EPTman.. i don't get those kind of girls
On April 03 2009 08:12 WhatisProtoss wrote:
Here's the thing.
This has happened to me before.
Situation: There is a nice girl. We chat a lot, we get to know each other. Finally, I ask her out on a date a week later. We go to a park, next to a huge river. I brought take-out, and we share it on a large wooden deck, while the sun is slowly setting. We finish the food. We sit on the swingsets in a nearby playground, and comfortably talk.
The next few days, I bring her over to my place, and we hang out. We even cuddled together.
I keep treating her really well. I talk to her often. But, I asked her out on another date, and she rejects me.
She thinks that I'm a really nice and caring guy. (In the beginning, she thought that I was a bad-boy, who got what he wanted). So basically, I lost my "power". I took the initiative to ask her on a date. She had fun. But, you kept taking the fun to her. Perhaps, we should have given it some time to settle. Make the girl miss you. "Well, Ben was a really fun date. But I haven't seen him in a couple days. I kinda miss him."
I guess, our mistake was smothering the girl, and trying to keep the momentum going. Girls like to play a cat-and-mouse game. Treat her really well, but don't always keep smothering her with your good graces.
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So, after a few months, I fell for my ex-gf again. I didn't want to fuck around anymore, and get back together with her (because we were the best match).
Basically, this meant that I stopped becoming so available for this new girl. I stopped jumping to hang out with her. I stopped calling/messaging her. So after 4-5 weeks, she starts to message me first. I don't rush to help her anymore, so half the time, I'm not available. But when we do hang out, obviously I still treat her well. But she's way more flirty, and keeps acting jealous about other girls around me.
(If I was still interested in this girl, this is the tactic I should have used. I should have acted disinterested, and shouldn't have been always available for her. Give it some time, and she'll begin to miss you. Spend time with your own friends; have your own life. When you do spend time with her, be super confident, and enjoy it. Don't pine for more time with her. If she doesn't want a 2nd date, act like you don't care! You're a good guy. You planned a great date. You were a gentleman.)
Here's the rule in relationships: The power belongs to the person who needs the relationship less.
Be happy by yourself. Then, she'll come to you. (but this bitch sounds like she's not worth it anyways)
Here's the thing.
This has happened to me before.
Situation: There is a nice girl. We chat a lot, we get to know each other. Finally, I ask her out on a date a week later. We go to a park, next to a huge river. I brought take-out, and we share it on a large wooden deck, while the sun is slowly setting. We finish the food. We sit on the swingsets in a nearby playground, and comfortably talk.
The next few days, I bring her over to my place, and we hang out. We even cuddled together.
I keep treating her really well. I talk to her often. But, I asked her out on another date, and she rejects me.
She thinks that I'm a really nice and caring guy. (In the beginning, she thought that I was a bad-boy, who got what he wanted). So basically, I lost my "power". I took the initiative to ask her on a date. She had fun. But, you kept taking the fun to her. Perhaps, we should have given it some time to settle. Make the girl miss you. "Well, Ben was a really fun date. But I haven't seen him in a couple days. I kinda miss him."
I guess, our mistake was smothering the girl, and trying to keep the momentum going. Girls like to play a cat-and-mouse game. Treat her really well, but don't always keep smothering her with your good graces.
----
So, after a few months, I fell for my ex-gf again. I didn't want to fuck around anymore, and get back together with her (because we were the best match).
Basically, this meant that I stopped becoming so available for this new girl. I stopped jumping to hang out with her. I stopped calling/messaging her. So after 4-5 weeks, she starts to message me first. I don't rush to help her anymore, so half the time, I'm not available. But when we do hang out, obviously I still treat her well. But she's way more flirty, and keeps acting jealous about other girls around me.
(If I was still interested in this girl, this is the tactic I should have used. I should have acted disinterested, and shouldn't have been always available for her. Give it some time, and she'll begin to miss you. Spend time with your own friends; have your own life. When you do spend time with her, be super confident, and enjoy it. Don't pine for more time with her. If she doesn't want a 2nd date, act like you don't care! You're a good guy. You planned a great date. You were a gentleman.)
Here's the rule in relationships: The power belongs to the person who needs the relationship less.
Be happy by yourself. Then, she'll come to you. (but this bitch sounds like she's not worth it anyways)
dude if i had done the whole make her want me more and she wanted me... i still would not go for a girl like that... fuk that shit
girls have to realize that in the end they will want to be w/ a nice guy not some jerk face... that's soo high school crush... immature girls =P
