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socommaster123
Profile Joined May 2010
United States578 Posts
December 06 2011 17:48 GMT
#21
Find out what is best for you and your kids.
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KULA_u
Profile Joined March 2010
Switzerland107 Posts
December 06 2011 17:48 GMT
#22
it's easy, just fall in love with her again
gibb
Profile Joined March 2010
Sweden288 Posts
December 06 2011 17:49 GMT
#23
TL might be able to help you verbalize how important SC2 can be for someone - but you're saying things like "happily divorce", "driving me crazy" etc which to me implies that there are more profound problems to work out. Don't expect TL to be able to help with that.

Try talking to a pro. And not the SC2 kind..
Manners.
imjorman
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
United States580 Posts
December 06 2011 17:49 GMT
#24
Marriage counselor. This is the only good advice your gonna get on the interwebs regarding this issue.
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FreshVegetables
Profile Blog Joined January 2010
Finland513 Posts
December 06 2011 17:49 GMT
#25
Well, I think you should talk with your wife and have a chat what is a good amount of hours spent on the computer. I'm sure you can come to an agreement about that. Also if you'd be happy to leave her, that kinda gives me the feeling that something isnt right in your relationship. Are you guys just together for the kids?

Anyway, i'd suggest seeing a marriage councelor and talk with your wife about these issues your having.

I have to say though 8:30 - 12 is way too many hours spent on the computer. Any woman would be pissed off. Just accept the fact that your getting a bit old for this and play when you have the opportunity, even if it sometimes means that you can't play for extended periods of time.
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Blazinghand *
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
United States25551 Posts
December 06 2011 17:49 GMT
#26
Do not consider divorce without the two of you speaking to a counselor. Whatever issues you may have in your marriage, related to starcraft, or anything else, you've been together a long time and have children together. Seek professional help-- it's worth it, both for the two of you and your children. Don't give up so easily on your family.
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Roxy
Profile Joined November 2010
Canada753 Posts
December 06 2011 17:49 GMT
#27
this does not make sense to me

if you dont like eachother, i would have expected that she would be pleased you are playing games and staying away from her.

I understand staying together for the kids, but perhaps you can work things out.

Im afraid I am underqualified for any suggestions, but I wish you luck - whatever path you go down

i do not understand women
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to draw on my own experience, just last night. I come home and my gf is in bed watching sex and the city.

She wanted me to sit down and watch it with her. I sat with her for the rest of the episode. I then stared another episode and then pretended to go to the bathroom but actually just went to play starcraft... boy did I catch hell.. honestly.. wtf do i have to watch sex and the city for tho? i dont make her watch mlg...
http://sc2ranks.com/us/941824/Roxy - Masters Protoss: "Respect my authoritai"
therockmanxx
Profile Joined July 2010
Peru1174 Posts
December 06 2011 17:50 GMT
#28
Grow Up

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SoKHo
Profile Joined April 2011
Korea (South)1081 Posts
December 06 2011 17:50 GMT
#29
I mean most of TL is aged 18-24 (including me). I don't know anything about marriage, but it seems really stupid to get a divorce for something as stupid and trivial as sc2. I think you have more problems than sc2. If your wife really supports you, she wouldn't mind giving you 3-4 hrs a night for your own thing.
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HackBenjamin
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
Canada1094 Posts
December 06 2011 17:51 GMT
#30
Should be in Blogs, or in http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=270421

But basically, family should always come first. If your responsibilities are being taken care of (including your wife), there shouldn't be an issue. If there is, you should discuss it (in a civil fashion) with the person you vowed to be with for better or worse til death doth part you.

If you really think divorce is the way to go, don't string it along - it's way worse on the kids, and they definitely pick up on tensions that you might not even think you and your wife are broadcasting.
skatbone
Profile Joined August 2010
United States1005 Posts
December 06 2011 17:51 GMT
#31
On December 07 2011 02:36 Rigorous wrote:

My wife drives me crazy...the 8 years feel like forever. I would happily divorce her, but the kids... I am not sure what to do. Should I stop playing SC2? I don't see the problem with playing only 4 nights a week on weeknights....

Anyone else have similar problems? What did you do? Please respond only if in similar situation.


I see that you ask for only those with a similar situation to respond. I am engaged but still very much in love with my gf. Based on what you've written, you don't seem to be having an SC2-related problem. If you would "happily divorce" your wife and if she drives you crazy, there are some serious relationship issues there that have nothing to do with a video game.

I wish you the best and I'd advise some marriage counseling. But that will cut into your SC2 time.
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sirachman
Profile Joined April 2011
United States270 Posts
December 06 2011 17:51 GMT
#32
No idea man, but I would suggest marriage counseling at the least. You should be with someone who makes you happy. People are afraid of divorces having impact on kids, but many don't realize that an unhappy marriage has the same or even a worse effect. Don't be afraid of divorce for your kids sake, once they are over 5 they will see the unhappiness between their parents and it will cause them just as many if not more issues.

On another note, it sucks so many people are stuck in unhappy marriages... Society should really start supporting people dating for a few years and living together before marrying, much less having kids. From my experience you don't even know the person until you have dated 4 years and lived with them at least 2 years.
Azerbaijan
Profile Blog Joined January 2010
United States660 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-12-06 17:54:02
December 06 2011 17:52 GMT
#33
You would really choose a game over a woman you must have loved enough at one point to start a family with her? I think you need to step back and re evaluate your priorities. You can't treat your family like a job that you work on weekends and spend your other time playing Sc2; by doing this you are neglecting your wife and kids.

I suggest you give up Sc2, for a while at least. Rediscover what led you to want to start a family with your wife. Maybe once your family life is in order you can find a balance where you can take care of what is really important and still have your hobby when its appropriate.

I am not in the same exact situation but I am going to be married in two months. I have already given up gaming entirely because I know I cannot be a good Husband and eventually a good Father if at ANY point I have to make the decision between being with my family or playing games. The amazing thing that I've found is that while I've been preparing to take on the responsibilities of marriage I have actually lost my interest in gaming. Maybe you will find you don't want to game once your family is the main focus of your life.
Roxy
Profile Joined November 2010
Canada753 Posts
December 06 2011 17:52 GMT
#34
marriage counsellors are expensive and imo their job is bullshit

if you cant work things out without a counsellor, it will never work out anyways
http://sc2ranks.com/us/941824/Roxy - Masters Protoss: "Respect my authoritai"
bubblegumbo
Profile Blog Joined July 2008
Taiwan1296 Posts
December 06 2011 17:53 GMT
#35
To be honest you play alot for someone who is married and have 3 kids, but yes you should seek professional help together.
"I honestly think that whoever invented toilet paper is a genius. For man to survive, they need toilet paper!"- Nal_rA
Iamtidal
Profile Joined October 2011
United Kingdom36 Posts
December 06 2011 17:54 GMT
#36
Play less?
mechavoc
Profile Joined December 2010
United States664 Posts
December 06 2011 17:55 GMT
#37
On December 07 2011 02:39 Sclol wrote:
doesnt seem like starcraft is the only problem in your relationship



Yah if things are going well your wife should support your hobby.
Just need to make sure you have time for everyone. I'm sure your wife wants to hang out and communicate some with just you after the kids have gone to bed, maybe cut down on SC2 and spend a couple quality hours with her.


hp.Shell
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
United States2527 Posts
December 06 2011 17:55 GMT
#38
How old are your kids?
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Zorkmid
Profile Joined November 2008
4410 Posts
December 06 2011 17:55 GMT
#39
On December 07 2011 02:43 Kyles92 wrote:
A hobby is cool and everything, but 8:30 till 12 every night is way too much time on the pc and not with your wife. Maybe cut it down even more? Just my opinion though, might be completely wrong.


I gotta agree there. Sounds like you're not having any sexytimes 4 nights a week, everyone has their hobbies, but you wife needs attention, and if you guys don't work this out, it's going to suck.
babylon
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
8765 Posts
December 06 2011 17:55 GMT
#40
On December 07 2011 02:49 Roxy wrote:
this does not make sense to me

if you dont like eachother, i would have expected that she would be pleased you are playing games and staying away from her.

I understand staying together for the kids, but perhaps you can work things out.

Im afraid I am underqualified for any suggestions, but I wish you luck - whatever path you go down

i do not understand women
+ Show Spoiler +
to draw on my own experience, just last night. I come home and my gf is in bed watching sex and the city.

She wanted me to sit down and watch it with her. I sat with her for the rest of the episode. I then stared another episode and then pretended to go to the bathroom but actually just went to play starcraft... boy did I catch hell.. honestly.. wtf do i have to watch sex and the city for tho? i dont make her watch mlg...

You should probably tell her you don't want to watch that TV show with her next time instead of sneaking off like that. Communication works wonders.
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