Hey, so this weekend I was at a rather large bush party(~200ish people)this weekend with some people I know, and there was a really kickass DJ with a strobe light and everything. We've all had a number of drinks now and I'm extremely social when I'm drunk. I can meet someone for 5 minutes and have no awkwardness or silence and feel like I'm best friends with them. Anyhoo, all my friends head over to the dance floor(I.E. large dirt field) and this chick I met tells me to come dance, so reluctantly I go with her.
Now I pretty much hate dancing and never wanted to learn, but this year I'll be 19(= legal age in Canada) and going to clubs and parties and stuff is going to be kind of a letdown if I don't want to and can't dance. Don't get me completely wrong here, I hate dancing because I don't really know how and I suck at it for the most part, but I know I should learn.
So we get to the dance floor and practically everyone is grinding, and I begin to feel really lost. Everyone there is around my age, 18, and I'm trying to pick up on how to dance by watching people around me, but we are in the middle of no where in the middle of the night and I can't really even see, so that didn't leave me to well off.
I know what grinding is, but I'm not really too confident in myself when it comes to it, so I was wondering if you guys have any tips or tricks or guidelines or anything for advice. I don't think I completely failed and looked like a tard, but I'm sure the I wasn't great either. Eventually, I started to put my hand on one of the girls waists I was with as she stayed with me for a while, but I think I was probably late on that.
Tips? Tricks? Advice? Guidelines? When do you start getting real close to her and how do you follow up? Any do's or don't's, things to avoid, watch out for, pick up on, etc?
At that age, all people do is grind... and the two step. Honestly though, dancing now adays is about as good as most mainstrain music. Its all about the sex T.T
If you have any rhythm at all it should be easy to pass by on dancing. Just move with the music and don't make stupid faces and you'll probably be alright.
On May 18 2010 07:25 [Agony]x90 wrote: At that age, all people do is grind... and the two step. Honestly though, dancing now adays is about as good as most mainstrain music. Its all about the sex T.T
yep... pretty sure I could have sealed the deal if I knew how to followup =[
On May 18 2010 07:28 tonight wrote: If you have any rhythm at all it should be easy to pass by on dancing. Just move with the music and don't make stupid faces and you'll probably be alright.
yeah rhythm isn't a problem at all, I'm more so just unsure of if I'm coming on to quickly. I just don't want to chick going 'wtf?" >_>
You grind up on a girls ass to show her you have an erection. She then pumps her ass and goes all crazy on you after feeling your erection. Next step is to have sex after the party.
Seriously, if you go to clubs, no one "dances." They just wave their arms and legs around which is basically going with the beat. I'm not sure if your getting the impression that to be good at dancing, you have to know hip-pop, break dancing, sick ass moves, etc. 90% of the guys in clubs don't know how to dance like that. They just thrust their hips on girls or wave their arms. The important thing is girls don't care if you know how to dance or not. They just like the skinship involved in it. (This is all in reference to dancing at parties and clubs.)
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Something cool to try is the Guito fist pump with all your friends! Get's girls all the time cause it's hilarious.
On May 18 2010 07:32 KudoJoe wrote: Grinding = Sex
You grind up on a girls ass to show her you have an erection. She then pumps her ass and goes all crazy on you after feeling you erection. Next step is to have sex after the party.
Pretty much this. If you want to do anything more watch episodes of jersey shore, close your door, and practice those. But that's high level stuff, not really necessary whatsoever.
yep there is something very primitive about these dances the male court and flaunts his sexual advantage (size of erection etc) and the female decides whether to copulate with him or not afterwards damn humans are animals indeed
haha it sucks hardcore if a girl wtf's your attempts to grind on her. but almost 90% of the time, a girl will probably let you do it. and there really is no WRONG way to grind, just no hip thrusting into her vagina or some crazy shit like that. you'll get the groove after a while.
sounds to me, like you don't get drunk enough. whats this watching others to learn? just do what your drunken reptile mind tells you and thrust to the beat.
I mean you don't wanna be a perv, but chances are shes giving you some pretty good signs so when she does you are probz free to like follow her waist with ur hands a bit to get a feel for her rhythme and follow allong with ur pelivs. Eventually she will be like mmm ya and turn around and make out w/ u if it goes on for like longer than 10 minutes shes into you enough for that or horney enough or w/e.
Pretty much go with what she does, if she seems really comfortable around you then you can probably get closer quicker, just watch people around you. As for tricks and tips there really are none, this is grinding we are talking about, but chicks dig guys that move a lot when they dance, according to studies. Bust some moves like this guy
honestly just keep practicing and you'll get better. know that you will look like a fool for the first few times and then you will start find something that works. the first times are always the hardest and the most awkward but with a little experience you'll realize it is pretty easy
On May 18 2010 07:25 [Agony]x90 wrote: At that age, all people do is grind... and the two step. Honestly though, dancing now adays is about as good as most mainstrain music. Its all about the sex T.T
yep... pretty sure I could have sealed the deal if I knew how to followup =[
On May 18 2010 07:28 tonight wrote: If you have any rhythm at all it should be easy to pass by on dancing. Just move with the music and don't make stupid faces and you'll probably be alright.
yeah rhythm isn't a problem at all, I'm more so just unsure of if I'm coming on to quickly. I just don't want to chick going 'wtf?" >_>
are you in college? girls kind of expect to be grinded on if you're dancing with them (just the two of you). if you're trying to grind, put your hands on her hips or arms from the start (you don't have to pull her tight to you or anything, but put it there to make your intention known). always make some eye contact before you approach or else it's creepy. then just slowly progress further and further... increase rhythm, intensity, etc. turn her around, grind body to body. if she wants to make out, go for it, and i'm not going to explain the rest. if she wants to slow it down or stop at anytime, take it in stride and be cool with it. don't ever physically force yourself on a girl.
edit: grinding and partying gets increasingly easier the drunker you and other people get
just put your hands on her hips and "feel" the beat with her. Just go with it, anyway everyone is drunk, lose all your inhibitions and enjoy the moment.
If you're really lost (which I doubt you are) think of it as just a sort of rocking left-right in time with the music. If you want to be more "serious", then bending your knees ('gettin' low') usually makes it more interesting/enticing for your partner, but only do that after a while (aka. don't get freaky right when you start etc.).
Umm yeah, you can't really be 'taught' how to grind, I guess its kinda natural, in the sense that you're just shifting your weight from leg to leg (with her legs parallel/on urs ofc).
You can grind front (facing eachother) and back (self-explanitory). I feel its a matter of preference, but one tip you might want is when you're grinding front, kinda hold one of her (i hope its a 'her' ^^ ) hand's and slowly raise it in the air, as if you're the pole and she's dancing on you (except your fingers are entertwined...)
But really man, don't worry about not being able to do flashy/ "impressive" shit on a dance-floor. Where you're at, 1. no one will care (unless you make a scene and fail) and 2. you won't have space to do anything apart from grind. Personal anecdote: I do breakdance, and I (technically) can dance Salsa, Tango and basic Ballroom dance... NOT ONCE have I ever been able to use those skills because there was never enough room, so don't sweat it. Just don't be a clutz, don't grope or hold too tight and u'll be fine
thanks for input, sounds like something that you just get used to. It was actually starting to get better and better as time went on, but the DJ had to pack up, so our music source was gone =/
EPT
