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Ok so I have a dilemma here.
I watch pornography sometimes(like a lot of guys) and my girlfriend has a problem with it. She thinks that I am cheating on her by watching porn and I guess it truly stems from her jealousy issues. She thinks "why do you need to watch porn when you have me?" And sure, that is a legitimate claim in some way. I tell her my reasons and that she doesn't need to worry about me ever living out my fantasies in real life because I can just do it in front of my computer monitor. In a way, I guess it helps guys control their drive for conquering other women and ultimately helps them avoid cheating on their significant others. She doesn't really get what I'm trying to say to her and so I guess I need some help from the TL community on how to convince her. We have a very healthy sex life, but it's just very repetitive and can get boring sometimes (We've been dating for more than eight months). What do you guys think? Please try to be constructive.
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What kind of porn?
legitimate question
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My old gf tried to pull that shit on me. I laughed at her till she realized how stupid she was being and she never brought it up again. If she thinks she has the right to keep you from rubbing one out to some good ol porn tell her to fuck off.
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It's also possible to watch porn together.
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Alternatively, tell her if you two film some porn you'll never have to even see another woman naked again even one you don't know on the internet.
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On January 13 2011 03:59 iGrok wrote: What kind of porn?
legitimate question
i don't really watch porn that often so i don't know categories. but i just visit one site and it involves this guy who does this massages for these girls and ends up having sex with them. it's guy-girl sex. no gay porn. no anal. just two people having sex. i'll admit the girls are pretty damn hot but i don't get feelings of love or start to like them or something.. if you guys really want the site, i can post it but i dont know if it would be ok.
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Get her to watch it with you tell her to make some for you or... tell her its getting kind of boring and get her to try new things. Communication is kind of important :D
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On January 13 2011 04:01 oBlade wrote: It's also possible to watch porn together. And it's better this way.
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On January 13 2011 04:02 winter017 wrote: Get her to watch it with you tell her to make some for you or... tell her its getting kind of boring and get her to try new things. Communication is kind of important :D
honestly, we have great communication. and she said it's different when i watch it with her and when it is by myself! i don't understand...
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Have you acted out the video on her?
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yea i had this small problem a while back =P all the advice here so far is good so gl lol
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On January 13 2011 04:04 iGrok wrote: Have you acted out the video on her?
what do you mean by acted out the video on her? like try the moves from porn i watch on her? i don't really need to. it's not like they do crazy insane shit in the porn i watch. it's simple to be honest compared to stuff i have seen in the past.
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Just watch when you want, but tell her you don't watch anymore. EZ
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One of my exgf had this problem... from that experience I would say there is a problem with her selfconfidence... she might thinks that herself isn't enough to please you coz if she was you would not need to watch porn alone, thus why she says is diferent when you watch along her...
sorry with my real shitty english... whatever, you have to talk with her and build her confidence that she enough to you... you just need to have some fun with your good old friend... right hand.
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Watching porn is a healthy release for men, your girlfriend is being unreasonable. As for how to deal with it idk...too many unknowns for me to offer any advice. GL though.
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I mean...
It sounds like you like these videos because they show the male seducing and/or mildly dominating the female. And if she's okay with watching with you, but not alone, she's concerned that ou don't find her attractive enough to seduce anymore.
Basically, send her out one night to some bar/club, tell her you'll meet her there, and when you do, bust out the suavest, most seductive act you can. You know how women can be teases? You need to do kind of the same thing, but not too much. You need to act like you're meeting her for the first time again.
It sounds stupid, but it works. Both for you and for her.
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On January 13 2011 04:09 Megaliskuu wrote: Just watch when you want, but tell her you don't watch anymore. EZ
i'm not going to lie to her about it, if she catches me, i'll just get in more shit.
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On January 13 2011 04:10 Ack1027 wrote: lolursig
if u r referring to mine, my username used to be g4t0r4d3 but it was changed because i got warned for it? idk why.
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On January 13 2011 04:12 AyeH wrote:Show nested quote +On January 13 2011 04:09 Megaliskuu wrote: Just watch when you want, but tell her you don't watch anymore. EZ i'm not going to lie to her about it, if she catches me, i'll just get in more shit.
Does she check your internet history?
O_O
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