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AyeH
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love1another
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TommyGG
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The6357
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Random()
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HeavOnEarth
United States7087 Posts
regardless it shouldn't be too hard if they liked you before this. i would probably just agree that its a good idea, some small apology , and wait till june 4th. maybe throw in something about how condoms are smart/responsible if u want -Assuming she's still in high school, it's finals week(s), so they probably just dont want you keeping her up all night lol, essentially dont overstress yourself like it seems you're doing. (huge difference between, you never see her again, and oh u can see her after school ends) On May 20 2010 04:51 G4T0R4D3 wrote: Well her parents don't want any guys over at her place when they aren't home. I was over at her house while they weren't. I basically broke some of their house rules and disrespected their home. I don't know... Oh this makes it different then, understandable reaction from their part. probably go with what Eiserne suggested | ||
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terrOne
Italy172 Posts
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On May 20 2010 04:48 Random() wrote: This make no sense, why would you apologize? For what? Well her parents don't want any guys over at her place when they aren't home. I was over at her house while they weren't. I basically broke some of their house rules and disrespected their home. I don't know... | ||
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J1.au
Australia3596 Posts
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Nal_rAwr
United States2611 Posts
On May 20 2010 04:47 TommyGG wrote: just flush it next time i thought you shouldn't do this since it will not flush properly, and will pop back up at a random time? | ||
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On May 20 2010 04:51 J1.au wrote: Why would you leave a used condom lying around? That's just nasty. It wasn't just laying around... I threw it away in a trash can wrapped in toilet paper and I guess it fell out while her mother was emptying her trash can out... I'm not stupid enough to leave it laying on her bed! lol | ||
Xxio
Canada5565 Posts
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Eiserne
United States340 Posts
On May 20 2010 04:51 G4T0R4D3 wrote: Well her parents don't want any guys over at her place when they aren't home. I was over at her house while they weren't. I basically broke some of their house rules and disrespected their home. I don't know... It seems like this is an easy choice, then. Apologize. Make it sincere. You disrespected their home, so make up for it. Express what you're saying here. You already know what to do, you're just scared to do it cause they might react badly. Well, truth is, they already think less of you, any parent will after they find out their girl has been sleeping with a guy. You'll earn a little of that respect back if you act like a man in this situation. | ||
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Code
Canada634 Posts
You certainly should respect their wishes (its their house). Just tell them that, and apologize. If anything they should be relieved that you guys are having safe sex. I think if you talk to them about it like a mature adult they wont react so negatively about it and wont ban you from seeing each other. It might seem awkward to confront them but keep in mind it's probably just as awkward for them lol Next time though, clean up after you get down  | ||
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HeavOnEarth
United States7087 Posts
Forrr example, Oh i was raised differently, people come into my house all the time, so i ddidnt know it was that big of a deal ( BAD) i would say something like: Im very sorry i disrespected you and went behind your back like this, I want you to know i love your daughter very much and you have done a great job of raising her, and this is not her fault in anyway. I hope you can forgive my actions and something about agreeing not to see their daughter until june 4th. First id probably knock and be like, Do you mind if we have a talk about what happened.. etc. Basically, Just accept whatever you've done and take responsibility. You could offer something to her parents as a favor , but i cant really think of anything relevant to the situation | ||
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Bill Murray
United States9292 Posts
problem solved lol | ||
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CKSide
United States223 Posts
be humble and sincere. you just did the deed with their beloved daughter, better man up real quick. longer you take, longer you look like a dick. | ||
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:03 CKSide wrote: no letter. straight up confrontation. makes you look like a man. be humble and sincere. you just did the deed with their beloved daughter, better man up real quick. longer you take, longer you look like a dick. My gf wants me to wait til June 4th and talk to them then about it. Things will never be the same but I'm willing to do anything to keep her... | ||
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HeavOnEarth
United States7087 Posts
(assuming you already tried to convince her otherwise) | ||
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Random()
Kyrgyz Republic1462 Posts
On May 20 2010 04:51 G4T0R4D3 wrote: Well her parents don't want any guys over at her place when they aren't home. I was over at her house while they weren't. I basically broke some of their house rules and disrespected their home. I don't know... Ah, I see. Well, if you knew they had those rules, you really should apologize. Just don't overdo it, act humble but confident. | ||
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Fontong
United States6454 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:07 Random() wrote: Ah, I see. Well, if you knew they had those rules, you really should apologize. Just don't overdo it, act humble but confident. Ah yeah it's terrible and harsh that something like this had to happen. I don't think parents like to think about their children having sex. You really weren't too much in the wrong though, since if they are reasonable parents they should realize that they should be thankful their daughter has a responsible boyfriend. Parent finding a condom you used >>> parents finding you got their daughter pregnant imo | ||
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Kralic
Canada2628 Posts
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Mastermind
Canada7096 Posts
edit: Her parents should be glad you used a condom and that you love each other. | ||
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HeavOnEarth
United States7087 Posts
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HeavOnEarth
United States7087 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:24 Mastermind wrote: Her parents need to grow up and be a little more mature. Sex is a normal thing for teenagers to do. but they arent upset about the the condom or even the sex, seems like they made it completely clear that they didnt want people in the house when they weren't home | ||
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Mastermind
Canada7096 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:25 HeavOnEarth wrote: but they arent upset about the the condom or even the sex, seems like they made it completely clear that they didnt want people in the house when they weren't home oh ok, I guess that is much different then. Still seems a little silly though since he is their daughter's boyfriend. | ||
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:21 Kralic wrote: You are both the same or near the same age? Yeah, she's 17 and I'm 18. I think her parents feel betrayed mostly because I made such a good first impression... And yeah, I attend a university and she is in HS still. | ||
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FraCuS
United States1072 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:30 G4T0R4D3 wrote: Yeah, she's 17 and I'm 18. I think her parents feel betrayed mostly because I made such a good first impression... And yeah, I attend a university and she is in HS still. talk to them about it. it is going to feel awkward but they'll understand. plus her parents are probably worried because your in college and shes in highschool. | ||
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dt.Retorik
United States11 Posts
Don't let them think you're sorry for having sex! | ||
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Bill Murray
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:43 Bill Murray wrote: you should ask them to apologize to you or threaten to withhold future babies lol, they are really nice though.. that's why i find it so shameful in the first place. | ||
Jibba
United States22883 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:02 Bill Murray wrote: This will make everyone feel better.stop using condoms problem solved lol | ||
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orgolove
Vatican City State1650 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:06 G4T0R4D3 wrote: My gf wants me to wait til June 4th and talk to them then about it. Things will never be the same but I'm willing to do anything to keep her... Anything? really? + Show Spoiler + Then get a vasectomy lol No condom needed! Sigh. I don't see the point of these threads. | ||
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Grobyc
Canada18410 Posts
in more ways than one obviously | ||
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:57 orgolove wrote: Anything? really? + Show Spoiler + Then get a vasectomy lol No condom needed! Sigh. I don't see the point of these threads. I'm only 18... Plus, I would like to have kids in the future. Also, I just needed some anonymous people to talk to because this isn't something I can talk to with my parents/sister or even my best friend. | ||
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leetchaos
United States395 Posts
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altered
Switzerland646 Posts
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Nuttyguy
United Kingdom1526 Posts
On May 20 2010 04:53 G4T0R4D3 wrote: It wasn't just laying around... I threw it away in a trash can wrapped in toilet paper and I guess it fell out while her mother was emptying her trash can out... I'm not stupid enough to leave it laying on her bed! lol this implies you did it on her bed? that might be the reason? LOL | ||
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Masamune
Canada3401 Posts
And I highly doubt that these people are really more at issue with their rules being broken than with their daughter having sex. You don't place such a stupid rule like 'no boys in the house when we aren't home' if you aren't afraid of your daughter having sex. They clearly don't want it happening and should stop trying to fight the inevitable and just be happy that you guys are responsible. | ||
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XinRan
United States530 Posts
On May 20 2010 04:47 TommyGG wrote: just flush it next time Don't flush it. The water treatment people have to remove it and dispose of it another way, which is wasted resources. | ||
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thopol
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HeavOnEarth
United States7087 Posts
On May 20 2010 06:42 Masamune wrote: Uhhh...it's 2010. These people should be counting their lucky stars that at least you guys are being safe. And I highly doubt that these people are really more at issue with their rules being broken than with their daughter having sex. You don't place such a stupid rule like 'no boys in the house when we aren't home' if you aren't afraid of your daughter having sex. They clearly don't want it happening and should stop trying to fight the inevitable and just be happy that you guys are responsible. Ohh. i thought they just meant no people in the house in general. Yeah if thats the case then theyre just silly parents living in the past. @OP, how old are your parents? | ||
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
1 : dont be a dick 2 : man up and make sure you talk to them face to face 3 : it may be hard but do it. 4 : life has alot of hardships in it this is obviously one of them | ||
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lIlIlIlIlIlI
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Flaccid
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Fingers crossed | ||
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TommyGG
United States142 Posts
On May 20 2010 06:56 XinRan wrote: Don't flush it. The water treatment people have to remove it and dispose of it another way, which is wasted resources. lol... | ||
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Wr3k
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RebirthOfLeGenD
USA5860 Posts
On May 20 2010 07:19 Flaccid wrote: I hope you can work hard to salvage the relationship long enough that she can get drunk in university and bone a frat boy and you can realize that she was a bitch the entire time and get on with your life. Fingers crossed lololol pessimist. | ||
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AmstAff
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NobleDog
United States65 Posts
When you meet them again look for cues, like them showing you other condoms and asking if you think this is too big or do you like the color. It could be a wild scene, man. | ||
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QueueQueue
Canada1000 Posts
Your story reminds me of one of my experiences. When my Dad found a rubber from me and my girlfriend that didn't flush. He walked in with all the pamphlets about STDs and contraceptives and tried to have the first "sex talk" (I was 17 at the time). I had to basically say that I knew everything I needed to know and that we could stop the awkward situation. He then told me to not be dumb and check to make sure it flushes next time. | ||
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Setz3R
United States455 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:02 Bill Murray wrote: stop using condoms problem solved lol Yeah that opened up a couple new problems for me....lol. It makes sense like others said, you kinda did disrespect their home but its not like we haven't done that before, just give it some time they will get over it. TRUST me. Doesn't matter how strict they are, just play it cool, say sorry, and just play it out. | ||
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jimminy_kriket
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Smorrie
Netherlands2926 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:01 HeavOnEarth wrote: whatever you do, dont make excuses for why you were in their house uninvited. Forrr example, Oh i was raised differently, people come into my house all the time, so i ddidnt know it was that big of a deal ( BAD) i would say something like: Im very sorry i disrespected you and went behind your back like this, I want you to know i love your daughter very much and you have done a great job of raising her, and this is not her fault in anyway. I hope you can forgive my actions and something about agreeing not to see their daughter until june 4th. First id probably knock and be like, Do you mind if we have a talk about what happened.. etc. Basically, Just accept whatever you've done and take responsibility. You could offer something to her parents as a favor , but i cant really think of anything relevant to the situation ^ pretty good advice. I would leave the out any requests to let their daughter do whatever again though. You'll gain massive respect and her parents most likely reconsider everything after wards. Just apologize, suck up a little, thank them for their time and leave. Either way: - They'll let you leave and keep things as is but will have a lot respect for being a man =) - They'll let you leave, discuss stuff later and might tell their daughter things are ok again. - They'll ask you to stay and have a drink etc. to let you know things are still cool but nothing changes. - They'll ask you to stay and will tell you everything's fine again. I'd say all 4 options are pretty good. Whatever happens, it's only 2 weeks.. Spend some more time with your friends, read a book, play some more SC. If you don't go down and apologize things will be really awkward next time you see them and they'll always have the nasty aftertaste of you not abiding their rules. Ps. To everyone thinking her parents suck or whatever... It's their house and as long as you're on their house you go by their rules. Every family has different values, and not having sex in their house is a pretty reasonable one. :o + Show Spoiler [tl;dr] + On May 20 2010 05:02 Bill Murray wrote: stop using condoms problem solved lol | ||
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Jibba
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On May 20 2010 07:19 Flaccid wrote: I hope you can work hard to salvage the relationship long enough that she can get drunk in university and bone a frat boy and you can realize that she was a bitch the entire time and get on with your life. Fingers crossed Thanks for the pessimism you asshole. | ||
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MaReK
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Spiffeh
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igotmyown
United States4291 Posts
They'd be unhappy with anyone having sex with their daughter. If you were a parent (or a similar protective role), you'd feel the same way. Since they don't disapprove of you, it's not personal. They're just trying to manage the situation and feel like they have some control over a situation they like. The more they feel they're not being rushed into having to accept the situation, they happier they'll be. | ||
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ComusLoM
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Impervious
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QueueQueue
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Bub
United States3518 Posts
On May 20 2010 05:02 Bill Murray wrote: stop using condoms problem solved lol if the great Bill Murray says this, then listen to him. well i'm sure your parents will get it over sooner or later, they all do. June is just around the corner anyways so no big deal, right? | ||
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Bub
United States3518 Posts
On May 20 2010 12:29 QueueQueue wrote: If she's on the pill and you're both clean, just go without the condom. That's what I do with my current girlfriend. Feels good man. Ya, I agree with this. Just keep pulling out or if she swallows.. perfect! It really saves you the hassle on buying/forgetting rubber, telling your girl to "HOLD UP" while you search for a rubber blah blah balh ugh. | ||
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On May 20 2010 12:33 Bub wrote: Ya, I agree with this. Just keep pulling out or if she swallows.. perfect! It really saves you the hassle on buying/forgetting rubber, telling your girl to "HOLD UP" while you search for a rubber blah blah balh ugh. Well she's on the pill but I don't want to risk it. | ||
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QueueQueue
Canada1000 Posts
On May 20 2010 12:42 G4T0R4D3 wrote: Well she's on the pill but I don't want to risk it. It's really effective. It's actually more effective than condoms alone from studies I have read. | ||
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Impervious
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AyeH
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Impervious
Canada4216 Posts
I've been in your shoes. It sucks. I know. And I'm in a nearly reversed role now. My oldest sister is 16. Right around that age. I know that I'd feel a strong urge to beat the shit out of..... well..... I'm sure you see where this is going..... It sucks. I know..... There's not much you can really do about it..... A few more years, and it will be cooled down. But you guys are right at that age in between..... All I can say is "good luck, and happy humping". | ||
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
I talked to them and they were very surprised that I was even willing to approach them about it and apologize. I was super nervous but was able to say what I needed to say and her parents were nonetheless forgiving. Her mom even gave me a hug! :D Thanks guys for the advice. | ||
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OverTheUnder
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TheAntZ
Israel6248 Posts
On May 23 2010 14:57 G4T0R4D3 wrote: Well I thought I'd give you guys an update because I did speak to the parents. I talked to them and they were very surprised that I was even willing to approach them about it and apologize. I was super nervous but was able to say what I needed to say and her parents were nonetheless forgiving. Her mom even gave me a hug! :D Thanks guys for the advice. nicely done, good choice | ||
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Masamune
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Divinek
Canada4045 Posts
On May 20 2010 12:49 Impervious wrote: Condoms are actually not much more effective, in the long run, compared to withdrawal.... That's complete and utter bullshit assuming 'perfect use' like people arent buying condoms with holes in them etc. The general statistic is assuming perfect use condoms are around 99% effective and pulling out is around 75% effective, which is obviously a big difference this is mostly due to pre-cum and how that shit is still just as good at getting a girl pregnant. Now naturally imperfect use of pulling out is going to be a lot worse than imperfect use of condoms sooo it's a loser either way. Unless by withdrawal you mean something other than pulling out which would be weird. I had a girlfriend on the pill and she always insisted on using a condom, i still hate her to this day for this inconveniences. Safe is safe but come on | ||
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Exteray
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Ian Ian Ian
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On May 23 2010 20:12 Exteray wrote: just curious why was the OP warned for his post ditto.. | ||
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NarutO
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
On May 23 2010 20:12 Exteray wrote: just curious why was the OP warned for his post I feel the same way, this seems like a legitimate thread with legitimate responses. | ||
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Impervious
Canada4216 Posts
On May 23 2010 18:25 Divinek wrote: That's complete and utter bullshit assuming 'perfect use' like people arent buying condoms with holes in them etc. The general statistic is assuming perfect use condoms are around 99% effective and pulling out is around 75% effective, which is obviously a big difference this is mostly due to pre-cum and how that shit is still just as good at getting a girl pregnant. Now naturally imperfect use of pulling out is going to be a lot worse than imperfect use of condoms sooo it's a loser either way. Unless by withdrawal you mean something other than pulling out which would be weird. I had a girlfriend on the pill and she always insisted on using a condom, i still hate her to this day for this inconveniences. Safe is safe but come on Do some research. Proper withdrawl is only twice as likely to get a girl pregnant as proper usage of a condom..... Both are pretty low..... But, yea, using 2 or more methods (as long as they are the types that can be combined) is the safest way to go. | ||
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On May 23 2010 16:20 Masamune wrote: wait wait wait, you need to fill us in with the details of this update. Liiiike did her dad twitch everytime you said the word sex or what. Her dad is very laid back and thought it was kind of funny/awkward. He plays WOW and is a radiologist and is a "nerd" according to my gf, which made it a lot easier than I expected. My gf said that he was trying to refrain from laughing while I was talking because he found it so awkward but her mom was extremely sensitive to the situation and was really understanding. On May 23 2010 20:12 Exteray wrote: just curious why was the OP warned for his post I got warned because my name "g4t0r4d3" seemed like it was from 4chan? I don't even know what 4chan really is but I request a name change and haven't had my name changed yet so I don't know what the dealio is. | ||
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Exteray
United States1094 Posts
On May 24 2010 03:57 YooNiEBaLooNie wrote: I got warned because my name "g4t0r4d3" seemed like it was from 4chan? I don't even know what 4chan really is but I request a name change and haven't had my name changed yet so I don't know what the dealio is. Sounds like something Blizzard would do =p | ||
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