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So I thought that yesterday would be the perfect day to write my pre-New Year Resolutions. I had a lot of typical "Work out more, be a better person" type resolutions, but then I remembered a thread that I had read on here a while ago. For those of you who are wondering which thread I'm talking about, it would be this one:
http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=393174
I'm going to take the no porn challenge for at least 60 days, and see how it affects me. I technically started yesterday, but I don't count that because I kind of cheated before I decided to start. Anyway, what makes this somewhat different for me is that most of you guys probably see more girls in a week than I see in a year. I go to an all male Catholic high school, so my opportunities with girls are limited at best and are realistically non-existent.
So if any of you guys have done this, please tell me what it was like for you by the time I finished. I'll try to write a post at the mid way point in about a month. I don't really have a lot of expectations, but at the very least it will be a good exercise in will power 
Cheers and a have a happy almost new year.
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Good luck with the no porn challenge for two months!
Are you still allowed to masturbate (just not to porn)?
And how frequently did you watch porn/ masturbate before taking on this challenge?
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On December 30 2013 03:04 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
Good luck with the no porn challenge for two months!
Are you still allowed to masturbate (just not to porn)?
And how frequently did you watch porn/ masturbate before taking on this challenge?
For the first question, I'd assume that I'd be allowed to, but I'm not going to. I need to just kind of find a way to get the sexual energy out of my system through other means. If I find that I get too frustrated or have too much energy pent up, I'll try to find another way to release it (I lift weights 3x a week so I'm hoping that helps alleviate the stress, and I also jump rope whenever it's nice enough).
For the second question, I'd say 5 days a week most weeks, sometimes a bit less. I'd usually masturbate once a day, never more than twice though. It's hard going to an all boys school because you just kind of get frustrated with the fact that there are only guys there. I don't have a lot of extra time outside of school (some days I don't even get home til 7:00 T_T) and it's hard to meet girls when you have basically completely different schedules from them.
I'm hoping that this challenge gives me more self-control and that I can find a better way to just relieve my tension. Hope that answers your questions well enough.
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Definitely, thanks! That appears to be a pretty serious lifestyle change for you.
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there are no females in mtl? only 3 million dicks?
glfh with your resolutions though!
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On December 30 2013 03:58 Kevin_Sorbo wrote:
there are no females in mtl? only 3 million dicks?
glfh with your resolutions though!
I should really get my name changed some time...It's supposed to stand for Metal (I'm going to assume you knew and were just screwing with me, you damn Canadian ).
Anyway, it's not that it's necessarily such a big lifestyle change compared to my other changes. I went from drinking like a liter of soda or more a day to drinking almost no soda and 2 liters of water a day in a matter of like one week (and yes, I was literally addicted to it and just stopped). I also went from a tiny school with 80 kids in my grade to a gigantic Catholic school with over 450 kids in my grade and 1700 kids in the school. There are more kids in my grade now than there were in my entire old school.
I don't like to radically uproot everything about my life, but I get tunnel vision every so often and find something that I just need to fix. This just happens to be one of the things =)
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good luck. I will fap one extra for every day you do not fap to assure world peace
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I don't watch porn, I took the no fap challenge to stop. Have been "clean" for what's going to be nearly a year almost. It's not that hard past the 1st month, that one is tough though.
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Glad I read this. I stopped watching porn about two months ago after having a very similar porn watching schedule to what you described. For me the secret to doing it has been my reasons for stopping. I could never have done it just through willpower without good reasons. Any time I'm tempted I just think of my reasons and how watching porn would keep me from accomplishing the goals I had set. I still masturbate in the shower almost every day though and that has helped. I don't think that not masturbating at all is realistic and maybe not even healthy. I don't really know if that is true though and I think it just depends on your goals and what you are trying to accomplish.
I think you should really have good reasons for why you think something is bad. Otherwise you will probably give in to the temptation to do it because you will rationalize why it is ok. More importantly, the real problem usually lies not in the actions we take but in the ways we think that cause us to do those things. If you just decide something is bad, you will not fix the underlying problem in the way you think and that problem will just come up again in the future in an even worse way.
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On December 30 2013 09:35 Cowpieguy wrote:
Glad I read this. I stopped watching porn about two months ago after having a very similar porn watching schedule to what you described. For me the secret to doing it has been my reasons for stopping. I could never have done it just through willpower without good reasons. Any time I'm tempted I just think of my reasons and how watching porn would keep me from accomplishing the goals I had set. I still masturbate in the shower almost every day though and that has helped. I don't think that not masturbating at all is realistic and maybe not even healthy. I don't really know if that is true though and I think it just depends on your goals and what you are trying to accomplish.
I think you should really have good reasons for why you think something is bad. Otherwise you will probably give in to the temptation to do it because you will rationalize why it is ok. More importantly, the real problem usually lies not in the actions we take but in the ways we think that cause us to do those things. If you just decide something is bad, you will not fix the underlying problem in the way you think and that problem will just come up again in the future in an even worse way.
Definitely an interesting perspective. I think that it has honestly come to a point where it's slightly "unhealthy." Not that I think masturbation is inherently evil, bad, or dangerous based on anything, but I think that everything should be kept in moderation. I just think that I need to take a break from it and return with a different perspective to porn and how I masturbate.
Even if it just makes me consider what it's like to not have that instant gratification for two months, it's worth the experiment. I don't think that it's going to make me stop forever considering I have very limited options with girls at the moment, but I want to at least think about the decisions I make in the future. I think that taking a break from anything that I do too much is a good thing, so long as I come back with a different perspective on the matter. Even if I come back and say, "You know what, going without masturbation for 2 months straight was a huge mistake, I think that I should've just gone down to twice a week" or something along those lines, that's something that helps me understand even a little bit more about my behavior and the decisions I make.
Thanks for all the wishes guys. I hope that I can go through the two months without disappointing myself 
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