likes playing videogames as being a prude for not showing her tits are being misogynistic because they are dictating how that person should act.

Telling someone not be misogynistic has nothing to do with telling them how to be a person. It is telling them that they are intruding on someone's rights. When I tell them to stop being misogynistic they don't need to change their style of clothes, the way they present themselves, their sexual activity, their anything. It literally is telling them to stop attacking another human being.

First of all I'm pretty sure you're, like most people, applying the word "misogynistic" wrong. If I say "xyz is a slut" it doesn't show a hate or dislike of women. If I call a person retarded, I am not hating on mankind. If I call a Jewish woman a slut I'm neither mysogynistic nor am I antisemetic. It needs the connection of "because she is a woman or Jewish she is xyz" to make a statement about those things.

Saying "I think it's disgusting that a woman draws attention to her videogame stream by shoving her boobs into the camera on a regular basis" isn't a misogynistic statement. It surely shows certain values, it surely tries to influence an opinion and behaviours but inherently it's not worse than "I think it's disgusting when a lawyer wears orange ties just because his boss loves the color".

What you refer to as "dominating her ability to be her own person" is completely natural in any kind of society. We as humans in general want others to fit in with our own personal world view. If the topic of God comes up and a Christian or Muslim have completely different viewpoints, when we discuss whether we think it's good or bad that beige is suddenly "in" is no different from saying that certain behaviours or the way someone dresses is a good or bad thing.

If you really want to do something against discrimination and misogyny then you should focus your energy on statements like "All women are sluts", "women belong into the kitchen" or a "women shouldn't be allowed to work/vote". Those are misogynistic statements. None of your examples are.


tl;dr: Just because someone has the right to do something doesn't make it a horrible thing for others to talk about it, especially when someone does it on public display.


There's a difference between talking about a lifestyle, and attacking someone for their lifestyle.

When we say a woman is a slut--we are equating women being sexually free as a negative.
When we say a person is retarded--we are equating mental problems with being less human.
When we say that a jewish woman is a slut--we are equating women being sexually free as a negative.

Being able to make those associations is what makes it misogynistic. Being able to equate "sexually active female" as a derogatory term is being misogynistic because it literally is being able to equate a woman being able to do something for herself as a negative modifier.

We don't get insulted by orange ties because we don't equate orange ties with derogatory remarks. We do equate the word slut as a derogatory remark. Because we equate a woman's freedom of sexuality as a derogatory remark.
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Clearout
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
Norway1060 Posts
May 02 2013 18:07 GMT
#433
This is a good piece on why some men may have the attitudes they have towards women. Never mind it being on a humour site, it's quite thought inspiring
http://www.cracked.com/article_19785_5-ways-modern-men-are-trained-to-hate-women.html
really?
helvete
Profile Joined September 2010
Sweden276 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-05-02 18:07:53
May 02 2013 18:07 GMT
#434
On May 03 2013 02:57 KwarK wrote:
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On May 03 2013 02:55 xM(Z wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:49 KwarK wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:38 xM(Z wrote:
about the rape following a win (in battle, match, or w/e) it's was not done as an act of dominance. the winers already dominated the losers, dominating the weaker sex too would not be at all fulfilling.
raping was just a way to spread the genes, the genes of the winers. it's what lions are still doing now.
it's a basic evolutionary mechanic shared by some species: come, conquer, kill infants, spread own genes, defend them as much as you can or until you are ousted.

Humans aren't lions.

humans aren't aliens either. the same evolutionary mechanics are share by different species just because.

You're suggesting that an act that happens as part of warfare has some relation to evolution. Warfare is so recent it has no evolutionary impact. Furthermore the failure to provide for the women at all after rape, for example burning the town and taking the food, implies no reproductive motive.

Again, humans aren't lions. Lions have evolved to be good at doing lion behaviour. Humans choose to do human behaviour independently of evolution.

Those are the most absurd statements I've read all week! We were fighting other tribes, and impregnating their women, long before there was a word for it.
farvacola
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
United States18820 Posts
May 02 2013 18:09 GMT
#435
On May 03 2013 03:07 helvete wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 03 2013 02:57 KwarK wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:55 xM(Z wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:49 KwarK wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:38 xM(Z wrote:
about the rape following a win (in battle, match, or w/e) it's was not done as an act of dominance. the winers already dominated the losers, dominating the weaker sex too would not be at all fulfilling.
raping was just a way to spread the genes, the genes of the winers. it's what lions are still doing now.
it's a basic evolutionary mechanic shared by some species: come, conquer, kill infants, spread own genes, defend them as much as you can or until you are ousted.

Humans aren't lions.

humans aren't aliens either. the same evolutionary mechanics are share by different species just because.

You're suggesting that an act that happens as part of warfare has some relation to evolution. Warfare is so recent it has no evolutionary impact. Furthermore the failure to provide for the women at all after rape, for example burning the town and taking the food, implies no reproductive motive.

Again, humans aren't lions. Lions have evolved to be good at doing lion behaviour. Humans choose to do human behaviour independently of evolution.

Those are the most absurd statements I've read all week! We were fighting other tribes, and impregnating their women, long before there was a word for it.

And that is still not long for evolutionary pressures to manifest in meaningful ways.
"when the Dead Kennedys found out they had skinhead fans, they literally wrote a song titled 'Nazi Punks Fuck Off'"
Mothra
Profile Blog Joined November 2009
United States1448 Posts
May 02 2013 18:11 GMT
#436
On May 03 2013 02:56 yamato77 wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 03 2013 01:19 Kimaker wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:02 yamato77 wrote:
On May 03 2013 00:59 Kimaker wrote:
On May 03 2013 00:51 yamato77 wrote:
The fact that this thread has devolved to the point that people are placing blame on the woman who "puts herself out there" is quite discouraging for my opinion on the intelligence of the average TL forum goer. It's not a question of her conforming to the norms that internet society has created, it is a question of those norms at their base. There is no denying that females are regularly objectified on the internet. This practice is wrong, and it should be stopped.

Why?

Let me explain it as a series of questions.

Do you think women enjoy video games? If not, you're out of touch with reality. This is obvious.

Why do you think women enjoy video games? Do you think it's for the same reasons as men? Again, obviously. Not only are video games entertainment, but they have developed into being community facilitators. People develop games not only technologically now, but socially. Denying this is to ignore the immense popularity of games that create interaction. Any multiplayer game is inherently social.

So why should video game culture be exclusive to men? If women enjoy video games, why are they excluded from being a part of the social communities we create, whether that be YouTube contributors, Twitch streamers, TL writers, or even professional players? If you don't think they are excluded, read her article. It's not an isolated incident. If she can be driven to the point of nearly giving up on attempting to be a part of this gaming community by the comments and messages she is sent, it's painfully obvious that many other women feel the same way, and either haven't said anything or are being ignored.

Do you know what keeps the professional players, the casters, and the content creators going in their pursuit of achieving in a career in gaming? It's the fans. It's all of us, who are a de facto support system for those pioneers of gaming culture who provide the content we enjoy. People like Sean Plott keep making content for StarCraft not because there's money in it, whether there is or not, they keep making it because of their passion for the game, and for us, the fans. Our positive feedback keeps them motivated.

If all you're ever receiving is negative or degrading feedback, such as the comments of those articles, you will quit. If you don't, you'll be driven insane. Understand the lengths to which this woman went to NOT get objectified by this community. And it didn't work. Do you feel like this is acceptable? We at TL pride ourselves for being better than the average gaming community, and for the large part, we are. But reading this thread has made me realize that there are some biases that we still hold, and sexism is obviously one of them.

You all rationalize the wrongs she experiences on a day-to-day basis with "That's just the internet, of course people are going to say those things! She should ignore them, or accept them, because that's how the internet is." Why? Why should the internet be sexist? These comments reveal an ugly truth, that sexism is still pervasive in our society, but it's taken a new form. Just as it was legislated against and not tolerated in the physical world, we must not tolerate it in this digital one.

So next time, instead of accepting this as the norm of internet society, reject that idea. You are just as much a part of the internet as that guy who said he'd cum on her forehead. And if you don't reject that behavior and accept females int gaming culture, and the internet as a whole, you might as well be that guy. Is that who you want to be?

You are addressing the culture as a "thing" which can have intentions and be "good or bad". Only individuals can have those. The gaming culture of which you speak is simply an aggregate. As a player in this debate, it doesn't exist.


This entire argument is the macro vs. mirco debate in economics. It's Keynesian's vs. Austrians.

People are the culture. Without people, culture does not exist.

Wrong. People are people. The culture is the sum of those people's actions. Target their actions, not an intangible cognitive simplification which is nothing more than a symptom of their shitty actions.


I agree with your second statement.

For clarification on where I stand on all this, crying sexism is laughable. Saying, "People are being dicks, I'd appreciate it if they'd stop." is legitimate. People who blast this as sexism are equally at fault by extrapolation of the fact that they're targeting the gender of the troll's target, as opposed to simply telling off a snot-nosed little shit, or (even more beneficial) simply complimenting the lady and actively discussing her opinions while starving the trolls.

Crying sexism makes it an issue. Crying douchebag makes it solved.

What, to you, makes someone a troll over just being a "douchebag"? They are literally the same offense. If someone is insulting or badgering a woman with the equivalent of the old 4chan "tits or gtfo", I define that as sexism, AND a troll. Just because he's doing it to be an asshole does not mean it isn't sexist, because it is.

Also, defining them all as trolls ignores the blatant reality presented in the article that some of the comments show actual ignorance of what sexism is, just as you have displayed here. Any judgement made on a person that is precluded upon them being female, rather than being a person, is sexist, whether it is positive or negative.


What does "judgement made on a person that is precluded upon them being female" mean? Preclude is "to make impossible" or "prevent". Perhaps some examples of what is an what is not sexism might be more helpful.
NoobSkills
Profile Joined August 2009
United States1597 Posts
May 02 2013 18:11 GMT
#437
On May 03 2013 02:56 yamato77 wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 03 2013 01:19 Kimaker wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:02 yamato77 wrote:
On May 03 2013 00:59 Kimaker wrote:
On May 03 2013 00:51 yamato77 wrote:
The fact that this thread has devolved to the point that people are placing blame on the woman who "puts herself out there" is quite discouraging for my opinion on the intelligence of the average TL forum goer. It's not a question of her conforming to the norms that internet society has created, it is a question of those norms at their base. There is no denying that females are regularly objectified on the internet. This practice is wrong, and it should be stopped.

Why?

Let me explain it as a series of questions.

Do you think women enjoy video games? If not, you're out of touch with reality. This is obvious.

Why do you think women enjoy video games? Do you think it's for the same reasons as men? Again, obviously. Not only are video games entertainment, but they have developed into being community facilitators. People develop games not only technologically now, but socially. Denying this is to ignore the immense popularity of games that create interaction. Any multiplayer game is inherently social.

So why should video game culture be exclusive to men? If women enjoy video games, why are they excluded from being a part of the social communities we create, whether that be YouTube contributors, Twitch streamers, TL writers, or even professional players? If you don't think they are excluded, read her article. It's not an isolated incident. If she can be driven to the point of nearly giving up on attempting to be a part of this gaming community by the comments and messages she is sent, it's painfully obvious that many other women feel the same way, and either haven't said anything or are being ignored.

Do you know what keeps the professional players, the casters, and the content creators going in their pursuit of achieving in a career in gaming? It's the fans. It's all of us, who are a de facto support system for those pioneers of gaming culture who provide the content we enjoy. People like Sean Plott keep making content for StarCraft not because there's money in it, whether there is or not, they keep making it because of their passion for the game, and for us, the fans. Our positive feedback keeps them motivated.

If all you're ever receiving is negative or degrading feedback, such as the comments of those articles, you will quit. If you don't, you'll be driven insane. Understand the lengths to which this woman went to NOT get objectified by this community. And it didn't work. Do you feel like this is acceptable? We at TL pride ourselves for being better than the average gaming community, and for the large part, we are. But reading this thread has made me realize that there are some biases that we still hold, and sexism is obviously one of them.

You all rationalize the wrongs she experiences on a day-to-day basis with "That's just the internet, of course people are going to say those things! She should ignore them, or accept them, because that's how the internet is." Why? Why should the internet be sexist? These comments reveal an ugly truth, that sexism is still pervasive in our society, but it's taken a new form. Just as it was legislated against and not tolerated in the physical world, we must not tolerate it in this digital one.

So next time, instead of accepting this as the norm of internet society, reject that idea. You are just as much a part of the internet as that guy who said he'd cum on her forehead. And if you don't reject that behavior and accept females int gaming culture, and the internet as a whole, you might as well be that guy. Is that who you want to be?

You are addressing the culture as a "thing" which can have intentions and be "good or bad". Only individuals can have those. The gaming culture of which you speak is simply an aggregate. As a player in this debate, it doesn't exist.


This entire argument is the macro vs. mirco debate in economics. It's Keynesian's vs. Austrians.

People are the culture. Without people, culture does not exist.

Wrong. People are people. The culture is the sum of those people's actions. Target their actions, not an intangible cognitive simplification which is nothing more than a symptom of their shitty actions.


I agree with your second statement.

For clarification on where I stand on all this, crying sexism is laughable. Saying, "People are being dicks, I'd appreciate it if they'd stop." is legitimate. People who blast this as sexism are equally at fault by extrapolation of the fact that they're targeting the gender of the troll's target, as opposed to simply telling off a snot-nosed little shit, or (even more beneficial) simply complimenting the lady and actively discussing her opinions while starving the trolls.

Crying sexism makes it an issue. Crying douchebag makes it solved.

What, to you, makes someone a troll over just being a "douchebag"? They are literally the same offense. If someone is insulting or badgering a woman with the equivalent of the old 4chan "tits or gtfo", I define that as sexism, AND a troll. Just because he's doing it to be an asshole does not mean it isn't sexist, because it is.

Also, defining them all as trolls ignores the blatant reality presented in the article that some of the comments show actual ignorance of what sexism is, just as you have displayed here. Any judgement made on a person that is precluded upon them being female, rather than being a person, is sexist, whether it is positive or negative.


If your goal is to make someone mad online, then you're going to say whatever you can to get them there. If I were to call a black man the N- word in an attempt to make him angry it isn't a given that I hate black people. I don't really appreciate this dumbed down level of trolling which takes no skill and isn't even funny, but I don't think you can label an internet a sexist just because their remarks are used by sexists. Every troll doesn't actually believe women are inferior, belong in the kitched, tits or gtfo, but instead every troll does believe in trying to get a rise out of someone, so they will say whatever it takes. In the end it doesn't matter if you define them though as just a troll or a troll who is actually sexist, because in this given scenario the pure troll isn't good at what he is doing and the troll that is actually sexist is an ignorant fuck who also doesn't know what he is doing.
r.Evo
Profile Joined August 2006
Germany14080 Posts
May 02 2013 18:12 GMT
#438
On May 03 2013 03:01 KwarK wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 03 2013 02:56 r.Evo wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:41 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:35 Mothra wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:24 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:16 Simberto wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:09 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 02:03 Simberto wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:49 Thieving Magpie wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:45 discomatt wrote:
[quote]

"Rape and pillage" is a literal term. It's not uncommon for the civilian population to be tortured/slain/raped after being defeated.


Yes... as I said... we equate rape with domination... we kill off the men and have our way with the civilians... ie, domination...

There's a reason we call it rape and not really unfortunate sex accident.


That is because that is the definition of rape. Rape is forcing sex onto someone. Not an accident. And domination is obviously a large part of that, because you need to be in a dominant position to do that. And the way our bodies work makes it a lot easier for a man to rape someone than for a woman.

I am not quite sure what your point is.


Because you didn't read what I wrote I will quote myself.

we equate rape with the act of domination


Discomatt then implied "rape and pillage" is a throwaway phrase only relevant in war. Which is why I said "equate" as in to compare to things and see them as similar.

He was responding to my post wherein I was talking about the misogynistic tendencies of american culture to use the term fuck to mean domination--ie rape. As in an event either fucks us over or we fuck over something we dominate. Because we use that rape/fuck mindset in everyday affairs we also project that onto other people--ie rape culture. Where we dominate the feminine with the masculine.


I read what you wrote. You are just not making a lot of obvious sense to me. I still don't quite get your point. We equate rape with domination. Yes. That is because domination is a large part of rape. What are you getting at with this? You are stating this like it is some kind of grand discovery. Is your point that fucking/raping something is used as an allegory for domination, which means...something?


I'm saying misogyny is about domination--not about how much/little clothes a woman wears or how sexual she is.

I'm saying things aren't sexist *because* people who stream are showing their boobs I'm saying it's sexist when women are told how to look and act and defined by how much they fit that standard. I'm saying that misogyny is the domination of the female identity. I'm saying rape, is the domination of the female. I'm saying that terms like "tits or gtfo" is about the domination of the female and phrases like "good job on not being slutty" is the domination of the female.

When we set the parameters for how a person should or shouldn't act--we are being misogynists.


So it is misogynist to tell people they shouldn't act misogynist.


When you are telling a woman how she should behave/dress/act/be instead of letting her just be herself be it slutty or prudish--you're being misogynistic. Because you are dominating her ability to be her own person.

If she wants to get on twitch, take off her top and ask guys to tell her how sexy she is--then it's her right to do it.

If she wants to just stream herself playing mario games--then its her right to do it.

People who try to shame a woman who loves having sex by calling her a slut is misogynistic because they are dictating how that person should act.

People who try to shame a woman who likes playing videogames as being a prude for not showing her tits are being misogynistic because they are dictating how that person should act.

Telling someone not be misogynistic has nothing to do with telling them how to be a person. It is telling them that they are intruding on someone's rights. When I tell them to stop being misogynistic they don't need to change their style of clothes, the way they present themselves, their sexual activity, their anything. It literally is telling them to stop attacking another human being.

First of all I'm pretty sure you're, like most people, applying the word "misogynistic" wrong. If I say "xyz is a slut" it doesn't show a hate or dislike of women. If I call a person retarded, I am not hating on mankind. If I call a Jewish woman a slut I'm neither mysogynistic nor am I antisemetic.

Saying "I think it's disgusting that a woman draws attention to her videogame stream by shoving her boobs into the camera on a regular basis" isn't a misogynistic statement. It surely shows certain values, it surely tries to influence an opinion and behaviours but inherently it's not worse than "I think it's disgusting when a lawyer wears orange ties just because his boss loves the color".

What you refer to as "dominating her ability to be her own person" is completely natural in any kind of society. We as humans in general want others to fit in with our own personal world view. If the topic of God comes up and a Christian or Muslim have completely different viewpoints, when we discuss whether we think it's good or bad that beige is suddenly "in" is no different from saying that certain behaviours or the way someone dresses is a good or bad thing.

If you really want to do something against discrimination and misogyny then you should focus your energy on statements like "All women are sluts", "women belong into the kitchen" or a "women shouldn't be allowed to work/vote". Those are misogynistic statements. None of your examples are.


tl;dr: Just because someone has the right to do something doesn't make it a horrible thing for others to talk about it, especially when someone does it on public display.

Slut generally has a negative meaning and vilifying female sexuality is misogynistic. Shaming someone for not meeting your ideas of what a woman should be when those ideas are based on female sexual repression is misogynistic. Maybe it wouldn't be if female sexuality didn't have a long history of gender based repression involved on it but equally maybe nigger would be a perfectly reasonable way of identifying a black person if it hadn't been for racism. Either way, slut shaming is misogynistic.

I completely agree with slut shaming.

As for the word itself I don't think using it as a way of saying "he/she is, in my opinion, having way too much sexual intercourse" (which it essentially implies) is a bad thing. I'd still call it stupid, but we don't call someone saying "I think praying three times per day is stupid" a prayer-hater either. If the implication is "she (sic) is banging more guys than she, as a woman, should be allowed to for her own good" I'd also agree with it being misogynistic.

I have to admit though that since I hear the word much more often in BDSM/poly related communities than from random people with the implied slut-shaming context that my view might be skewed towards that. It's extremely common in those communities to use it in a positive context.
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DeepElemBlues
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
United States5079 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-05-02 18:13:47
May 02 2013 18:12 GMT
#439
Teenage boys and young men are walking talking erections, more breaking news from 200,000 BC after these commercials, where all the men have flat stomachs and all the women are least a C cup.
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yamato77
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May 02 2013 18:13 GMT
#440
On May 03 2013 03:11 Mothra wrote:
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On May 03 2013 02:56 yamato77 wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:19 Kimaker wrote:
On May 03 2013 01:02 yamato77 wrote:
On May 03 2013 00:59 Kimaker wrote:
On May 03 2013 00:51 yamato77 wrote:
The fact that this thread has devolved to the point that people are placing blame on the woman who "puts herself out there" is quite discouraging for my opinion on the intelligence of the average TL forum goer. It's not a question of her conforming to the norms that internet society has created, it is a question of those norms at their base. There is no denying that females are regularly objectified on the internet. This practice is wrong, and it should be stopped.

Why?

Let me explain it as a series of questions.

Do you think women enjoy video games? If not, you're out of touch with reality. This is obvious.

Why do you think women enjoy video games? Do you think it's for the same reasons as men? Again, obviously. Not only are video games entertainment, but they have developed into being community facilitators. People develop games not only technologically now, but socially. Denying this is to ignore the immense popularity of games that create interaction. Any multiplayer game is inherently social.

So why should video game culture be exclusive to men? If women enjoy video games, why are they excluded from being a part of the social communities we create, whether that be YouTube contributors, Twitch streamers, TL writers, or even professional players? If you don't think they are excluded, read her article. It's not an isolated incident. If she can be driven to the point of nearly giving up on attempting to be a part of this gaming community by the comments and messages she is sent, it's painfully obvious that many other women feel the same way, and either haven't said anything or are being ignored.

Do you know what keeps the professional players, the casters, and the content creators going in their pursuit of achieving in a career in gaming? It's the fans. It's all of us, who are a de facto support system for those pioneers of gaming culture who provide the content we enjoy. People like Sean Plott keep making content for StarCraft not because there's money in it, whether there is or not, they keep making it because of their passion for the game, and for us, the fans. Our positive feedback keeps them motivated.

If all you're ever receiving is negative or degrading feedback, such as the comments of those articles, you will quit. If you don't, you'll be driven insane. Understand the lengths to which this woman went to NOT get objectified by this community. And it didn't work. Do you feel like this is acceptable? We at TL pride ourselves for being better than the average gaming community, and for the large part, we are. But reading this thread has made me realize that there are some biases that we still hold, and sexism is obviously one of them.

You all rationalize the wrongs she experiences on a day-to-day basis with "That's just the internet, of course people are going to say those things! She should ignore them, or accept them, because that's how the internet is." Why? Why should the internet be sexist? These comments reveal an ugly truth, that sexism is still pervasive in our society, but it's taken a new form. Just as it was legislated against and not tolerated in the physical world, we must not tolerate it in this digital one.

So next time, instead of accepting this as the norm of internet society, reject that idea. You are just as much a part of the internet as that guy who said he'd cum on her forehead. And if you don't reject that behavior and accept females int gaming culture, and the internet as a whole, you might as well be that guy. Is that who you want to be?

You are addressing the culture as a "thing" which can have intentions and be "good or bad". Only individuals can have those. The gaming culture of which you speak is simply an aggregate. As a player in this debate, it doesn't exist.


This entire argument is the macro vs. mirco debate in economics. It's Keynesian's vs. Austrians.

People are the culture. Without people, culture does not exist.

Wrong. People are people. The culture is the sum of those people's actions. Target their actions, not an intangible cognitive simplification which is nothing more than a symptom of their shitty actions.


I agree with your second statement.

For clarification on where I stand on all this, crying sexism is laughable. Saying, "People are being dicks, I'd appreciate it if they'd stop." is legitimate. People who blast this as sexism are equally at fault by extrapolation of the fact that they're targeting the gender of the troll's target, as opposed to simply telling off a snot-nosed little shit, or (even more beneficial) simply complimenting the lady and actively discussing her opinions while starving the trolls.

Crying sexism makes it an issue. Crying douchebag makes it solved.

What, to you, makes someone a troll over just being a "douchebag"? They are literally the same offense. If someone is insulting or badgering a woman with the equivalent of the old 4chan "tits or gtfo", I define that as sexism, AND a troll. Just because he's doing it to be an asshole does not mean it isn't sexist, because it is.

Also, defining them all as trolls ignores the blatant reality presented in the article that some of the comments show actual ignorance of what sexism is, just as you have displayed here. Any judgement made on a person that is precluded upon them being female, rather than being a person, is sexist, whether it is positive or negative.


What does "judgement made on a person that is precluded upon them being female" mean? Preclude is "to make impossible" or "prevent". Perhaps some examples of what is an what is not sexism might be more helpful.

I meant "based on them being female"

So, when judging someone's work, and leaving a comment, you don't talk about her physical appearance necessarily, you talk about the content itself.
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