Ah.. Summertime.. love in in the air? I thought I'd follow the current TL net trend and talk about a girl.
*Note: The following is completely true.
I met her for the last thursday the 18th.. in the weirdest of places.. Craigslist. Not in the Women for Men section.. but strictly platonic section, if it counts?
The whole backstory is I was watching my friends dogs during the day for his family for about 4 days, and i had absolutely nothing to do at his house but i had my phone but none of my friends wanted to text/chat, and there was no SC! How was i to spend my time?
I went on Craiglists to to find people who were in a similar situation. After two people.. one of whom was so boring and odd i could write a whole blog about that in itself.
But then I met her! Her story was she had just moved to Washington from North Carolina, less than a week ago on the day of her post, and wanted to meet people. Sounded legit to me!
I sent her an e-mail just about 7 sentences about myself real quick.. age, what kinda music i was into [Grunge], and so forth. She replied within an hour, and we started talking on AIM.
Honestly when we first started talking.. I thought she was a little weird. but way, way more interesting than the other people I'd talked to before her.
Anywho.. after about 3 hours of chatting I decided to go to bed.. only to awake the next day and couldnt stop thinking about our conversation. She was so.. funny, sly, witty, charming, sensitive? Seemingly the most amazing girl ever! (Sorry lilsusie, i still <3 you!)
I signed on later that night about 8 and she was on as well.. and we picked up wright where we left off.. talked for hours! I couldn't find any faults with her! She is into electronic digging everyone from Aphex Twin to Infected Mushroom, to Trentemoller. She even a history nut, admiring people such as Napoleon and Alexander.
Day 3.. Can't get her on my mind get on again that night and she's waiting for me? Another long conversation.. ended with "Get on tomorrow, ok I'll miss you <3"?
Yea you see that <3? so did I, haha, signs were going off in my mind! This is too great.. right?
Day 4.. we get to talking.. and alot of our past talk had been about her and she had passed the ball onto me.. I admitted to her.. how much i liked starcraft. How i would play trying in vain to be gosu, how i would stay up to 3 am some nights to watch the progamers live, how my favorite website was TL. Her Response..? "Thats Cute.. "
Yea.. apparently its cute to stay up to watch the mantoss play hear that? Of course its not really.. but she doesn't mind my hobby.. and that makes her all the more amazing!
Day 5.. Time is flying by.. all i can think of all day is i cant wait to talk to her again! Sure enough we talk again.. by the end of the conversation we both muster up.. "I like you" sort of statements.
Day 6-9 are irrelevant.. to sum it up its alot of I <3 you so so much baby.. dont judge me! We've seen pictures of each other (lol, even holding up signs saying yes this is me just to prove it).. we've talked on the phone.. we're just so so happy. Life is great She even makes my picture her background.
But disaster striked yesterday.. she didn't get on no call no text no nothing.. after worrying for several hours.. I get a text that was automatically delivered when i signed in.. saying.. quote on quote..
"THIS is *blanks* dad.. do not contact again.."
Oh snaps! Yea.. GG no re right? I couldn't think of anything to reply.. honestly I'm not sure why both of us are 18+.. but I've never got along with any of my GF's dad very well so I didn't wanna start this one of bad.. by talking back?
I told myself.. she'll get to me.. somehow.. she'll call me or text me or IM me when he's not around. but its the weekend. I quickly make a plan to call her monday when her dad's at work.
Today.. 11 days.. I miss her so much and i don't know how to proceed? I keep asking myself.. did her dad catch her talking to me and just not like it perhaps he saw her background? He did send a text straight to me.. did she tell him who I was?
Or maybe.. something completely unrelated happened at her house and shes just in trouble?
I log on AIM and there she is.. online. Yeah I'm aware it most likely isn't her she would have texted me or sent em a message while i was offline. But I decide to ask if its her anyways. The AIM service tells me teat almost instantly a message is being written by that account back to me.. after about 2 minutes.. I get the message. "*blank* will not be using her computer.. for sometime..
I stare dumbfounded at the message its unfair! I write back.. "May I ever talk to *blank* again?"
The jerk signs off 20 seconds later leaving me unanswered.. at first i was mad but then i thought maybe it as good thing if he was really mad he would have told me off.. right?
20 minute later shes back.. or i should say he's back.. and hes just sitting there online I know its him.. but I'm not sure what to say or even if I should say anything.
I'm unsure of how to proceed.. I think this girl is the most amazing girl ever, I don't wanna lose contact with her.
Poll: What should I do? (Vote): Wait till monday.. give her a call while the old mans at work. (Vote): Talk to the old man on AIM (Vote): Don't do anything.. she'll be back after sometime (Vote): Wait for her to contact you. (Vote): Take my advice in comments. (Vote): Blog was way too LONG, didn't read.
Any advice would be very appreciated and well received.. no Chill and Plexa, I am not a troll. This is a true story that is really happening to me.
What if it was the dad the whole time O.o? I'm sure you know the dangers of aim; that some girls just say things baselessly but if you think the connection was that strong, ask her out in person. A human face and some devotion would probably go a long way towards ameliorating yourself to her father. Then again, you might wanna find out what happened over there, sounds like shit went down.
I say talk to her old man! Ask him what's up and why he doesn't want you talking to her, and then come up with appropriate responses. He's probably over protective of his daughter, which generally means your not going to get anywhere...
But if you really like her your not going to sit on your hands
On June 29 2009 10:40 maleorderbride wrote: you are some guy off the internet talking to his daughter. i wonder why dad is not a fan?
sadly, this.
You can still try, by all means. May aswell. You're both 18+ afterall, so wtf. It's strange that she hasn't made any serious attempt to contact you though. Maybe find a way to reach her, in some capacity, and explain to her what happened with her Dad. Then leave it in her court. If she doesn't find a way to continue your 'relationship' then it's pretty fucked. If she really cares and tries hard and does, then you 2 can probably find a mature way to negate the parent issue.
But keep in mind. She may have just trolled you. =p
I say you log onto AIM and say "Yo, fair enough if your daughter is grounded or whatever, or you don't want her getting raped by a pedophile, but why the fuck are you logged onto her AIM?
On June 29 2009 10:45 whatusername wrote: um if I'm not mistaken are you saying you just fell in love with someone you met on the internet and never seen before?
In a way? We had plans to met up in person tomorrow.. but I'm pretty sure they got canceled
We talked on the phone so I'm pretty sure it wasn't the old man the whole time.
We also sent pictures to each other you know holding up signs saying this is really me I <3 you kinda thing just to prove it was us. Seems really out of the way of a troll, I mean if I was one I woulda gave up there.
Honestly I've never even thought about starting a relationship over the internet first time its ever happened.
You are both of age. But you still probably need to get on the dad's good side.
Why don't you invite him out for lunch (in a public place of course) so he can get to know you. I'd personally ask him why he doesn't like you in the first place?
If you are serious about pursuing something like this, I think that showing that you have the balls to meet him in person and talk would go a long way.
On June 29 2009 10:52 Reason wrote: I say you log onto AIM and say "Yo, fair enough if your daughter is grounded or whatever, or you don't want her getting raped by a pedophile, but why the fuck are you logged onto her AIM?
I thought about this!
I find it weird that he's jsut sitting there on her account. After thinking about it I figured he might be waiting for me to say something to him.. but then again he did not answer me last time i sent him a question.
On June 29 2009 10:52 Reason wrote: I say you log onto AIM and say "Yo, fair enough if your daughter is grounded or whatever, or you don't want her getting raped by a pedophile, but why the fuck are you logged onto her AIM?
lol, ouch. Assuming you're not being trolled, and that it's in fact her dad: message back, apologize, and say you'll respect his wishes. This will increase your chances presently, and might help you avoid getting into shit with her folks in the future, if you guys start talking again, that is. gl!
hmm dude u've talked over the phone right? if its a cellphone then text her. if she doesn't text you back, then it's veryy possible she's not interested and just pretended to be her dad to not speak with u anymore....sorry to be so blunt but, thats life man. we all gotta learn the hard way. as far as calling her and shit like that, try it on monday when ur 100% positive her parents are working (im sure u must've gathered info about this from all those times you spoke). Again, if she doesn't pick up, leave a message "hey this is "your name", just wondering if your still alive haha"
dude if she doesn't call you back, or text you back. give it up, fuck that bitch and keep your pride.
edit: when u call her monday, if she doesn't pick up, DON'T KEEP CALLING, you'll just come off as a needy and pushy individual. keep your pride above all!!
I just wanted to add this: Since she wont be using the computer for a while, has it ever crossed your mind that you werent the only one she was chatting with? and that she may have gone further with other guys..
Not saying this to troll, but it's a possibility.
Also don't take the advice given further up (say you'll respect the dads wishes) cause that's total BS that that would help you, it'll be the opposite. Say you do say "I'm sorry sir, I'll respect your wishes" and then you meet the girl again? BUSTED and your chanses of ever getting him to trust you just went over to the negative part of the scale. He doesn't want to test you. He doesn't want you to date his daughter. You can't win him over.
On June 29 2009 11:13 SnowFalling wrote: I just wanted to add this: Since she wont be using the computer for a while, has it ever crossed your mind that you werent the only one she was chatting with? and that she may have gone further with other guys..
All I have is her word.. since I did ask about this since it was an ad open to any and everyone.
She said that she had a an experience similar to mine just lame/weird/odd/plain out uninteresting people
Just wait. If nothing happens, I doubt there is much you can do about it, unless you can get on her dad's good side. The thing is, if you don't, then it just gets worse, and you can just track down their address, show up at their house, and run away together, really old movie like.
Ok.. The poll and comments are saying give her call tomorrow and see whats up.
Problem with that is i knew her cell.. which if the dad (if he exists? you guys make me question these things, though I'm pretty sure he's real he types different and everything) is any kind of decent would have took away. and i dont have her home.. none the less ill try
Defiantly keep responding with comments and advice because I really appreciate guys.
On June 29 2009 11:13 SnowFalling wrote: Also don't take the advice given further up (say you'll respect the dads wishes) cause that's total BS that that would help you, it'll be the opposite. Say you do say "I'm sorry sir, I'll respect your wishes" and then you meet the girl again? BUSTED and your chanses of ever getting him to trust you just went over to the negative part of the scale. He doesn't want to test you. He doesn't want you to date his daughter. You can't win him over.
You make a good point, SnowFalling. I clearly didn't think this through. Though in my (very limited) experience, parents are very forgetful and rely heavily on first impressions. The logic was: only through the parent's approval will you ever get to meet the girl again in the first place, and actually go on to develop something meaningful.
Even though she is 18, although I am inclined to think she isn't. Anyways, you need to talk to the both of them, get this straightened out. Expect to walk away with no girl because it won't be worth it if you sneak this relationship and hide it, it will get weird, and weird is very bad. You are an adult, there's responsibilities you have to accept with being one. Sometimes parents are protective of their children and I don't blame them. He has every right to be overly protective and concealing.
I know you want this girl, but you have to play by their rules. That's a part of life. Talk with the dad, apologize for intruding when you didn't know they were affected in that sort of way. Be diplomatic, and kind. You can't be hostile. You can be firm but don't cross the line, this guy made people in the world, he can take them out for sure, haha. Just kinda joking that last line, but be yourself. Make a move anyhow.
yea she is probably 16 years old and her dad reads her chat logs. not a good idea to pursue unless you like to be on NBC's to catch a predator. unless she is smoking hot, then PASS.
You told some girl you met online that you love her in 6 days? Hehe, I'm not judging but it DOES seem a tad quick.
Anyway, since you guys are both 18+ it seems like the dad is just being a typical overprotective parent--they tend to do things like this, especially when stuff happens over the interweb.
I don't get why both of them are using the same aim? Maybe it was his PC not her in the 1st place? + Show Spoiler +
voted call
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On June 29 2009 11:09 HeavenS wrote: hmm dude u've talked over the phone right? if its a cellphone then text her. if she doesn't text you back, then it's veryy possible she's not interested and just pretended to be her dad to not speak with u anymore....sorry to be so blunt but, thats life man. we all gotta learn the hard way. as far as calling her and shit like that, try it on monday when ur 100% positive her parents are working (im sure u must've gathered info about this from all those times you spoke). Again, if she doesn't pick up, leave a message "hey this is "your name", just wondering if your still alive haha"
dude if she doesn't call you back, or text you back. give it up, fuck that bitch and keep your pride.
edit: when u call her monday, if she doesn't pick up, DON'T KEEP CALLING, you'll just come off as a needy and pushy individual. keep your pride above all!!
On June 29 2009 12:38 beetlelisk wrote: I don't get why both of them are using the same aim? Maybe it was his cpu not her in the 1st place?
Maybe.. but if she was legit and not a troll or anything like that.
She said that she had her own computer in her room.. makes since to me if seh made her background a picture i sent her? lol
Thanks for your opinion and vote Its possible he's signed in on her account another computer? that makes since as he's still on at 8:56 PST on what one would assume to be a worknight?
On June 29 2009 10:57 eshlow wrote: You are both of age. But you still probably need to get on the dad's good side.
Why don't you invite him out for lunch (in a public place of course) so he can get to know you. I'd personally ask him why he doesn't like you in the first place?
If you are serious about pursuing something like this, I think that showing that you have the balls to meet him in person and talk would go a long way.
Find someone else. One girl you've met online a couple of times is not worth this much trouble. As in, I met this girl but something weird was going on.
her dad probably has her phone though u might just have to look her up in a different way(not texting, calling, or internet) i know she might be perfect or seem that way but do u really expect a serious relationship with someone that lives far away? or an internet based relationship? If you somehow do(i'm no one to judge) u don't want to wait for her to contact you her dad will probably wont let her use the computer for a lot of time and she'll probably met someone so i do advise trying to contact her. Hope this helps
On June 29 2009 13:44 Heaven_n wrote: i know she might be perfect or seem that way but do u really expect a serious relationship with someone that lives far away? or an internet based relationship?
From what we've gathered we're only 10 miles apart not really a long distance Just haven't met up.
Yea internet based relationships arn't something I'd prefer, and honestly the original intention was just a text buddy while i was super bored home-sitting... it just grew into something bigger.
I think they can honestly work out though.. my brother met his fiance (oddly enough) on craigslist.. and my uncle met his wife on e-harmony
well if you say youve talked with her and she held up pics then its pretty safe to say shes not fake or anything (dunno why some ppl would still say that) I think it wouldnt be a bad idea to ask her dad if hes really on her aim =/ how old she is just to make sure she didnt lie to you and shes 15 or sth. anyway i still think the best option is to wait a week and see if she can contact you before you try contacting her.
I can tell you that adolescent girls will pull this on you if they suddenly feel like they've over-committed themselves and have no way out of it other than being sneaky. I've had friends who want to back out of potential relationships without hurting feelings, and this is what they say to me:
"I have three options. One, I can find another boyfriend really fast. Two, I can pretend I like someone. Three, I can ignore him until he stops talking to me." In this case, you might have an internet version of the third option.
Hopefully that's not the case, because I think fathers are easier to deal with than flaky love interests. Good luck!
On June 29 2009 15:49 hazelynut wrote: I can tell you that adolescent girls will pull this on you if they suddenly feel like they've over-committed themselves and have no way out of it other than being sneaky. I've had friends who want to back out of potential relationships without hurting feelings, and this is what they say to me:
"I have three options. One, I can find another boyfriend really fast. Two, I can pretend I like someone. Three, I can ignore him until he stops talking to me." In this case, you might have an internet version of the third option.
Hopefully that's not the case, because I think fathers are easier to deal with than flaky love interests. Good luck!
Thanks for the advise Hazel, I hope its not true but am ready to face it if it is.
On June 29 2009 12:38 beetlelisk wrote: I don't get why both of them are using the same aim? Maybe it was his cpu not her in the 1st place? + Show Spoiler +
voted call
Why do people use "cpu" to replace PC? CPU is a central processing unit, not a computer.
On June 29 2009 10:32 vRoOk wrote: quote on quote
That is "quote, end quote". I pray you aren't really that dense.
On June 29 2009 13:44 Heaven_n wrote: i know she might be perfect or seem that way but do u really expect a serious relationship with someone that lives far away? or an internet based relationship?
From what we've gathered we're only 10 miles apart not really a long distance Just haven't met up.
Yea internet based relationships arn't something I'd prefer, and honestly the original intention was just a text buddy while i was super bored home-sitting... it just grew into something bigger.
I think they can honestly work out though.. my brother met his fiance (oddly enough) on craigslist.. and my uncle met his wife on e-harmony
My parents met through letters, physical letters. And my mom knew very little english + from different country. And here I am. So yeh, it can work out sometimes
Ok.. I've decided since calling dint work I'm gonna try to talk to the father.. like clockwork he got online on at 4 which i assume is pretty close to when he gets home makes sense to me. What should I say? Anyone?
Let it go. You've done your part, start training or something to get out your frustration and fill your time, not just sit there thinking, guessing what is happening, preparing what you are going to say if she calls back, etc. + Show Spoiler +
Odds are you will ignore all this and do exactly what I just said. Prove me wrong. please.
What if she's using your dad as an excuse to get away from you? Lets hope that's not the case but it is a possibility, ive seen it happen haha. Just wait till monday and give her a call and see what happens GL man
I would say if you are truly serious about pursuing this girl, your only real option is to try to set up a face to face meeting with the dad. If it were a daughter of mine, there's no way in any hell I would let her meet any guy she met over the internet, pictures or no pictures. She would be too precious, and not worth that kind of risk. Even if the risk is remote, it's too big a chance to take. Now if a guy was sincere enough to meet me I'd at least consider the possibility, but you can't really fault the dad here for being careful with the most precious thing in his life.
I'd try to prove your sincerity (and your age) by trying to set up a meeting with the dad where you can ask for permission to have a real date with his daughter. IMO, this is the only situation I can see you coming out of this with a serious, long-term chance with this girl. If you're into casual dating and stuff (I never was/will be) there are probably other work-arounds that may be viable, but long-term I can't think of any other scenarios but this one.
Here's what I don't understand, what possible gain would her dad have by being on her AIM account? I mean to me he won't gain anything, he should just delete her AIM account and take her computer away, that is what a protective father should do. I'm sorry Vrook, but I think she just isn't interested in continuing a relationship with you. I had 3 online relationships in high school, and they all turned out to be lies. Girls just want to get some attentions online because they feel lonely, someone to talk to, but when it come to committing a relationship as someone mentioned in this thread, they will just run away. If she reallys likes you, then of course she would try to find a fucken way (for example call you using the home phone when her dad is away) to contact you, but it seems to me she won't contact you, therefore it can only mean she's not interested anymore....so worse case scenerio is to move on. I hope she does contact you so I can be proven wrong because I do want to see a happy ending.
On June 30 2009 16:25 Probe. wrote: WATCH OUT FOR CHRIS HANSEN
Oh gaawd.. I will!
On June 30 2009 17:45 bigsack wrote: Here's what I don't understand, what possible gain would her dad have by being on her AIM account?
I don't understand it too much either that's what i thought as well why doesntt he dad jsut take the computer away?
On June 30 2009 23:21 Caffeine_Free wrote: vRook keep us filled in, tell us what happened when you called her.
I called her cellphone which i had texted 3 or so times in 4 days. Only to get no response. The account still goes online but not after 10 pm and not again until 4 pm
I called via *67 just in case her dad had her phone and would see it was me. One ring and straight to voice mail.. which tells me its turned off therefore got taken away?
maybe leave an AIM msg that its fine if she doesn't want to continue/feels too weirded out/thinks its too dangerous, and you will respect that and stop contact, but just webcam/phone one last time to make sure that it is her will and not someone else and that it wasn't all fake?
On July 01 2009 01:53 fanatacist wrote: I think this girl just had an e-fling with you and then decided to move on to more exciting things like real life. Sad but true. Sorry bro.
Why? Because if her father was a real Nazi like he seems to be, he wouldn't be AIMing you, he would be calling you.
Pretty much this, except I'm guessing she's also like 13-14 and just likes playing with the power she can have over people.
On July 01 2009 01:53 fanatacist wrote: I think this girl just had an e-fling with you and then decided to move on to more exciting things like real life. Sad but true. Sorry bro.
Why? Because if her father was a real Nazi like he seems to be, he wouldn't be AIMing you, he would be calling you.
Have to agree with this. She probably played you and either might not have to guts to tell you the truth, or enjoys doing it in this cruel way.
On July 01 2009 01:53 fanatacist wrote: I think this girl just had an e-fling with you and then decided to move on to more exciting things like real life. Sad but true. Sorry bro.
Why? Because if her father was a real Nazi like he seems to be, he wouldn't be AIMing you, he would be calling you.
I'm starting to think this way, sucks because my feelings are and were real
I'm not sure I'm 100% there yet because "he" only did talk to me twice and both times was basically to say fuck you your not talking to *blank* for a long time.
Plus her cellphone being off? that doesn't amke sense.. if I was girl I'd just ignore me until i stopped but its always off.. straight to voice mail.. just leads me to think it was taken away.
Its also just hard to think that she would just wanna stop talking after over a week of talking for hours, and like she'd even send me e-mails when i was busy telling me she missed me and stuff like that. She'd be a hell of a faker.
Then again a lot doesn't add up like, her "dad" being on her AIM.
I'm not sure what to think but theirs defiantly doubts floating around within me.
On July 01 2009 02:44 arb wrote: whats her name pics?
I'm trying to avoid pics and names thus the *blank* for names and my refusal(?) to post pics. She's no supermodel or anything.. honestly I'm better looking than her and I'm like 8/10?
Are you new to the internet? There's no such thing as unlikely. It's like the question 'is there intelligent life outside earth?' Well, given how gigantic the universe is, almost definitely yes.
Are there creeps who'd be willing to spend a week screwing with someone on the internet? Almost definitely yes (actually, there are creeps who'll spend months, even a year on their fake internet persona).
You're letting what you want to believe get in the way of what is actually likely. You don't know her at all, you just like that she gave you attention. She (or he) probably felt a huge power rush at first, and now maybe is feeling guilty or afraid that things are getting too serious.
I mean, the fact that you say 'your feelings were real' is already a huge indicator that you're immensely naive, or this is some dumb joke you're playing. You don't develop real feelings for someone you've been talking to over the last week. What the hell is that? You're just desperate is all.
Chef's post reminded me of case where 2 women had a serious quarrel or something and 1 started talking to the other's daughter via her blog and "breaking up" with her some time later, as a revenge on her mother, leading this girl to a suicide. It was like in news all over the world?
On July 01 2009 05:11 Chef wrote: I mean, the fact that you say 'your feelings were real' is already a huge indicator that you're immensely naive, or this is some dumb joke you're playing. You don't develop real feelings for someone you've been talking to over the last week.
I meant my feelings were real like I was taking it serious, which i was given i was real dint lie real pictures, etc
I don't lover her i just just like her enough that it really sucks and I'd rather not give up on it so easily.
Sorry, I was a bit presumptuous. I get what you mean now.
I've just had friends who get rapped up in this stuff, and it's always the same story, and it's always the same ending. Trust is based on reason (knowing that the person you trust would lose something valuable if they broke it) not blind faith. That is to say... It's easy to trust people who just want your friendship and to play video games with you... They lose a video game partner if they screw you... But it's impossible to trust someone on the internet who is coming onto you, because chances are making you struggle is part of their fun.
Set your aim status to invisible, if her status changes to available soon after, there ya go. My guess tho is that if she were trying to avoid you she would have just set her status to invisible, and its very likely that since aim has the option to start up with log-in it is just turning on as her father turns on the computer when he gets home.
I got ahold of some of her friends (about 3) and they confirmed for me with 100% honesty that they couldn't reach her either and she is megagrounded.
So it really was the dad.. who by the way hasn't been going on aim at all since monday.
I guess all i can do now is wait for the "won't be able to use her computer for sometime.." to pass any ideas on how long that might be? I was thinking maybe 2 weeks to 2 months? She is rally 18+ her friends confirmed it how long can she really be grounded for?
Although I pretty much have to do everything my parents say and I'm 18+ because I'm living in their house. So It could be awhile.. thoughts?
On July 02 2009 06:14 spydernoob wrote: idk, the thing you need to worry about is what if by the time she is ungrounded she has forgotten or moved on from you
Yeah I'm worried about that.. I guess I'm kinda just praying that she feels the same way i do.. and isn't forgetting
On July 02 2009 09:41 ~_~ wrote: how did you manage to track down 3 of her friends? o_O
She told me their names, she used be in some kinda art school, did alot of broadcasting, found some of the videos on youtube got the full names searched for um on myspace and facebook found 3 of them. Just said hey do you *blank* and kinda went from there. But none of them can tlka to ehr either so idk what happened exactly
Don't waste your time talking to kids :O It sucks you got tricked, but there's literally no point. Just learn your lesson and be more careful about people you meet on the internet from now on
On July 02 2009 09:59 vRoOk wrote: She told me their names, she used be in some kinda art school, did alot of broadcasting, found some of the videos on youtube got the full names searched for um on myspace and facebook found 3 of them. .
Something tells me this is going overboard.
If I was the father, I would put a restraining order on this.
On July 02 2009 20:16 The Storyteller wrote: If you can get in touch with the dad you can try apologising to him. I bet he won't mind you dating his daughter then.
And what's wrong with dating a 16 year old, anyway? Tons of girls nowadays have boyfriends from the age of 13.
He's 18 so in a way it's considered pedophile.
Anyway, to the OP, you should try to figure out if she's still into you.
dude next time ask her out for ice cream or to hang out with some friends. Then her dad won't be so uptight about someone she has never actually met. He probably thinks you are some 50 year old man.
On July 03 2009 13:46 Brett wrote: Mate, just let it go. 16 yo.. in trouble with her parents, lied to you, internet relationship, in love after a week....
in my experience, when parents get in the way of a relationship... it's never going to go well. once had a girlfriend who (i found out about 3 months in) wasn't supposed to have a boyfriend at her age according to her parents.. so when i went to hug her when her parents were around, she freaked out. yup that ended about 2 weeks later...
another instance about parents+girl was when i was supposed to go on a blind date with an internet friend... and she showed up like 30 minutes late, saying she had to leave because she was grounded (she was 20?!)
in my opinion, if parents are still deeply involved in a person's life like that, it's probably not in your best interest to get involved. they're probably less mature than they have made themselves out to be.
but better luck next time! to avoid such confusion, try sticking with actual people instead of pics and text on the internet...
On June 29 2009 10:55 travis wrote: this story is pretty weird
TBH i think there is a good chance she was just really lonely but met other people and isn't interested in you anymore.
I just think you should accept that as a possibility. meeting people online like this has its downfalls.
definitely not trying to say you should give up, though.
As Ulysses said in The Odyssey: "Fickle is the heart of a woman; ever-changing, and full of vice."
If this is true in real life, then how much truer it is on the internet!
But I think you should try talking to her "father", all the same.
Ironic that you quote that line from The Odyssey, when one of the central storylines revolves around Penelope staying faithful and constant in her love.
To the op: I still think she had an e-fling with you; I've been on both ends of such relationships in my teenage years and this is exactly what it seems like.
why doesn't her dad just block u from aim, seems like hes just toying with you at this point. or u could of been toyed with from the start, some people are mean like that. remember that girlwho killed herself over a myspace guy (not real guy, fake profile created by adults)
dude, trust me when i say, don't even go for any kinda online relationship like that. its so pointless, unless you have the real thing, can see them in real life, then you lose so much of it. I can understand the joys of chatting and texting etc, but talkin and kickin it with girls in person is MUCH more enjoyable. You said that you would rate yourself 8/10? you must be pretty frekin good looking. If you rated yourself that 100% truthfully and you're pursuing these kinda online flings, my guess is that you have no game or confidence to talk to girls in real life..?
I know this is kinda a strong/possibly-offensive guess but really, if you're that good looking, you can get attention easy. You can pretty much walk up to any girl (in the correct situation/context of course) and start up a convo and she probably wouldn't blow you off. Cuz i know if a 8/10 girl walked up to me and started talkin, i would enjoy it
Imo, her dad was always on her AIM because if he was online, she couldn't log in from other computers. And if he's a freak, he was logged in from his computer at work too.
Anyway, just move on. You'll forget about her, especially when you get involved with other girls.
EPT
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We've seen pictures of each other (lol, even holding up signs saying yes this is me just to prove it).. we've talked on the phone.. we're just so so happy. Life is great 
