On May 13 2015 09:20 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: I agree with BD. If I had to guess, she's probably putting on a fake identity just to screw with you. It sounds to me like she's actually an athletic 26 year old businessman from Italy who loves to travel. She might even work part time at a bakery or something.
So mate, this is what you do... You tell her you've just found out that you were set up in an arranged marriage when you were 5 years old and the wedding date is actually set for September 2017, in Wales. As if that wasn't bomb dropping enough... Explain to her that your Fiancée is a volunteer worker for Unicef and you feel compelled to help her with her work while getting to know all about her. She's currently based in the Democratic Republic of the Congo and you'll be moving there soon as well. You're not sure on whether or not they have internet there so these next few months may be the last time you'll be chatting to her (the online girl). As a last favour of your friendship to this girl, you tell her you need some advice on how to properly date women as you've never been in the situation where you've had to interact with a 3D girl before.
I read your story, and after reading it again, I smell a rat... actually, many.
First, you:
You claimed to be this 26 year old successful traveling athletic businessman/baker. This honestly sounds too good to be true for an online social site; would such a person actually make a profile and look to find friends let alone romantic relationships with women on a website? And with no picture, I don't think people would take you seriously.
Second, the woman:
Ask yourself, "Would a very attractive woman who is married at 23 with kids say and do the things she has said and done?" She has given you no indication that she is unhappy with her marriage or kids, and yet she chooses to put all that at risk to flirt with you. A married woman flirting with you.... without knowing what you look like. I don't buy that. Besides, even if you were the person you claimed to be and she were the person she claimed to be, would you really want to be with her and all the drama that would ensue? Would you want to be with a woman who would flirt with guys online behind your back? Already I get the impression that she is a bad girl.
When I first read that she responded with all smiley faces when you said that da Vinci line, I was willing to let it slide and give her the benefit of the doubt because even though it sounded quite cheesy, I didn't know the context in which it was said. But then you said, "I said that I never post my pic because it's bound to be disappointing," to which she replied that "nothing I ever did could disappoint her," which is an absolutely massive red flag. Your lack of confidence would normally be a turnoff to any woman, and if she were any sane reasonable person, she would've called your athletic body into question because it wouldn't make sense for someone who's athletic to be disappointing in the looks department. However, this didn't put her off at all... In fact, you said that she said that "nothing I ever did could ever disappoint her." Either she is the most desperate woman in the world, the craziest woman in the world, the dumbest woman in the world, or some person who is not what you think...... The reason being that women can always find something about a guy they can be disappointed about... unless he's Mr. Perfect whom we all know does not exist.
Also, if it's true that she was raped at the age of 15 by a man she met online who lied to her, then why is she not concerned in the slightest that you might be lying to her and/or attempting to do the same thing? Forget that--why is she even looking to talk with men at all online? (Don't forget, she's married with children.) Why is she talking and flirting with you despite the fact that you have no picture? After all, women normally don't respond to men on social sites who don't have photos of themselves.
Last but definitely not least, nothing that you ever did could disappoint her "but that she would feel 'betrayed' if [you were] actually a girl and [only] pretending to be a guy." So, let me get this straight. Who you are does not matter, and all she cares about is that you are a male. And she is trying to gather information about you, such as what you look like??
What to do.....
In the worst possible case, this person is a tech-savvy sexual predator who knows more about you than you realize... and I'd advise you to go to the police. In the less extreme (EDIT: more likely) case that this is just some random guy on the internet trying to steal your identity, you should just stop all communication with this person. In the best possible scenario, this person might actually be some girl who is just playing the same game you are... in which case, you can just call each other out and have a good laugh about it together, but I doubt that. This honestly feels like a horror novel with a write-your-own ending.
Some other things I noticed...
I think it's pretty likely that the person knows about this thread--a Google search of that da Vinci line you used in quotes brings this thread up as one of the top three results. Plus, there's that reverse image search trick that Barrin was talking about earlier in the thread.
I noticed a few psychological ploys to draw sympathy and guilt from you from this person. First is the obvious confession that she has depression, bad self-esteem, and confidence issues. I imagine this would trigger your "white-knight" instinct to help her feel better and do whatever you could to help. (EDIT: Even some people in the comments believe this girl is the victim here, but even if she is genuine, there's no reason to be sympathetic towards her when she's the one flirting and allowing complications to arise in her life.) The second, more subtle, one is the fact that she told you the man that raped her lied about his age. In order to not feel like such a bad person, you would feel compelled to be honest with her or face feelings of guilt for lying. Since your profile seems too good to be true, this would most likely lead to the latter. These ploys would definitely serve the person's interests in trying to get your personal information.
Please be careful, fluffy_pylon. Even though what I've written is just speculation, I don't think it's wise to continue communicating with..... It. (EDIT: If I'm wrong and she is genuine, then out of respect for her family and the life she's made for herself, you should back off.)
Sincerely, Shalashaska_123
On May 17 2015 00:34 KelsierSC wrote: this is all kinds of fucked up
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