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On November 07 2013 07:32 Shotcoder wrote:
What's the issue if she has a kid? I mean I had that issue with a chick but as I got to know her it really wasn't as big of a deal as I made it out to be at th beginning.
If you're just looking for fun then I don't think a kid is a problem (although girls with kids usually aren't just looking for fun), but if you're looking for a serious girlfriend then unless the kid is 10+ years old at least then you're going to be taking on the role of part time Dad at least to a child who isn't biologically yours. That's a pretty serious commitment.
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On November 07 2013 07:32 Shotcoder wrote:
What's the issue if she has a kid? I mean I had that issue with a chick but as I got to know her it really wasn't as big of a deal as I made it out to be at th beginning.
I'm not looking for a relationship with someone who has a kid. I feel like that would have to be a relationship that I would have to be ready to really commit to whereas I'm not looking for that at the moment, but neither am I looking for just casual sex. Also since I'm very inexperienced in a relationship sense I would like a girl who is equally inexperienced, though I realize it's very hard to find an attractive socially competent girl who is still inexperienced at ~23.
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On November 07 2013 07:31 Dogfoodboy16 wrote:
Every girl I ask out says no. I guess they are all doing me a favor...or I am just a unattractive person XD
I would bet money that "every girl" means 2 or fewer in the recent past.
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On November 07 2013 09:39 IgnE wrote:Show nested quote +On November 07 2013 07:31 Dogfoodboy16 wrote:
Every girl I ask out says no. I guess they are all doing me a favor...or I am just a unattractive person XD I would bet money that "every girl" means 2 or fewer in the recent past.
He's shooting 0/0 from the field haha.
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On November 07 2013 11:11 WarSame wrote:Show nested quote +On November 07 2013 09:39 IgnE wrote:On November 07 2013 07:31 Dogfoodboy16 wrote:
Every girl I ask out says no. I guess they are all doing me a favor...or I am just a unattractive person XD I would bet money that "every girl" means 2 or fewer in the recent past. He's shooting 0/0 from the field haha.
He's just gotta wait for that and one 
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So god knows how many pages back I posted about a girl I met and we were gonna do the open relationship thing. Anyways about 3-4 weeks later she dumped me because she went to a therapist and the therapist said she needed to focus on herself and her kids. She wanted to remain friends though so i said sucked it up and went with it. At the same time her youngest kids dad was trying to get back together with her(emotionally abusive/control freak). About a week later she told me she got back with him. Fast forward to now and I told her I'm no longer interested in remaining friends.
The only reason we stayed friends is because I though she would realize how horrible that advice she paid for was and then come back to me. Was wrong obviously and now it's move on time.
I thought it would be tougher on my emotions to do it but doing it felt good and was surprisingly easy. Like a weight was removed.
edit: I don't know why I posted this lol. Their nothing to talk about :p
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Good for you to move on, you took the exact advice you would have been given had you not taken that step 
Btw, 'youngest kid's dad' meaning she is single at the moment, with children from at least 2 different fathers already? I think it's good you got out of there.
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She probably does need to work on herself. She's just not taking her therapist's advice. You should be glad you got out of that shit.
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On November 07 2013 13:03 Najda wrote:Good for you to move on, you took the exact advice you would have been given had you not taken that step Btw, 'youngest kid's dad' meaning she is single at the moment, with children from at least 2 different fathers already? I think it's good you got out of there.
2 kids, two dads yes. However she is currently on relationship attempt 2 or 3 with the second kids dad. Not single (yet. it is inevitable).
On November 07 2013 13:04 IgnE wrote:
She probably does need to work on herself. She's just not taking her therapist's advice. You should be glad you got out of that shit.
She has issues, many of them (depression and stress based mainly). But I'd wager all of them are fixable if she would allow someone to help her and I thought I could and was willing to. Too stubborn and set in her mindsets though so yeah, bailing is the right call
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As a white dude, I seem only to attract white girls. However, I am attracted to girls with peanut butter/carmel colored complexions. i find myself somewhat perplexed. Mabye i need to move to the Phillipeans or Brazil.
/firstworldproblems
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White dudes are the most in-demand dudes. Black girls routinely complain that no white men will take them seriously and that they are at the bottom of the totem pole compared to women of other skin colors. Sounds like you are making excuses.
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On November 07 2013 13:53 IgnE wrote:
White dudes are the most in-demand dudes. Black girls routinely complain that no white men will take them seriously and that they are at the bottom of the totem pole compared to women of other skin colors. Sounds like you are making excuses.
I like the middle ground between black and white. Something exotic like Hawaiian or Lebanese. Where I am now in Northern California their are several types of these girls around but they dont seem as approachable (at least to my perceptions) as other girls. Mabye I am just thinking to much or lack adaquate interpersonal communication skills.
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you're definitely a racist
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they aren't as approachable because you are perhaps putting them on a pedestal? that's one perspective, I don't know the reality tho
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On November 07 2013 14:38 sam!zdat wrote:
you're definitely a racist
I'm racist because I am not attracted to girls of my own ethnicity? Thats an interesting hypothesis.
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On November 07 2013 15:16 IgnE wrote:
You like them "exotic."
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=exotic
being from asia, south america, caribbean, mediterranean, persia, arabia, etc... basically, anyone with tan skin, black shiny hair, big lushious lips, can dance and gyrate, curvy and smart. Exotic people have mysterious, alluring and sensual eyes.
Yep. Sounds about right. I just dont know why had to be labeled as a racist for having a discerning personal preference.
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because Edward Said said so
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On November 07 2013 15:25 Dogfoodboy16 wrote:http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=exoticbeing from asia, south america, caribbean, mediterranean, persia, arabia, etc... basically, anyone with tan skin, black shiny hair, big lushious lips, can dance and gyrate, curvy and smart. Exotic people have mysterious, alluring and sensual eyes. Yep. Sounds about right. I just dont know why had to be labeled as a racist for having a discerning personal preference.
He was joking bro and you didn't seem to get it.
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Somehow, I don't think "LF gyrating big Persian girl" would make for a good personals ad.
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