EPTe: quoting you for the fact, no directed at you
Then even if you are both Asian, there shouldn't be any guilt.
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
e: quoting you for the fact, no directed at you Then even if you are both Asian, there shouldn't be any guilt. | ||
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Silentness
United States2821 Posts
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johanes
Czech Republic2246 Posts
I am with my gf for 3 years and probably loving her now more than ever before | ||
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Comeh
United States18919 Posts
On December 27 2009 18:04 Jibba wrote: Let her handle The Situation, and the rest will play itself out. I giggled. Anyways, its worth sticking out with it for a little while. I honestly feel a relationship is as good as what you put into it. You have to put effort into a relationship and TRY to enjoy it to actually enjoy it. Its too easy to dwell on the small things, its better to dwell on the good things. Anywho, as recommended by others - just try new things and try and keep being active (in as many ways as you can define this as possible) as you can. | ||
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Deleted User 37864
780 Posts
On December 27 2009 19:20 Cambium wrote: e: quoting you for the fact, no directed at you Then even if you are both Asian, there shouldn't be any guilt. okay we have gone further than that. but i dont want to say | ||
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ProbeSaturation
Canada292 Posts
i broke up with my girlfriend, then after a couple months she started dating some other guy, and it really bothered me. if you are positive that no feelings you have for her will linger on, then do it. but ask yourself, if you can accept the fact that she may find someone else faster than you can | ||
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Patriot.dlk
Sweden5462 Posts
a) She still got her innocence so you can still feel OK about breaking up b) Your relationship will probably remain boring for you If you had sex then you should experiment more. I mean I understand you don't want to buy her fingerwarmers but what about sexy underwear? | ||
KwarK
United States44285 Posts
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Slugbreath
Sweden201 Posts
That said, my advice would be to relax. It's impossible to try and force yourself to feel things and/or to make feelings stronger. There are ups and downs in every relationship and love changes with time. It's not like love is a static thing where the way you feel on day one is the way you feel in year two. As people get to know eachother better the excitement does fade and is replaced by comfort. You know who she is and she knows who you is. It's a comfort to know that and makes life calmer. So it is possible that your love towards her has changed form now that you have been together for a while and that this newer form might be something you aren't familiar with. It could, of course, also be so that your feelings have faded. It's impossible for anybody other than you to know. But as stated before in this thread, try to do something different. Take her on a trip, go skiing, cook her a romantic dinner without telling her in advance. Something that takes you both out of the every-day-life. | ||
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Ao_Jun
Denmark396 Posts
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ReTrooper
Germany526 Posts
But this is just pathetic.  | ||
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minus_human
4784 Posts
On December 27 2009 20:49 KwarK wrote: Sex will guarantee you staying together for a while if you want that. If she's that afraid you'll leave her you'll effectively emotionally blackmail her into it and that will in turn guilt force you into staying with her. So have sex with her and it'll put off any real decisions for a year or so. Plus you get sex. LMAO genius! | ||
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IceCube
Croatia1403 Posts
That's your best bet.  | ||
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JFKWT
Singapore1442 Posts
ya know something supported by a subatomic particle and a semi-sapiens could just be questionable.... to OP: its a pretty common thing to lose the "spark" after a year or two so its pretty much up to either (or both) of you guys to reignite it or not. + Show Spoiler + well sex is probably one of the fastest ways to do so but it may not be the safest =p | ||
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biomedical
235 Posts
nothing is perfect | ||
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kdog3683
United States916 Posts
If I were you, I would just go with the flow. End on good terms. Tell her you love her, but you aren't in love anymore. Also, people are saying to hold out for sex. Please don't do this. I did this once. It just ended up hurting the girl because they can fucking see through your intentions. | ||
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Emon_
3925 Posts
You can't be a great thoughtful boyfriend on your own. I suggest you get your stuff together real fast, because you might lose her. She sounds like a real great girl too. And they don't come around too often. | ||
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Bebop Berserker
United States246 Posts
h and dont have sex for fucks sake. You will lose interest again in 3 months tops. Sex is good to have for intimacy, but definantly not good for forming the basis of a relationship.Plus, youll feel even worse progressing the relationship without any true intentions of a promise. | ||
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johanes
Czech Republic2246 Posts
On December 27 2009 22:05 Bebop Berserker wrote: Just to let you know, you may fall in love with her again if you break up with her and she gets a new bf or flirts or whatever. Its important you understand that you truly truly dont want her.l If you have no interest in her then you can't do anything except try to back off and have a more lax relationship. Relationships tend to get stagnant unless both members keep doing things outside the relationship. Anyways, just a warning there may be a role reversal if you dont make sure it ended the best way possible. and regrets are a bitch, my friend. h and dont have sex for fucks sake. You will lose interest again in 3 months tops. Sex is good to have for intimacy, but definantly not good for forming the basis of a relationship.Plus, youll feel even worse progressing the relationship without any true intentions of a promise. i dont agree with sex not being good for the basis of relationships, it is its vital part. You cant have completely fulfilling relationship with omitting something as important as sex. Im not try to say that love is sex, but that sex is importatnt part of love and thus imortant part of relationship. There this popular saying: If everything is ok with sex, 10% of relationship is about sex. If there is a problem with sex, 90% of relationship revolves aroud it  | ||
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Bebop Berserker
United States246 Posts
On December 27 2009 22:14 johanes wrote: i dont agree with sex not being good for the basis of relationships, it is its vital part. You cant have completely fulfilling relationship with omitting something as important as sex. Im not try to say that love is sex, but that sex is importatnt part of love and thus imortant part of relationship. if you think you cant have a fulfilling relationship without sex, your probably mentally handicapped. | ||
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