I'm really a 17 year old high school senior from America, but I joined a social website and made up a fake profile, saying I was an athletic 26 year old businessman from Italy who loved to travel and worked part time in a bakery. I thought it would be fun and exciting and exotic. I got a 23 year old girl/women from Texas to fall in love with me over the last 3 weeks that we have been chatting, and she revealed to me many intimate details of her life, saying that she is married, has a 5 year old son and 2 year old daughter, and lost touch with her parents (who had divorced earlier) after she was raped by a man she met online when she was 15 (and her parents blamed her for getting raped). She has since been struggling with depression, confidence, and self-esteem issues.
Even though she is married she keeps flirting with me and saying I'm sweet and stuff like that, and I enjoy getting this kind of attention from her because she is very attractive. I just feel a little bad (or guilty) because she told me that the guy who raped her also lied about his age, saying he was a lot younger than he really was.
Yesterday I sent her this message "your face is so interesting that Leonardo da Vinci's painting of you would be his all-time masterpiece...and your personality is equally fascinating". This caused her to leave me lots of smiley faces and she said I was "too sweet for my own good" and she has asked me to send a pic of myself to her, because I complimented her so many times on her appearance.
I said that I never post my pic because it's bound to be disappointing, to which she replied that nothing I ever did could disappoint her, but that she would feel "betrayed" if I was actually a girl and was only pretending to be a guy. I don't know what to do now.
Sounds like she is playing you dude. Don't meet up with her. She is probably juggling multiple guys online. Since her incident at 15 she has been meeting guys in person only to murder them. You are her next victim. The fact that you are lieing to her will only make it easier for her to finish you off. She will only pretend to like any picture you send as part of her plan. RIP dude. I'm not sure how you survive this but good luck.
I agree with BD. If I had to guess, she's probably putting on a fake identity just to screw with you. It sounds to me like she's actually an athletic 26 year old businessman from Italy who loves to travel. She might even work part time at a bakery or something.
What possesses you to be such a dick? Getting a vulnerable idiot to like you online doesn't take much. Take the pics down and never use that da vinci line again.
Can't tell if you're being serious. If this is not a troll, you're not doing her any favors posting her pics and sharing intimate knowledge with random people online, wtf. >.<
On May 13 2015 10:29 fluffy_pylon wrote: i don't understand why i need to take them down.
what? do you have permission from her to post pictures in some random blog on a website where people talk about sc2?
How about if you gave her pictures of you, which you're reluctant to give even to her, and she immediately posted them on... I dunno, some porn website, where potentially hundreds of people can recognize you. You don't even feel like revealing yourself to her, so why are you posting her pictures online without her permission. She probably doesn't want to be revealed to the public internet.
1. Do not actually send her your pics 2. She is depressed so if you cut her off, or reveal the awful truth that you are not a 26 YO Italian businessman, it might set her off.
Recommendation: Find pics of a handsome 23-35 year old italian and send that to her. It will make her feel better. What you do afterwards is up to you.
she said that if she found out i was a girl she would feel betrayed and would not talk to me for a long time, even though she would "eventually get over it."
so i dont want to think what she would do if i told her i lied about where i live, how old i am, and what i do...
I've been catfished before. I'm not one to get my hopes up so I can't say I was devastated or anything.
You know the feeling you get when something you have been excited for is close to happening and then something fucks everything up? Like your stomach has been tied into a knot and pulled tightly? Going from daily conversations to complete silence after being stood up is the heaviest of those feelings I've ever felt so far.
My advice: stick to trolling forums and chatrooms. You can convince people that you're a 65 year old racist or a 14 year old "amateur philosopher" or anything in-between. Not only do you get the satisfaction of making people believe a story, you also have a much smaller chance of actually affecting someone's life that way.
I think the moral of this story: stop trolling dating sites where you can harm someone (like in this case) and stick to doing that on forums. Disappointing blog all around imo.
the actual answer is to break cleanly if this is real. just be polite. Don't even have to be super specific, just say you were misleading and it isn't right to mislead, and certainly you can't mislead someone with (real or nonreal) kids.
On May 13 2015 10:46 fluffy_pylon wrote: she said that if she found out i was a girl she would feel betrayed and would not talk to me for a long time, even though she would "eventually get over it."
so i dont want to think what she would do if i told her i lied about where i live, how old i am, and what i do...
well technically you're not a girl so if you reveal your true self, you can make that argument
To be honest at this point your only reasonable option is to study up on your italian and undergo some cosmetic surgery so you can turn into the 26 year old athletic italian businessman, who works part time in a bakery, you promised.
Whether your condition is manifested from a bad childhood or you're just wired that way - you should address your condition, and work with a therapist. People with your condition are pure evil - some people may pity you simply because they don't understand what a sociopath is; those people need to educate themselves. You're a bad person and we both know you agree.
On May 13 2015 19:44 SecretSnail wrote: Well, that's what happen when you lie.
You are a bad bad pylon, my brother.
I wouldn't build you to power my gates.
Yeah, this is DT warp-in pylon kind of shit.
I think you should increase the hyperbole and the extravagant promises and see how outrageous it can get before she gets suspicious. Like are you REALLY going to buy her a Ferrari and live with her in a Venetian villa? Does she like being called a spicy meat-a-ball and does she really want to have four boys with you named Vinnie, Frankie, Mikey, and Tony (which real Italians don't do, only Italian Americans)?
On May 13 2015 08:56 fluffy_pylon wrote: I'm really a 17 year old high school senior from America, but I joined a social website and made up a fake profile, saying I was an athletic 26 year old businessman from Italy who loved to travel and worked part time in a bakery. I thought it would be fun and exciting and exotic. I got a 23 year old girl/women from Texas to fall in love with me over the last 3 weeks that we have been chatting, and she revealed to me many intimate details of her life, saying that she is married, has a 5 year old son and 2 year old daughter, and lost touch with her parents (who had divorced earlier) after she was raped by a man she met online when she was 15 (and her parents blamed her for getting raped). She has since been struggling with depression, confidence, and self-esteem issues.
Even though she is married she keeps flirting with me and saying I'm sweet and stuff like that, and I enjoy getting this kind of attention from her because she is very attractive. I just feel a little bad (or guilty) because she told me that the guy who raped her also lied about his age, saying he was a lot younger than he really was.
Yesterday I sent her this message "your face is so interesting that Leonardo da Vinci's painting of you would be his all-time masterpiece...and your personality is equally fascinating". This caused her to leave me lots of smiley faces and she said I was "too sweet for my own good" and she has asked me to send a pic of myself to her, because I complimented her so many times on her appearance.
I said that I never post my pic because it's bound to be disappointing, to which she replied that nothing I ever did could disappoint her, but that she would feel "betrayed" if I was actually a girl and was only pretending to be a guy. I don't know what to do now.
Not only did you lie about your age, you lied about your entire human being lol.
You also throw out cheesy lines. Fluffy you need help!
Maybe a bit off topic, but she has 2 kids? What happens to a vagina after having 2 kids? Does it change to the worse? I've read 80% of the muscles around the region is fucked, but can be trained up, but who does that anyway? She can be 23 and gorgeous, but still she have 2 kids mate.. Ain't exactly a catch if you ask me.
On May 14 2015 05:58 crappen wrote: Maybe a bit off topic, but she has 2 kids? What happens to a vagina after having 2 kids? Does it change to the worse? I've read 80% of the muscles around the region is fucked, but can be trained up, but who does that anyway? She can be 23 and gorgeous, but still she have 2 kids mate.. Ain't exactly a catch if you ask me.
After reading this blog, that's the first thing that comes to mind? What is WRONG with you!?
On May 14 2015 05:58 crappen wrote: Maybe a bit off topic, but she has 2 kids? What happens to a vagina after having 2 kids? Does it change to the worse? I've read 80% of the muscles around the region is fucked, but can be trained up, but who does that anyway? She can be 23 and gorgeous, but still she have 2 kids mate.. Ain't exactly a catch if you ask me.
After reading this blog, that's the first thing that comes to mind? What is WRONG with you!?
Oh come on! After reading this blog, you gotta be creative to one-up it.
On May 14 2015 07:45 boon2537 wrote: With Shauni gone, I think he's the most cringingly amusing blogger on TL at the moment <3
"with Shauni gone", oh yes, that's definitely a correct description of the current state of TL, there is not the slightest issue with that statement ...
I am not really sure that the OP is a 17-year old US student, but it's quite possible that the alleged "woman" he is talking to, actually is.
On May 13 2015 09:20 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: I agree with BD. If I had to guess, she's probably putting on a fake identity just to screw with you. It sounds to me like she's actually an athletic 26 year old businessman from Italy who loves to travel. She might even work part time at a bakery or something.
So mate, this is what you do... You tell her you've just found out that you were set up in an arranged marriage when you were 5 years old and the wedding date is actually set for September 2017, in Wales. As if that wasn't bomb dropping enough... Explain to her that your Fiancée is a volunteer worker for Unicef and you feel compelled to help her with her work while getting to know all about her. She's currently based in the Democratic Republic of the Congo and you'll be moving there soon as well. You're not sure on whether or not they have internet there so these next few months may be the last time you'll be chatting to her (the online girl). As a last favour of your friendship to this girl, you tell her you need some advice on how to properly date women as you've never been in the situation where you've had to interact with a 3D girl before.
I read your story, and after reading it again, I smell a rat... actually, many.
First, you:
You claimed to be this 26 year old successful traveling athletic businessman/baker. This honestly sounds too good to be true for an online social site; would such a person actually make a profile and look to find friends let alone romantic relationships with women on a website? And with no picture, I don't think people would take you seriously.
Second, the woman:
Ask yourself, "Would a very attractive woman who is married at 23 with kids say and do the things she has said and done?" She has given you no indication that she is unhappy with her marriage or kids, and yet she chooses to put all that at risk to flirt with you. A married woman flirting with you.... without knowing what you look like. I don't buy that. Besides, even if you were the person you claimed to be and she were the person she claimed to be, would you really want to be with her and all the drama that would ensue? Would you want to be with a woman who would flirt with guys online behind your back? Already I get the impression that she is a bad girl.
When I first read that she responded with all smiley faces when you said that da Vinci line, I was willing to let it slide and give her the benefit of the doubt because even though it sounded quite cheesy, I didn't know the context in which it was said. But then you said, "I said that I never post my pic because it's bound to be disappointing," to which she replied that "nothing I ever did could disappoint her," which is an absolutely massive red flag. Your lack of confidence would normally be a turnoff to any woman, and if she were any sane reasonable person, she would've called your athletic body into question because it wouldn't make sense for someone who's athletic to be disappointing in the looks department. However, this didn't put her off at all... In fact, you said that she said that "nothing I ever did could ever disappoint her." Either she is the most desperate woman in the world, the craziest woman in the world, the dumbest woman in the world, or some person who is not what you think...... The reason being that women can always find something about a guy they can be disappointed about... unless he's Mr. Perfect whom we all know does not exist.
Also, if it's true that she was raped at the age of 15 by a man she met online who lied to her, then why is she not concerned in the slightest that you might be lying to her and/or attempting to do the same thing? Forget that--why is she even looking to talk with men at all online? (Don't forget, she's married with children.) Why is she talking and flirting with you despite the fact that you have no picture? After all, women normally don't respond to men on social sites who don't have photos of themselves.
Last but definitely not least, nothing that you ever did could disappoint her "but that she would feel 'betrayed' if [you were] actually a girl and [only] pretending to be a guy." So, let me get this straight. Who you are does not matter, and all she cares about is that you are a male. And she is trying to gather information about you, such as what you look like??
What to do.....
In the worst possible case, this person is a tech-savvy sexual predator who knows more about you than you realize... and I'd advise you to go to the police. In the less extreme (EDIT: more likely) case that this is just some random guy on the internet trying to steal your identity, you should just stop all communication with this person. In the best possible scenario, this person might actually be some girl who is just playing the same game you are... in which case, you can just call each other out and have a good laugh about it together, but I doubt that. This honestly feels like a horror novel with a write-your-own ending.
Some other things I noticed...
I think it's pretty likely that the person knows about this thread--a Google search of that da Vinci line you used in quotes brings this thread up as one of the top three results. Plus, there's that reverse image search trick that Barrin was talking about earlier in the thread.
I noticed a few psychological ploys to draw sympathy and guilt from you from this person. First is the obvious confession that she has depression, bad self-esteem, and confidence issues. I imagine this would trigger your "white-knight" instinct to help her feel better and do whatever you could to help. (EDIT: Even some people in the comments believe this girl is the victim here, but even if she is genuine, there's no reason to be sympathetic towards her when she's the one flirting and allowing complications to arise in her life.) The second, more subtle, one is the fact that she told you the man that raped her lied about his age. In order to not feel like such a bad person, you would feel compelled to be honest with her or face feelings of guilt for lying. Since your profile seems too good to be true, this would most likely lead to the latter. These ploys would definitely serve the person's interests in trying to get your personal information.
Please be careful, fluffy_pylon. Even though what I've written is just speculation, I don't think it's wise to continue communicating with..... It. (EDIT: If I'm wrong and she is genuine, then out of respect for her family and the life she's made for herself, you should back off.)
Sincerely, Shalashaska_123
On May 17 2015 00:34 KelsierSC wrote: this is all kinds of fucked up
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