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On January 13 2011 05:30 Zidane wrote:
It is kind of messed up tbh, but i guess guys will be guys right? Ask yourself this question. Would you be okay if you knew your gf was cumming to fantasies with OTHER men?
both my gf and i watch porn alone and together and she regularly cums to it. i don't care whether she imagines me as the male porn star or her as the female porn star, because that's not reality. like i said above, that's an immature train of thought, and you're basically asking "aren't you immature in this way too???" maybe people are, but you shouldn't be, because it's silly.
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Live2Win
United States6657 Posts
As much as I will regret putting my thoughts here, I'll put it anyways.
From what I gather it seems that you believe that pornography is okay to look at and "enjoy", while she does not. Therefor either you will have to agree that pornography is wrong, or convince her that pornography is not wrong.
If you are dating someone of Christian faith, and I mean serious faith and not just "I believe in God as long as it suits me" then you will have a problem. You will not be able to convince her to accept your view because this view is NOT acceptable in Christian belief. Pornography goes completely against biblical teachings.
So really, you must now either get her to disband her faith, or you must become someone of faith and understand WHY pornography is viewed as wrong.
Also I must warn that if you don't believe in Christian beliefs and she does, this kind of issue will be just the beginning of many to come.
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On January 13 2011 04:01 decafchicken wrote:
Alternatively, tell her if you two film some porn you'll never have to even see another woman naked again even one you don't know on the internet.
I like the way you think paco 
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United Kingdom16710 Posts
Well it seems like you're just getting a little bored of the repetitive nature of your sex life with your girlfriend and resorting to porn to live it up a bit so to say. It happens to almost all couples when that honeymoon period comes to an end and things fall into a routine. I highly suggest you try and spice things up with your girlfriend. Just sit down with her and talk about what you want to try out and what she wants to try out. It never hurts to ask. Also maybe try going away on a weekend trip together? Somewhere romantic to rekindle some of that fire.
Anyways good luck~
edit: oh and the porn thing. If you do reignite that passion with your gf and still find yourself craving porn, just tell her it's just a part of you. Either she accepts or rejects. That or if you love her enough to make some compromises, you can try and cut back or stop all together.
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So many people throwing out opinions as if they are facts... I would tell you that if you wanted the relationship to work that it is about compromise. If she was made to feel uncomfortable by something you are doing then you have to ask yourself how important that is to you in the first place. Is watching porn so important that you couldn't give it up for her? Is this the main problem with the relationship or is something bigger really the issue?
Specifically, I wouldn't waste time on someone that cheated on me and you seem too young to try to deal with a girl coming from a high strung catholic upbringing. IMO, stay broken up, play whatever emo music kids play these days, go get a pizza with friends, and flirt like a mother fucker with the hot girl working in said pizza place.
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On January 13 2011 05:30 Zidane wrote:
It is kind of messed up tbh, but i guess guys will be guys right? Ask yourself this question. Would you be okay if you knew your gf was cumming to fantasies with OTHER men?
Well, after a while, isn't this to be expected? I mean, come on..Sorry, but if you think your girlfriend is ONLY thinking/fantasizing of you, then that is imho a bit naive.
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I don't think porn is THE problem here.
It's the fact that you're bored with your sex life and you're talking about months of relationship, not years.
Something will have to change.
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I agree with your girlfriend. You should stop watching porn, and try to fix your sex life instead. That, or dump her and then do whatever you want.
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On January 13 2011 05:07 AyeH wrote:
god damn. she just texted me saying she talked to her teachers about the issue and they said that she was right, i was wrong. she goes to a catholic private school and one teacher was a fuckin theologist (bible person) and the other a catholic woman. she said that her teacher almost made her break up with me so i said fuck it, if you can't even bother to let go of this thing when i forgave you for cheating on me, you aren't worth sticking around for. all this was via text since she can't txt while in class. FUCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK.
xD catholic girls are the best, rofl. It's amazing what several years of indoctrination can do to a human being.
€: i once had sex with a room mate. She came from a catholic family too. She said she never masturbated in her whole life (she was 24 or so, cant remember) and never had an orgasm. That was pretty sad actually
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On January 13 2011 04:02 AyeH wrote:i don't really watch porn that often so i don't know categories. but i just visit one site and it involves this guy who does this massages for these girls and ends up having sex with them. it's guy-girl sex. no gay porn. no anal. just two people having sex. i'll admit the girls are pretty damn hot but i don't get feelings of love or start to like them or something.. if you guys really want the site, i can post it but i dont know if it would be ok.
lol 99% sure its fuckedhard18 or massage girls. I also have a gf, and it's roughly 1:1 ratio between sex and porn, but who cares. She is convinced that I watch porn and I think she would freak if she found "the collection" too... half the time she's in the right folder when shes on my comp, shes just too ignorant to show hidden files in the folder options. I should change that though, shes smart, and I don't want to have all that explaining to do...
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saying "watching porn means you are emotionally cheating on me because you are fantasizing about other women" is like saying "playing war videogames means you fantasize about waging war on other people and blowing shit up. and so you have aggression problems".
No. There is a reason why it is in the domain of fantasy and not reality. If you cannot distinguish that, and if you are seeking relationship advice from a puritanical institution of all places, then there are some serious issues.
I am reminded of the HIMYM episode where they reference the Hot x Crazy graph. The hotter the girl is, the more crazy you will tolerate. XD
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Promise that you won't watch porn and that you were wrong and then keep doing it anyway.
Just don't get caught.
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Canada525 Posts
bitches be bitches man, seriously don't even put thought into it. Lie to her face to face if she finds out fuckit. I'm being dead serious to your to young to really care about it theres alot more where that came from.
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On January 13 2011 04:09 Megaliskuu wrote:
Just watch when you want, but tell her you don't watch anymore. EZ
easy like sunday morning! :p
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On January 13 2011 05:26 Servius_Fulvius wrote:Show nested quote +On January 13 2011 05:07 AyeH wrote:
god damn. she just texted me saying she talked to her teachers about the issue and they said that she was right, i was wrong. she goes to a catholic private school and one teacher was a fuckin theologist (bible person) and the other a catholic woman. she said that her teacher almost made her break up with me so i said fuck it, if you can't even bother to let go of this thing when i forgave you for cheating on me, you aren't worth sticking around for. all this was via text since she can't txt while in class. FUCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK. 1). Even though she talked to openly religious people at an openly religious school doesn't mean she got openly religious advice (even though you can make that intuitive leap, I'd recommend against it --> if she brought it up you could blast her on the premarital sex thing anyway). 2). Teachers can't make you break up with someone. If they did then she probably went to the wrong person for advice. The whole point of giving advice is to give you a different perspective and help you reflect on it, NOT make the decision for you. 3). if I were her, I'd use the "you can't let go of YOUR thing argument too" 4). When it comes down to it, does it all matter that much? Evidently you don't think so, but I think you should talk to her and think about it before making a decision like that.
She is a catholic and she is ok with having tons of premarital sex? Either means she is 1. not catholic or 2. confused.
How do you talk to someone
"Hi, i'm having sex with my boyfriend every day and he says he likes watching porn and that I shouldn't be upset about it"
"Ok now, you know that you aren't supposed to be having sex before marriage right?"
"Yeah, but isn't it bad of him to be watching porn?"
"Yes dear, but you also..."
"ok thanks bye!"
Sounds like someone really confused or unaware.
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Dating a Catholic girl?
oh boy, jealousy over porn is going to be the least of your worries.
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so many many good posts here..
but if she can't handle it, it's her problem.
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If you're getting bored and its being repetitive after 8 months...
Imagine how the next 50 years will be.
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On January 13 2011 05:39 Live2Win wrote:
As much as I will regret putting my thoughts here, I'll put it anyways.
From what I gather it seems that you believe that pornography is okay to look at and "enjoy", while she does not. Therefor either you will have to agree that pornography is wrong, or convince her that pornography is not wrong.
If you are dating someone of Christian faith, and I mean serious faith and not just "I believe in God as long as it suits me" then you will have a problem. You will not be able to convince her to accept your view because this view is NOT acceptable in Christian belief. Pornography goes completely against biblical teachings.
So really, you must now either get her to disband her faith, or you must become someone of faith and understand WHY pornography is viewed as wrong.
Also I must warn that if you don't believe in Christian beliefs and she does, this kind of issue will be just the beginning of many to come.
Whatever happened to "agree to disagree". Granted it won't solve the issue but it at least puts you on level ground...
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On January 13 2011 04:22 nimrodel wrote:
why don't you try being a gentlemen, treating your woman with respect and honesty, and utilizing some self control. these qualities are all sorely lacking in modern man.
sitting at a computer isn't even comparable to the experiences, emotions, and energy you can feel with a partner
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On January 13 2011 04:24 Gummy wrote:Ur silly, bro. How lucky are you to have a gf?!?!?!?! Real people are better than moving images!
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On January 13 2011 04:27 Zerokaiser wrote:Show nested quote +On January 13 2011 04:25 Titusmaster6 wrote:
Honestly, tell her that's the way you operate, and if she REALLY can't handle it, then leave. Best case scenario is of course, that she watches with you. I can't imagine what priorities you have in your head that you would leave your girlfriend because she doesn't let you watch porn.
The priority of not letting a crazy emotional wench dictate how you live your life. You can easily find a girl who is both fine and supportive of it, who realized simple human interactions and understands its not a big deal nor is it in anyway offputting. Just because she refuses to see logic he should sacrifice something? Ya ok bro, get back to me when you get a girl who tries to make you quit sc or whatever your poison is.
Dude your interest in porn is kiddy stuff and explain it to her, in this situation you could totally watch it with her. The closest me and the wife have gotten to sharing porn is me giving her my websites for her own personal use. My personal tastes are nowhere near as vanilla as yours or my wife's. So I can't watch vanilla porn cause it does nothing and my wife probably wouldn't enjoy my stuff :D
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