On June 27 2010 02:38 FuDDx wrote: Also A great point its not what you know its who you know.As I get older and have had many jobs (thanks ice carving) where I get to schmooze with some more wealthy clients etc.I am flabbergasted by how many people get great jobs because they know someone or they are family with so and so when There are plenty of experienced and knowledgeable people trying for the job but Joe blow gets it with no experience and all the pay because hes boofing some guys sister.Pisses me off. So I make it a point to dress well,always smile and introduce myself and try to be as accommodation as I can.One day one of these rich guys are going to want to give me free money really one day!!!
So because others are living like weasels, you want to put on a weasel suit too? :-|. There are more worthwhile things in life than just making money in an easy way....
So you saying that dressing nice and smiling is being a weasel? I do not follow your lack of logic,sorry.I do balloons and ice carving, booth of witch I love, where I deal with people like I described before. I enjoy my job I do not enjoy dealing with those assholes but I must.And since my business would not be if not for them I must keep them happy one way is to be nice polite and try to do all I can to provide a quality service.I may not like dealing with weasels but they do pay me money at something I love to do sooo......umm no offense but piss off.
Well put. To be honest, I can't find one thing wrong with doing what it is you are passionate about, regardless of who you have to put up with. Even if you have to leave a good impression, and it takes some extra work to keep them happy, there's no harm there. I'll have to do the same when I drag my own ass out of school to work in Child Protective Services, I'll still have to be very accommodating to some pretty big scumbags, but that comes with the job. It took me a long time to figure out what to try, but I eventually settled - very late. I could have been done last year, but I'll be finishing up in two more now. Still, I don't regret taking my time one bit. The OP just needs to rule out the things he doesn't want to do, and look at the remaining options. Find something you will find rewarding, and you won't regret it.
I behave pretty much the same way fuddx. I treat all my customers really well and usually pretty honest with them. If they ask me how a meal is and its shitty, I tell them. One time thats gotten me in trouble, the other 9 times out of ten the customer appreciates it and says so. More then a 4 major jobs fo rme as well as small side jobs have been from bs'ing with family members of this local greek mafia. I don't think they are REALLY the mafia, they just seem that way. Regardless being friendly and approachable goes a long way. Storkhwaiting's point barely seemed related to fuddx's post so I'm gonna go ahead and assume neither of us are wieselsl, but that's just an imo.
On June 27 2010 03:01 CheAse wrote: Get out of bed so we can go hand our resumes into McDonalds.
edit: get of bed, instead of bad.
On the one hand I feel like like a fail of a human being for hearing there today something along lines of "work you were doing wasn't as good as we expected". Omg, even fast food doesn't want me, how bad is that. It was so weird to randomly meet my boss when coming home later, talk with her friendly and learn that she lives few hundreds meters away from me.
On the other hand, it's actually good that many people think about working there so badly because companies like MD have to offer more to people to encourage them about asking for job. I and many people I heard to talk about this, consider my pay and some things that come with it quite good for what is needed from us, when compared to many other options. So good I'm thinking about asking if it's possible to try my luck in another MD restaurant - I can terminate my contract any time and start working somewhere else in 2 weeks anyways!
It's really soothing to read that there are many people, even quite older than me (I'm 22) that have similar situation in their lives. I've stopped studying after less than 2 months as I was more than sure that Environmental Engineering I blogged about not only wasn't my thing but I also simply wasn't capable of properly stydying it without taking care of my mental state and my highschool material. I don't want to even try to get somewhere before my mind is free of past. I have 2 more years, which means 2 more chances to pass only those maturity exams (equivalent of SATs?; or pass them better than I did 3 years ago) that I will need to get and study something I would like do in my future. After that I will have to pass all of them again. I don't think that considering chemistry, which I used to be at least good at, only because I used to be so bored without internet to imagine particles colliding or because of hope to work in fireworks industry is good enough. I need something more solid and I don't see it coming now, during my no life cycles between days I work (and it's not even a full tim job but 3/4 part-time job) - I don't feel capable of studying in my state now
It's at least better than it used to be last autumn/winter. I've felt a bit like burden at TL meeting in Freiburg, I knew I would not accomplish much when I was coming there. Well seeing Tlneters including staff members live is a big accomplishment though :D
On June 27 2010 09:06 beetlelisk wrote: I've stopped studying after less than 2 months as I was more than sure that Environmental Engineering I blogged about not only wasn't my thing but I also simply wasn't capable of properly stydying it without taking care of my mental state and my highschool material.
Not to mention, the whole not-wearing-pants thing.
On June 27 2010 09:06 beetlelisk wrote: I've stopped studying after less than 2 months as I was more than sure that Environmental Engineering I blogged about not only wasn't my thing but I also simply wasn't capable of properly stydying it without taking care of my mental state and my highschool material.
Not to mention, the whole not-wearing-pants thing.
Alright I'm reading this book on sports psychology and I'm on a particularly illuminating chapter on "vision integrity".
We make thousands of decisions on a day to day basis usually using a "vision" as our guidepost for directing those decisions and actions. Your vision is what you imagine your life to be and how you'll live it. Your vision are the three most important aspects of your life that you just FEEL in your bones that you must prioritize.
Vincent Lombardi's top three were: 1) God 2) Family 3) Greenbay packers. A lot of athletes actually have long term goals and short term goals that simply don't align with their own personal vision. This causes a lot of resentment even if they're paid athletes.
So how do you even figure out what your top three priorities are? Well, in the book is a deceivingly simple but brilliant exercise.
1) Make a list of activities you KNOW you're good at. 2) Of all the activities you're good at, make a note of what you actually enjoy doing. 3) Take it a step further by then selecting the activites you REALLY enjoy doing. 4) And once you have a new list, take it even a step further by choosing the activities you REALLY REALLY enjoy doing.
And also, giving each activity a rating from 0-10 is helpful. I have a few moments and memories that I can use as a gauge to see just how much I like each thing I'm good at. i.e. Having a memorable night out with my closest friends is a solid 10, watching an incredible "life altering" movie is a 10 for me, etc. So if I have an equal amount of fun simply doing any of the activities I'm good at, as I do with my other 10s then I should definitely focus on those activities.
But yeah, I know it's a really simple exercise, but I actually took 15 minutes to really think about this. I didn't have that much on my list of things I'm good at. But it was pretty eye opening for me, because I learned something about myself I didn't know before hand and I can actually see a few possible career paths that make me go, "woah, I could actually do that."
^ that's not a ground shaking advice imo but what's more important I don't think it applies to younger people like me because I don't have much to choose from, I still need to try more new things or jobs. I know this most probably focuses on activities done in a free time but majority of them isn't by their nature creative enough to forge (long time) jobs using them.
After one more talk it appears I'm not losing my current job, I just need to put little more into it and completely stop being late
The point in life is to find what you don't like about yourself and continually try to improve it. First off, you need to give yourself a goal, think what about yourself is preventing you from reaching that goal. Then work towards fixing your weaknesses.
I just finished my EE degree with first class honors (80+). In first yaer, I had 61 average cuz I just fucked around. In 2nd year I had 70 cuz I started to care a bit. Then in third year, I told myself I really really want to get first class honors. It meant a lot to me to get that prestige. So I found that I was playing too many games. Cut it out. Eating in the cafe for like 2 hours talking to friends. Cut it to 1 hour. Wasting time between classes. Went to the library. Then my grades started to improve. In 3rd year I got my 80 average and I felt good. It's these little goals...it builds confidence and it helps you keep moving forward.
Then I decided I wanted to go into consulting instead of a technical job. I found this out when I did my internship at AMD/ATI (i thought it was mindnumbingly boring) . For anyone who doesnt know, consulting is VERY difficult to get into . They only take the cream of the crop. It is tough shit. I started to improve my communication skills the best I could. I tried to gain experience in the area by doing two graduating projects instead of the regular one. I spent $1500 out of my own pocket to learn SAP, a tool that IT consultants use a lot. I took a crappy summer job just to get closer to Deloitte. Now, I just finished my second interview with Accenture, waiting to hear the news. If I pass this, I have one more. If I don't get it, I'm still enrolled in a business masters in UT, so I have options.
You have plenty of time in your life. Take on small goals. One step at a time. Then itll help you build confidence.
On June 27 2010 03:53 Hectic wrote: Focus on what you are good at, rather than what you think you want to do.
This guy exactly right.
One of the Best posts I have seen in months on TL.
Disagree.
Focus on what you want to do (but be realistic) and ask yourself, why am I not like that? Then improve yourself until you are.
I kinda combine both. I didn't know what I was going to study in University so I chose the one that I had the best grades in - Math. I originally wanted to do some sort of Engineering but after doing some hands-on project in Physics class and pretty much relying on my dad to help me with most of it I realize I didn't have that kind of engineering mindset to succeed in that field.
I succumbed to gaming in high school, played a lot of Lineage 2 - I'd wake up 5 in the morning before school starts to grind a couple hours...thats when my parents would be sleeping so they wouldn't notice. Imagine if I had used that time to study or work out or even just stay sleeping...hindsight is always 20/20.
Luckily I made a new group of friends during my senior year and they all had their lives straightened out (so I think). I think to be successful its beneficial to be surrounded with successful people. Before meeting them I was only planning on going to some second rate school in some second rate program then see where I was going to go from there. All my friends went to Waterloo so I didn't want to come off as an outcast not going there so I had to work harder to get there.
I ain't the sharpest tool by any means, just getting by in my courses...but I'm also one of those people who are very envious of others. I always focus on the things I don't have and I tend to forget about all the things I already have. I look at the people around me and one by one they're climbing the corporate ladder (or corporate slavery if you will) and I'm still progressing rather slowly. I have too much pride and I care too much about what people think of me so thats why I want to improve myself.
I've kind of come to the realization that I probably won't work my dream job and whatever I do is probably going to be somewhat boring but sometimes its about putting food on the table ... and I want really nice food on my table.
On June 27 2010 03:53 Hectic wrote: Focus on what you are good at, rather than what you think you want to do.
This guy exactly right.
One of the Best posts I have seen in months on TL.
Disagree.
Focus on what you want to do (but be realistic) and ask yourself, why am I not like that? Then improve yourself until you are.
I've kind of come to the realization that I probably won't work my dream job and whatever I do is probably going to be somewhat boring but sometimes its about putting food on the table ... and I want really nice food on my table.
Dude. If you think like a failure, you will be a failure. Sounds cheesy, over-used etc etc. Sure. But its the truth. Stop thinking like that. Build your confidence one step at a time. Unless you are mentally retarded or something, you can probably go achieve your dream. Just take it one step at a time. You'll see yourself getting closer and then you'll start sprinting at it.
I'm a college graduate and all I really want to do in life is browse TL and play SC 2 or SC: BW via means of fun. well the occasional go out for dinner/movie is nice with a hint of going to the beach..
But in order for me to do this kinda of stuff I really need to sacrifice stuff, so I've decided to get two jobs at once (which is really hard considering the fact that in Manila, you can't land two jobs at once except create a business of your own).
Man trying to look for a purpose is pretty hard IMHO, but just look deeply or meditate for a little while to get your shit going. Maybe afterwards, try going for a discipline like MMA or a boot camp to get self discipline so you wouldn't be de-focused.
My best suggestion (barring money problems) would be college. Going to college will give you a couple years just to cover the GE's and really find out what you want to do.
Of course, this presents the problem of finding out what you actually want to do. So how do you find that out?
This is how I found out what I wanted to do. Think about your life. Think about what you've been involved with since you were younger (or are very involved with now). Think about you now, and you in 10 years. What are the things that you still want to be doing? What are the things that you can't ever imagine giving up in your life? What are the things you never get tired of?
This is how I found my answer, and it ended up being music. I've been in choir since 6th grade, and looking at my future and when I graduate, I could just never see myself not involved with a choir - music is something that I've always loved, that I would be incredibly sad to not have in my life, and something that I never get tired of, so that's why I decided to be a music major. Now I'm getting my undergrad degree in Theory/Composition and I'm planning to go to graduate school in that field + directing/conducting.
Don't think about what you want to do as a job - think about what you love to do in life the most.
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