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On July 03 2008 20:32 Jathin wrote: tube, RebelHart already beat you to this stupid shit. Go away attention whore. yeah he's a christian too, he wants to stop masturbating, i'm happy for him, but you thinking that i posted this for attention shows what your opinion means, doesn't it? i WAS looking for tips, not attention, in fact i posted this on my blog knowing that it would be forgotten 24 hours later
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On July 03 2008 20:30 tube wrote:
most of my friends have admittedly began watching porn around the age of 13-14 and we're 16 going into our junior year. i'm trying to stop as early as possible and i don't see how age will affect what you think in a constructive way seeing how all of your "advice" thus far was complete bullshit that seemed to have no purpose but to discourage me
The reason they're discouraging you is because they think it's a bad idea. Though they may have mixed up your message and thought you were giving up masturbation, which is IMO basically impossible, with nothing to gain.
if you honestly think watching porn won't affect your relationships in a negative way, you're either ignorant or in denial
I'm not trying to be rude, but are you kidding? When you're 16, you can't help being ignorant like this, but it's not your fault really.
Are you unable to manage your time well enough that you could watch porn/masturbate without it affecting your social life? Have you no personal time? You must have a computer. Close the door to your room, put on headphones, and watch whatever you want.
its true, its almost like i was asking for retarded advice as soon as i posted this on tl knowing what fucktards existed on it like you nevertheless even if all i get from posting this is flame and "retarded advice" at least it will tell me more about the general populace's view on porn
That's not very nice. You weren't really asking for retarded advice, you were just asking a retarded question. Most people have dealt with this easily by themselves by managing their personal time and their social time, and keeping them separate. Or, if they have a busy schedule, they just hold off on their "personal time" until they actually have time for it. I assume if you were busy you could wait until you had some personal time to masturbate. That's what the rest of the world does, and they don't have to ask for advice online.
And the general view on porn isn't really what's being shown here. What's being shown here is the general view on religion: A lot of people think it's stupid to inconvenience yourself like this based on religion. Of course, your views are your own.
also, i never said i was going to stop masturbating its a healthy part of our lives and i know it
I'm happy to hear that.
The only possible advice for you if you really can't manage your time is to masturbate without porn.
I hope this helped.
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On July 03 2008 20:30 tube wrote: if you honestly think watching porn won't affect your relationships in a negative way, you're either ignorant or in denial
Or you're just a normal person who doesn't make a big deal about what harmless activity people do in their spare time? When I go to my friend's house and see porn links in their browsing history they just go "yeah I was bored" and maybe "check out this site some time it's good".
On July 03 2008 20:30 tube wrote: its true, its almost like i was asking for retarded advice as soon as i posted this on tl knowing what fucktards existed on it like you nevertheless even if all i get from posting this is flame and "retarded advice" at least it will tell me more about the general populace's view on porn
Yeah you really asked for it the moment you mentioned god. I'd be more afraid of the ceiling cats watching you, they really do exist.
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To be honest, I don't believe porn is harmless. Porn stars are exploited in very extreme ways, and by watching porn you feed into that. But it's pretty clear to me that you've decided to avoid porn for selfish reasons. That's fine, I'm not trying to insult.
Personally, I watch porn for selfish reasons, despite my awareness and disgust at the exploitation of women (who were most likely abused/raped as children, and almost certainly lacked a healthy upbringing). My personal reasons have less to do with pleasure and more to do with sanity. I have a very strict principle I try to adhere to in my social life: to never masturbate while thinking about someone I know. This is because, at least for me, it's incredibly hard to be around an attractive friend and act normal when the temptation to look for future masturbation-fantasy material is so great. How do you avoid gawking at your friend's double Ds, or committing her ass to memory, if you limit your sources for masturbation subjects? For me, porn was a way to treat friends like people, and not sex objects.
It sounds like it works differently for you, though. Although I'd assume you're projecting (blaming porn for your social etiquette, when its role in how you behave is almost assuredly minimal), I can't be sure. Maybe where porn provides me with relief from the social awkwardness involved in imagining my friends naked, it may actually make you more socially awkward. Either way, you'll find out fast enough. Hope it works out for ya... and if it doesn't, I hope you start using porn again before you rape someone out of desperation for sexual stimulants.
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Porn is one of the most wonderful things of God's creation. Why not enjoy it? I, for one, haven't been struck by a lightning yet while jerking off.
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I read the whole thread and I really don't understand what the OP's actual problem is.
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Why is everyone massively flaming this poor guy? Good luck to you, although, don't expect quitting porn to be some magic remedy that brings success to your relationship with girls.
Stay away from "Day #" threads as well.
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On July 03 2008 20:14 tube wrote:Show nested quote +On July 03 2008 20:05 tube wrote: i deeply thought about it and i realized that if i keep watching porn at this rate (once a day, perhaps more), my life will be virtually ruined. first of all, its ruining my relationship with God (Christianity is one of the only things i have right now) i can already see it affecting my social life in various ways which i would prefer not to get into, and i have to stop before its too late and i become like people i see on bnet or even tl.net
if anyone sincerely has tips, i need them badly becasue i haven't watched porn in ~36 hours and its getting harder and harder to stop myself knowing im home alone almost all day every day this summer so who here is mature... another reason why im doing this is because im seriously interested in having a romantic and platonic relationship with a girl at my school
Having a romantic AND platonic relationship with a girl is just asking for trouble
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seriously though, porn itself is often very dumbed down and sexist and doesnt really promote a "healthy" view of women and anyone who doesnt agree is probably too young or wants to be a hardass
so i definately understand your point and whether its about god or something else, no one cant feel that good in the long run if your ADDICTED to porn, then it just becomes another addiction.
you shouldnt have started this thread here, some people are just too "haha porn rulez" mainly because of age and maturity I guess. People will just joke around about it
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I went through this myself when I became a Christian it took me months to get over the hurdle. If you really really want it to stop and tell God your never doing it again with his help then there comes a time when it just switches off and your pure. Just conciously avoid going anywhere near things of that subject matter, divert your mind (load up starcraft maybe?) when you start getting thoughts and God will start to help you when he see's your trying. As I said it took a few months but I'm over it now pretty exclusively.
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Good for you. Don't listen to the people mocking you. Even if God didn't exist (I'm a Christian too), it's still a noble thing to want to be able to control your mind and body and guard it against detestable things. I know in my case I was around 10-12 and I found something my dad was looking at and I've been trying to throw it off ever since then. It's not easy, but I think I'm nearing the point where I can ignore the temptation.
Some advice:
Involve other people that you know. I know one's first reaction is the furthest thing from that, but if other people know about it and can check up on how you're doing, it makes it that much easier.
Stay away from things that inflame the urge. This is particularly true on the internet.... you can save yourself a lot of pain by just avoiding certain websites, threads, etc.
Set a goal. Make it small at first, then when you meet that one set another one. Keep track of it in a notepad file or in a journal or something. Reward yourself with something when you meet them. Making short range goals and a long range one can be quite useful. I know my long term goal is one year, and I've promised myself I will not get in a relationship until I've reached that goal. Sounds kind of crazy, but really I'm in no hurry to get in a relationship anyways, and you know what? It seems to be working so far. I haven't had the slightest desire to look at porn since then.
When you get the urge, make it habit to do something else. I know in my case the urge often comes late at night, so whenever my desire starts to increase I go to sleep. Once you're in the habit of doing something else, you'll start doing it almost automatically without letting things get out of hand.
If you want more advice or support private message me, I'm not going to check this particular blog entry again because I'm sure the mocking will be than I care to deal with. :p
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LOL so much controversy jsut cuz some guy wants to stop wackin it
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Odd blog, but there was a story put on general not long ago about a forum with people doiing the same thing as you.
edit: here it is
www.teensagainstporn.com
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Porn is kind of more important then magic sky man
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first of all, its ruining my relationship with God
You came to the wrong place.
so who here is mature... Certainly not you.
IMO you're quitting pornography for the wrong reasons. There are good reasons, I will admit, but for God is not one of them. You're using God as a crutch to make it seem like your goal is some holy undeniably honourable mission you'll never have to question. That might help you quit, but in the long run it will make you a douche bag who can't think for himself. Quit because you think it's feeding dangerous drug addictions, quit because you think it promotes unhealthy ideals, quit because you think it lowers sex drive for realistic sex, quit because you think it's disrespectful in a monogamous relationship, quit because you think you have a problem and you can't budget your time properly. But for the love of God, don't act righteous and tell everyone how much closer you are to God because you made a personal alteration in your lifestyle (which is the smallest, first step, to getting anything done and maybe possibly not even for sure helping humanity).
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porn helps
now image some dude who hasn't watched any porn in his life
fail
EDIT: ok seriously, i have some trick. Keep a picture of God next to the monitor so that everytime u have the temptation, god will save u from err. lust. its sin its sin
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i kinda lost interest in porn at 15-16
cuz i realised i the real thing was way cooler and porn is just stress relief
now i watch it 1-2 times a week
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now i watch it 1-2 times a week That's hardly losing interest lol.
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losing interest would be once every 6 months
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