|
So this school year I have been wrongly accused of things that I have not committed twice. I usually do not care about stuff like this and shake it off, however at my school they have a very condescending attitude and always assume that the student is at fault. Now, I don't believe students should always be presumed innocent in every case (the current situation in public schools where students are presumed to be in the right and teachers have to justify themselves to furious parents is ridiculous), but I have literally never gotten detention or demerits and really only been in minor trouble.
The first thing I was accused of is stealing. This was a pretty major accusation considering stealing at my school warrants twenty demerits and automatic suspension (thirty demerits and/or two suspensions = expulsion). Not only did I not steal what I was accused of, but when I was proven innocent the school didn't even so much as apologize, tell me I was not in trouble, and they even threatened to shut down a club I'm an officer in.
And today I was just informed I'm on "probation" for National Honor Society. Apparently I didn't fulfill their service requirement, even though I did. Basically, the dipshit moderator just assigns us various tasks that we have to do and we just have to show up for it. So I got assigned putting together the programs for the seniors' graduation. This was all fine and dandy, but then he tried to switch some kid who's name is right next to mine alphabetically and switched me. I noticed this and immediately told him and he basically told me to just show up to the one he originally assigned me to. I show up to the assignment, and everything was good and well.
Today, I find out that he basically never changed my name and basically ignored every single thing that came out of my mouth. He acted like a huge prick and had an err of arrogance. I understand most teachers are probably tired with school and want the year to end, but it's not even like most of the teachers are generally nice at my school. Teachers have basically humiliated kids in front of the class, acted like douchebags, and done as much as they can to make our lives as tough as possible. It's not the teachers' jobs to hold our hands and be our friends, but when all of them just act obnoxiously and go out of their way to be condescending it makes school that much less bearable.
As a complete random tangent, I finished House of Cards season two as well as Hannibal season two. If you haven't watched those two shows I highly recommend them. I wish I had more time right now to watch more good TV shows  I absolutely love good TV shows. I love the amount of room they have to develop multiple plots and well done shows leave a void that almost can't be filled once you finish them.
Also, it sucks how little time there is during the school year. Five days where I spent 11+ hours at school just doing work, projects that took me 10+ hours to finish, studying for hours and hours a week, and now even more major exams to come. At least once I finish my six brutal, 200 scantron questions + 3-5 essay finals that amount to 50% of my overall average for the entire year I'll have a lot of time to workout and relax.
|
United States24495 Posts
So you were accused of stealing, proved it wasn't you, and they weren't apologetic? Understand the frustration there, but at least the situation is resolved.
You're on probation? Where does this stand? If what you said above is correct you should be able to resolve it. Once again, you may feel not all parties are apologetic, but what matters long-term is that you resolve the issue and get credit for the service you did.
Finally, be very careful about complaining about your time. You never realize how good you have it until you move on to the next phase of your life LOL
|
I got put on NHS probation once as well. Just don't mess up anything for a while and it should be all good. TBH I think NHS is a waste of time since the "service" is mostly just free work for the school, and so many people are members of the NHS that it doesn't make applications very special (and let's be honest, NHS sucks, people only do it for applications).
What did they think that you stole? I never heard of anyone stealing from my high school, so I'm curious what they think you stole at yours. Electronics, maybe?
Also for a high school your grade allocation to finals is simply ridiculous. I'm pretty sure at my school finals were only 10% of the total year grade, so they mattered very little and could really only affect your grade by one letter grade, but at your school you can go from perfect to an F. Crazy
|
On June 07 2014 07:45 micronesia wrote:
So you were accused of stealing, proved it wasn't you, and they weren't apologetic? Understand the frustration there, but at least the situation is resolved.
You're on probation? Where does this stand? If what you said above is correct you should be able to resolve it. Once again, you may feel not all parties are apologetic, but what matters long-term is that you resolve the issue and get credit for the service you did.
Finally, be very careful about complaining about your time. You never realize how good you have it until you move on to the next phase of your life LOL
My school is literally hell. To give you an idea how shitty it is, it's the high school Bill O'Reilly graduated from. I talked to you once before irl (dunno if you remember it). You've actually heard of my hs as far as I know. I talked to a doctor at career night and he said that my high school was harder for him than getting a M.S. at Georgetown or going to undergrad at NYU. It's ridiculously brutal and the teachers are outrageously mean to us. One teacher made a freshman feel so bad about himself he dropped out of the school that day and never came back.
I'll also say this. I literally spend every single day lying or telling half truths because I'm uncomfortable with myself in my school. I go to a conservative Catholic school and most of the stuff about my life would make me very different from the stereotypical rich, white, athletic kids that go to my school. There are no girls at my school, I get zero electives, I wear a blazer, dress shirt, tie, dress socks, slacks, and belt to school every single day, and I deal with brutal winters in rooms that have no heating as well as brutal late springs in rooms that have no AC. I go day in, day out and it makes me depressed as hell. I am convinced that this is the worst decision I have ever made in my life (and will ever make). Honestly, I doubt I will ever come back to my high school once I graduate and I'd be shocked if I ever speak to more than 3 kids, out of 420 in my grade, after we graduate. My school has nothing for me, and I have nothing for it.
I'll explain about the probation and stuff once I finish my guacamole 
|
Bro I feel you, trust me when I say...IT GETS BETTER! What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. 5 years from now you'll be faced with some serious shit and you'll look back at this experience and be like "lulz I already went through Hell once, what's another loot run?"
|
Could be worse. You could have been accused of stealing, taken by the School Resource Officer, been tazed for being uncooperative, and wound up expelled without ever getting to say anything in your defense.
Not that that would ever happen.
I am kindof annoyed at the school system from reading this - but then it's a private school it sounds like. It could be much much worse. (It still sucks for you.)
I'd say that things were better in my day, but then I walked up hill both ways through sleet, snow, pouring rain, howling wind, 5 miles, while chewing on coal because it was all we had and get off my lawn, etc, etc.
|
Wow that really sucks. Hang in there.
One thing I learned is that it really helps to have someone who is of a higher authority fight for your case instead of yourself. For instance a teacher who does like you. Or some adult/counselor that is fond of you.
At the very least you can tell them what happened so other stuff doesn't happen to you later.
Perhaps even like a college counselor or something? My college counselor was fond of me because I would hang out in the research room because it was quieter.
|
On June 07 2014 07:59 MtlGuitarist97 wrote:Show nested quote +On June 07 2014 07:45 micronesia wrote:
So you were accused of stealing, proved it wasn't you, and they weren't apologetic? Understand the frustration there, but at least the situation is resolved.
You're on probation? Where does this stand? If what you said above is correct you should be able to resolve it. Once again, you may feel not all parties are apologetic, but what matters long-term is that you resolve the issue and get credit for the service you did.
Finally, be very careful about complaining about your time. You never realize how good you have it until you move on to the next phase of your life LOL My school is literally hell. To give you an idea how shitty it is, it's the high school Bill O'Reilly graduated from. I talked to you once before irl (dunno if you remember it). You've actually heard of my hs as far as I know. I talked to a doctor at career night and he said that my high school was harder for him than getting a M.S. at Georgetown or going to undergrad at NYU. It's ridiculously brutal and the teachers are outrageously mean to us. One teacher made a freshman feel so bad about himself he dropped out of the school that day and never came back. I'll also say this. I literally spend every single day lying or telling half truths because I'm uncomfortable with myself in my school. I go to a conservative Catholic school and most of the stuff about my life would make me very different from the stereotypical rich, white, athletic kids that go to my school. There are no girls at my school, I get zero electives, I wear a blazer, dress shirt, tie, dress socks, slacks, and belt to school every single day, and I deal with brutal winters in rooms that have no heating as well as brutal late springs in rooms that have no AC. I go day in, day out and it makes me depressed as hell. I am convinced that this is the worst decision I have ever made in my life (and will ever make). Honestly, I doubt I will ever come back to my high school once I graduate and I'd be shocked if I ever speak to more than 3 kids, out of 420 in my grade, after we graduate. My school has nothing for me, and I have nothing for it. I'll explain about the probation and stuff once I finish my guacamole
Why dont u switch schools then???? Surely there is another public school u can go to
|
On June 07 2014 15:05 Isarios wrote:
Perhaps even like a college counselor or something? My college counselor was fond of me because I would hang out in the research room because it was quieter.
I'd say that this is a really good idea (and it would be at public schools), but at my school basically you have to stick up for yourself. If you get a "green slip" (2 detentions + demerits), you have to go to the dean and explain what you did wrong and either argue for your case or try to haggle the demerits down a little. You can't really get teachers to intervene on your behalf unless it's really major. For instance my friend was accused of cheating when he did absolutely nothing wrong, so the teacher whose class he was accused of cheating in basically stuck up for him and told them that he didn't cheat. He still got detentions and demerits for a "testing irregularity," but he got away much better than he could have.
There's also the fact that my school doesn't have college/guidance counselors. My "guidance counselor" also happens to be my religion teacher and my homeroom moderator. It kind of sucks having a guidance counselor who's not 100% dedicated to doing college counseling, but again it's not that big of a deal. I just basically go out on my own and find stuff out about college.
On June 07 2014 19:10 Darkren wrote:Show nested quote +On June 07 2014 07:59 MtlGuitarist97 wrote:On June 07 2014 07:45 micronesia wrote:
So you were accused of stealing, proved it wasn't you, and they weren't apologetic? Understand the frustration there, but at least the situation is resolved.
You're on probation? Where does this stand? If what you said above is correct you should be able to resolve it. Once again, you may feel not all parties are apologetic, but what matters long-term is that you resolve the issue and get credit for the service you did.
Finally, be very careful about complaining about your time. You never realize how good you have it until you move on to the next phase of your life LOL My school is literally hell. To give you an idea how shitty it is, it's the high school Bill O'Reilly graduated from. I talked to you once before irl (dunno if you remember it). You've actually heard of my hs as far as I know. I talked to a doctor at career night and he said that my high school was harder for him than getting a M.S. at Georgetown or going to undergrad at NYU. It's ridiculously brutal and the teachers are outrageously mean to us. One teacher made a freshman feel so bad about himself he dropped out of the school that day and never came back. I'll also say this. I literally spend every single day lying or telling half truths because I'm uncomfortable with myself in my school. I go to a conservative Catholic school and most of the stuff about my life would make me very different from the stereotypical rich, white, athletic kids that go to my school. There are no girls at my school, I get zero electives, I wear a blazer, dress shirt, tie, dress socks, slacks, and belt to school every single day, and I deal with brutal winters in rooms that have no heating as well as brutal late springs in rooms that have no AC. I go day in, day out and it makes me depressed as hell. I am convinced that this is the worst decision I have ever made in my life (and will ever make). Honestly, I doubt I will ever come back to my high school once I graduate and I'd be shocked if I ever speak to more than 3 kids, out of 420 in my grade, after we graduate. My school has nothing for me, and I have nothing for it. I'll explain about the probation and stuff once I finish my guacamole Why dont u switch schools then???? Surely there is another public school u can go to
If I switch schools there is a lot of bullshit that I have to do.
1.) My high school doesn't offer "accelerated" or AP classes. This means that I will put in the lowest level course possible for every class if I switch out of public school.
2.) I will have wasted $28k on education for nothing. Not worth my parents' time/money if I were to do that, especially since money is tight.
3.) I will have to retake every single NY state exam (called Regents exams). My school doesn't offer the Regents exams and I will literally have to retake 20 exams just to graduate high school. Even if they're easy, I didn't take the courses so I will have to go back and relearn all of the material I missed. I will have to retake geometry, trig, the sciences, history, etc. just so that I can graduate high school. I could probably get away with just self studying for the exams, but it would be really time consuming and more of a hassle than it's worth.
There are a couple of other minor reasons, but I kind of shot myself in the foot on this one. It sucks, but I don't really have a choice.
|
Part of learning to fake privilege is acting like you should be entitled to something (as a fake). I know things tend to stop people from getting help to vouch for you, but if theres just a few teachers or adults who like you, at least you have a place to go if things get really bad. Also, a little good status might help.
Look for the teachers that might be a little less popular but still nice people. (if there are any nice people at your school at all).
You could even try and cozy up to the dean a little lol. Be nice when they walk around the school etc.
One thing. Don't feel bitter about not having something like a "college counselor". It brings you bad energy and things actually aren't as good as you think they are in other places lol.
We had one woman for 2500 of us. The amount of actual help was kind of slim to none. Not her fault of course. We had to do it all ourselves. And man. The college system is utter capitalist bs.
|
Why do people in your city put their children into such a horrible school oO
|
Everything i hear about the american education system is trash. So many times ive had to bite my tongue when posting because it'll just be too harsh.
+ Show Spoiler +But by god the entire system is just a giant piece of shit, how do any of you even manage to get educated? I suppose its better then what i saw in Sri Lanka, a war torn 3rd world country, but that isn't really a comparison i should have to make with one of the worlds superpowers and an entire continent.
I still cant get my head round the fact if you get a qualification from two different places of the exact same thing, it apparently means "less" or fuck-all if its a "bad school/college/uni" - like wat? I can see going to a good school being a bonus for you on your CV and stuff, but having your quali's belittled because they arent from certain places?
Sorry im ranting about shit completely different from the blog, spoilered.
|
|
|
|
|
|
EPT
