People are minds. Who knows if there is a soul? Better yet, who knows what a soul is? Thoughts and feelings are vivid when they are awake, and sometimes they are more awake than others. Memories leave a record of what has been experienced, validating that it really happened, but much happens that isn't remembered. Thoughts and feelings flow through the mind and form labels and shapes by which people view the world. People tend to have thoughts based on the feelings and take actions based on the thoughts. Some people feel more than they think and some think more than they feel, but think or feel their mind is a filter to reality.
You are a watcher, not a person. You watch the person. You watch the mind. You watch the universe. If there is a god you are it and it is you. There is only one thing, how could it be any other way. You cannot control things you can only experience them. How can you control one thing when everything is connected. You cannot change things already set in motion just as you cannot stop the seconds from counting down on the clock.
Watch the person, watch it grow and understand and love because with understanding comes love. See the faults and weaknesses in the person and witness the person do their best in this world against their shortcomings, as all people do. Know that what you see in the person is what is in all people, that we are all the watcher and we are all struggling to understand and love ourselves. And through this learn to love all people and be released from negativity.