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1) Was messing with Google sites for improving the MUN website. It's something everybody should be aware of. If you need a basic website that looks decent, it's actually a great free tool. Just to plug for Google www.sites.google.com
2) Bulk of this blog. After realizing that I was quite stressed out over mostly pointless conflict I decided that I needed to have a serious discussion with my parents. I knew that most of the previous arguments discussions had ended after I got offended at ad hominem attacks. So I just said I'd ignore attacks, and just try to solve the problem.
I immediately started by going at the root of the problem: I thought that although they were certainly acting in good faith, their attempts were somewhat draconian, and they were creating tension which was focusing my attention, as well as theirs, towards argument as opposed to how the current condition could be improved. I gave my criteria for why I thought certain things were unfair. I took blame, saying that although I don't think they've handled things the best, I didn’t react as I should have to them.
I said that although it's reasonable to say that I won't get into Harvard, continually saying I won't get into San Jose state isn't exactly the best way to motivate me. I said that in order to compensate I’ve sometimes thought that I can do more than I am really truly capable of. I noted that their attempts to make me study more have turned into simply less sleep for me, although I certainly took blame for staying up later than I should have to play games, which were not at all necessary.
Numerous times throughout this discourse I was attacked for entirely unrelated issues, that had happened long ago, attacked for not agreeing on social issues, attacked for bringing up the fact that my brother's uneducated piano teacher makes more than my dad 3 years ago. But I just sat there, and said various comments such as "I understand how you feel, but the situation has changes since then..."
In the end it came down to the conclusion.
If I get all As, they will back off. They will not interfere. They say if I do that then whatever I'm doing, no matter how convoluted, is somewhat effective. They say if I follow their plan and do not do as well, then its ok, and if I don't follow their plan and don't do as well, that's much worse. But I'm confident in my ability to focus, work well, and do what I think is best. I will be working my hardest to get some of the restrictions removed, and so that I can do as well as possible in school for the rest of the year, and next year. Although my parents both questioned my ability to do this, laughing they'd even get 20/6 internet if I did. And then they promised to do it. o.o They are very confident I will not succeed. I will not give them the satisfaction lol.
Finally did MUN again. Got 2nd out of 34 groups. Not bad. For the second year in a row I’ve had an attractive partner who has been hit on a ton. Awkward when they think we're a couple. So awkward...
 
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Holy crap, dude. I'm really impressed by how much more mature and calm you are than your parents.
That was a great way to handle your situation, major props! And they just gave you a huge incentive to get those As, although you clearly have the talent to do it. Best of luck this semester, and study hard!
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United States4053 Posts
Sounds like a success to me! I think it's a great show of character that you were able to come to a resolution like that, which strikes a compromise between expectations, reality, and freedom.
MUN = Model United Nations?
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On February 01 2011 16:18 infinitestory wrote:
Sounds like a success to me! I think it's a great show of character that you were able to come to a resolution like that, which strikes a compromise between expectations, reality, and freedom.
MUN = Model United Nations?
Yup!
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"They are very confident I will not succeed. I will not give them the satisfaction lol."
It sounds like talking with them didn't help at all.
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Nice I have faith in you!!! Btw screw Gunn and screw Cal MUN you guys are too good! Ahaha 
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On February 01 2011 16:30 Loser777 wrote:
"They are very confident I will not succeed. I will not give them the satisfaction lol."
It sounds like talking with them didn't help at all.
You'd be surprised how much motivation is gained trying to prove someone wrong. Though i suppose it doesn't really work for everyone.
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Props on brushing off their meaningless attacks. I know how frustrating that can be, and how tempting it is to try to respond with their own reasoning, but it's best to accept that they're gonna do whatever it takes to prove themselves right. This is true if you ever argue with anyone, not just your parents. Just get back to the issue, contain, macro up your direct points and it's GG
I'm starting to recognize your blogs now too, good luck in AP Chem! I'll grant some assistance time willing :p
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United States1164 Posts
nice MUN. My school went to the nationals thing in new york as representatives from the south texas region. Oh, and about the internet thing, you won't be home to appreciate the fast speeds. When you get to uni, speeds are always fast.
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On February 01 2011 17:13 FractalsOnFire wrote:Show nested quote +On February 01 2011 16:30 Loser777 wrote:
"They are very confident I will not succeed. I will not give them the satisfaction lol."
It sounds like talking with them didn't help at all. You'd be surprised how much motivation is gained trying to prove someone wrong. Though i suppose it doesn't really work for everyone.
I went to top of varsity singles and 15 match win streak because somebody said I wouldn't ever be good at tennis. Focused anger is better than any energy drink.
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On February 01 2011 16:32 Superiorwolf wrote:Nice I have faith in you!!! Btw screw Gunn and screw Cal MUN you guys are too good! Ahaha
Aha. We get cut down to size at berkeley.
At berkeley maricosta, palos verdes (I think I'm spelling them right) kill us and Gunn, although we still get the best club award. (They have classes)
Also fixed spelling nvyone. While typing stuff out quickly on itouch, spellings tend to get mangled 
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