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On February 17 2013 13:31 Twinkle Toes wrote:Show nested quote +On February 17 2013 12:30 micronesia wrote:
Some neighbors/friends were married for ~30 years, had two kids in their twenties, until the wife/mom met up with an old childhood boyfriend and suddenly broke up with the husband/family and moved away. It was a shock to everyone. I dont know why but I find it sweet. Two old lovers finally realizing their relationship. They are in their 50s, right? From how I see it, it's like a never too old for love or better late than never thing. The family is old enough to handle it I suppose.
I'm not going to argue that divorce should never happen, but when you are married with children, a separation from the family shouldn't come as a sudden shock.
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On February 17 2013 15:21 SolidMotion wrote:
So... this whole thread brings up a very sensitive topic for me because of how it has affected me in the past, I'm still debating whether or not I want to write the two experiences I had because they bring back a lot of really really painful memories (I don't know how to emphasize that enough).
Basically, I had two different experiences that have shaped who I am. The first one COMPLETLY OBLITERATED my ability to trust IN ANY WAY the opposite sex while the second one did the same thing but applied to ANYONE except my close family. Heck, I failed a suicide over the second one... I'd be dead otherwise.
Both of these happened within 2 years (First one I was 16, second one I was 18... I'm 20 now) so it's still rather fresh...
As of now I don't think I'll be able to ever trust another human being that I don't already know and I don't see that changing anytime soon...
Just posting this to make sure people in here realize how much you can fuck a person mentally with this sort of stuff, and that the people getting away with it by just getting fat have it really fucking easy.
EDIT: As a matter of fact, if SC2 hadn't came out when it did I don't think I would have been able to stop thinking about suicide, so in a way I think this game may have saved my life. Don't ever underestimate the power of things that appear small to others because they may as well change the life of others completely. SC2 has basically allowed me to "trust some people" to a certain extant, which is pretty damn amazing off of itself...
Girls can fuck you over and hurt you bad man. Some bitches do it for the fun, sometimes you dont realize they're doing it to get you back for doing it to them.
Either way neither of them are a good feeling.
With my most recent ex(whom i still said the moment i hung out with her the first time was the person i was going to be with the rest of my life) literally got me down enough to where I wouldnt eat for a few days(very recently) at which point you just gotta say, if its meant to be it'll happen.
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My worst, breakup i guess you could say was with this one girl from HS. We talked i asked her out she said no we kept talking though, until after graduation when she went away to school. After about a year we started talking again and we had a connection i guess we talked alot. Then when she came home for winter break, me and her got really close then when we said we had feelings for one another she started saying the distance would be too much to handle, and i argued the point. She slowly stopped talking to me till about 3 weeks after she went back to school. She messaged me on Skype saying she was to "...rash" and that really cut me deep on that. So i did what people do and took her off everything and stopped talking. Fast forward a year and a half later she added me back and on FaceBook, and when i got the notification the song playing at that moment on the radio was "Not Over You". Gotta love life sometimes lol :|
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On February 17 2013 16:01 arb wrote:Show nested quote +On February 17 2013 15:21 SolidMotion wrote:
So... this whole thread brings up a very sensitive topic for me because of how it has affected me in the past, I'm still debating whether or not I want to write the two experiences I had because they bring back a lot of really really painful memories (I don't know how to emphasize that enough).
Basically, I had two different experiences that have shaped who I am. The first one COMPLETLY OBLITERATED my ability to trust IN ANY WAY the opposite sex while the second one did the same thing but applied to ANYONE except my close family. Heck, I failed a suicide over the second one... I'd be dead otherwise.
Both of these happened within 2 years (First one I was 16, second one I was 18... I'm 20 now) so it's still rather fresh...
As of now I don't think I'll be able to ever trust another human being that I don't already know and I don't see that changing anytime soon...
Just posting this to make sure people in here realize how much you can fuck a person mentally with this sort of stuff, and that the people getting away with it by just getting fat have it really fucking easy.
EDIT: As a matter of fact, if SC2 hadn't came out when it did I don't think I would have been able to stop thinking about suicide, so in a way I think this game may have saved my life. Don't ever underestimate the power of things that appear small to others because they may as well change the life of others completely. SC2 has basically allowed me to "trust some people" to a certain extant, which is pretty damn amazing off of itself... Girls can fuck you over and hurt you bad man. Some bitches do it for the fun, sometimes you dont realize they're doing it to get you back for doing it to them. Either way neither of them are a good feeling. With my most recent ex(whom i still said the moment i hung out with her the first time was the person i was going to be with the rest of my life) literally got me down enough to where I wouldnt eat for a few days(very recently) at which point you just gotta say, if its meant to be it'll happen.
Yep. Thought my ex was "the one" I'd marry and all that jazz. Ended up breaking my heart and still haven't really recovered from it. It fucking sucks. Especially when they do it to get back at you for hurting them in some way. My ex went out with the guy she cheated on simply because I was actually trying to move on and talk to new girls. Ah well, just shows how low her character is. One day she'll grow up and realise how fucked up she once was.
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On February 17 2013 12:36 SamsungStar wrote:Show nested quote +On February 17 2013 12:30 micronesia wrote:
Some neighbors/friends were married for ~30 years, had two kids in their twenties, until the wife/mom met up with an old childhood boyfriend and suddenly broke up with the husband/family and moved away. It was a shock to everyone. Honestly, these are the kinds of stories that make my blood run cold. When a guy cheats, I usually have no trouble understanding why he did it. He was horny and the girl was hot and offering. When a girl does it, a lot of times it doesn't seem to have any sort of consistent logic or qualitative benefit to her. She just does it.
Just think of it this way. This woman was married to a man for 30 years... do you think that maybe at some point she began to feel a little unhappy with her life as it was? Women can lust just like men, and this was her golden opportunity to get out and live a fantasy, do something exciting for a change.
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On February 18 2013 01:16 FeUerFlieGe wrote:Show nested quote +On February 17 2013 12:36 SamsungStar wrote:On February 17 2013 12:30 micronesia wrote:
Some neighbors/friends were married for ~30 years, had two kids in their twenties, until the wife/mom met up with an old childhood boyfriend and suddenly broke up with the husband/family and moved away. It was a shock to everyone. Honestly, these are the kinds of stories that make my blood run cold. When a guy cheats, I usually have no trouble understanding why he did it. He was horny and the girl was hot and offering. When a girl does it, a lot of times it doesn't seem to have any sort of consistent logic or qualitative benefit to her. She just does it. Just think of it this way. This woman was married to a man for 30 years... do you think that maybe at some point she began to feel a little unhappy with her life as it was? Women can lust just like men, and this was her golden opportunity to get out and live a fantasy, do something exciting for a change.
Are you saying it was okay, or just that it makes sense why she might do it? I don't see how it's acceptable, if you are unhappy with your family after decades, to just leave it out of the blue. There should be intermediate steps like seeing a counselor.
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On February 17 2013 16:35 Kaeru wrote:Show nested quote +On February 17 2013 15:34 micronesia wrote:On February 17 2013 13:31 Twinkle Toes wrote:On February 17 2013 12:30 micronesia wrote:
Some neighbors/friends were married for ~30 years, had two kids in their twenties, until the wife/mom met up with an old childhood boyfriend and suddenly broke up with the husband/family and moved away. It was a shock to everyone. I dont know why but I find it sweet. Two old lovers finally realizing their relationship. They are in their 50s, right? From how I see it, it's like a never too old for love or better late than never thing. The family is old enough to handle it I suppose. I'm not going to argue that divorce should never happen, but when you are married with children, a separation from the family shouldn't come as a sudden shock. I agree with micronesia. It should take time and there should be a lot of communication - everything else is extremely disrespectful to your family. For the sake of the children at least it should be handled with care... The man is old enough to have experienced shit before in his life - I'm sure of that.
Having been raised by parents in a tumultuous relationship/bad marriage prolonged for the benefit of the kids, I'd say that while there might be merit to communication and consideration in divorce, kids should never be a reason to stay together. Efforts to provide a happy place to live don't pan out when it's not a loving home, I guess.
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On February 18 2013 01:19 micronesia wrote:Show nested quote +On February 18 2013 01:16 FeUerFlieGe wrote:On February 17 2013 12:36 SamsungStar wrote:On February 17 2013 12:30 micronesia wrote:
Some neighbors/friends were married for ~30 years, had two kids in their twenties, until the wife/mom met up with an old childhood boyfriend and suddenly broke up with the husband/family and moved away. It was a shock to everyone. Honestly, these are the kinds of stories that make my blood run cold. When a guy cheats, I usually have no trouble understanding why he did it. He was horny and the girl was hot and offering. When a girl does it, a lot of times it doesn't seem to have any sort of consistent logic or qualitative benefit to her. She just does it. Just think of it this way. This woman was married to a man for 30 years... do you think that maybe at some point she began to feel a little unhappy with her life as it was? Women can lust just like men, and this was her golden opportunity to get out and live a fantasy, do something exciting for a change. Are you saying it was okay, or just that it makes sense why she might do it? I don't see how it's acceptable, if you are unhappy with your family after decades, to just leave it out of the blue. There should be intermediate steps like seeing a counselor.
No I think he was trying to point out the sexism in Samsung's post. Samsung said it's okay for guys to cheat because they are horny but really women want similar things. There is never any good logic behind it regardless if gender.
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On February 18 2013 01:19 micronesia wrote:Show nested quote +On February 18 2013 01:16 FeUerFlieGe wrote:On February 17 2013 12:36 SamsungStar wrote:On February 17 2013 12:30 micronesia wrote:
Some neighbors/friends were married for ~30 years, had two kids in their twenties, until the wife/mom met up with an old childhood boyfriend and suddenly broke up with the husband/family and moved away. It was a shock to everyone. Honestly, these are the kinds of stories that make my blood run cold. When a guy cheats, I usually have no trouble understanding why he did it. He was horny and the girl was hot and offering. When a girl does it, a lot of times it doesn't seem to have any sort of consistent logic or qualitative benefit to her. She just does it. Just think of it this way. This woman was married to a man for 30 years... do you think that maybe at some point she began to feel a little unhappy with her life as it was? Women can lust just like men, and this was her golden opportunity to get out and live a fantasy, do something exciting for a change. Are you saying it was okay, or just that it makes sense why she might do it? I don't see how it's acceptable, if you are unhappy with your family after decades, to just leave it out of the blue. There should be intermediate steps like seeing a counselor.
I'm trying to have you look at it from the woman's point of view. An aging woman, meeting a boyfriend from childhood, and him offering her the chance to 'relive' her youth with him. A completely emotionally driven decision no doubt.
And yes, what she did was incredibly selfish and wrong... but emotion always wins over logic.
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On February 18 2013 01:29 Najda wrote:Show nested quote +On February 18 2013 01:19 micronesia wrote:On February 18 2013 01:16 FeUerFlieGe wrote:On February 17 2013 12:36 SamsungStar wrote:On February 17 2013 12:30 micronesia wrote:
Some neighbors/friends were married for ~30 years, had two kids in their twenties, until the wife/mom met up with an old childhood boyfriend and suddenly broke up with the husband/family and moved away. It was a shock to everyone. Honestly, these are the kinds of stories that make my blood run cold. When a guy cheats, I usually have no trouble understanding why he did it. He was horny and the girl was hot and offering. When a girl does it, a lot of times it doesn't seem to have any sort of consistent logic or qualitative benefit to her. She just does it. Just think of it this way. This woman was married to a man for 30 years... do you think that maybe at some point she began to feel a little unhappy with her life as it was? Women can lust just like men, and this was her golden opportunity to get out and live a fantasy, do something exciting for a change. Are you saying it was okay, or just that it makes sense why she might do it? I don't see how it's acceptable, if you are unhappy with your family after decades, to just leave it out of the blue. There should be intermediate steps like seeing a counselor. No I think he was trying to point out the sexism in Samsung's post. Samsung said it's okay for guys to cheat because they are horny but really women want similar things. There is never any good logic behind it regardless if gender.
Girl here.
I totally agree with this post. I just want to point out that women can get just as horny as men. I will say though (correct me if i'm wrong) when a guy cheats there isn't much emotional attachment behind it, he just does it. When a woman cheats it is still hormone driven but there is more emotion behind it and thinking, women are just built that way. So... there is a little difference to when one or the other cheats but that still doesn't make it right for either gender.
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On February 18 2013 01:41 LOveRH wrote:Show nested quote +On February 18 2013 01:29 Najda wrote:On February 18 2013 01:19 micronesia wrote:On February 18 2013 01:16 FeUerFlieGe wrote:On February 17 2013 12:36 SamsungStar wrote:On February 17 2013 12:30 micronesia wrote:
Some neighbors/friends were married for ~30 years, had two kids in their twenties, until the wife/mom met up with an old childhood boyfriend and suddenly broke up with the husband/family and moved away. It was a shock to everyone. Honestly, these are the kinds of stories that make my blood run cold. When a guy cheats, I usually have no trouble understanding why he did it. He was horny and the girl was hot and offering. When a girl does it, a lot of times it doesn't seem to have any sort of consistent logic or qualitative benefit to her. She just does it. Just think of it this way. This woman was married to a man for 30 years... do you think that maybe at some point she began to feel a little unhappy with her life as it was? Women can lust just like men, and this was her golden opportunity to get out and live a fantasy, do something exciting for a change. Are you saying it was okay, or just that it makes sense why she might do it? I don't see how it's acceptable, if you are unhappy with your family after decades, to just leave it out of the blue. There should be intermediate steps like seeing a counselor. No I think he was trying to point out the sexism in Samsung's post. Samsung said it's okay for guys to cheat because they are horny but really women want similar things. There is never any good logic behind it regardless if gender. Girl here. I totally agree with this post. I just want to point out that women can get just as horny as men. I will say though (correct me if i'm wrong) when a guy cheats there isn't much emotional attachment behind it, he just does it. When a woman cheats it is still hormone driven but there is more emotion behind it and thinking, women are just built that way. So... there is a little difference to when one or the other cheats but that still doesn't make it right for either gender.
You realize you are falling into the exact same sexist pit by arguing that somehow men are less driven by emotion then women right? I mean, to broadly characterize the reasoning behind mens behavior like that is kind of silly imo.
Your basically saying its worse when men cheat because men dont care about hurting their lovers feelings as much as women do, which is total bullshit.
It isnt "men are like this... and women are like that..." people fall on a broad spectrum, it cant be simply categorized by gender.
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On February 18 2013 01:44 PassiveAce wrote:Show nested quote +On February 18 2013 01:41 LOveRH wrote:On February 18 2013 01:29 Najda wrote:On February 18 2013 01:19 micronesia wrote:On February 18 2013 01:16 FeUerFlieGe wrote:On February 17 2013 12:36 SamsungStar wrote:On February 17 2013 12:30 micronesia wrote:
Some neighbors/friends were married for ~30 years, had two kids in their twenties, until the wife/mom met up with an old childhood boyfriend and suddenly broke up with the husband/family and moved away. It was a shock to everyone. Honestly, these are the kinds of stories that make my blood run cold. When a guy cheats, I usually have no trouble understanding why he did it. He was horny and the girl was hot and offering. When a girl does it, a lot of times it doesn't seem to have any sort of consistent logic or qualitative benefit to her. She just does it. Just think of it this way. This woman was married to a man for 30 years... do you think that maybe at some point she began to feel a little unhappy with her life as it was? Women can lust just like men, and this was her golden opportunity to get out and live a fantasy, do something exciting for a change. Are you saying it was okay, or just that it makes sense why she might do it? I don't see how it's acceptable, if you are unhappy with your family after decades, to just leave it out of the blue. There should be intermediate steps like seeing a counselor. No I think he was trying to point out the sexism in Samsung's post. Samsung said it's okay for guys to cheat because they are horny but really women want similar things. There is never any good logic behind it regardless if gender. Girl here. I totally agree with this post. I just want to point out that women can get just as horny as men. I will say though (correct me if i'm wrong) when a guy cheats there isn't much emotional attachment behind it, he just does it. When a woman cheats it is still hormone driven but there is more emotion behind it and thinking, women are just built that way. So... there is a little difference to when one or the other cheats but that still doesn't make it right for either gender. You realize you are falling into the exact same sexist pit by arguing that somehow men are less driven by emotion then women right? I mean, to broadly characterize the reasoning behind mens behavior like that is kind of silly imo. Your basically saying its worse when men cheat because men dont care about hurting their lovers feelings as much as women, which is total bullshit.
Well... from my experience it is true. Biologically it makes sense that women would have a stronger emotional attention after sex. Staying together with your partner insures that your baby survives. While men biologically are driven to have sex with more then one mate to insure their genes survive. Therefore men have less need for an emotional attention then women. I can look up a source if you like. I swear, i got this information from a TL thread (video) on the differences of men and women when it comes to sex. 
Edit: http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=327138
Here is the thread i was sourcing from. Very interesting .
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On February 17 2013 12:50 Xiphos wrote:Show nested quote +On February 17 2013 11:00 Shiragaku wrote:
Girls have the same horror breakup stories as well. Guys are just as capable of being evil as girls and I have seen it many times. You are so wrong. Girls recover at much faster pace than guys in term of breakup. Beside that, you need to know that most of divorces/breakups are initiated by the female component of the couple. This also goes that girls are most artistic while men are most esoteric. Working as an artist allows you to complete the job at multiple of angles while doing anything science related require you to be very straightforward. Now you may think that this is some social equability crap spewed by the institution to placate women's chances in the scientific field. In this day and age, they are more than able to choose w/e career they prefer but as far we know, they will be more penchant toward the arts field even having other options. So what does this mean? Artistic people approaches things differently. So in a sense, their mind are much more open to idea and thus more susceptible to altering their perceived reality. And men are more straightforward which means their memories have a certain fortitude to it that they don't easily forget about the occurrences of life. In conclusion, we hold much more grudge toward a certain individual than women. In a social sense, this directly translates into the reason why women would begin the breakup. I said that women are basically thriller seekers and we are the amusement parks. The moment our highlighted, advertised roller coaster have a certain malfunction (aka our ability to stop being charismatic, unpredictable, adventurous, funny, and many other factors), they WILL immediately get a refund for their tickets and go to the one next door. But this can also work against them. Just as an owner of Disney would want beautiful looking peers to bring up their advertisement values to garner more attractions to it, so do we. Nobody would want to go check out into a playground filled with retarded looking people. So it must be wise for us men to let in a few selected few into the VIP area. Show nested quote +On February 17 2013 12:33 SamsungStar wrote:On February 17 2013 12:10 aTnClouD wrote:On February 17 2013 11:00 Shiragaku wrote:
Girls have the same horror breakup stories as well. Guys are just as capable of being evil as girls and I have seen it many times. shut up you traitor first rule of being a man: never betray and turn your back on the bro company take good example from the guy above you I'm with Cloud. See, the thing is, women NEED men. But if ALL men band together, then we can form a cartel and dictate terms. It's always some dumb sap who breaks ranks, puts a ring on it, and rolls over to be a human doormate for the sake of a little nookie. If men sacked up and stopped giving in to wicked pussy magic, we'd have a much stronger bargaining position and you wouldn't see the types of shenanigans being shared in this thread. Another nice post (beside aTnClouD's). If us men are banded together to not accept cheating women into our lives, there wouldn't be cheating happenings in the first place since they'll acknowledge the fact that beside her current men, nobody is willing to take her in so there will be a decrease of cheating girls.
Wat? Most professional artists are men. It's an incredibly chauvinistic profession. If anything, guys are more 'artistic' with technical inclination to make it to the pro level. I don't get the reasoning behind what you say is being 'artistic' because I don't think that mindset really exists.....some people are insane I guess, but most illustrators I know are very level headed people and don't create a different perceived reality lol.
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On February 17 2013 16:01 arb wrote:Show nested quote +On February 17 2013 15:21 SolidMotion wrote:
So... this whole thread brings up a very sensitive topic for me because of how it has affected me in the past, I'm still debating whether or not I want to write the two experiences I had because they bring back a lot of really really painful memories (I don't know how to emphasize that enough).
Basically, I had two different experiences that have shaped who I am. The first one COMPLETLY OBLITERATED my ability to trust IN ANY WAY the opposite sex while the second one did the same thing but applied to ANYONE except my close family. Heck, I failed a suicide over the second one... I'd be dead otherwise.
Both of these happened within 2 years (First one I was 16, second one I was 18... I'm 20 now) so it's still rather fresh...
As of now I don't think I'll be able to ever trust another human being that I don't already know and I don't see that changing anytime soon...
Just posting this to make sure people in here realize how much you can fuck a person mentally with this sort of stuff, and that the people getting away with it by just getting fat have it really fucking easy.
EDIT: As a matter of fact, if SC2 hadn't came out when it did I don't think I would have been able to stop thinking about suicide, so in a way I think this game may have saved my life. Don't ever underestimate the power of things that appear small to others because they may as well change the life of others completely. SC2 has basically allowed me to "trust some people" to a certain extant, which is pretty damn amazing off of itself... Girls can fuck you over and hurt you bad man. Some bitches do it for the fun, sometimes you dont realize they're doing it to get you back for doing it to them. Either way neither of them are a good feeling. With my most recent ex(whom i still said the moment i hung out with her the first time was the person i was going to be with the rest of my life) literally got me down enough to where I wouldnt eat for a few days(very recently) at which point you just gotta say, if its meant to be it'll happen.
I realllllly don't get the mindset that these type of girls (and sometimes guys) have. Why would you want to hurt someone like that? What gain do you have to make by hurting someone? Do these people have no fucking empathy? People like that should be shamed....
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On February 16 2013 23:10 Xiphias wrote:
I knew I guy that had a girlfriend before he was going away to a different place for 2 years (mormon missionary...) She was all like "I'll wait for you and not be with any other guy for 2 years!" She kept sending him e-mails and letters and then, after about 6 months it all stopped. He was getting suspicious and loosing hope. 1 year later he finally got a letter from the girl. Not only had she started dating another guy. She had married another guy and then they had also got a divorce because all she could think about was the guy who was away... He did not even know how to start interpreting what had occurred...
lol biggest BS ever.
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Wat? Most professional artists are men. It's an incredibly chauvinistic profession. If anything, guys are more 'artistic' with technical inclination to make it to the pro level. I don't get the reasoning behind what you say is being 'artistic' because I don't think that mindset really exists.....some people are insane I guess, but most illustrators I know are very level headed people and don't create a different perceived reality lol.
His post was humorous, I think.
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On February 18 2013 01:41 LOveRH wrote:Show nested quote +On February 18 2013 01:29 Najda wrote:On February 18 2013 01:19 micronesia wrote:On February 18 2013 01:16 FeUerFlieGe wrote:On February 17 2013 12:36 SamsungStar wrote:On February 17 2013 12:30 micronesia wrote:
Some neighbors/friends were married for ~30 years, had two kids in their twenties, until the wife/mom met up with an old childhood boyfriend and suddenly broke up with the husband/family and moved away. It was a shock to everyone. Honestly, these are the kinds of stories that make my blood run cold. When a guy cheats, I usually have no trouble understanding why he did it. He was horny and the girl was hot and offering. When a girl does it, a lot of times it doesn't seem to have any sort of consistent logic or qualitative benefit to her. She just does it. Just think of it this way. This woman was married to a man for 30 years... do you think that maybe at some point she began to feel a little unhappy with her life as it was? Women can lust just like men, and this was her golden opportunity to get out and live a fantasy, do something exciting for a change. Are you saying it was okay, or just that it makes sense why she might do it? I don't see how it's acceptable, if you are unhappy with your family after decades, to just leave it out of the blue. There should be intermediate steps like seeing a counselor. No I think he was trying to point out the sexism in Samsung's post. Samsung said it's okay for guys to cheat because they are horny but really women want similar things. There is never any good logic behind it regardless if gender. Girl here. I totally agree with this post. I just want to point out that women can get just as horny as men. I will say though (correct me if i'm wrong) when a guy cheats there isn't much emotional attachment behind it, he just does it. When a woman cheats it is still hormone driven but there is more emotion behind it and thinking, women are just built that way. So... there is a little difference to when one or the other cheats but that still doesn't make it right for either gender.
LOL sexist?? What exactly is sexist about it?
If the story was that the old mother ran away with some handsome studly 25 yr old cabana boy she met on a cruise ship, I could 100% understand her logic. Running away with a childhood boyfriend who is probably the same age if not older than her current husband and marginally better looking makes no sense to me. Unless he grew very wealthy in all those intervening years. That part wasn't mentioned so I have no way of knowing. Stfu with the sexism crap. At no point in my post did I say guys get a free pass for cheating. I said it made SENSE on a logical level. Learn to read Naj.
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On February 18 2013 01:59 Deadlyhazard wrote:Show nested quote +On February 17 2013 16:01 arb wrote:On February 17 2013 15:21 SolidMotion wrote:
So... this whole thread brings up a very sensitive topic for me because of how it has affected me in the past, I'm still debating whether or not I want to write the two experiences I had because they bring back a lot of really really painful memories (I don't know how to emphasize that enough).
Basically, I had two different experiences that have shaped who I am. The first one COMPLETLY OBLITERATED my ability to trust IN ANY WAY the opposite sex while the second one did the same thing but applied to ANYONE except my close family. Heck, I failed a suicide over the second one... I'd be dead otherwise.
Both of these happened within 2 years (First one I was 16, second one I was 18... I'm 20 now) so it's still rather fresh...
As of now I don't think I'll be able to ever trust another human being that I don't already know and I don't see that changing anytime soon...
Just posting this to make sure people in here realize how much you can fuck a person mentally with this sort of stuff, and that the people getting away with it by just getting fat have it really fucking easy.
EDIT: As a matter of fact, if SC2 hadn't came out when it did I don't think I would have been able to stop thinking about suicide, so in a way I think this game may have saved my life. Don't ever underestimate the power of things that appear small to others because they may as well change the life of others completely. SC2 has basically allowed me to "trust some people" to a certain extant, which is pretty damn amazing off of itself... Girls can fuck you over and hurt you bad man. Some bitches do it for the fun, sometimes you dont realize they're doing it to get you back for doing it to them. Either way neither of them are a good feeling. With my most recent ex(whom i still said the moment i hung out with her the first time was the person i was going to be with the rest of my life) literally got me down enough to where I wouldnt eat for a few days(very recently) at which point you just gotta say, if its meant to be it'll happen. I realllllly don't get the mindset that these type of girls (and sometimes guys) have. Why would you want to hurt someone like that? What gain do you have to make by hurting someone? Do these people have no fucking empathy? People like that should be shamed....
I don't understand it either. They are like egomaniacs who think the world owes them a perfect life. Once, I was dumped by a girl after living together for a year or so, and I took it pretty hard. She on the other hand IMMEDIATELY went out and got a new bf within weeks. She was talking to him the last 2 months we were together, so no surprise there.
Being as broken-hearted as I was, I went on a man-whore rampage to try to forget her, seeing as how guys are always talking about how the best cure for losing old pussy is new pussy. Believe it or not, I did not have a good time with my man-whoring. I got with 7 diff chicks over the course of a year, but all were shitty flings. There was very little emotional connection with any of them. And all the while me and my ex kept in contact because I still considered her a good friend. She always asked what I was doing etc, so I was pretty free about telling her, and yeah a part of me wanted to brag to let her know I wasn't down and out.
Lo and behold, she breaks up with her boyfriend after 1.5 years, and then starts trying to hit me up like crazy. I meet her up for dinner, but I make it pretty clear I'm not looking for a relationship because hell no do I want to be her rebound. I have a sense of pride and I'm not just going to let her pick me back up like some discarded toy she feels like playing with again. But, over the course of 2 months, as we hung out a lot, I started to remember why I liked her coz we really do get along well. Unfortunately, she got royally pissed about being rejected by me, so she went on some rock-climbing trip where she tried to hook up with another guy and got rejected relationship-wise too. So she was all bitter etc etc. Goes totally bonkers looking for FWB on the internet and meets tons of random dudes for dates, and now all she tries to do is brag about all the FWBs she has. I try to tell her that's not something to brag about. But ever since then all she wants to do is tell me how sexually liberated she is and YOLO etc etc.
Ofc, I blew up at her coz I was getting annoyed with her childishness, plus she was kind of putting my heart in a blender all over again. Her response to my anger was that I have no right to criticize because I went on a spree for awhile after we broke up. !??!? Does that make any sense to you guys? She breaks up with me. She hops right into bed with another guy. And then she's holding it over MY head that I went out and talked to other girls? I'm not even the one hitting her up. She tries to talk to me all the damned time. Except it's just to tell me how happy and sexual she is now. wtf?? It's like she wants to make me feel bad for hurting her feelings, except nothing I did was intentional or unreasonable. She'd always ASK and want all the juicy details as if I was her confidante. And she just has the hugest ego I've ever seen. As if any guy who doesn't bow to her every whim is an asshole who's given her the gravest insult ever. Oh yeah, and she's a hot asian girl from a well-to-do but divorced family. Maybe that's why she's like that -_-.
Anyhow, it's absolutely impossible to win with her and it pisses me off to no end. At any given moment she can just turn on her phone and have a horde of guys stampeding to give her the VIP treatment. As a man, I literally can NOT win in this competition. Not until we're both 45, and who knows even then? She'll probably just wise up eventually and pretend to be really sweet to some poor, rich sap who will wife her up. It's what her mom did and now that old golddigger lives in a castle in France, while my ex's real dad lives in some tiny split-level he bought close to his daughter's college so she wouldn't have to live in a dorm. He doesn't have a job anymore, because he lost it during the divorce due to emotional exhaustion/depression, and he's practically broke.
My ex, his daughter, never talks to him because she says there's nothing to say. Go figure. But she talks to her mom, despite hating her guts, because guess what her mom's NEW husband has private jets. Fucking women.
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