The PUA community - Page 19

On July 16 2011 10:28 squattincassanova wrote:
My main argument wasn't about whether direct works or not. It certainly works very well. I'm also not suggesting you only use direct in every situation.

What I am saying is. For long term development, you must incorporate direct game. Meaning you can't do indirect your whole life.

Direct makes you a sex worthy guy. Direct makes you true to your intentions. Direct makes you alpha. Direct fixes a lot of kinks in your inner game. On a side note, direct also is a lotta fun and it sets the mood real fast.

On July 17 2011 01:15 squattincassanova wrote:
I almost pulled a same night lay yesterday but my girl's friend was married and visiting from oklahoma AND staying at her place. I f***ed up on logistics god damnit. Couldn't split them at the end. That girl was so down. Oh well, its gonna be a 2nd day lay I guess.

On July 17 2011 01:24 Discretionary Duck wrote:


You sound like an amateur PUA who feels the need to brag about his 'almost' game.

On July 17 2011 01:33 zimz wrote:
do you guys see the PUA groups(aka: lairs) they all freaking crazy looking and nerd virgins. google them. they live in the land of mental masterbation. they go around saying stupid shit its IOI, and heres AMOG, they all think they are ALPHA and like to say the word alpha every 5 seconds, they say weird shit like yo im alpha, im lording, im beasting. most pua gurus look weird as hell and even more so their fans. they think about about girls every second actually, about thousand times, and all have these weird hangups and rules and techniques and shit and just creep people out, they are full of rules, they analyze situations over n over mentaly unstable.

seriously google "pua lairs" images.

some gurus aka clowns



pua lair





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On July 17 2011 12:45 D_K_night wrote:
If you have:

- lots of friends(both male and female)
- have an active and large social circle consisting of both guys and girls
- hang out with these people often just for the sake of being social

...then you don't need any of this PUA stuff. You will just fall into relationships with girls as a matter of course, in many cases without much actual trying. Of course a very key part of this is, being in a crowd with the right attitude, the right synergies, and just overall in an accepting social group for things to just happen.

And for many people, sometimes you don't get that kind of social group, or you can't break into, that group(they simply won't accept you in, or accepts you once or twice, but doesn't invite you for future events).

When you're a nerd who:

- doesn't have very many friends outside of gaming buddies
- don't know very many girls
- as a result, aren't invited to, or don't have much of an active outside social life

...then it's very easy to feel:

- nobody likes me
- what's wrong with me, with the way I am, and who I am
- I do try(whenever possible)...but no girls see me as more than a brother

Notice that many of these PUA's exhibit many of these qualities/feelings:

- anger at their past(constant rejection)
- revenge seeking(a need to even the score)

There's a very funny demotivational phrase out there:

FAILURE - when your best, just isn't good enough. And this case - just being themselves...being their core person, doing/saying what they think is right, was deemed incorrect...being bashed for it...etc. It cuts deep when you are told, point blank, that you're a failure, and it's just because of who you plainly are.

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IMO, I think there are many very good ideas to take away from the PUA threads. However I would shy away from the anger, the need to keep score, the revenge seeking.

but hey I'm married with wife and kid...very much out of the whole dating scene(and happy for it), so what do I know?

On July 17 2011 13:00 r.Evo wrote:
I remember a great question from some 19 year old guy in the audiance which really shows the different perspectives.
- "What was the longest "bad streak" in your marriage?"
- "Well, what does "bad streak" exactly mean for you?"
- "Um... well.. erh... without sex, I guess."
- "As long as you consider "no sex" equivalent to a bad streak in a relationship, you should stay away from marriage. I mean it." =D

On July 17 2011 12:45 D_K_night wrote:
If you have:

- lots of friends(both male and female)
- have an active and large social circle consisting of both guys and girls
- hang out with these people often just for the sake of being social

...then you don't need any of this PUA stuff. You will just fall into relationships with girls as a matter of course, in many cases without much actual trying.

On July 18 2011 07:51 Earll wrote:


Not really true. Or well its true that you don't need the "PUA stuff" . Nobody ever NEEDS the "pua stuff" or anything esle. But saying that all you need is lots of friends and a social circle and then it all takes care of itself with a 100% certainty is not true. Pretty sure there are tons of 'forever alones'\virgins\what have you who have to some extent or another a somewhat active social life.

On July 17 2011 12:45 D_K_night wrote:
If you have:

- lots of friends(both male and female)
- have an active and large social circle consisting of both guys and girls
- hang out with these people often just for the sake of being social

...then you don't need any of this PUA stuff. You will just fall into relationships with girls as a matter of course, in many cases without much actual trying. Of course a very key part of this is, being in a crowd with the right attitude, the right synergies, and just overall in an accepting social group for things to just happen.

And for many people, sometimes you don't get that kind of social group, or you can't break into, that group(they simply won't accept you in, or accepts you once or twice, but doesn't invite you for future events).

When you're a nerd who:

[other stuff]