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Today, i was invited by this girl i like, her name is yilda (quite a "unique" name haha). Im starting to really like her. But i cant make up my mind about what path to follow. I can either make a move clearly putting my intentions to the table, or i can make some low-profile moves and see how she responds.
A big problem here is that she has already a boyfriend and has been with him about 9 months. My friend told me that the relationship wouldnt last very long (one "point" is that she has had lots of "long term" relationships). I think she likes me, at least thats what i get from her body language.
Everytime im around she comes near me, even if i didnt come to see her. She laughs a lot with me, we flirt/filrt w/e the word is, etc, but still, im hestitant to act, you know... woman often down know what they want and act very weird.
i hope to get a pic of her, so you can evaluate whether or not she's worth ( i'd give her a 9 ).
obligated girl pic:
she's one of my favourites 
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Snet
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we flirt/filrt w/e the word is
lol
i'd say go for it, but then again ive never had a girlfriend so dno how valid my advice is
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hahahah OMG snet I remember reading that, but didn't know you wrote it 
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no offense but you're kind of a prick here
9 months isn't a fling, that's a full blown relationship and you're going to try and sweep in and fuck up someone else's love life to try and attempt to better your own. better yet, you're going to try and date a girl that (if she does with you) fucks around on her boyfriends. and i can promise you she'll do it to you too if she does it to him.
then you have to take into consideration her bf. do you know him or his friends? could he/they kick your ass? is some probably not so memorable pussy worth getting your ass kicked? ionooooo
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Holy shit for a second I thought the pic was of the girl in question O_o
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Never slowplay a pot.
You are young you have the time and here are the outcomes of your possible choices:
slowplay:
1. she indeed like you much but goes well with her boyfriend time can only get their relationship stronger welcome il the goodfriend club. A club you don't want to be a memeber.
2. she indeed like you and this is not going very well with his boyfriend. You may very well be the confident and join the goodfriend club that way too.
3. you were wrong she doesn't like you... over
go for it:
1. she indeed like you much but goes well with her boyfriend. Tough choice for her but she has to take it. Even if it doesn't pay right now time passes relationships gets better or worse you may have your chance either now or later.
2. she indeed like you and this is not going very well with his boyfriend. GG
3. you were wrong she doesn't like you... over
This isn't a tough choice. The tough part is to get the right time to go for it. It must be soon but it must also have a special thing in her feelings towards you.
Edit: And having been the goodfriend so many times I know this is fucking horrible to hear it. It is 100x better to have her assume her responsability in this than hearing shit about deep friendship and stuff like that.
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women dont know what they want
you have to tell them.
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On December 04 2007 08:17 AmorVincitOmnia wrote:
then you have to take into consideration her bf. do you know him or his friends? could he/they kick your ass? is some probably not so memorable pussy worth getting your ass kicked? ionooooo
he's bigger than me, so i might get my ass kicked, but he aint going away clean haha :p
i dont know, she's pretty and i really like her personality. I dont know her bf except from a pic, and nor his bf friend. I might sound like a prick, hence the dilema :p
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On December 04 2007 08:35 RtS)Night[Mare wrote:Show nested quote +On December 04 2007 08:17 AmorVincitOmnia wrote:
then you have to take into consideration her bf. do you know him or his friends? could he/they kick your ass? is some probably not so memorable pussy worth getting your ass kicked? ionooooo he's bigger than me, so i might get my ass kicked, but he aint going away clean haha :p i dont know, she's pretty and i really like her personality. I dont know her bf except from a pic, and nor his bf friend. I might sound like a prick, hence the dilema :p
dont be bm, she has a bf.
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On December 04 2007 08:15 BuGzlToOnl wrote:hahahah OMG snet I remember reading that, but didn't know you wrote it
rofl i remember that thread, good times rofl, some funny stories (big boy with small bros monkey) GG ROFL
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Bf really settles it - don't. If he's a total douche bag, it's ok to tell her but don't try to fuck it up, especially if he's a good guy and they're just in a rough patch.
And boudiou is also right. Don't get into close friend territory cause then you're fucked 99% of the time (or not getting fucked as it were.)
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On December 04 2007 10:15 Jibba wrote:
Bf really settles it - don't. If he's a total douche bag, it's ok to tell her but don't try to fuck it up, especially if he's a good guy and they're just in a rough patch.
Well I dunno guys this just feels noble and stuff but really if she happens to break the relationship this wouldn't have been helped.
He doesn't know him at all it isn't really acting badly in my opinion. Although the best way would be obviously to have the girl breaking before doing anything but this is quite hard to set up.
I haven't faced this case however I have no experience here.
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On December 04 2007 10:15 Jibba wrote:
Bf really settles it - don't. If he's a total douche bag, it's ok to tell her but don't try to fuck it up, especially if he's a good guy and they're just in a rough patch.
And boudiou is also right. Don't get into close friend territory cause then you're fucked 99% of the time (or not getting fucked as it were.)
yea besides if her and the b/f break up, def go for it. Otherwise you end up too close and have awkward sex;x
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On December 04 2007 08:17 AmorVincitOmnia wrote:
no offense but you're kind of a prick here
This is a logical conclusion, based on many common sense (but wrong) assumptions which I will clear up for everyone:
9 months isn't a fling, that's a full blown relationship and you're going to try and sweep in and fuck up someone else's love life to try and attempt to better your own.
Yes, but it's the girl's choice too. If she goes for it, it's hers and his love life too, and you shouldn't let some stale 9 months old thing waiting to be toppled over, stand in the way of true love, or at least tempting enough sex for the girl to go for it.
better yet, you're going to try and date a girl that (if she does with you) fucks around on her boyfriends. and i can promise you she'll do it to you too if she does it to him.
True, except any girl really would. Don't be fooled.
then you have to take into consideration her bf. do you know him or his friends? could he/they kick your ass? is some probably not so memorable pussy worth getting your ass kicked? ionooooo
Buy a gun, then no emo fag is going to roid rage on you, cos you got "self defense" on your side. Who cares what the competition thinks after they have lost?
Now, about your problem. You are right that she probably doesn't know what she thinks either, and you don't want that to change until after you've made her orgasm a couple times. So be careful what kind of moves you make. I say, try to push the hot, but don't bring it into words, keep her able to believe it's innocent until she can't resist. If this doesn't happen, then it wasn't meant to be, but I think that's the right attitude.
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Eh, if you think she's really into you, I say go for it. The thing is, is she REALLY expressing interest in you, or are you kind stuck in a crush on her and maybe not thinking straight?
I will disagree with others here. Relationships go flat sometimes, and in those situations people often do not want to simply end the relationship, and what happens is it just goes flat and someone else comes into the picture and snatches up the girl (or guy.) So their relationship could be kind of stalled and you could simply be the guy to come in and pick up this woman. It sounds like you are all teenagers and this isn't a marriage or family situation, so who cares? Just be respectful. If she prefers you to the other guy, then that's just how it is. No guilt or shame there. Like I said, relationships can go flat, go sour, and relationships certainly end, all the time. That's just part of life. The key is that you just not do anything dishonest or shady. If she likes you, and wants to be with you, that's her call. No one should judge you for anything.
So I say go ahead and talk to her about it. It sounds like you guys have the flirtation thing going on pretty good, so just build off of that.
Men and women BOTH often do not know what they want, but you'll never know for sure what this girl's deal is unless you ask or otherwise pursue her. Just be respectful and whatever happens will be a learning experience. And always remember, there are a million women out there you could be happy and satisfied with, so if this one doesn't work out, it's no big deal.
Nick / Inky
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I disagree with Luggy. I think honesty and directness are preferable to any kind of "games," even if people willingly get sucked into the "game." To be totally fair though, I think it is good to do things that build attraction - you know, straight up flirtation and whatnot, but at the end of the day, you want to be straight forward about it all. Personally, I think directness shows integrity and strength. IT shows you respect her and you are confident in yourself.
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And Snet, your time is coming, brotha! For now, just focus on talking to women and getting used to that. Look them in the eye, and keep a humorous vibe going on - I know you have it in you, because you are a pretty funny dude. When you get one that seems to enjoy talking with you, invite them to join you for coffee or... whatever it is that highschoolers do (I never went to HS, or had A GF until age 22, but in adulthood, coffee or tea seem pretty good.)
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[QUOTE]On December 04 2007 11:19 lugggy wrote:
[QUOTE]On December 04 2007 08:17 AmorVincitOmnia wrote:
[quote]Yes, but it's the girl's choice too. If she goes for it, it's hers and his love life too, and you shouldn't let some stale 9 months old thing waiting to be toppled over, stand in the way of true love, or at least tempting enough sex for the girl to go for it.[/quote]
you know we're living in a society here? it's not our mission to fuck over people we don't know because it benefits us and we can. this is some girl he hardly knows, a crush? a crush vs. a 9 month relationship. and who said it was stale? do you know the couple?
[quote]True, except any girl really would. Don't be fooled.[/quote]
most of my gfs, if they ever had a problem with someone flirting with them at work or something would let me know. not so that i could go to her job and "fuck his shit up", but because i've always dated girls that knew it wasn't necessary to hide shit like that, and if i found out from someone else it would be x10 worse. point is, no, i don't think any girl would do it.
[quote]Buy a gun, then no emo fag is going to roid rage on you, cos you got "self defense" on your side. Who cares what the competition thinks after they have lost?[/quote]
what the fuck? you're willing to kill someone over a fucking girl you have a crush on?
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