EPTMy brother's university is having a banquet next year and you are allowed to bring a date. I asked a girl I know to help me find a date for my brother since she knows other girls in the area where my brother goes to school. She said she has several girls interested in being the date for my brother's banquet but hasn't gotten a more specific response from them yet. My question is, should I hand over the self-picture that my brother has given me for the potential dates to see? I'm just wondering what the timing should be regarding when I give her the picture.
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white_horse
1019 Posts
My brother's university is having a banquet next year and you are allowed to bring a date. I asked a girl I know to help me find a date for my brother since she knows other girls in the area where my brother goes to school. She said she has several girls interested in being the date for my brother's banquet but hasn't gotten a more specific response from them yet. My question is, should I hand over the self-picture that my brother has given me for the potential dates to see? I'm just wondering what the timing should be regarding when I give her the picture. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46705 Posts
On November 05 2013 04:07 ComaDose wrote: for the same reason your friends with all your other friends obviously. you don't have to relationship zone people. You sure it's not because you're secretly hoping that she'll "come around" and decide at a later time that she wants to be with you?  | ||
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Aeroplaneoverthesea
United Kingdom1977 Posts
On November 04 2013 09:25 calgar wrote: You wouldn't mind raising your kids to believe in something you thought was fiction? The beauty of atheism is that you don't really have any reason at all to care if someone else believes in God. | ||
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ComaDose
Canada10357 Posts
On November 05 2013 04:57 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: You sure it's not because you're secretly hoping that she'll "come around" and decide at a later time that she wants to be with you? I am quite sure that's exactly why most people do it. I'm not in that situation myself just thought i would answer his question. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46705 Posts
On November 05 2013 05:56 Aeroplaneoverthesea wrote: The beauty of atheism is that you don't really have any reason at all to care if someone else believes in God. Well, people's actions are guided by their beliefs, and so if someone does something inappropriate and tries justifying it via their beliefs (e.g., *in the name of* theism, specific religion, etc.), that could surely be a reason for you to care that they hold that belief. | ||
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
On November 05 2013 04:57 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: You sure it's not because you're secretly hoping that she'll "come around" and decide at a later time that she wants to be with you? I'm sure people do that, but surely you don't deny the benefit of having a number of female friends? | ||
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ComaDose
Canada10357 Posts
On November 05 2013 05:56 Aeroplaneoverthesea wrote: The beauty of atheism is that you don't really have any reason at all to care if someone else believes in God. The problem I have with most organized religion practice-ers isn't so much which invisible man in the sky they pray to as much as how much money they are donating to an organization that forwards oppressive ideals. | ||
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Aeroplaneoverthesea
United Kingdom1977 Posts
On November 05 2013 06:38 ComaDose wrote: The problem I have with most organized religion practice-ers isn't so much which invisible man in the sky they pray to as much as how much money they are donating to an organization that forwards oppressive ideals. On November 05 2013 06:32 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: Well, people's actions are guided by their beliefs, and so if someone does something inappropriate and tries justifying it via their beliefs (e.g., *in the name of* theism, specific religion, etc.), that could surely be a reason for you to care that they hold that belief. Not really an issue with the kind of liberal Christianity you're going to see in the UK. | ||
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crazyweasel
607 Posts
@ whitehorse, give her the picture asap. the girl who will then come will already have some kind of interest with him, making it then easier for your bro to do his thing. the self confidence it brings to know that the girl is at least physically attracted makes it better for you to promote yourself. | ||
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Mentalizor
Denmark1596 Posts
On November 04 2013 22:54 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: I agree... that's a stretch imo. I'm fine with the standard "halve your age, then add seven" procedure. Being one of those horrible guys with a set of rules, I can confirm that this is what me and my friends go by aswell. ...§7: Half + 7... And speaking about the rules... To the guy whose girl stopped texting... I'll just drop this single rule for you: ...§2: Don't double-text... If she doesn't answer, she's just not interested or simply too busy and will reply later. Being too desperate for her attention wont ever help. | ||
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Aeroplaneoverthesea
United Kingdom1977 Posts
On November 05 2013 07:06 crazyweasel wrote: from dating to religion debate.... @ whitehorse, give her the picture asap. the girl who will then come will already have some kind of interest with him, making it then easier for your bro to do his thing. the self confidence it brings to know that the girl is at least physically attracted makes it better for you to promote yourself. Yeah, I think the pure blind date is really pointless unless your bro looks like Brad Pitt and is attracted to anything with a vagina. You need to make sure there's a physical attraction there otherwise it could easily be a total time waste. | ||
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Impervious
Canada4222 Posts
On November 05 2013 07:22 Aeroplaneoverthesea wrote: Half Plus 7 rounded down is solid as it comes. Although as a 25 year I'd say if she old enough to get in the club it's fair game. And then suddenly you realize she got into the club with a fake ID. I've had that happen before :/ | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46705 Posts
On November 05 2013 06:33 Najda wrote: I'm sure people do that, but surely you don't deny the benefit of having a number of female friends? Sure, but that's probably because I'm attracted to them and I'm a superficial prick  EDIT: I can control myself though. | ||
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Aeroplaneoverthesea
United Kingdom1977 Posts
On November 05 2013 08:07 Impervious wrote: And then suddenly you realize she got into the club with a fake ID. I've had that happen before :/ Yeah that's probably happened to me as well but if she tells you she's 18 (imo you should ask with other people around, this is pretty easy to do in a non weird way) and she's in the club then happy hunting. | ||
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dongfeng
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
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Aeroplaneoverthesea
United Kingdom1977 Posts
On November 07 2013 07:18 Najda wrote: Turns out my luck isn't too good, the first girl I asked out turns out to be underage (see a few pages back) and now the next girl I ask out turns out to have a kid.. man I sure know how to pick em. Oh well, that's 2 more girls I've asked out in the past two weeks than I had in the previous year. Just keep at it dude. The more you ask random girls out the easier it becomes and the closer you get to one that's right for you. | ||
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Dogfoodboy16
364 Posts
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Shotcoder
United States2316 Posts
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Aeroplaneoverthesea
United Kingdom1977 Posts
On November 07 2013 07:31 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: Every girl I ask out says no. I guess they are all doing me a favor...or I am just a unattractive person XD You might not be able to change your face but you can change basically everything else about yourself i.e your hair, body, clothes, personality, how you speak etc... If you're not having any luck with the ladies right now then consider how you can change those things to make yourself more appealing to women. | ||
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