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So, I've been on TL for almost 3 years. I've seen my share of girl blogs go by but I've only really read some of them. Partially because I'm 14 right now. Back 3 years ago wasn't really interested and it wasn't even remotely imaginable that I'd ask someone out. But yeah, I'm here and seems like its my turn to make a post. I might as well get it ou there. Feels good to let it out 
About me. I'm Asian and really shy around people I don't know but once I get to know people I get along really quite well. Somewhat tall, decent competitive swimmer and avid dota player, no, not much sc2 anymore D:
Anyways, fast forward a bit. I'm in my first year of high school (freshman?), people starting to come together here and there and oddly enough one of my friends really has gotten himself into a relationship out of pure dum luck . Not to be beat, I feel it's time to go for it...
The girl I like is pretty... Well, pretty? Liked her since about 2 months into the school year. She's actually one of the few asian girls in my school. My. Jeremy school percentage wise is really quite mixed, my elementary and middle school were all almost 50% Asian lol. I suppose it is plus when i say shes actually a huge fan of pokemon and quite a few other pc games. No sc/dota though .
Gotten to know her, have some classes with her and see her around the school fairly often. And I feel if I wait too much longer I actually will get friendzoned. I'm not one thats too good at reading emotions but I feel, and hope I'm right that she likes me back, at least somewhat. So hell, I'm goin for it!
Thinking of like the standard going to a movie... I'm not too creative :X
But anyways,
/some random freshmans blog about finally asking a girl out for the first time.
P.S will post another blog after about how it goes... Hopefully by the end of the week!
 
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14 y/o asian ready to make a move? power to you buddy.
if you're confident in your conversation skills (or u guys are good enough friends to talk freely), try for stuff with more interaction so u can get to know each other better. OO better yet go to a drive in theater. able to talk to her, dark at night, movie to distract? that stuff never fails
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im curious as to why you even blogged this, however it's slightly better than the typical WHAT DO I DO GIRL OH GOD blog. Anyways until you hit 21 just go crazy with women and dont give a fuck about what they do or think, they'll be all over that swag
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if you're a shy newb on what i assume is your first ever date don't go to the movies. it'll just be silence and then awkward post-movie silence
edit: btw, least interesting girl blog of all time so far nab. the follow up better be totally boss
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On March 28 2012 14:30 EchelonTee wrote:
if you're confident in your conversation skills (or u guys are good enough friends to talk freely), try for stuff with more interaction so u can get to know each other better.
I agree with this.
Have fun! Know that girls are just as freaked out by liking boys as vice versa.
Oh, and don't worry about this not being a very interesting "girl blog". When I was 14 my girl blog would have been about how I'd spent 10 months working my way into a position where I felt comfortable to say 5 words to a classmate I liked. A bona fide date is a legitimate event for a 14-year-old imo.
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movies are a crap date because you don't get to actually talk and close the gap between you and your interest.
friend zone is easy to tell, because when people first meet they decide within the first fifteen seconds whether they want to get to know the other one better, and then it progresses into asking lots of questions, etc.
When I was in highschool I would get closer to a girl by introducing her into the friend circle (which may or may not be a good idea if your friends have no girlfriends of their own/or are all not girls), and eventually just asking to hang out with the two of us. Show off some hobbies to her, talk, walk to a park, etc. it's all relative to what your confident at.
good luck.
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dw bro, you've got this. glhf. don't die. don't suck.
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I was taught two things when asking girls out 1) don't do nothing stupid and 2) don't do nothing, Stupid!
We be rooting for ye~
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On March 28 2012 14:48 EMIYA wrote:
movies are a crap date because you don't get to actually talk and close the gap between you and your interest.
good luck.
Maybe for an adult yea, but at 14, a girl getting getting taken to the movies is like her fucking dream date
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On March 28 2012 16:45 Lyter wrote:Show nested quote +On March 28 2012 14:48 EMIYA wrote:
movies are a crap date because you don't get to actually talk and close the gap between you and your interest.
good luck. Maybe for an adult yea, but at 14, a girl getting getting taken to the movies is like her fucking dream date
Agreed ^. They're 14, it's not like they are going to go out for dinner and discuss interests and future plans. A movie is perfect for kids that age because it allows them little talking room but to actaully be together and get into that comfort zone first. Worry about talking and actually discussing deeper matters later on, at that age, its not important at first. Thats my thoughts on the subject.
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get her drunk
j/k movies are indeed cool at 14, maybe hang around in a mall to let her show you what she likes and you can pretend to be interested, then you win
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freshman girls are easy. If you can make her laugh or show her you can have fun, she'll date you. This is assuming you're at least average looking.
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LOL cake
dude i give u a totally legit write up once i get to work, for now i gotta finish my breakfast cereal
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Best date for your age: Meet on a weekend, eat some stuff together, walk around where you won't meet too many people you know (can be quite awkward at first..?) and then do some fun stuff like watching a movie or whatever you prefer (not at home, in a cinema) and afterwards bring her home or something.
Don't just go to the cinema with her since you're not really able to talk and get to know her better (and see if she's interested in the same stuff as you), do the cinema as part of a bigger "plan" I would say.
Good luck!
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Just be friends. Romantic relationships are a waste of time/energy/money at your age. You're not missing out on anything at all except getting annoyed by nonsensical relationship problems and hormones.
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On March 28 2012 21:43 Bigtony wrote:
Just be friends. Romantic relationships are a waste of time/energy/money at your age. You're not missing out on anything at all except getting annoyed by nonsensical relationship problems and hormones.
This is terrible advice. Trying out dating is the only way to figure out how to eventually stop making it a waste of time and energy. And dates are fun (even at 14)!
If I never went out with any girls at ages where my relationships consumed time, energy, and money, sometimes annoyed me, and exposed me to nonsensical problems and hormonal frustrations, I'd still not have been on a single date by now (at age 24).
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just be warned that girls change their mind faster than you can change your pants
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Alrighty cake, here I am.
Now, first, I remind you that I have your Facebook and thus can stalk you to the full extent of that allowed by Facebook. If I give you good advice and then find your status to be still single two weeks in the future, I am going to let you know how terrible you are. Haha, man, I think I'm putting too much pressure on you.
Action and EXP
First of all, I highly encourage you to take action. High school relationships are fun, largely irresponsible (which is a good thing at that age), and full of EXP. Yes, that delicious EXP. Why grind 20 hours of theoretical relationship studies at home reading internet blogs and fantasy stories when you can go on a 2 hour date and gain 2x the EXP? It doesn't matter if the date goes horrible in whatever standards you put it at, you gain experience through action and being the smartest living creatures on Earth we humans can put that experience to good use.
Friendzoned?
Believe it or not, in high school, it's easy to be friendzoned and easy to get out of friendzone. Heck, I wouldn't even call high school friendships "friendzone" in the common internet definition. Literally people are ONE confession away from getting out of friendzone or staying in it. This is from personal experience, I was good friends with this girl since grade 10 but I felt something special about her late in grade 11 and confessed in grade 12 and she said yes (but this story has a sad ending, unfortunately). ANYWAY that story is worth like 5 girl blogs in itself but we'll skip for another day and move on with this authentic OpticalShot girl blog lecture. The point is, don't worry about this mystical friendzone too much, be natural.
Competition
What you should worry about is some other guy finding her attractive and taking action before you. You understand that you're not the only pair of balls walking around smelling up that tropical splash shampoo from the girl of your dreams. Every day you delay is a free day for your potential competitors to win the game before you do. Of course, there is the chance that the girl already has her eyes set on you and will make it easy for you by rejecting all until you do. How do you do that?
Winning Before Winning
This is where experience comes to play. If you have no previous experience, well, good luck - but some guys are just born with the swag, and maybe you're one of the blessed ones. You can win her before you claim her as your girlfriend (and she claims you as her boyfriend) and pronouncing it all over the world (more like just over Facebook). This is where those "movie dates" and "lunch together" and "1-on-1 study sessions" come to play. Inevitably, you're going to spend more time with her as you get to know her. It's fine if she's with her friends, but it's much better with just you two. Spend time with her. Get comfortable, but not too comfortable. Drop "hints" if you will, but the tricky part is to keep her guessing whether you're simply a flirt or a genuine lover. It's okay to be nervous.
Keep it somewhere between "Yo what's up ma homie you ready pwn up dat fkin' math homework rite nao?" (way too comfortable) and "H-Hey, uhhh, hi, ummm, listen you know that math homework we got today, well, I was thinking, if you're free and all, and okay with it, maybe we could do it together because, uh, you know, yeah..." (way too uncomfortable). Remember that even small things and little bits of time like quickly reviewing things together for an upcoming quiz can incrementally bring you two closer together.
The Alpha Male
Perhaps you haven't heard of the term yet, maybe you're just going to Google it now. Either way, you can take this opportunity to improve yourself. Pick up some clothing style outside what-mom-grabbed-on-sale. Lose the baby fat and get in shape with a regular exercise habit. Invest in some hygiene products so you don't have your lvl4 odour aura on when she's around. Walk like a confident guy not a scared library wimp (nor a big douchebag, caution). Between guys with smarts and those without, it's simple, smarts win. Smarts doesn't necessarily mean 99% average - it means that you get reasonable marks (let's say 90%+ to be safe), can make and understand jokes, know when to bend the rules (because nerds that always play by the rules are boring), can take various genres of music, etc.
So What?
Basically, be a man and ask her out. Don't plan things too far - take things as they come, one day at a time. Be realistic - she's NOT going to be your waifu. I hope you're not one of those kids stuck in the thought of first-relationship-means-we-get-married-and-happily-ever-after (because some of my university friends, at age 22, still think like that). If your parents are all like oh no you shouldn't date a girl because you're not going to study and your marks are going to drop and you're going to do bad things like drugs and sex and not have a future, shut them up with 1) 90%+ average on your next report card 2) do a little part-time job to fund your own dates and 3) talk to them (seriously) about what professions/careers you are interested in. Best be honest with your parents instead of trying to hide it.
Of course, I only expect complete success and your next blog to be about how to buy a pack of condoms from Shopper's with a straight face. LOL GL HF TLMS BROTHER
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On March 28 2012 23:50 OpticalShot wrote:
Of course, I only expect complete success and your next blog to be about how to buy a pack of condoms from Shopper's with a straight face. LOL GL HF TLMS BROTHER
Don't rush him on that he's 14!
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TLMS HWAITING. OPShot #1 Girl blog neverworking extraordinaire.
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On March 28 2012 23:50 OpticalShot wrote:
Be realistic - she's NOT going to be your waifu.
I never thought I'd hear you say this.
Anyways, you got my TLMS support, gogo cake!
E: PS opshot work harder
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On March 28 2012 23:57 Enderbantoo wrote:
TLMS HWAITING. OPShot #1 Girl blog neverworking extraordinaire.
On March 28 2012 23:57 JonsaBoy wrote:Show nested quote +On March 28 2012 23:50 OpticalShot wrote:
Be realistic - she's NOT going to be your waifu. I never thought I'd hear you say this. Anyways, you got my TLMS support, gogo cake! E: PS opshot work harder
You guys will only know when you get an office job...
Also, cake, is her name Cheryl? LOL
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On March 28 2012 16:45 Lyter wrote:Show nested quote +On March 28 2012 14:48 EMIYA wrote:
movies are a crap date because you don't get to actually talk and close the gap between you and your interest.
good luck. Maybe for an adult yea, but at 14, a girl getting getting taken to the movies is like her fucking dream date
LOL win
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at age 14, just try - that's all you have to do.. and don't be clingy (the less you give her, the more she wants, the more you give her, the less she wants... even if she doesn't know it yet)
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if someone is attracted to you they're not going to become un-attracted just because you're friends... i think the friend zone only really happens for girls who aren't interested in a relationship, they just want to hook up with random guys and then have a group of friends they hang out with all the time... someone who is looking for a relationship isn't going to not date you just because you're friends.. that doesn't really make much sense and if they are attracted to you then it just takes some convincing to get them to date you...
as for asking her out... you just need to be confident and act like its not a big deal-even if it is a huge deal in your head. just ask her straight up if she wants to go out and if she says no just remember its not the end of the world. don't freak out, just say ok that's cool let's just be friends then. girls respect that a lot more than you think; when you convey confidence it doesn't matter what the outcome is just save face so she doesn't tell all her friends how creepy you acted when she said no, she'll say he was actually really cool about it and you might have a chance to ask her out again later as you get to know each other better.
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On March 29 2012 00:04 OpticalShot wrote:Show nested quote +On March 28 2012 23:57 Enderbantoo wrote:
TLMS HWAITING. OPShot #1 Girl blog neverworking extraordinaire. Show nested quote +On March 28 2012 23:57 JonsaBoy wrote:On March 28 2012 23:50 OpticalShot wrote:
Be realistic - she's NOT going to be your waifu. I never thought I'd hear you say this. Anyways, you got my TLMS support, gogo cake! E: PS opshot work harder You guys will only know when you get an office job... Also, cake, is her name Cheryl? LOL
Lol, no. Cheryl's a friend but no its not her. How the hell do you even know that name o.o?
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On March 29 2012 05:01 Nub4ever wrote:Show nested quote +On March 29 2012 00:04 OpticalShot wrote:On March 28 2012 23:57 Enderbantoo wrote:
TLMS HWAITING. OPShot #1 Girl blog neverworking extraordinaire. On March 28 2012 23:57 JonsaBoy wrote:On March 28 2012 23:50 OpticalShot wrote:
Be realistic - she's NOT going to be your waifu. I never thought I'd hear you say this. Anyways, you got my TLMS support, gogo cake! E: PS opshot work harder You guys will only know when you get an office job... Also, cake, is her name Cheryl? LOL Lol, no. Cheryl's a friend but no its not her. How the hell do you even know that name o.o?
Just looked up your wall on Facebook. =)
Okay GLHF
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On March 28 2012 22:24 JWD wrote:Show nested quote +On March 28 2012 21:43 Bigtony wrote:
Just be friends. Romantic relationships are a waste of time/energy/money at your age. You're not missing out on anything at all except getting annoyed by nonsensical relationship problems and hormones. This is terrible advice. Trying out dating is the only way to figure out how to eventually stop making it a waste of time and energy. And dates are fun (even at 14)! If I never went out with any girls at ages where my relationships consumed time, energy, and money, sometimes annoyed me, and exposed me to nonsensical problems and hormonal frustrations, I'd still not have been on a single date by now (at age 24).
This is great advice, from someone who works with kids every day and sees the stupid bullshit that "having a boyfriend/girlfriend" causes. The only upside/benefit to romantic relationships (at that age) is making out and sex, neither of which I think are good ideas (again, at that age). You can have tons of fun with a lot less stress as just friends. You can learn to be supportive as a friend. You can learn to put the needs of someone else in front of your own (a key part of being in a relationship) as just friends. You can learn to deal with someone elses mood swings as just friends. There's plenty of time to "learn how to have a relationship" when you are older and your brain/body is more mature. Hell, at that stage of most people's lives they don't even know how to be a good friend, let alone a serious boyfriend/girlfriend.
If he wants to go for it, I wish him the best of luck and good times, but if he's asking for advice (and he is) then my non-cynical yet totally honest advice is "just be friends, it's just as much fun with a lot less bullshit."
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On March 30 2012 05:28 Bigtony wrote:Show nested quote +On March 28 2012 22:24 JWD wrote:On March 28 2012 21:43 Bigtony wrote:
Just be friends. Romantic relationships are a waste of time/energy/money at your age. You're not missing out on anything at all except getting annoyed by nonsensical relationship problems and hormones. This is terrible advice. Trying out dating is the only way to figure out how to eventually stop making it a waste of time and energy. And dates are fun (even at 14)! If I never went out with any girls at ages where my relationships consumed time, energy, and money, sometimes annoyed me, and exposed me to nonsensical problems and hormonal frustrations, I'd still not have been on a single date by now (at age 24). This is great advice, from someone who works with kids every day and sees the stupid bullshit that "having a boyfriend/girlfriend" causes. The only upside/benefit to romantic relationships (at that age) is making out and sex, neither of which I think are good ideas (again, at that age). You can have tons of fun with a lot less stress as just friends. You can learn to be supportive as a friend. You can learn to put the needs of someone else in front of your own (a key part of being in a relationship) as just friends. You can learn to deal with someone elses mood swings as just friends. There's plenty of time to "learn how to have a relationship" when you are older and your brain/body is more mature. Hell, at that stage of most people's lives they don't even know how to be a good friend, let alone a serious boyfriend/girlfriend. If he wants to go for it, I wish him the best of luck and good times, but if he's asking for advice (and he is) then my non-cynical yet totally honest advice is "just be friends, it's just as much fun with a lot less bullshit."
Oh god, this brings back memories ...
This one guy at my school asked out one of my friends. She said yes, but decided a few days later (less than a week!) that she didn't want to be in a relationship, and while she was breaking this news to him, he said he loved her and tried to guilt-trip her into not breaking up with him. It's like, wtf, you've talked to her for a few days and you already "love" her? Gimme a break! She was already suffering from major depression at the time too; let me tell you, this "break-up" didn't help one bit.
This other guy asked out another one of my friends for a couple months, but he'd gone out with another girl earlier who just wouldn't let go. Guy ended up cheating on her; he and the other girl went to a movie theater, and she gave him a blowjob there and told my friend about it later. (Other girl was kind of a bitch, can you tell?) My friend and the guy separated on bad terms. (Luckily, he was already graduating anyways, so it didn't matter regardless.)
I have like three or four more really dumb HS relationship stories, but guess I'll just stop there. It's really kind of a waste of time, IMO, and you can use your energy more productively (studying, sports, writing, reading, etc.). But good luck to OP anyways; just remember to have fun.
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