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On October 22 2013 23:42 Ryder. wrote: Speaking of contraceptives, has anyone mentioned Implanon? It's a little rod that gets inserted into a woman's upper arm that provides contraceptive for 3 years and is then taken out. One of my ex's used it whilst we were dating and didn't have any problems with it, seems like a decent alternative to the pill if the woman is forgetful/reacts badly to the pill since it is relatively non-invasive and doesn't require any action after its inserted. Failure rate is listed as 0.05% which I'd say is pretty good.
Friend of mine used it. She is a proud mother now ...
Then again another friend recently got knocked up being on the pill. There is always a chance.
On October 22 2013 23:42 Ryder. wrote: Speaking of contraceptives, has anyone mentioned Implanon? It's a little rod that gets inserted into a woman's upper arm that provides contraceptive for 3 years and is then taken out. One of my ex's used it whilst we were dating and didn't have any problems with it, seems like a decent alternative to the pill if the woman is forgetful/reacts badly to the pill since it is relatively non-invasive and doesn't require any action after its inserted. Failure rate is listed as 0.05% which I'd say is pretty good.
Friend of mine used it. She is a proud mother now ...
Then again another friend recently got knocked up being on the pill. There is always a chance.
Using a condom + birthcontrol is always the best route. The implants work well, but not as well as the pill technically, mostly implants are a secondary option for those who don't want the pill side effects. With that said, I had a friend who was on the pill, but she got knocked up. It happens.
On november 2, I'll be proposing to my girlfriend. We're gonna go repelling in the mountains at a 180 ft waterfall. At the bottom will be some GoPro cameras set up (hidden), and i'll have her older brother film it while hiding. When she gets down to the bottom (after I go first), i'll be in the water pond next to the waterfall on one knee :D mabye i'll post the video when the time comes.
On October 23 2013 04:10 IronManSC wrote: On november 2, I'll be proposing to my girlfriend. We're gonna go repelling in the mountains at a 180 ft waterfall. At the bottom will be some GoPro cameras set up (hidden), and i'll have her older brother film it while hiding. When she gets down to the bottom (after I go first), i'll be in the water pond next to the waterfall on one knee :D mabye i'll post the video when the time comes.
On October 23 2013 04:10 IronManSC wrote: On november 2, I'll be proposing to my girlfriend. We're gonna go repelling in the mountains at a 180 ft waterfall. At the bottom will be some GoPro cameras set up (hidden), and i'll have her older brother film it while hiding. When she gets down to the bottom (after I go first), i'll be in the water pond next to the waterfall on one knee :D mabye i'll post the video when the time comes.
So I was in love with this girl (I was 17) and dated her for about 1.5 years. She was awesome and gorgeous but in the last 6 months of the relationship she started getting annoying and telling me I should be doing more for the relationship and so on. So me being young and stupid as I was I did not see the coming storm and started doing realy nice stuff (wich is my nature btw) and after doing sweet dates and surprising her with all sorts of stuff I had arranged a dinner and wrote a letter which I would read out for her at our 1.5 year anniversary. She did not know this was coming as I only told her I was going to pick her up at her house, so as I drove up she was standing outside (crying) and I knew how late it was. She broke up with me then and there, she even knew we were going on a dinner because she could "read" me and she told me she wanted some alone time and not have a serious relationship and bla bla bla.
So I was hearthbroken, I was 19 at the time and did not get out of the house a lot anymore. She on the other hand became a slut and started doing stuff one guy after the other and started a "serious" relationship with another guy only half a year after she broke up with me. So I was pretty mad and broke all contact with her, and tried to forget all the stuff we had.
But then things started to happen, not to sound arrogant or something but girls always seem to come to me instead of I going to them. And suddenly I had 3 girls that where reaching out to me and asking me on dates and stuff. But my mind was pretty fucked up at the time because of the 1.5 year relationship so I just took total disadvantage of these girls and let them believe things that were not true etc. etc. I broke those 3 hearths and stepped on the pieces afterwards. That was how bad it became, no more mister nice guy .
But now 3 years later I am mister nice guy again, and I reached out to a girl which I have known for a long time and I have strong feelings for, we went on dates. And then she broke my hearth.
Now I'm almost 21 and happy playing Starcraft 2 :D. I do not know what to think of relationships at this moment, but lets say I'm seeing someone and I'll see where it goes.
GL to all of you TL folk!
It's a long read but yeah that is how my love life has been from 17-21. Not even going to start before that time as it is not that relevant .
Don't do the stuff I did guys, if a girl is nice to you and you feel that there are things building up. Go for it and don't let your past carry you away. On another note, if you get dumped do not get depressed or something just move the **** on because it's not worth it.
On October 23 2013 06:20 Grixx wrote: I have a story or 2 to tell :D even though I have been single for 2 years now after a relationship of 1.5years I have these experiences with girls
So I was in love with this girl (I was 17) and dated her for about 1.5 years. She was awesome and gorgeous but in the last 6 months of the relationship she started getting annoying and telling me I should be doing more for the relationship and so on. So me being young and stupid as I was I did not see the coming storm and started doing realy nice stuff (wich is my nature btw) and after doing sweet dates and surprising her with all sorts of stuff I had arranged a dinner and wrote a letter which I would read out for her at our 1.5 year anniversary. She did not know this was coming as I only told her I was going to pick her up at her house, so as I drove up she was standing outside (crying) and I knew how late it was. She broke up with me then and there, she even knew we were going on a dinner because she could "read" me and she told me she wanted some alone time and not have a serious relationship and bla bla bla.
So I was hearthbroken, I was 19 at the time and did not get out of the house a lot anymore. She on the other hand became a slut and started doing stuff one guy after the other and started a "serious" relationship with another guy only half a year after she broke up with me. So I was pretty mad and broke all contact with her, and tried to forget all the stuff we had.
But then things started to happen, not to sound arrogant or something but girls always seem to come to me instead of I going to them. And suddenly I had 3 girls that where reaching out to me and asking me on dates and stuff. But my mind was pretty fucked up at the time because of the 1.5 year relationship so I just took total disadvantage of these girls and let them believe things that were not true etc. etc. I broke those 3 hearths and stepped on the pieces afterwards. That was how bad it became, no more mister nice guy .
But now 3 years later I am mister nice guy again, and I reached out to a girl which I have known for a long time and I have strong feelings for, we went on dates. And then she broke my hearth.
Now I'm almost 21 and happy playing Starcraft 2 :D. I do not know what to think of relationships at this moment, but lets say I'm seeing someone and I'll see where it goes.
GL to all of you TL folk!
It's a long read but yeah that is how my love life has been from 17-21. Not even going to start before that time as it is not that relevant .
Don't do the stuff I did guys, if a girl is nice to you and you feel that there are things building up. Go for it and don't let your past carry you away. On another note, if you get dumped do not get depressed or something just move the **** on because it's not worth it.
Good advice. Dating can be extremely shitty at times and leave you with some of the the lowest lows and highest highs you'll ever get emotionally but it's worth it when you meet the right person.
On October 23 2013 04:10 IronManSC wrote: On november 2, I'll be proposing to my girlfriend. We're gonna go repelling in the mountains at a 180 ft waterfall. At the bottom will be some GoPro cameras set up (hidden), and i'll have her older brother film it while hiding. When she gets down to the bottom (after I go first), i'll be in the water pond next to the waterfall on one knee :D mabye i'll post the video when the time comes.
This is really cute Post the video afterwards!
On October 23 2013 13:01 Kenpachi wrote: do you ask out a girl before during or after her birthday
During, because that'll make her birthday and your anniversary fall on the same day, making it easier to remember
On October 23 2013 04:10 IronManSC wrote: On november 2, I'll be proposing to my girlfriend. We're gonna go repelling in the mountains at a 180 ft waterfall. At the bottom will be some GoPro cameras set up (hidden), and i'll have her older brother film it while hiding. When she gets down to the bottom (after I go first), i'll be in the water pond next to the waterfall on one knee :D mabye i'll post the video when the time comes.
On October 23 2013 04:10 IronManSC wrote: On november 2, I'll be proposing to my girlfriend. We're gonna go repelling in the mountains at a 180 ft waterfall. At the bottom will be some GoPro cameras set up (hidden), and i'll have her older brother film it while hiding. When she gets down to the bottom (after I go first), i'll be in the water pond next to the waterfall on one knee :D mabye i'll post the video when the time comes.
On October 23 2013 04:10 IronManSC wrote: On november 2, I'll be proposing to my girlfriend. We're gonna go repelling in the mountains at a 180 ft waterfall. At the bottom will be some GoPro cameras set up (hidden), and i'll have her older brother film it while hiding. When she gets down to the bottom (after I go first), i'll be in the water pond next to the waterfall on one knee :D mabye i'll post the video when the time comes.
Doesn't hold a candle to what this guy did:
Am I the only one here who is grossed out by the very act of proposal?
On October 23 2013 04:10 IronManSC wrote: On november 2, I'll be proposing to my girlfriend. We're gonna go repelling in the mountains at a 180 ft waterfall. At the bottom will be some GoPro cameras set up (hidden), and i'll have her older brother film it while hiding. When she gets down to the bottom (after I go first), i'll be in the water pond next to the waterfall on one knee :D mabye i'll post the video when the time comes.
Dam thats cool. How did you come up with that?
I'm not really sure lol. She is an outdoor kinda girl, so any outdoor activity is what's "romantic" to her. She hinted a couple times that she wanted it to be in private and to be something creative, so I thought why not a waterfall in an enclosed canyon?!
On October 23 2013 04:10 IronManSC wrote: On november 2, I'll be proposing to my girlfriend. We're gonna go repelling in the mountains at a 180 ft waterfall. At the bottom will be some GoPro cameras set up (hidden), and i'll have her older brother film it while hiding. When she gets down to the bottom (after I go first), i'll be in the water pond next to the waterfall on one knee :D mabye i'll post the video when the time comes.
Dam thats cool. How did you come up with that?
I'm not really sure lol. She is an outdoor kinda girl, so any outdoor activity is what's "romantic" to her. She hinted a couple times that she wanted it to be in private and to be something creative, so I thought why not a waterfall in an enclosed canyon?!
On October 23 2013 04:10 IronManSC wrote: On november 2, I'll be proposing to my girlfriend. We're gonna go repelling in the mountains at a 180 ft waterfall. At the bottom will be some GoPro cameras set up (hidden), and i'll have her older brother film it while hiding. When she gets down to the bottom (after I go first), i'll be in the water pond next to the waterfall on one knee :D mabye i'll post the video when the time comes.
:D
I'm sure you know what you're doing, but that did make me laugh. Good luck!
Gaaaaaah there's too many beautiful ladies at my work nowadays T__T It's come to the point where I get distracted in my receptionist job. They walk past, I check out their behind, I totally forget to call a customer thath their visitor is here, I get shit for failing my simple duty.
Shame I'll never be able to get past harmless flirting with them :/
On October 24 2013 18:37 TOCHMY wrote: Gaaaaaah there's too many beautiful ladies at my work nowadays T__T It's come to the point where I get distracted in my receptionist job. They walk past, I check out their behind, I totally forget to call a customer thath their visitor is here, I get shit for failing my simple duty.
Shame I'll never be able to get past harmless flirting with them :/
You're a warm blooded male If you aren't looking, you aren't doing your job (actual quote from my old manager). Women notice and feel flattered (unless you look like Gollum)
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Post the video afterwards! 
