So, it's 4th of July weekend. None of my friends are on campus really, and I am getting the urge to go out and have fun. I am not interested in any kind of relationship atm since my mess with Evan (previous boy blogs), but I want to have some fun with people and do some stuff out of the house.
And so... I just randomly decided to go to a BBQ with a guy I have never met before, who wants a date because his friends keep awkwardly setting him up with people, and he'd like an excuse to get them to stop. He seems pretty nice, teaches 4th grade, doesn't look like a creeper, is only 26 (seems a little weird when you consider that I'm 19 I guess >.> but I'm a junior in uni and idc about dating a bit older men).
I will definitely be telling a few people where I'm going lol, but it's so damn awkward like-- hey I just met this random dood on the interwebz, gonna go to a party with him tonight, bbl. I have had rather good luck with internet -> rl meetings with people. Flew up to Wisconsin to spend Christmas Break with people I'd never met before, for example, and it was awesome. Only told Evan and a few other friends what I was doing though, haha.
Idk what to expect though really. Have never been on a casual date with someone I didn't know beforehand. What if it goes terribly and is so damn awkward? XD He is picking me up and bringing me home, so... not like I can bow out easily and gracefully. Suggestions?!
HuK knows whats up! But i also think you should buy a knife for safe keeping lol jk but just be safe because i wana play starcraft again with you! <3 do work red!
Best piece of advice I can give is relax and try not to force anything.
That is a large age gap, though. I'm 24 and I'd be skeptical of seeing a 19-year-old. The age isn't the issue so much as the maturity and experience that comes with the age. Nonetheless, I'd be skeptical and still go through with it!
On July 03 2011 16:14 Servius_Fulvius wrote: Best piece of advice I can give is relax and try not to force anything.
That is a large age gap, though. I'm 24 and I'd be skeptical of seeing a 19-year-old. The age isn't the issue so much as the maturity and experience that comes with the age. Nonetheless, I'd be skeptical and still go through with it!
Eh most people assume I'm 21 or older. I do come across that way irl I believe, and it's actually weird to me that I am that young (I tend to think of high schoolers at 19). Like I said I'm a junior in uni (actually been away at uni this long, not taking classes at a local community college or some bullshit while at home), and I've been completely on my own for almost 3 years now, so that grows you up pretty fast (in a sucky way >.>). Most of my friends here are grad students and seniors, and many of them don't know I'm 19 (I don't say unless people ask).
I do understand the skepticism though, lol, but I think as an individual I seem a few years older, and maturity wise, I have a lot more life-experience than many other people my age.
This is a casual date, which means that you don't have to act weird because you somehow care about anything. Just treat this like a casual night out with friends and don't feel any pressure upon your shoulders.
There was a bulletin in Canada that the RCMP was looking for a 26 year old school teacher suspected to be a serial rapist and human trafficker. Just a heads up.
On July 03 2011 17:05 THE_DOMINATOR wrote: lol a 26 year old dating a 19 year old. Have fun!
I'm sure they'll be engaging in a lot of philosophical discussions. Maybe the guy wants a fresh perspective on his olden ways of thinking. In fact, he probably just wants to do her a favour and make it a pleasurable experience by analytically introducing certain propositions into her fresh and untainted mindset. A short Dickens debate, a little Kant, ... sounds fair to me.
On July 03 2011 17:05 THE_DOMINATOR wrote: lol a 26 year old dating a 19 year old. Have fun!
I'm sure they'll be engaging in a lot of philosophical discussions. Maybe the guy wants a fresh perspective on his olden ways of thinking. In fact, he probably just wants to do her a favour and make it a pleasurable experience by analytically introducing certain propositions into her fresh and untainted mindset. A short Dickens debate, a little Kant, ... sounds fair to me.
On July 03 2011 15:50 Liquid`HuK wrote: just be urself and honest
This to be honest.
Just be who you are. The reason is that there are only two outcomes. "This person likes you" or "This person doesn't like you." It's black and white like that.
That way, if you're being yourself, you are showing this person who you are.
On July 03 2011 16:14 Servius_Fulvius wrote: Best piece of advice I can give is relax and try not to force anything.
That is a large age gap, though. I'm 24 and I'd be skeptical of seeing a 19-year-old. The age isn't the issue so much as the maturity and experience that comes with the age. Nonetheless, I'd be skeptical and still go through with it!
I'm 25 (soon to be 26) and there's a 19 yo girl that likes me. I know it pretty much won't work though because there's just too big a gap heh
I'm not sure how the OP 26 y/o school teacher thinks it will work unless he's just after one thing...
My advice would treat it as an experience. Try to have fun. It may not work out in the long run but at least you have learned that relationships like this probably won't work. But at least you will have fun or if you don't you'll have a funny horror dating story to tell.
On July 03 2011 23:31 Xiron wrote: Just for my understanding. Is the OP gay?
No, she's female.
Also she's not going to hook up with the dude, haha. At least she's told me she's not planning on it :p
I think you guys (some) are missing the point - she's not nervous because she wants to impress the guy and hook up with him, she's nervous because she doesn't want it to be awkward as hell. The guy might want more than a "date" but I think he's more just trying to get his friends to stop trying to get him to find a girl...though it does seem like a devious way of getting a girl to go out with you, haha.
I do not plan on hooking up with him or ever going out with him again. I just want to have go have fun for the holiday and have no one around to do so with. Mostly nervous about it being awkward as hell lol. That's all I meant to ask about.
You're going to out to have fun. I don't see how or where you met the dude plays any form of awkward role.
If you make it awkward, it'll be awkward, people ask, just tell them casually and any potential stigma or assumptions of why you met him on the internet will dissolve, especially if you're social enough.
On July 03 2011 15:45 RedJustice wrote: ...hey I just met this random dood on the interwebz, gonna go to a party with him tonight, bbl.
I met my bf on the internet, I always think people are going to think it's weird when I tell them that (if they ask ) but I really don't think it's any different to meeting someone anywhere else... would it be better if it was 'hey I just met this random dood at a bar'?
On July 03 2011 15:45 RedJustice wrote: ...hey I just met this random dood on the interwebz, gonna go to a party with him tonight, bbl.
I met my bf on the internet, I always think people are going to think it's weird when I tell them that (if they ask ) but I really don't think it's any different to meeting someone anywhere else... would it be better if it was 'hey I just met this random dood at a bar'?
Let people know where you are and have fun :D
There's an old stigma to the idea of meeting people online. People think: "Oh, she met someone online because she couldn't get anyone here", but that's just narrow-minded thinking and not actually acknowledging the convenience and wonders of the internet: Meeting people you wouldn't normally meet in your everyday surroundings.
On July 04 2011 02:33 RedJustice wrote: I do not plan on hooking up with him or ever going out with him again. I just want to have go have fun for the holiday and have no one around to do so with. Mostly nervous about it being awkward as hell lol. That's all I meant to ask about.
Same suggestion as before - relax and don't try to force anything (conversation, I mean)
There's an old stigma to the idea of meeting people online. People think: "Oh, she met someone online because she couldn't get anyone here", but that's just narrow-minded thinking and not actually acknowledging the convenience and wonders of the internet: Meeting people you wouldn't normally meet in your everyday surroundings.
Exactly. But meh, I do everything else on the internet, lol, why not start relationships too
On July 03 2011 17:05 THE_DOMINATOR wrote: lol a 26 year old dating a 19 year old. Have fun!
Nah. I've dated men 6 years older than me before. Honestly, once you're both adults, it's really nice.
"Adults" being the key word. I mean, I would go on a date with an 18-year-old (6 years younger than me), but I probably won't pursue a relationship unless she could treat my feelings with some degree of maturity. Granted, my dad married my mom one week before he turned 25 (she was 19) - then again, my parents aren't exactly 'normal' people, but who really is? It all comes down to the person. I won't refuse them a chance due to their age, but I may not be optimistic about it!
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for safe keeping lol jk but just be safe because i wana play starcraft again with you! <3 do work red! 
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