On August 16 2006 21:08 Night[Mare] wrote:
well, here in mexico, people live with their parents until they get married and even if college is 2 hours away (in Mexico city for example) you have to wake 2 hours earlier, you just dont go live with another roomate

sux rite?

useLess

United States4781 Posts

August 16 2006 12:45 GMT

#82

You make it seem like theres something wrong with dorming with a gay guy. Dude, its fucking college. Deal with it and immerse yourself in the experience.

brian

United States9644 Posts

August 16 2006 12:46 GMT

#83

atleast read the replies when you're going to put words in my mouth

Myrmidon

United States9452 Posts

August 16 2006 13:15 GMT

#84

In any case, I don‘t get how anybody can have sex in a room when there are non-participants awake and thus made uncomfortable. My roommate was on a college visit to Johns Hopkins or something and his host (whose room he stayed in) banged his gf. I've had to shelter this dweeb a couple times (took pity) when his roommate decided to have sex with another guy on the floor and use their room for it, and this happened in high school. And my English teacher told the class once in one off-topic discussion how she and her friend, 16-year-old foreign exchange students in Belgium, got directed to and locked up in a "youth hostel" where maybe 10 people eventually came in with pot-laced brownies and had an orgy. At least they let the two of them out in the morning without touching them. Wtf people, go somewhere else plz.

On the issue of attention from gay guys...I had a friend in the room next door (suitemate) at my hs who once did some modeling in New York (pretty good-looking). When some of my gay friends were over, they used to fawn over him, rubbing his chest hair in delight. The look on said friend's face was priceless a few times though. I was once told, half-joking of course, "you straight guys complain about not getting the girls, but you can come right up to the 4th floor any day and we'd [suite of gay guys] be glad to have you up...ooooooooh!" *bj motion* I declined politely. >_>

RiSE

United States3182 Posts

August 16 2006 14:48 GMT

#85

I move into college tomorrow. Should be a fun time, I haven't met my roomie yet =]

DTDominion

United States2148 Posts

August 16 2006 15:31 GMT

#86

Dude really this isn't hard, I think it's being exaggerated a bit in this thread but still.

The first big thing is that you don't know anything about him, which is the same as it would be with any other person. Unless you want to meet him/email him/chat with him on IM, you're basically going to go in with no other indication of his personality other than that he's gay. Don't be like "oh he's gonna bring lots of girls and give me style advice." Unless you can tell from his Facebook page that he's more feminine you can't make that asumption. Maybe he's just a dude that likes to suck dick? You don't fucking know, don't go in with the presumption that he's flaming.

The one thing you want to be 100% certain about is that you set the boundaries on any sexual activity whatsoever. No matter what his personality is, you must make it clear that you don't want to have sex with him, you don't want to be hit on, and that even if you're drunk or something if you have a gay experience you will regret it and feel miserable about it for the rest of your life, making dealing with your roommate nearly impossible.
The other thing you obviously want to deal with is him bringing guys into your dorm. I can't really offer much advice here but if you can deal with it fine, otherwise make it known and try to make some kind of arrangement with him.

Finally, unless you get an indication that he is extremely overly sensitive and militant about being homosexual, please for fucks sake do not bullshit him and act more tolerant than you are. My experience with people shows that unless your views are just totally offensive, they would rather know the truth and work with that than deal with the consequences of finding out you were bullshitting them. You're obviously willing to be tolerant so you have nothing to hide. If being tolerant isn't enough for him and he expects you to be 100% tolerant and accepting the friendship either has no chance of working out or you're going to be lieing to yourself and him for at least a year trying to make it work. Then again if he is that insane maybe it's best to not talk about it so things go smoothly, dunno. But unless you see a good reason not to don't bullshit him.

If I had to choose between a crazy goth stoner kid and a mans man who sucks dick, I'd take the mans man who sucks dick every time. Just treat him like a person and you'll be fine.

IntoTheWow

is awesome32282 Posts

August 16 2006 15:34 GMT

#87

On August 16 2006 23:48 RiSE wrote:
I move into college tomorrow. Should be a fun time, I haven't met my roomie yet =]

I heard he listens to rap

Sir.Kimmel

United States785 Posts

August 16 2006 15:47 GMT

#88

I commuted for a semester so I could get to know the people and choose my roomate... now I'm rooming with a goodf reind I amde last semester...

nice how things work out.

Sir.Kimmel

United States785 Posts

August 16 2006 15:51 GMT

#89

On August 17 2006 00:34 IntoTheWow wrote:

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I heard he listens to rap

its toledo everyone listens to rap

HEY.............. do not step off campus grounds.. you will be shot... lyfe is tuff in the big tizzle. fo shizzle. and come visit visti me so we can laugh at the emo kids in the mall

mel_ee

2450 Posts

August 16 2006 15:56 GMT

#90

man take it easy, girls will be flowing in n out!

tenbagger

United States1289 Posts

August 16 2006 16:19 GMT

#91

my freshman year in college, I had a black, gay roommate that looked, talked and acted just like lamar from revenge of the nerds. =(

DTDominion

United States2148 Posts

August 17 2006 01:19 GMT

#92

On August 17 2006 01:19 tenbagger wrote:
my freshman year in college, I had a black, gay roommate that looked, talked and acted just like lamar from revenge of the nerds. =(

This would drive me insane.

I feel sorry for you man.

Judicator

United States7270 Posts

August 17 2006 01:26 GMT

#93

On August 17 2006 01:19 tenbagger wrote:
my freshman year in college, I had a black, gay roommate that looked, talked and acted just like lamar from revenge of the nerds. =(

did he do those aerobic exercises too, that would have woken you up pretty nicely in the morning

Dknight

United States5225 Posts

August 22 2006 02:45 GMT

#94

On August 16 2006 20:23 Gene wrote:

Strato, in MOST colleges freshman have to stay on campus. for the most part it is mandatory. a special few can apply as a commuter student.

Did you just make that up off the top of your head? Its not true at all.

iNcontroL

USA29055 Posts

August 22 2006 02:59 GMT

#95

On August 16 2006 18:38 bine wrote:

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sure he would feel the same (perverse acts in my living space, etc.) if someone brought girls over ;D

roommates shouldn't have sex in shared rooms, regardless of preference.

Yeah but his preferance is considered abnormal and is vastly in the minority of common place. Just like some people like to shit in jars and stack them on the walls. Those people would be considered "abnormal" and their preferance wouldnt be something the majority would need or feel obligated to adhere to. In a perfect world gay or straight, we would all be comfortable. Since that world doesnt exist, and we are stuck here. Lets appease the majority as often as we can.

That being said, what fucking school do you go to? 70% are gay? double-you-tee-eff-mate. U of SF?