|
Hey guys, this blogs pretty much going to be a stream of conciousness, due to the fact I am leaving for the coast in about 10 minutes or so. Apologises in advance if you hate my writing style/are confused.
Anyway, with that out of the way...
I am, a socially awkward, slightly apethic teenager who has big aspirations, but of course, never gets around to doing them. I'm average at starcraft, at school, unemployed and listen to rap. And of course, I dont have a girlfriend, but I do (well, did) have this perfect girl, who I wanted to love and marry and worship (Well those last two) and just generally enjoy life with.
However, because life has a nearly infinite amount of variables (And other, more attractive males) she was never mine. Twice, infact. The first time was awkward as shit (Would've been a love triangle, IF I wasn't so unmotivated). However, it only lasted about a quater of a year. Aha! No more obstacles in my path. I shall claim my prize and live in enteral happiness forever!
Except I didnt end up seeing her for over half a year. However on my birthday, she organized a trip to a theater production, with just the two of us. Oh, that has to mean something, I thought. Finally!
Except it was three months away...
But finally the day arrived, I was ready to make my move. We had almost 3 hours alone together. What could wrong... Except for, you know, other men.
Turns out. She liked another guy. Told me while in an incredibily emotional state (Some other personal issues). I was hurt... Except, I really wasn't. In the time I had spent chasing her and getting to know her, I ended up becoming her friend. We had spent some good times together, and I truely enjoyed her company. Also, she acturally gave a damn about my feelings, which was something rare alltogether. Why the hell couldn't we be friends?
But there was one problem. I still felt pangs of jealousy when she was talking to others, I still, deep down, wanted her. I knew I still wanted her, and truely that was holding me back.
So, when I saw her by chance today. I knew that we had to talk about it. I had warned her over the internet that I wanted to talk about something, but I hadn't told her what (You know, due to the fact that acturally talking to someone is better than typing out words on a screen)
Today I told her that I wanted her, but I couldn't have her
She didn't give me shit for it, and she didn't tell me to leave her life
She didn't tell me that she really wanted me
She just understood
And that's what matters
Cya in 4 days, TL.net
  
|
Dont get friendzoned bud!
|
You sound you got friendzoned hard. I don't even think you can blame her for that because you stated yourself that you are socially awkward and apathetic person. Its a tough life really, sometimes the impression you leave on a girl can stay forever even if you changed yourself inside out.
|
|
|
Russian Federation142 Posts
I understand.
Go find a new ho.
|
It's happened to everyone dude, being friendzoned is a part of growing up. It sucks now but try and think of it as a learning experience, in a few years you'll know how to avoid it, and more importantly know all the signs so that you don't get sucked into waiting months or even years trying to get with a girl with whom you have no chance with. That's the lesson you've gotta learn here, that once you become friends like that there is no turning back for her. You become a totally non sexual entity and she'll never think of you as anything more than a friend. The very idea will be weird to her.
Just don't try and kid yourself into thinking you can make her (and this is still a general, hypothetical 'her') love you because 99.9% chance you cannot.
On January 12 2012 11:14 serge wrote:
I understand.
Go find a new ho.
THIS. This should be in like, fortune cookies or some shit. Actually I wanna put this on a huge billboard somewhere.
|
this is the most stereotypical girl blog. "we were madly in loved, but she liked someone else, so i'll settle for just being her friend," it's like there's a template for them or something..
|
What matters is you just got friend zoned extremely hard. If you're ok with that then cool, but you're probably not going out with her anytime soon.
Friends are more valuable and useful than girlfriends and cost less money, theres just no sexual connection. If you become really good friends there will be a physical and emotion connection though.
|
And then everyone says "omg you got friendzoned" even though what really happened was you're not attractive to her.
Don't sugarcoat it. It's not like she suddenly decided "nope he waited too long, friend him" after some amount of time.
|
I'll go ahead and expand on this a little about the friendzone since if you don't understand, you'll make the same mistake again.
It's very easy for a guy to mis-understand the difference between the friendzone and relationshipzone because to an unconfident guy, they look quite the same. This is because if a guy is interested in a girl, he will naturally want to spend alot of time with her and he mistakenly assumes that she will want the same. In reality, the girl will spend just as much time with her friendzone guys and her relationshipzone guys.
Anyways, the keys for not being friendzone - being confident.
|
Canada2368 Posts
On January 12 2012 12:23 Endymion wrote:
this is the most stereotypical girl blog. "we were madly in loved, but she liked someone else, so i'll settle for just being her friend," it's like there's a template for them or something..
Shit like that always happens man, thats why everytime that happens i go out with a BANG.
AKA do some stupid shit that she hates me forever. Better then friendzone imo
|
On January 12 2012 12:43 RezChi wrote:Show nested quote +On January 12 2012 12:23 Endymion wrote:
this is the most stereotypical girl blog. "we were madly in loved, but she liked someone else, so i'll settle for just being her friend," it's like there's a template for them or something.. Shit like that always happens man, thats why everytime that happens i go out with a BANG. AKA do some stupid shit that she hates me forever. Better then friendzone imo
That sounds interesting, do tell us how you go out with a bang.
@ OP You got friendzoned, enjoy that friend and start your search for the next one. A tip for next time: Don't wait, push for what you want. You have to remember that although you think you'll never find that kind of person again, chances are you will relatively sooner than you would think.
|
Everyone got friendzoned. It's hard but it's only your fault. Find another one as you will probably never get this one sadly 
|
Fuck, should've made it more clear, I intentionally got friendzoned. I my only regret is not doing it sooner. I want to be able to see her as just a friend, because it will let me enjoy social situtations with the group of friends associted with alot more.
I need to learn how to write better. Didn't realise I was being so cliche. My apologies TL
|
I've tried the intentional friendzone, you will still feel pangs of jealousy and anger when you see her with other guys, even if logically you know you dont want her as a girlfriend and just wanna hang out. Or maybe that was just me, dont know :D
|
|
|
|
|
|
EPT
