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On September 27 2012 23:39 aqui wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2012 23:28 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:15 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 21:30 B.I.G. wrote:
Oh man I know that feeling of a cute girl dropping the bf bomb all too well.... Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz  . Literally the rage of 1000 white hot burning suns of hateful fury Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns. OMG, just for everyone to appreciate the amount of analness that went into that post. You were not just nitpicking that he wrote "literally", you actually researched which kind of star would be the coldest so that the miniscule chance of someone smartassing you that he didn't say he woud burn that hot is negated. You are my hero <3^^ oh man, laughing but kind of embarrassed you blew my cover. You give me a bit too much credit though.. I'm mostly just trying to sound smarter than I am. and for some reason i always remember a little about red dwarfs because it strikes me as funny to name a star after a stumpy mythological creature.. i guess it makes sense with constellations and such though I would rather it would have been named red dwarf after the little red plastic dwarfs you find in front of many german houses, i fear though that it is called red because it burns colder than our sun meaning its radiation is redshifted and dwarf because it is not really that big 
haha i need to visit germany. not just for the nice image of garden gnomes in my head; i'm starting to like the folks around here who hail from Deuschland as well. Well, thanks for teaching me about red rwarf stars.
Actually that's a bad mindset to have. Better to assume they're single and attracted to you unless shown otherwise
Actually, yeah that makes sense to me. The only problem for me is I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you..
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On September 27 2012 23:58 meteorskunk wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2012 23:39 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 23:28 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:15 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 21:30 B.I.G. wrote:
Oh man I know that feeling of a cute girl dropping the bf bomb all too well.... Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz . Literally the rage of 1000 white hot burning suns of hateful fury Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns. OMG, just for everyone to appreciate the amount of analness that went into that post. You were not just nitpicking that he wrote "literally", you actually researched which kind of star would be the coldest so that the miniscule chance of someone smartassing you that he didn't say he woud burn that hot is negated. You are my hero <3^^ oh man, laughing but kind of embarrassed you blew my cover. You give me a bit too much credit though.. I'm mostly just trying to sound smarter than I am. and for some reason i always remember a little about red dwarfs because it strikes me as funny to name a star after a stumpy mythological creature.. i guess it makes sense with constellations and such though I would rather it would have been named red dwarf after the little red plastic dwarfs you find in front of many german houses, i fear though that it is called red because it burns colder than our sun meaning its radiation is redshifted and dwarf because it is not really that big haha i need to visit germany. not just for the nice image of garden gnomes in my head; i'm starting to like the folks around here who hail from Deuschland as well. Well, thanks for teaching me about red rwarf stars. Show nested quote +Actually that's a bad mindset to have. Better to assume they're single and attracted to you unless shown otherwise
Actually, yeah that makes sense to me. The only problem for me is I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you..
Nice to to hear, I guess if you like being stared at, being treated coldly but efficiently and like pork based cuisine this is your place to go^^ There is a reason why no other people on the planet spend more money on foreign holidays (even in absolute numbers) than germans ( >60 billion/year)
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If she really likes Starcraft as much as she claims, challenge her boyfriend to a game of Starcraft.
Winner gets to date the cute chick.
If, even after you beating her boyfriend, she refuses to go out with you, call her out right on the spot for being a poser!
It's a win-win situation for you!
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On September 27 2012 23:58 meteorskunk wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2012 23:39 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 23:28 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:15 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 21:30 B.I.G. wrote:
Oh man I know that feeling of a cute girl dropping the bf bomb all too well.... Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz . Literally the rage of 1000 white hot burning suns of hateful fury Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns. OMG, just for everyone to appreciate the amount of analness that went into that post. You were not just nitpicking that he wrote "literally", you actually researched which kind of star would be the coldest so that the miniscule chance of someone smartassing you that he didn't say he woud burn that hot is negated. You are my hero <3^^ oh man, laughing but kind of embarrassed you blew my cover. You give me a bit too much credit though.. I'm mostly just trying to sound smarter than I am. and for some reason i always remember a little about red dwarfs because it strikes me as funny to name a star after a stumpy mythological creature.. i guess it makes sense with constellations and such though I would rather it would have been named red dwarf after the little red plastic dwarfs you find in front of many german houses, i fear though that it is called red because it burns colder than our sun meaning its radiation is redshifted and dwarf because it is not really that big haha i need to visit germany. not just for the nice image of garden gnomes in my head; i'm starting to like the folks around here who hail from Deuschland as well. Well, thanks for teaching me about red rwarf stars. Show nested quote +Actually that's a bad mindset to have. Better to assume they're single and attracted to you unless shown otherwise
Actually, yeah that makes sense to me. The only problem for me is I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you..
Same, i'm only attracted to girls that are interested in me. Better to not waste time on girls that aren't interested and find the ones that are interested so you can focus on them.
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Le ultimate face palm. UL man xD
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On the brightside there is a happy ending here . It would be awesome if you learned to jump out of the introversion and just kind of go out and kill it with the ladies  .
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On September 27 2012 19:42 thoraxe wrote:
Also that licking your face, what's up with that, what triggers a person to just lick a friend's face.
^ This. After reading that line, that was the biggest question on my mind, yet somehow most of the other posters here seemed to have shrugged it off like "Eh, completely normal." and paid like no attention to it.
So uh, grats on having a couple new great friends, too bad things ended up purely platonic between you and the lady. But seriously, what's up with the half-face licking?
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On September 28 2012 11:49 wchigo wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2012 19:42 thoraxe wrote:
Also that licking your face, what's up with that, what triggers a person to just lick a friend's face. ^ This. After reading that line, that was the biggest question on my mind, yet somehow most of the other posters here seemed to have shrugged it off like "Eh, completely normal." and paid like no attention to it. So uh, grats on having a couple new great friends, too bad things ended up purely platonic between you and the lady. But seriously, what's up with the half-face licking?
In one of our psych classes, we were looking at various speech disorders, and in one of them, the person is able to talk extremely fluently, but all that comes out is gibberish. e.g. "Today i went to the movies and purple monkey shoe tree on the train" type sentences. additionally, when you talk to them, they THINK they understand what you're saying, but they misinterpret it.
The interviewer said "Hold up two fingers" and the patient heard something along the lines of "Stick out your tongue as much as possible and cackle like a maniac", so the class is looking at a 70 year old woman with her tongue at maximum extention going LAUHEHAULAELAULELAHAUEHLE (100% accurate phonetic description)
My friend found it amusing to imitate her, and at one point went <Hey, guess what> right next to my face, and as i turned around, started doing it, but she apparently misjudged where my face would be, or assumed I would flinch backward due to her being so close.
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On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2012 21:30 B.I.G. wrote:
Oh man I know that feeling of a cute girl dropping the bf bomb all too well.... Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz . Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns.
I clearly quoted "White hot suns of hateful fury", not these pissy little red dwarf stars you speak of. and one would assume that "A white hot sun of hateful fury" also feels a lot of rage. I borrowed the rage of the 1000 of these suns, not their heat. Borrowing their heat would be extremely foolish and probably do something bad and destroy the world or something, it would be entirely possible that a group of young attractive people, who only recently discovered they had superpowers, decided to team up against me and stop me from ending the earth by Borrowing the Heat of 1000 white hot suns of hateful fury.
P.S. I don't think there's a limit on how much hate a human can feel, just a limit on how they express it, and how much hate they can feel before various mental issues come up (Such as using literally as a prefix when they mean to use a word such as practically, or metaphorically)
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OP, do you go to parties now?
On September 28 2012 01:03 FractalsOnFire wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2012 23:58 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:39 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 23:28 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:15 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 21:30 B.I.G. wrote:
Oh man I know that feeling of a cute girl dropping the bf bomb all too well.... Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz . Literally the rage of 1000 white hot burning suns of hateful fury Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns. OMG, just for everyone to appreciate the amount of analness that went into that post. You were not just nitpicking that he wrote "literally", you actually researched which kind of star would be the coldest so that the miniscule chance of someone smartassing you that he didn't say he woud burn that hot is negated. You are my hero <3^^ oh man, laughing but kind of embarrassed you blew my cover. You give me a bit too much credit though.. I'm mostly just trying to sound smarter than I am. and for some reason i always remember a little about red dwarfs because it strikes me as funny to name a star after a stumpy mythological creature.. i guess it makes sense with constellations and such though I would rather it would have been named red dwarf after the little red plastic dwarfs you find in front of many german houses, i fear though that it is called red because it burns colder than our sun meaning its radiation is redshifted and dwarf because it is not really that big haha i need to visit germany. not just for the nice image of garden gnomes in my head; i'm starting to like the folks around here who hail from Deuschland as well. Well, thanks for teaching me about red rwarf stars. Actually that's a bad mindset to have. Better to assume they're single and attracted to you unless shown otherwise
Actually, yeah that makes sense to me. The only problem for me is I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you.. Same, i'm only attracted to girls that are interested in me. Better to not waste time on girls that aren't interested and find the ones that are interested so you can focus on them.
I used to think this was me too, but after reading two posts on reddit I think it's more about self esteem.
Yeah you're right, but being in love with someone isn't as amazing as it seems when your first thought is that you're not worth a damn.
Let me tell you a story.
So firstly you see someone, and there's that spark, there's something that tells you that you should go for it. So you do, even though so many other times you would have just told yourself that there's no point because nobody will ever like you.
But you go ahead and put your self out there, which is pretty rare in itself. And then somehow, for some reason, it actually works and you get along. It's so rare that someone would show some genuine interest in you, well at least in your eyes it is. So you hold on to it, you keep trying to ignore that voice in your head that you're not worth a damn.
And I'd like to say that it goes smoothly, but it doesn't. You second guess yourself, wondering if she's actually into you or if she's just going along with it. Like so many others. You want to just be happy and go with it, but you don't, and you just realise the only person you've got to blame is yourself. You throw yourself into making sure it works, because it's one of the few things you've got that might work out for the best, that might make you feel like you're not a complete fuckup.
But eventually, after months and months of second guessing yourself you finally get to a point where you're comfortable and you're in love. Where it's just working.
And it's just nice.
It's really, really, really nice.
You start to think that you're actually better than you give yourself credit, after all, if someone else can love you dearly, surely that means there's something to love.
And then it's just a week or two where someone is busy and you don't meet up. It's the other person forgetting to text back, or losing a phone or something that's actually rather innocent.
And that brings everything back. It's back to you thinking that there's something wrong with you, inherently wrong with you. And you feel like shit for a while, until there's some sign that you're just being stupid and there's no problem. Maybe it's a cycle, maybe it'll get better next time around and you'll actually have some lasting change.
I just don't know at the moment.
So it's easier to fall in love when you think you're shit. But it's a bit of a rollercoaster, and in my experience you keep second guessing yourself that he/she's actually in to you, because your instinct is to think that you're not worth a damn, and it takes a lot to break out of that. That's not to say that you shouldn't try to find someone, just that it's really tough at times.
The trick, for me at least, is knowing when you're in a bad place because of your low self esteem and making sure that you don't fuck anything up because you're being an idiot.
EDIT: Read Bakonydraco's post below for how it is on the other side, it's worth keeping in mind and remembering if you ever start to think that it must be easy for your partner and hard only for you.
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On September 28 2012 12:39 Ikidomari wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 21:30 B.I.G. wrote:
Oh man I know that feeling of a cute girl dropping the bf bomb all too well.... Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz . Literally the rage of 1000 white hot burning suns of hateful fury Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns. I clearly quoted "White hot suns of hateful fury", not these pissy little red dwarf stars you speak of. and one would assume that "A white hot sun of hateful fury" also feels a lot of rage. I borrowed the rage of the 1000 of these suns, not their heat. Borrowing their heat would be extremely foolish and probably do something bad and destroy the world or something, it would be entirely possible that a group of young attractive people, who only recently discovered they had superpowers, decided to team up against me and stop me from ending the earth by Borrowing the Heat of 1000 white hot suns of hateful fury. P.S. I don't think there's a limit on how much hate a human can feel, just a limit on how they express it, and how much hate they can feel before various mental issues come up (Such as using literally as a prefix when they mean to use a word such as practically, or metaphorically)
wow, you just blew my mind.. no limit to the range.. will be thinking about that for a while. A prefix is like un or re being added to the beginning of a word and changing the meaning. Practically and metaphorically are words on their own and describe the manner of how something is done. They are adverbs. Practically would not be a good word choice either. It's more like when people say "he's effectively out of the race" as in there's chance for a mircale but realistically its over.
hahaha sorry... i hope you can make use of wrathful rage when you read that.
edit: grammar mistakes of my own. and also just reminding you that i don't think i'm smarter than you. You write well in my opinion.
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On September 28 2012 22:08 obesechicken13 wrote:OP, do you go to parties now? Show nested quote +On September 28 2012 01:03 FractalsOnFire wrote:On September 27 2012 23:58 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:39 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 23:28 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:15 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 21:30 B.I.G. wrote:
Oh man I know that feeling of a cute girl dropping the bf bomb all too well.... Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz . Literally the rage of 1000 white hot burning suns of hateful fury Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns. OMG, just for everyone to appreciate the amount of analness that went into that post. You were not just nitpicking that he wrote "literally", you actually researched which kind of star would be the coldest so that the miniscule chance of someone smartassing you that he didn't say he woud burn that hot is negated. You are my hero <3^^ oh man, laughing but kind of embarrassed you blew my cover. You give me a bit too much credit though.. I'm mostly just trying to sound smarter than I am. and for some reason i always remember a little about red dwarfs because it strikes me as funny to name a star after a stumpy mythological creature.. i guess it makes sense with constellations and such though I would rather it would have been named red dwarf after the little red plastic dwarfs you find in front of many german houses, i fear though that it is called red because it burns colder than our sun meaning its radiation is redshifted and dwarf because it is not really that big haha i need to visit germany. not just for the nice image of garden gnomes in my head; i'm starting to like the folks around here who hail from Deuschland as well. Well, thanks for teaching me about red rwarf stars. Actually that's a bad mindset to have. Better to assume they're single and attracted to you unless shown otherwise
Actually, yeah that makes sense to me. The only problem for me is I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you.. Same, i'm only attracted to girls that are interested in me. Better to not waste time on girls that aren't interested and find the ones that are interested so you can focus on them. I used to think this was me too, but after reading two posts on reddit I think it's more about self esteem. Show nested quote +Yeah you're right, but being in love with someone isn't as amazing as it seems when your first thought is that you're not worth a damn.
Let me tell you a story.
So firstly you see someone, and there's that spark, there's something that tells you that you should go for it. So you do, even though so many other times you would have just told yourself that there's no point because nobody will ever like you.
But you go ahead and put your self out there, which is pretty rare in itself. And then somehow, for some reason, it actually works and you get along. It's so rare that someone would show some genuine interest in you, well at least in your eyes it is. So you hold on to it, you keep trying to ignore that voice in your head that you're not worth a damn.
And I'd like to say that it goes smoothly, but it doesn't. You second guess yourself, wondering if she's actually into you or if she's just going along with it. Like so many others. You want to just be happy and go with it, but you don't, and you just realise the only person you've got to blame is yourself. You throw yourself into making sure it works, because it's one of the few things you've got that might work out for the best, that might make you feel like you're not a complete fuckup.
But eventually, after months and months of second guessing yourself you finally get to a point where you're comfortable and you're in love. Where it's just working.
And it's just nice.
It's really, really, really nice.
You start to think that you're actually better than you give yourself credit, after all, if someone else can love you dearly, surely that means there's something to love.
And then it's just a week or two where someone is busy and you don't meet up. It's the other person forgetting to text back, or losing a phone or something that's actually rather innocent.
And that brings everything back. It's back to you thinking that there's something wrong with you, inherently wrong with you. And you feel like shit for a while, until there's some sign that you're just being stupid and there's no problem. Maybe it's a cycle, maybe it'll get better next time around and you'll actually have some lasting change.
I just don't know at the moment.
So it's easier to fall in love when you think you're shit. But it's a bit of a rollercoaster, and in my experience you keep second guessing yourself that he/she's actually in to you, because your instinct is to think that you're not worth a damn, and it takes a lot to break out of that. That's not to say that you shouldn't try to find someone, just that it's really tough at times.
The trick, for me at least, is knowing when you're in a bad place because of your low self esteem and making sure that you don't fuck anything up because you're being an idiot.
EDIT: Read Bakonydraco's post below for how it is on the other side, it's worth keeping in mind and remembering if you ever start to think that it must be easy for your partner and hard only for you.
How was that relevant? What were you like before you read that?
I found the reddit thread and the post below the one you originally quoted is far better. The one you quoted is just some sad sack who needs to build some self acceptance and self esteem.
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On September 29 2012 00:54 FractalsOnFire wrote:Show nested quote +On September 28 2012 22:08 obesechicken13 wrote:OP, do you go to parties now? On September 28 2012 01:03 FractalsOnFire wrote:On September 27 2012 23:58 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:39 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 23:28 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:15 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 21:30 B.I.G. wrote:
Oh man I know that feeling of a cute girl dropping the bf bomb all too well.... Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz . Literally the rage of 1000 white hot burning suns of hateful fury Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns. OMG, just for everyone to appreciate the amount of analness that went into that post. You were not just nitpicking that he wrote "literally", you actually researched which kind of star would be the coldest so that the miniscule chance of someone smartassing you that he didn't say he woud burn that hot is negated. You are my hero <3^^ oh man, laughing but kind of embarrassed you blew my cover. You give me a bit too much credit though.. I'm mostly just trying to sound smarter than I am. and for some reason i always remember a little about red dwarfs because it strikes me as funny to name a star after a stumpy mythological creature.. i guess it makes sense with constellations and such though I would rather it would have been named red dwarf after the little red plastic dwarfs you find in front of many german houses, i fear though that it is called red because it burns colder than our sun meaning its radiation is redshifted and dwarf because it is not really that big haha i need to visit germany. not just for the nice image of garden gnomes in my head; i'm starting to like the folks around here who hail from Deuschland as well. Well, thanks for teaching me about red rwarf stars. Actually that's a bad mindset to have. Better to assume they're single and attracted to you unless shown otherwise
Actually, yeah that makes sense to me. The only problem for me is I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you.. Same, i'm only attracted to girls that are interested in me. Better to not waste time on girls that aren't interested and find the ones that are interested so you can focus on them. I used to think this was me too, but after reading two posts on reddit I think it's more about self esteem. Yeah you're right, but being in love with someone isn't as amazing as it seems when your first thought is that you're not worth a damn.
Let me tell you a story.
So firstly you see someone, and there's that spark, there's something that tells you that you should go for it. So you do, even though so many other times you would have just told yourself that there's no point because nobody will ever like you.
But you go ahead and put your self out there, which is pretty rare in itself. And then somehow, for some reason, it actually works and you get along. It's so rare that someone would show some genuine interest in you, well at least in your eyes it is. So you hold on to it, you keep trying to ignore that voice in your head that you're not worth a damn.
And I'd like to say that it goes smoothly, but it doesn't. You second guess yourself, wondering if she's actually into you or if she's just going along with it. Like so many others. You want to just be happy and go with it, but you don't, and you just realise the only person you've got to blame is yourself. You throw yourself into making sure it works, because it's one of the few things you've got that might work out for the best, that might make you feel like you're not a complete fuckup.
But eventually, after months and months of second guessing yourself you finally get to a point where you're comfortable and you're in love. Where it's just working.
And it's just nice.
It's really, really, really nice.
You start to think that you're actually better than you give yourself credit, after all, if someone else can love you dearly, surely that means there's something to love.
And then it's just a week or two where someone is busy and you don't meet up. It's the other person forgetting to text back, or losing a phone or something that's actually rather innocent.
And that brings everything back. It's back to you thinking that there's something wrong with you, inherently wrong with you. And you feel like shit for a while, until there's some sign that you're just being stupid and there's no problem. Maybe it's a cycle, maybe it'll get better next time around and you'll actually have some lasting change.
I just don't know at the moment.
So it's easier to fall in love when you think you're shit. But it's a bit of a rollercoaster, and in my experience you keep second guessing yourself that he/she's actually in to you, because your instinct is to think that you're not worth a damn, and it takes a lot to break out of that. That's not to say that you shouldn't try to find someone, just that it's really tough at times.
The trick, for me at least, is knowing when you're in a bad place because of your low self esteem and making sure that you don't fuck anything up because you're being an idiot.
EDIT: Read Bakonydraco's post below for how it is on the other side, it's worth keeping in mind and remembering if you ever start to think that it must be easy for your partner and hard only for you. How was that relevant? What were you like before you read that? I found the reddit thread and the post below the one you originally quoted is far better. The one you quoted is just some sad sack who needs to build some self acceptance and self esteem.
The guy's story shows us how relying on positive feed back to give your affection to someone is a sign that you need more self esteem to actually love someone for who they are instead of what they mean for your self-esteem.
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On September 29 2012 00:54 FractalsOnFire wrote:Show nested quote +On September 28 2012 22:08 obesechicken13 wrote:OP, do you go to parties now? On September 28 2012 01:03 FractalsOnFire wrote:On September 27 2012 23:58 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:39 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 23:28 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:15 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 21:30 B.I.G. wrote:
Oh man I know that feeling of a cute girl dropping the bf bomb all too well.... Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz . Literally the rage of 1000 white hot burning suns of hateful fury Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns. OMG, just for everyone to appreciate the amount of analness that went into that post. You were not just nitpicking that he wrote "literally", you actually researched which kind of star would be the coldest so that the miniscule chance of someone smartassing you that he didn't say he woud burn that hot is negated. You are my hero <3^^ oh man, laughing but kind of embarrassed you blew my cover. You give me a bit too much credit though.. I'm mostly just trying to sound smarter than I am. and for some reason i always remember a little about red dwarfs because it strikes me as funny to name a star after a stumpy mythological creature.. i guess it makes sense with constellations and such though I would rather it would have been named red dwarf after the little red plastic dwarfs you find in front of many german houses, i fear though that it is called red because it burns colder than our sun meaning its radiation is redshifted and dwarf because it is not really that big haha i need to visit germany. not just for the nice image of garden gnomes in my head; i'm starting to like the folks around here who hail from Deuschland as well. Well, thanks for teaching me about red rwarf stars. Actually that's a bad mindset to have. Better to assume they're single and attracted to you unless shown otherwise
Actually, yeah that makes sense to me. The only problem for me is I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you.. Same, i'm only attracted to girls that are interested in me. Better to not waste time on girls that aren't interested and find the ones that are interested so you can focus on them. I used to think this was me too, but after reading two posts on reddit I think it's more about self esteem. Yeah you're right, but being in love with someone isn't as amazing as it seems when your first thought is that you're not worth a damn.
Let me tell you a story.
So firstly you see someone, and there's that spark, there's something that tells you that you should go for it. So you do, even though so many other times you would have just told yourself that there's no point because nobody will ever like you.
But you go ahead and put your self out there, which is pretty rare in itself. And then somehow, for some reason, it actually works and you get along. It's so rare that someone would show some genuine interest in you, well at least in your eyes it is. So you hold on to it, you keep trying to ignore that voice in your head that you're not worth a damn.
And I'd like to say that it goes smoothly, but it doesn't. You second guess yourself, wondering if she's actually into you or if she's just going along with it. Like so many others. You want to just be happy and go with it, but you don't, and you just realise the only person you've got to blame is yourself. You throw yourself into making sure it works, because it's one of the few things you've got that might work out for the best, that might make you feel like you're not a complete fuckup.
But eventually, after months and months of second guessing yourself you finally get to a point where you're comfortable and you're in love. Where it's just working.
And it's just nice.
It's really, really, really nice.
You start to think that you're actually better than you give yourself credit, after all, if someone else can love you dearly, surely that means there's something to love.
And then it's just a week or two where someone is busy and you don't meet up. It's the other person forgetting to text back, or losing a phone or something that's actually rather innocent.
And that brings everything back. It's back to you thinking that there's something wrong with you, inherently wrong with you. And you feel like shit for a while, until there's some sign that you're just being stupid and there's no problem. Maybe it's a cycle, maybe it'll get better next time around and you'll actually have some lasting change.
I just don't know at the moment.
So it's easier to fall in love when you think you're shit. But it's a bit of a rollercoaster, and in my experience you keep second guessing yourself that he/she's actually in to you, because your instinct is to think that you're not worth a damn, and it takes a lot to break out of that. That's not to say that you shouldn't try to find someone, just that it's really tough at times.
The trick, for me at least, is knowing when you're in a bad place because of your low self esteem and making sure that you don't fuck anything up because you're being an idiot.
EDIT: Read Bakonydraco's post below for how it is on the other side, it's worth keeping in mind and remembering if you ever start to think that it must be easy for your partner and hard only for you. How was that relevant? What were you like before you read that? I found the reddit thread and the post below the one you originally quoted is far better. The one you quoted is just some sad sack who needs to build some self acceptance and self esteem.
I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you..
I was and probably still am like this.
The point is if you only like girls who like you first, then you're probably afraid of being rejected. Fear of rejection ties in with low self esteem. It may not apply to you. Maybe you really just don't have the time to pursue and have enough people doting on you, but it was relevant to me.
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Well, you didn't do anything wrong, if they have a boyfriend everyone will get bf-bombed eventually. It sucks, but since you were able to befriend this girl, you already know that she likes you. If things ever go south with her bf, all you have to do is start touching/flirting/..., and then you probably have like an 80%+ chance of getting her. Your karma level is high enough to meet a cute girl who plays starcraft, you'll probably reincarnate as a dragon.
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On September 29 2012 02:43 obesechicken13 wrote:Show nested quote +On September 29 2012 00:54 FractalsOnFire wrote:On September 28 2012 22:08 obesechicken13 wrote:OP, do you go to parties now? On September 28 2012 01:03 FractalsOnFire wrote:On September 27 2012 23:58 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:39 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 23:28 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:15 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 21:30 B.I.G. wrote:
Oh man I know that feeling of a cute girl dropping the bf bomb all too well.... Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz . Literally the rage of 1000 white hot burning suns of hateful fury Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns. OMG, just for everyone to appreciate the amount of analness that went into that post. You were not just nitpicking that he wrote "literally", you actually researched which kind of star would be the coldest so that the miniscule chance of someone smartassing you that he didn't say he woud burn that hot is negated. You are my hero <3^^ oh man, laughing but kind of embarrassed you blew my cover. You give me a bit too much credit though.. I'm mostly just trying to sound smarter than I am. and for some reason i always remember a little about red dwarfs because it strikes me as funny to name a star after a stumpy mythological creature.. i guess it makes sense with constellations and such though I would rather it would have been named red dwarf after the little red plastic dwarfs you find in front of many german houses, i fear though that it is called red because it burns colder than our sun meaning its radiation is redshifted and dwarf because it is not really that big haha i need to visit germany. not just for the nice image of garden gnomes in my head; i'm starting to like the folks around here who hail from Deuschland as well. Well, thanks for teaching me about red rwarf stars. Actually that's a bad mindset to have. Better to assume they're single and attracted to you unless shown otherwise
Actually, yeah that makes sense to me. The only problem for me is I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you.. Same, i'm only attracted to girls that are interested in me. Better to not waste time on girls that aren't interested and find the ones that are interested so you can focus on them. I used to think this was me too, but after reading two posts on reddit I think it's more about self esteem. Yeah you're right, but being in love with someone isn't as amazing as it seems when your first thought is that you're not worth a damn.
Let me tell you a story.
So firstly you see someone, and there's that spark, there's something that tells you that you should go for it. So you do, even though so many other times you would have just told yourself that there's no point because nobody will ever like you.
But you go ahead and put your self out there, which is pretty rare in itself. And then somehow, for some reason, it actually works and you get along. It's so rare that someone would show some genuine interest in you, well at least in your eyes it is. So you hold on to it, you keep trying to ignore that voice in your head that you're not worth a damn.
And I'd like to say that it goes smoothly, but it doesn't. You second guess yourself, wondering if she's actually into you or if she's just going along with it. Like so many others. You want to just be happy and go with it, but you don't, and you just realise the only person you've got to blame is yourself. You throw yourself into making sure it works, because it's one of the few things you've got that might work out for the best, that might make you feel like you're not a complete fuckup.
But eventually, after months and months of second guessing yourself you finally get to a point where you're comfortable and you're in love. Where it's just working.
And it's just nice.
It's really, really, really nice.
You start to think that you're actually better than you give yourself credit, after all, if someone else can love you dearly, surely that means there's something to love.
And then it's just a week or two where someone is busy and you don't meet up. It's the other person forgetting to text back, or losing a phone or something that's actually rather innocent.
And that brings everything back. It's back to you thinking that there's something wrong with you, inherently wrong with you. And you feel like shit for a while, until there's some sign that you're just being stupid and there's no problem. Maybe it's a cycle, maybe it'll get better next time around and you'll actually have some lasting change.
I just don't know at the moment.
So it's easier to fall in love when you think you're shit. But it's a bit of a rollercoaster, and in my experience you keep second guessing yourself that he/she's actually in to you, because your instinct is to think that you're not worth a damn, and it takes a lot to break out of that. That's not to say that you shouldn't try to find someone, just that it's really tough at times.
The trick, for me at least, is knowing when you're in a bad place because of your low self esteem and making sure that you don't fuck anything up because you're being an idiot.
EDIT: Read Bakonydraco's post below for how it is on the other side, it's worth keeping in mind and remembering if you ever start to think that it must be easy for your partner and hard only for you. How was that relevant? What were you like before you read that? I found the reddit thread and the post below the one you originally quoted is far better. The one you quoted is just some sad sack who needs to build some self acceptance and self esteem. Show nested quote + I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you.. I was and probably still am like this. The point is if you only like girls who like you first, then you're probably afraid of being rejected. Fear of rejection ties in with low self esteem. It may not apply to you. Maybe you really just don't have the time to pursue and have enough people doting on you, but it was relevant to me.
Well wait, that is not what i meant. I just don't pursue the ones with less promising returns. It's quite mathematical to not want to waste time, Escalating through flirting takes quite a natural ability or connection.
Actually, what has confused me, and what i think confuses a lot of people is that we believe a feeling of lust is permanent. We think oh she likes me, this is permanent. Really this lust dies quickly but it helps build deeper connections to a person. I think we are right to take up an offer on someone's feelings of lust because its fun!
I think it is bad when we try to smother people as our lover by ignoring signs that we are not right for someone. If we face what we are and what we are not and who she is and who she is not, nothing can go wrong
"CLEAR EYES!
FULL HEARTS
CANT LOSEEEEEE~
It's easy to convince myself that I like her when it adds so much to my life. Possibility, a muse for my mind's romantic wanderings. feeling of security, and sexually confident and gratified.
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On September 29 2012 02:43 obesechicken13 wrote:Show nested quote +On September 29 2012 00:54 FractalsOnFire wrote:On September 28 2012 22:08 obesechicken13 wrote:OP, do you go to parties now? On September 28 2012 01:03 FractalsOnFire wrote:On September 27 2012 23:58 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:39 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 23:28 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:15 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 21:30 B.I.G. wrote:
Oh man I know that feeling of a cute girl dropping the bf bomb all too well.... Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz . Literally the rage of 1000 white hot burning suns of hateful fury Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns. OMG, just for everyone to appreciate the amount of analness that went into that post. You were not just nitpicking that he wrote "literally", you actually researched which kind of star would be the coldest so that the miniscule chance of someone smartassing you that he didn't say he woud burn that hot is negated. You are my hero <3^^ oh man, laughing but kind of embarrassed you blew my cover. You give me a bit too much credit though.. I'm mostly just trying to sound smarter than I am. and for some reason i always remember a little about red dwarfs because it strikes me as funny to name a star after a stumpy mythological creature.. i guess it makes sense with constellations and such though I would rather it would have been named red dwarf after the little red plastic dwarfs you find in front of many german houses, i fear though that it is called red because it burns colder than our sun meaning its radiation is redshifted and dwarf because it is not really that big haha i need to visit germany. not just for the nice image of garden gnomes in my head; i'm starting to like the folks around here who hail from Deuschland as well. Well, thanks for teaching me about red rwarf stars. Actually that's a bad mindset to have. Better to assume they're single and attracted to you unless shown otherwise
Actually, yeah that makes sense to me. The only problem for me is I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you.. Same, i'm only attracted to girls that are interested in me. Better to not waste time on girls that aren't interested and find the ones that are interested so you can focus on them. I used to think this was me too, but after reading two posts on reddit I think it's more about self esteem. Yeah you're right, but being in love with someone isn't as amazing as it seems when your first thought is that you're not worth a damn.
Let me tell you a story.
So firstly you see someone, and there's that spark, there's something that tells you that you should go for it. So you do, even though so many other times you would have just told yourself that there's no point because nobody will ever like you.
But you go ahead and put your self out there, which is pretty rare in itself. And then somehow, for some reason, it actually works and you get along. It's so rare that someone would show some genuine interest in you, well at least in your eyes it is. So you hold on to it, you keep trying to ignore that voice in your head that you're not worth a damn.
And I'd like to say that it goes smoothly, but it doesn't. You second guess yourself, wondering if she's actually into you or if she's just going along with it. Like so many others. You want to just be happy and go with it, but you don't, and you just realise the only person you've got to blame is yourself. You throw yourself into making sure it works, because it's one of the few things you've got that might work out for the best, that might make you feel like you're not a complete fuckup.
But eventually, after months and months of second guessing yourself you finally get to a point where you're comfortable and you're in love. Where it's just working.
And it's just nice.
It's really, really, really nice.
You start to think that you're actually better than you give yourself credit, after all, if someone else can love you dearly, surely that means there's something to love.
And then it's just a week or two where someone is busy and you don't meet up. It's the other person forgetting to text back, or losing a phone or something that's actually rather innocent.
And that brings everything back. It's back to you thinking that there's something wrong with you, inherently wrong with you. And you feel like shit for a while, until there's some sign that you're just being stupid and there's no problem. Maybe it's a cycle, maybe it'll get better next time around and you'll actually have some lasting change.
I just don't know at the moment.
So it's easier to fall in love when you think you're shit. But it's a bit of a rollercoaster, and in my experience you keep second guessing yourself that he/she's actually in to you, because your instinct is to think that you're not worth a damn, and it takes a lot to break out of that. That's not to say that you shouldn't try to find someone, just that it's really tough at times.
The trick, for me at least, is knowing when you're in a bad place because of your low self esteem and making sure that you don't fuck anything up because you're being an idiot.
EDIT: Read Bakonydraco's post below for how it is on the other side, it's worth keeping in mind and remembering if you ever start to think that it must be easy for your partner and hard only for you. How was that relevant? What were you like before you read that? I found the reddit thread and the post below the one you originally quoted is far better. The one you quoted is just some sad sack who needs to build some self acceptance and self esteem. Show nested quote + I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you.. I was and probably still am like this. The point is if you only like girls who like you first, then you're probably afraid of being rejected. Fear of rejection ties in with low self esteem. It may not apply to you. Maybe you really just don't have the time to pursue and have enough people doting on you, but it was relevant to me.
Ooooh that's what you meant. What i was saying is that i don't like to waste time on girls that aren't interested in me, I like to quickly find out and sort out the wheat from the chaff. I've gotten friend zoned, i quickly stop wasting time even mid 'date'.
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On September 29 2012 03:22 FractalsOnFire wrote:Show nested quote +On September 29 2012 02:43 obesechicken13 wrote:On September 29 2012 00:54 FractalsOnFire wrote:On September 28 2012 22:08 obesechicken13 wrote:OP, do you go to parties now? On September 28 2012 01:03 FractalsOnFire wrote:On September 27 2012 23:58 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:39 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 23:28 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:15 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:[quote] Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz . [quote] Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns. OMG, just for everyone to appreciate the amount of analness that went into that post. You were not just nitpicking that he wrote "literally", you actually researched which kind of star would be the coldest so that the miniscule chance of someone smartassing you that he didn't say he woud burn that hot is negated. You are my hero <3^^ oh man, laughing but kind of embarrassed you blew my cover. You give me a bit too much credit though.. I'm mostly just trying to sound smarter than I am. and for some reason i always remember a little about red dwarfs because it strikes me as funny to name a star after a stumpy mythological creature.. i guess it makes sense with constellations and such though I would rather it would have been named red dwarf after the little red plastic dwarfs you find in front of many german houses, i fear though that it is called red because it burns colder than our sun meaning its radiation is redshifted and dwarf because it is not really that big haha i need to visit germany. not just for the nice image of garden gnomes in my head; i'm starting to like the folks around here who hail from Deuschland as well. Well, thanks for teaching me about red rwarf stars. Actually that's a bad mindset to have. Better to assume they're single and attracted to you unless shown otherwise
Actually, yeah that makes sense to me. The only problem for me is I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you.. Same, i'm only attracted to girls that are interested in me. Better to not waste time on girls that aren't interested and find the ones that are interested so you can focus on them. I used to think this was me too, but after reading two posts on reddit I think it's more about self esteem. Yeah you're right, but being in love with someone isn't as amazing as it seems when your first thought is that you're not worth a damn.
Let me tell you a story.
So firstly you see someone, and there's that spark, there's something that tells you that you should go for it. So you do, even though so many other times you would have just told yourself that there's no point because nobody will ever like you.
But you go ahead and put your self out there, which is pretty rare in itself. And then somehow, for some reason, it actually works and you get along. It's so rare that someone would show some genuine interest in you, well at least in your eyes it is. So you hold on to it, you keep trying to ignore that voice in your head that you're not worth a damn.
And I'd like to say that it goes smoothly, but it doesn't. You second guess yourself, wondering if she's actually into you or if she's just going along with it. Like so many others. You want to just be happy and go with it, but you don't, and you just realise the only person you've got to blame is yourself. You throw yourself into making sure it works, because it's one of the few things you've got that might work out for the best, that might make you feel like you're not a complete fuckup.
But eventually, after months and months of second guessing yourself you finally get to a point where you're comfortable and you're in love. Where it's just working.
And it's just nice.
It's really, really, really nice.
You start to think that you're actually better than you give yourself credit, after all, if someone else can love you dearly, surely that means there's something to love.
And then it's just a week or two where someone is busy and you don't meet up. It's the other person forgetting to text back, or losing a phone or something that's actually rather innocent.
And that brings everything back. It's back to you thinking that there's something wrong with you, inherently wrong with you. And you feel like shit for a while, until there's some sign that you're just being stupid and there's no problem. Maybe it's a cycle, maybe it'll get better next time around and you'll actually have some lasting change.
I just don't know at the moment.
So it's easier to fall in love when you think you're shit. But it's a bit of a rollercoaster, and in my experience you keep second guessing yourself that he/she's actually in to you, because your instinct is to think that you're not worth a damn, and it takes a lot to break out of that. That's not to say that you shouldn't try to find someone, just that it's really tough at times.
The trick, for me at least, is knowing when you're in a bad place because of your low self esteem and making sure that you don't fuck anything up because you're being an idiot.
EDIT: Read Bakonydraco's post below for how it is on the other side, it's worth keeping in mind and remembering if you ever start to think that it must be easy for your partner and hard only for you. How was that relevant? What were you like before you read that? I found the reddit thread and the post below the one you originally quoted is far better. The one you quoted is just some sad sack who needs to build some self acceptance and self esteem. I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you.. I was and probably still am like this. The point is if you only like girls who like you first, then you're probably afraid of being rejected. Fear of rejection ties in with low self esteem. It may not apply to you. Maybe you really just don't have the time to pursue and have enough people doting on you, but it was relevant to me. Ooooh that's what you meant. What i was saying is that i don't like to waste time on girls that aren't interested in me, I like to quickly find out and sort out the wheat from the chaff. I've gotten friend zoned, i quickly stop wasting time even mid 'date'.
Ya because if you actually have feelings for someone but you are not with them it is bad for both parties. You are sad because you are not with the person you like, he/she is annoyed that she is hurting you. Also i feel generally that some women know quickly if you have a chance. They may actually like you though and not know it until you show them.. So there is good reason to listen but not to listen mindlessly.
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On September 29 2012 03:22 FractalsOnFire wrote:Show nested quote +On September 29 2012 02:43 obesechicken13 wrote:On September 29 2012 00:54 FractalsOnFire wrote:On September 28 2012 22:08 obesechicken13 wrote:OP, do you go to parties now? On September 28 2012 01:03 FractalsOnFire wrote:On September 27 2012 23:58 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:39 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 23:28 meteorskunk wrote:On September 27 2012 23:15 aqui wrote:On September 27 2012 22:19 meteorskunk wrote:[quote] Yeah it happens. For me the hardest part is not showing my pain. "oh yeah! your boyfriend!! yay~" My new plan will be to always expect women to have a boyfriend until they drop the hintzzz . [quote] Bro, wikipedia told me the red dwarf star is 4000 Kelvins hot... pretty sure your inner heat sensing system will be maxed to oblivion w/ that much heat... edit : also they don't have rage. My point isn't to mock you though; it'sjust to say you certainly mean figuratively. and therefore no adverb is needed. If you were me, you'd cut adverbs for clarity. edit #2, who am i to say stars do not have rage? I was limiting myself with "aristotelean" thought patterns. OMG, just for everyone to appreciate the amount of analness that went into that post. You were not just nitpicking that he wrote "literally", you actually researched which kind of star would be the coldest so that the miniscule chance of someone smartassing you that he didn't say he woud burn that hot is negated. You are my hero <3^^ oh man, laughing but kind of embarrassed you blew my cover. You give me a bit too much credit though.. I'm mostly just trying to sound smarter than I am. and for some reason i always remember a little about red dwarfs because it strikes me as funny to name a star after a stumpy mythological creature.. i guess it makes sense with constellations and such though I would rather it would have been named red dwarf after the little red plastic dwarfs you find in front of many german houses, i fear though that it is called red because it burns colder than our sun meaning its radiation is redshifted and dwarf because it is not really that big haha i need to visit germany. not just for the nice image of garden gnomes in my head; i'm starting to like the folks around here who hail from Deuschland as well. Well, thanks for teaching me about red rwarf stars. Actually that's a bad mindset to have. Better to assume they're single and attracted to you unless shown otherwise
Actually, yeah that makes sense to me. The only problem for me is I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you.. Same, i'm only attracted to girls that are interested in me. Better to not waste time on girls that aren't interested and find the ones that are interested so you can focus on them. I used to think this was me too, but after reading two posts on reddit I think it's more about self esteem. Yeah you're right, but being in love with someone isn't as amazing as it seems when your first thought is that you're not worth a damn.
Let me tell you a story.
So firstly you see someone, and there's that spark, there's something that tells you that you should go for it. So you do, even though so many other times you would have just told yourself that there's no point because nobody will ever like you.
But you go ahead and put your self out there, which is pretty rare in itself. And then somehow, for some reason, it actually works and you get along. It's so rare that someone would show some genuine interest in you, well at least in your eyes it is. So you hold on to it, you keep trying to ignore that voice in your head that you're not worth a damn.
And I'd like to say that it goes smoothly, but it doesn't. You second guess yourself, wondering if she's actually into you or if she's just going along with it. Like so many others. You want to just be happy and go with it, but you don't, and you just realise the only person you've got to blame is yourself. You throw yourself into making sure it works, because it's one of the few things you've got that might work out for the best, that might make you feel like you're not a complete fuckup.
But eventually, after months and months of second guessing yourself you finally get to a point where you're comfortable and you're in love. Where it's just working.
And it's just nice.
It's really, really, really nice.
You start to think that you're actually better than you give yourself credit, after all, if someone else can love you dearly, surely that means there's something to love.
And then it's just a week or two where someone is busy and you don't meet up. It's the other person forgetting to text back, or losing a phone or something that's actually rather innocent.
And that brings everything back. It's back to you thinking that there's something wrong with you, inherently wrong with you. And you feel like shit for a while, until there's some sign that you're just being stupid and there's no problem. Maybe it's a cycle, maybe it'll get better next time around and you'll actually have some lasting change.
I just don't know at the moment.
So it's easier to fall in love when you think you're shit. But it's a bit of a rollercoaster, and in my experience you keep second guessing yourself that he/she's actually in to you, because your instinct is to think that you're not worth a damn, and it takes a lot to break out of that. That's not to say that you shouldn't try to find someone, just that it's really tough at times.
The trick, for me at least, is knowing when you're in a bad place because of your low self esteem and making sure that you don't fuck anything up because you're being an idiot.
EDIT: Read Bakonydraco's post below for how it is on the other side, it's worth keeping in mind and remembering if you ever start to think that it must be easy for your partner and hard only for you. How was that relevant? What were you like before you read that? I found the reddit thread and the post below the one you originally quoted is far better. The one you quoted is just some sad sack who needs to build some self acceptance and self esteem. I'm the type who is attracted to people taking interest in me. So when I feel we're close in that way I start to look on them differently and treat them differently. I guess this is a good way to always find out if she's interested in you.. I was and probably still am like this. The point is if you only like girls who like you first, then you're probably afraid of being rejected. Fear of rejection ties in with low self esteem. It may not apply to you. Maybe you really just don't have the time to pursue and have enough people doting on you, but it was relevant to me. Ooooh that's what you meant. What i was saying is that i don't like to waste time on girls that aren't interested in me, I like to quickly find out and sort out the wheat from the chaff. I've gotten friend zoned, i quickly stop wasting time even mid 'date'.
Yeah, I can see where I could have clarified myself though.
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