EPTAlso extremely frustrating - I guess I just don't understand what it's like, but how are you going to intentionally sign up for a dating website, get a message, and then straight ignore it? What exactly are you waiting for? Anyway, instant success is not what I'm after so we'll see if the prospects improve.
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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Bigtony
United States1606 Posts
Also extremely frustrating - I guess I just don't understand what it's like, but how are you going to intentionally sign up for a dating website, get a message, and then straight ignore it? What exactly are you waiting for? Anyway, instant success is not what I'm after so we'll see if the prospects improve. | ||
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arb
Noobville17920 Posts
i cant even get over that right now | ||
CosmicSpiral
United States15275 Posts
On December 04 2014 15:04 arb wrote: you know as good as i am at calling how things are going to happen before they do. I feel like I should have won the lottery or something a very long time ago i cant even get over that right now Elaborate for those out of the loop. | ||
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arb
Noobville17920 Posts
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
On December 04 2014 14:55 Bigtony wrote: Ugh. Signed up for an online dating (free, - plenty of fish) which seemed very promising at first. Then I realized I suck at selfies and pictures in general (huge penalty). Also extremely frustrating - I guess I just don't understand what it's like, but how are you going to intentionally sign up for a dating website, get a message, and then straight ignore it? What exactly are you waiting for? Anyway, instant success is not what I'm after so we'll see if the prospects improve. You have to understand that sites like those have one girl for eight or so men. Many girls you message won't even be real girls, will be inactive, will be bots, or will get 20 messages a day and be very selective about whom they send an answer. If you take that for personal, you will hate even more what is already an unpleasant experience. | ||
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aksfjh
United States4853 Posts
On December 04 2014 18:06 SixStrings wrote: You have to understand that sites like those have one girl for eight or so men. Many girls you message won't even be real girls, will be inactive, will be bots, or will get 20 messages a day and be very selective about whom they send an answer. If you take that for personal, you will hate even more what is already an unpleasant experience. Not true. On most of those sites, women actually outnumber men. However, it is true that women get messages nonstop, so the chances of her paying attention to your message are slim at best. In fact, women in general on those sites tend to be super selective about who they talk to (probably because a great number of them get more attention than they really deserve). If you're not in the top ~10% of males in some category (looks, income, education, etc.), it's not a very ego-boosting experience. | ||
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Snotling
Germany885 Posts
On December 04 2014 23:22 aksfjh wrote: Not true. On most of those sites, women actually outnumber men. However, it is true that women get messages nonstop, so the chances of her paying attention to your message are slim at best. In fact, women in general on those sites tend to be super selective about who they talk to (probably because a great number of them get more attention than they really deserve). If you're not in the top ~10% of males in some category (looks, income, education, etc.), it's not a very ego-boosting experience. were do you have that information from? every numer I find tells me that men outnumber women on all online dating platforms, even without discarding the bots and fakes. can you give me a link? | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States43788 Posts
On December 04 2014 23:56 Snotling wrote: were do you have that information from? every numer I find tells me that men outnumber women on all online dating platforms, even without discarding the bots and fakes. can you give me a link? Here are some interesting statistics from Reuters, Herald News, PC World, Washington Post... Online Dating Statistics Data Total number of single people in the U.S. 54,250,000 Total number of people in the U.S. who have tried online dating 41,250,000 Total eHarmony members 15,500,000 Total Match.com members 21,575,000 Number of questions to fill out on eHarmony survey 400 Annual revenue from the online dating industry $1,249,000,000 Average spent by dating site customer per year $239 Average length of courtship for marriages that met online 18.5 Months Average length of courtship for marriages that met offline 42 Months Percent of users who leave within the first 3 months 10 % Percent of male online dating users 52.4 % Percent of female online dating users 47.6 % Percent who say common interests are the most important factor 64 % Percent who say physical characteristics are the most important factor 49 % Percent of marriages in the last year in which the couple met on a dating site 17 % Percent of current committed relationships that began online 20 % Percent of people who believe in love at first sight 71 % Percent of women who have sex on the first online dating encounter 33 % Percent of people who say they have dated more than one person simultaneously 53 % Percent of sex offenders who use online dating to meet people 10 % ~ http://www.statisticbrain.com/online-dating-statistics/ According to this table, the percentage of online dating users is about 50/50 between males and females. There are other statistics at that site too, but I don't know how accurate they are (the study was done just a few months ago though, which is nice). I personally find it hard to believe that 4/5 of all single Americans have tried online dating though (41,250,000 out of 54,250,000). | ||
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Mikau
Netherlands1446 Posts
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States43788 Posts
On December 05 2014 00:38 Mikau wrote: There are plenty of people who aren't single now but have tried online dating. It's not as simple as saying 4/5 single people have tried online dating. That's a good point; I hadn't considered that one was a cumulative number while the other was a current number. | ||
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Jisira
470 Posts
I want to do something, but the only thing I can think of is to make him think of other things and avoid the problem. EDIT: Their tl;dr story is all about them growing apart. Nothing more, but he's 22 and was together with her for almost four years. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States43788 Posts
On December 05 2014 00:42 Jisira wrote: As a person who has had relationships happen but find them a nuisance, how does one help a friend who's confidence was floored by his ex back up on his feet? I cannot relate to anything he feels because the concept of being mentally intimate, knowing another person that well (and letting someone know you that well) comes off as weird and appalling to me. I want to do something, but the only thing I can think of is to make him think of other things and avoid the problem. You can certainly distract him with other things to get his mind off the blow to his confidence. That's probably more in your comfort zone than trying to convince him of things you don't agree with, so you should probably stick with that. Maybe doing or saying something that boosts his confidence in other areas (e.g., games or sports or other hobbies) will indirectly make him feel less self-conscious and he may generalize this relief to the relationship domain? Making him feel better overall certainly couldn't hurt him. | ||
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
I am not sure if she hit on me (I am just incredibly bad at spotting stuf like that when it targets me) and hoped/expected me to contact her almost immediately / wasnt satisfied with my message. Or maybe she thought I hit on her, which would hardly make sense: I would never really hit on someone I only know for 20mins since I believe that you should feel out the personality of said person before you make a move. Also I tend to be quite polite and mannered, but in a true and honest way that clearly shows that its just that. Also, if she thought I hit on her, why would she give me her number/get my number if she got shyed away by it. It all just didnt make sense. I just hoped to get more good old Speed/Powermetal, wtf life why cant I have that? Lots of text for a girl I am not really into in terms of dating(at least at the moment), but I am really curious. I am really clueless when it comes to profane stuff like that. Help me, for sience.  | ||
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CosmicSpiral
United States15275 Posts
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
On December 05 2014 05:08 CosmicSpiral wrote: Let it go. I was hoping for an explanation, not advice since there is none needed. I am just curious if there is an (more or less) easy explanation. | ||
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CosmicSpiral
United States15275 Posts
On December 05 2014 05:27 waffelz wrote: I was hoping for an explanation, not advice since there is none needed. I am just curious if there is an (more or less) easy explanation. The most sensible explanation is that she gave you her number and forgot. The question you should ask yourself is, why did you dedicate ~3 paragraphs to a throwaway moment in your life? That's why I gave you advice in the first place. | ||
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
On December 05 2014 05:34 CosmicSpiral wrote: The most sensible explanation is that she gave you her number and forgot. The question you should ask yourself is, why did you dedicate ~3 paragraphs to a throwaway moment in your life? That's why I gave you advice in the first place. A big ass lab report that I have to hand in tomorrow, thats why. Working in blocks and taking small timeouts every now and then, but thanks for the advice anyways. My answer wasnt ment to be mean. You answer sounds somewhat plausible even though I cant really understand forgetting that fast^^. Thx. | ||
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MysteryMeat1
United States3291 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32027 Posts
Sorry bruh bruh | ||
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CosmicSpiral
United States15275 Posts
On December 05 2014 05:44 waffelz wrote: A big ass lab report that I have to hand in tomorrow, thats why. Working in blocks and taking small timeouts every now and then, but thanks for the advice anyways. My answer wasnt ment to be mean. You answer sounds somewhat plausible even though I cant really understand forgetting that fast^^. Thx. Not exactly what I was implying, but thanks anyway. | ||
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