• Log InLog In
  • Register
Liquid`
TeamLiquid Liquipedia LiquidDota LiquidLegends
EST 00:05
CET 06:05
KST 14:05
  • Home
  • Forum
  • Calendar
  • Streams
  • Liquipedia
  • Features
  • Store
  • EPT
  • TL+
  • StarCraft 2
  • Brood War
  • Smash
  • Heroes
  • Counter-Strike
  • Overwatch
  • Liquibet
  • Fantasy StarCraft
  • TLPD
  • StarCraft 2
  • Brood War
  • Blogs
Forum Sidebar
Events/Features
News
Featured News
[ASTL2] Finals - eSport.fund vs LOGINmedia1[TQ] Best of the Best Tour W3 Recap6IEM Katowice RO24 - Group D Preview7IEM Katowice - A Totally Unbiased Trap Preview53IEM Katowice - RO24 Group B Preview9
Community News
2021 GSL Season 1 (Qualifiers)4Saying Goodbye to ASL English120BSL Season 11 - RO16 Group Stage1ASL11 set to start 28/0326New Worlds Map Contest: 1st Edition7
StarCraft 2
General
2021 GSL Season 1 (Qualifiers) New ladder maps for first season of 2021? Unofficial World Champion GTC to start in March - TL, Afreeca, NV, Shopify possibly joining Zest, the Meta Changer
Tourneys
[IEM 2021] Katowice World Championship - Championship Sunday Probots 2021 - Season 1 $1,000 WardiTV We Sold Out #2 ITaX Trovo Weekly#23 - Stats, ByuN, DRG & INno ITaX Ultimate Battles#6 - INnoVation vs Zest
Strategy
Simple Questions Simple Answers [G] PvZ Cheese: PartinG's "Adios Amigo" Build HuShang Tutorials
Custom Maps
Nexus Wars 2021 GUIDE Re-created map Ghost Tower Re-created map Wasteland
External Content
The StarCraft Observer Podcast Episode #4 Drogos Recap of 2020 Mutation #254 Flipping Out Mutation # 253 World on Fire
Brood War
General
Saying Goodbye to ASL English ASL11 set to start 28/03 Truth Behind "Miracle" Sparkyz Run to 2008 Finals BW General Discussion 2021 ACS Season 1 Announced
Tourneys
Jeez Weekly 2021 [BWCL] Season 53 - Preview and Registration BSL Season 11 - RO16 Group Stage [BWCL] Season 52 - Main Page
Strategy
More Brood War "Mysteries" explained Sorry's TvP lategame Ghost strategies? How many drones to a base? Simple Questions, Simple Answers
Other Games
Heroes of the Storm
HotS: WP and Funny Moments Welcome to the Heroes of the Storm forum! [HotS] 2020: A Year in the Nexus
General Games
Gold Medal Challenge Nintendo Switch Thread Final Fantasy XIV Genshin Impact - Coop RPG Baldurs Gate 3 announced
TL Mafia
TL Mafia Community Thread [M][N] Mafia Mafia: Mafia Edition {FlaSh}[Mini] Raceday [M][N] I'm a cop you idiot! - Round 4
Hearthstone
Is Hearthstone Gambling?
LoL General
LoL Tournaments
LoL Strategy
Community
General
Coronavirus and You YouTube Thread The Games Industry And ATVI NASA and the Private Sector US Politics Mega-thread
Fan Clubs
The Scarlett Fan Club The TY Fan Club INnoVation Fan Club
Media & Entertainment
[Manga] One Piece Korean Music Discussion Anime Discussion Thread Comic Books [Manga] Shingeki no Kyojin
Sports
2020 - 2021 Football Thread NHL 21: Tony DeActivito Did Nazi That Coming 2020 NFL and College Football Corona Season UFC/MMA Discussion Thread Formula1 2019
Tech Support
Best Gaming Headset? Computer Build, Upgrade & Buying Resource Thread How do you decide if mobo/cpu dead?
TL Community
Ask TL Staff Anything Recent Gifted Posts The Automated Ban List
Blogs
The StarCraft O…
TheStarCraftObserver
Some notes on Reynor vs Zest…
Teoita
Semonkong's Maletsunyane Falls…
Tak3r
Have it your way: a …
waywardstrategy
Balance Discussion
NonY
Singing "publically" for the…
JieXian
A Look Back At GSL Sea…
TheRealNanMan
Customize Sidebar...

Website Feedback

Closed Threads



Active: 1038 users

Married and SC2

Blogs > Rigorous
Post a Reply
1 2 3 4 5 Next All
Rigorous
Profile Joined August 2011
74 Posts
December 06 2011 17:36 GMT
#1
Hello all,

Looking for some advice / moral support. I've been married 8 years, and have 3 kids.

I play SC2 4 nights a week - Monday through Thursday. I play after the kids go to bed, from 8:30 until about midnight...so about 3-4 hours. On weekends, I don't play at all and devote all my time to the family.

Well my wife is fed up with me playing SC2. She is threatening to divorce me because of this.

My wife drives me crazy...the 8 years feel like forever. I would happily divorce her, but the kids... I am not sure what to do. Should I stop playing SC2? I don't see the problem with playing only 4 nights a week on weeknights....

Anyone else have similar problems? What did you do? Please respond only if in similar situation.
The_Piper42
Profile Blog Joined September 2009
United States424 Posts
December 06 2011 17:39 GMT
#2
Go see a marriage counselor. Don't ask for advice from faceless randoms online. Good luck with everything.
Boxer, White-Ra, Grubby, Flash fighting!
Railgan
Profile Joined August 2010
Switzerland1487 Posts
December 06 2011 17:39 GMT
#3
doesnt seem like starcraft is the only problem in your relationship
Grandmaster Zerg from Switzerland!!! www.twitch.tv/railgan // www.twitter.com/railgansc // www.youtube.com/c/railgansc
JayLay
Profile Joined September 2011
United States13 Posts
December 06 2011 17:40 GMT
#4
I don't get why women won't let guys have a hobby... My ex girlfriend hated when I would play whether it was 30 or 4 hours. She would get bored and blame it on me.. Sorry for having something to do in my free time. It sounds like a tough situation for you since you have kids. Do what you have to do to make sure you do everything you can for them. Good luck.
mki
Profile Blog Joined November 2010
Poland866 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-12-06 17:42:57
December 06 2011 17:41 GMT
#5
Seems like there are deeper issues here because I doubt you would "happily divorce her" over her not wanting you to play SC2. Seems like this is just one of those things that is just adding up to her and you're kind of blaming it on SC2.
Head of New Business at Team Kinguin :: https://www.teamkinguin.com
Railxp
Profile Blog Joined February 2008
Hong Kong1312 Posts
December 06 2011 17:42 GMT
#6
On December 07 2011 02:39 The_Piper42 wrote:
Go see a marriage counselor. Don't ask for advice from faceless randoms online. Good luck with everything.



considering the core demographic here is 20yo college kids with no marriage experience, and respond regularly to girl threads with "fuck that bitch, dump that cunt" and "you just gotta DO IT man!", this is sound advice XD
~\(。◕‿‿◕。)/~,,,,,,,,>
FakeLife
Profile Joined March 2011
United States41 Posts
December 06 2011 17:42 GMT
#7
Speaking as a married SC2 player, go see a marriage counselor, don't poll an online forum for what you should do about your marriage. A bunch of people on a message board shouldn't be a factor in your decision-making for an 8-year relationship and children.
Kyles92
Profile Joined October 2010
England173 Posts
December 06 2011 17:43 GMT
#8
A hobby is cool and everything, but 8:30 till 12 every night is way too much time on the pc and not with your wife. Maybe cut it down even more? Just my opinion though, might be completely wrong.
Chylo
Profile Joined May 2010
United States220 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-12-06 18:01:14
December 06 2011 17:44 GMT
#9
.
YuTz
Profile Joined September 2010
United States119 Posts
December 06 2011 17:44 GMT
#10
Stop playing Starcraft 2... marriage is much more important then any game. Also, you have three kids so you really could put better use of that time with them. When she sees your commitment... she would most likely let you play from time to time... either way there is plenty of streams to watch whenever that can allow you to still be involved in the community in some way... or attend some MLG's if they are nearby. I don't mean to sound harsh but divorce over a video game just doesn't make sense... ESP when you have three kids. I am married myself and I have boundaries with this game but if my wife pushed things to that level them I would have to stop playing. We have had minor arguments about it but nothing too serious simply because I maintain the boundaries we set previous.
Old School.....
HungShark
Profile Joined June 2010
United States134 Posts
December 06 2011 17:44 GMT
#11
I am not in a similar situation as I am not married, nor have kids. I am currently in a committed relationship with a wonderful woman who has a kid. She accepts my StarCraft playing as she can easily distract herself with other things (i.e. TV, her own video games, studying for her masters' degree, etc.). We were easily able to find a balance between our relationship, work, raising her kid, and our individual time with our own activities (StarCraft, other video games, etc.)

However, based on what you've posted, SC2 doesn't seem to be the key issue in your unhealthy marriage. I would highly suggest marriage counseling if you're determined to save your marriage, as there is clearly more to the issue than perhaps you or your wife care to admit.

I wish you luck with whatever decision you make.
Die again in good health!
MapleFractal
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
Canada302 Posts
December 06 2011 17:45 GMT
#12
On December 07 2011 02:39 The_Piper42 wrote:
Go see a marriage counselor. Don't ask for advice from faceless randoms online. Good luck with everything.


This, good luck with everything man.
its called a Tuque damnit!
stokes17
Profile Joined January 2011
United States1409 Posts
December 06 2011 17:45 GMT
#13
You should absolutely see a professional, it sounds like there are deep issues in your marriage. I severely doubt SC2 is the root of the apparent rift.

Best of Luck
Iranon
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
United States983 Posts
December 06 2011 17:46 GMT
#14
On December 07 2011 02:42 FakeLife wrote:
Speaking as a married SC2 player, go see a marriage counselor, don't poll an online forum for what you should do about your marriage. A bunch of people on a message board shouldn't be a factor in your decision-making for an 8-year relationship and children.


This is exactly what I was going to say. Also, obviously if you would "happily divorce her", there are serious problems in your relationship that have nothing to do with SC. Get that figured out.
IreScath
Profile Joined May 2009
Canada521 Posts
December 06 2011 17:47 GMT
#15
A councilor will tell you this most likely:

Ultimatums are never good... bad on your wife.
Too much time away from family... Bad on you.

She/He will most likely just ask you what you want in life, and to compare that with what your wife wants... and how bad you want those things.... If they dont match up, talk about it, and if you cant get them to match up, then GG.

But if spending MORE time with family (not saying you dont) is more important than your sc2 time... Its a simple decision.

The deeper issue will be if quitting sc2 will end up causing you to resent your wife and then possibly end up ruining your marraige... (which your wife should also be warry of and think about)

DISCLAIMER: I'm no shrink... but my wife is and I basically typed what she said.... BUT GO to a councilor.... You simply cannot get proper help online. even from those websites with real councilors.
IreScath
Synche
Profile Joined May 2010
United States1322 Posts
December 06 2011 17:47 GMT
#16
You're coming to TL to ask for marriage advice. If this is in any way a real post you have a lot more problems then a marriage.
Roxy
Profile Joined November 2010
Canada753 Posts
December 06 2011 17:47 GMT
#17
this does not make sense to me

if you dont like eachother, i would have expected that she would be pleased you are playing games and staying away from her.

I understand staying together for the kids, but perhaps you can work things out.

Im afraid I am underqualified for any suggestions, but I wish you luck - whatever path you go down
http://sc2ranks.com/us/941824/Roxy - Masters Protoss: "Respect my authoritai"
Gobbles
Profile Joined August 2010
Canada91 Posts
December 06 2011 17:47 GMT
#18
I'm going to assume this is a troll, if not, you need professional help (marriage and psychiatric, it's just a game maybe try playing 1 hour).
You already said spite
Kralic
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
Canada2617 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-12-06 17:48:29
December 06 2011 17:47 GMT
#19
Wait until the kids are 18 and then divorce her, chances are SC3 should be coming out.
Brood War forever!
tehemperorer
Profile Blog Joined June 2010
United States2183 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-12-06 17:49:18
December 06 2011 17:48 GMT
#20
Come to an agreement with her about how much time a week you will spend on the computer if you can. If not, as I, like others suspect you can't really stand her, carry on through with the divorce. Some times you know that a counselor can't help because you aren't willing to do the work with your spouse to make the relationship successful, and believe me there really are such things as irreconcilable differences, but any way you slice it, your kids witnessing strife in a marriage is a much worse alternative to going through a divorce but being able to see their parents happy, albeit separate.
Knowing is half the battle... the other half is lasers.
1 2 3 4 5 Next All
Please log in or register to reply.
Live Events Refresh
Alpha X Series
05:00
Series 36
Zest vs Cure
Liquipedia
OSC
02:00
Orca Cup Semis and Finals
Liquipedia
[ Submit Event ]
Live Streams
Refresh
StarCraft 2
WinterStarcraft541
ViBE403
Forgg! 191
kaitlyn158
CosmosSc2 129
ProTech118
Livibee 116
PiLiPiLi 73
PandaBearMe 25
StarCraft: Brood War
Sea 4531
Artosis2055
ToSsGirL 411
Shinee 125
.gypsy 95
hero 62
ggaemo 25
Noble 24
yabsab 8
hero(twitch) 7
Counter-Strike: Global Offensive
Fnx 1621
semphis_37
Super Smash Bros
C9.Mang01871
Other Games
summit1g44642
Destiny4646
shahzam1584
adren_tv424
Chillindude130
Hui .128
Trikslyr88
MCtoss53
Organizations
Counter-Strike: Global Offensive
ESL CS:GO1391
StarCraft 2
OGamingTV SC2 123
SC2 Vod Archives91
Blizzard YouTube
[ Show 20 non-featured ]
StarCraft 2
• SkrOs 159
• practicex 19
• Hupsaiya 3
• hirohiro 2
• Genesis Gaming
• aXEnki
• Tree_Stump
• intothetv
• AlphaB_SC2
• Kozan
• IndyKCrew
• Alpha X_
• LaughNgamez Trovo
• Laughngamez YouTube
• Matiz_pl
SC2: Legacy of the Void
• KarlJayG
StarCraft: Brood War
• HerbMon 24
• sscaitournament3
• AfreecaTV YouTube
Other Games
• TSM TheOddOne710
Upcoming Events
Alpha Pro Series
2h 55m
Patience vs ByuN
OSC
3h 55m
KCM Race Survival
4h 55m
AfreecaTV BJ Destructio…
4h 55m
WardiTV Invitational
6h 55m
ITaX Trovo Weekly
7h 55m
INnoVation vs DongRaeGu
Stats vs ByuN
Underdogs
12h 55m
Clem vs DnS
Denver vs MarineLorD
BWCL
14h 25m
dM- vs aSh.
Underdogs
14h 55m
PtitDrogo vs Stephano
Arrogfire vs Uzikoti
The NA Apprentice
18h 55m
[ Show More ]
PSISTORM Gaming Misc
18h 55m
eXoN event
20h 55m
AfreecaTV BJ Destructio…
1d 4h
OSC
1d 12h
Alpha Scrims
2 days
Dream vs Zoun
Patience vs RagnaroK
Dream vs Patience
Zoun vs RagnaroK
Patience vs Zoun
RagnaroK vs Dream
KCM Ladies Race Survival
2 days
AfreecaTV BJ Destructio…
2 days
Online Event
2 days
ITaX Ultimate Battle
2 days
INnoVation vs Zest
Team GP event
2 days
Best of the Best Tour
2 days
OyAji vs kogeT
Cross vs vOddy
DragOn vs Bonyth
PSISTORM Gaming Misc
2 days
The NA Apprentice
2 days
Alpha X vs PSISTORM Gaming
TBD vs Team eXon
Team eXon vs Risen from the Gosu
Grand Platypus Open
3 days
BW Jeez Weekly
3 days
BSL
3 days
BeAsT Cup
3 days
Alpha X Junior Champion…
3 days
Best of the Best Tour
3 days
Cross vs TerrOr
Dewalt vs kogeT
Bonyth vs Dandy
The NA Apprentice
3 days
AfreecaTV BJ Destructio…
4 days
Afreeca Challengers Sta…
4 days
BSL
4 days
Alpha Pro Series
4 days
Starkiller vs Garitos
AfreecaTV BJ Destructio…
5 days
Shinhan Tank Proleague
5 days
AfreecaTV BJ Destructio…
6 days
Liquipedia Results

Completed

ASTL Season 2
IEM Katowice 2021
30k/CM Off-S. Tour
IEM Katowice 2021

Ongoing

Best of the Best Tour
KCM Race Survival 2021 Season 1
Deathfate Pro League
Bombastic StarLeague 11
Rogue City Rumble
Shinhan Tank Proleague S4
BWCL Season 52
BWCL Season 52: Div-A
Masters Clash Champ. 2021
NGS Storm Division S2
ESEA S36 - NA Premier
ESEA S36 - EU Premier
ESEA S36 - AU Premier
Snow Sweet Snow #2

Upcoming

ASL Season 11
BW Jeez Weekly 104
BW Jeez Weekly 103
King of Kings 52
BW Jeez Weekly 102
2021 ACS Season 1
BW Jeez Weekly 101
DH Masters Summer: Finals
StayAtHome Story Cup #3
DHM Summer: China
DHM Summer: NA
DHM Summer: Oceania
DHM Summer: Asia
DHM Summer: LatAm
DHM Summer: Europe
2021 GSL Season 1
BLAST Premier Spring Finals
IEM Summer 2021
DH Masters Spring 2021
BLAST Premier Spring Showd.
DreamHack Open Mar 2021
ESL Pro League Season 13
Pinnacle Cup
TLPD

1. ByuN
2. TY
3. Dark
4. Solar
5. Stats
6. Nerchio
7. sOs
8. soO
9. INnoVation
10. Elazer
1. Rain
2. Flash
3. EffOrt
4. Last
5. Bisu
6. Soulkey
7. Mini
8. Sharp
Sidebar Settings...

Advertising | Privacy Policy | Terms Of Use | Contact Us

Original banner artwork: Jim Warren
The contents of this webpage are copyright © 2021 TLnet. All Rights Reserved.